Sad ending
I posted several threads earlier in October about my mom. I was so touched by DUers support and kind thoughts. Unfortunately, my mom lost her battle and passed away on October 24th after a month in the Neuro ICU. It was a nightmare of ups and downs, but I feel so lucky that Mom had periods of time when she was aware of my sister and I being there and we could tell her how much we loved her and get the same from her. She was 82 and had a good life, including 54 years of marriage with my dad who passed almost a year ago. She was sweet, loving, and a phenomenal mom.
I'm sorry it took me so long to post this, I just wasn't ready.
Thank all of you..... Your support made me feel less alone during a horrible and scary point in my life.
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and it still feels like yesterday. I think the numbness one feels going though it (and at least several months afterwards) is protective, but when it gives way and you really grieve it is like living it all over again. Be aware of that, but know that will give way to the frequent memories of the good times. The latter is such a blessing--to be able to think of your loved one with overwhelmingly happy memories replacing the sadness of loss.
May that transition and healing be rapid for you. 
My Mom, having grown up in a tiny farm town in the MidWest during a fairly "unworldly" period was pretty hopelessly naive'. My sister and I constantly had to clue her in on things that were so obvious to us, but to her, so NOT. 
Yes, I can smile at the memory.. fondly.
family and all who knew and loved your Mom. May every good memory bring you comfort .
Peace to you Nevilledog.
May your mom rest in peace, no longer suffering.
8~(
Aloha from Hawaii
and everyone grieves in their own time. Hugs
ICU can be a very scary place. My husband died Oct 26 after a stroke . His ICU stay was only 2 days, but I know how hard it is to watch a loved one lose their struggle.. It was 48 years 9 months for us..
Now my struggle is to figure out how to live alone for the first time in 50 years.. and to convince our sons that I can do it 
hugs to you and your sister
Oddly, the hardest thing for me is watching our kitties look for him
Every time he sat down he had two of them on his lap
It's rough.
Then, little by little, every day gets better. You can remember the happy times and smile again.
one who brought you into this world, who nursed, and protected, and guided, and LOVED you as you grew... no matter how much stupid stuff you did (well, usually)...
You describe her as "sweet, loving, and phenomenal" What more could one ask for. And perhaps a worthy type of person for us all to aspire to be remembered as.
You are not alone.
My 103 year old dad just died in Sept.
in a reasonably comfortable environment, with my loved ones nearby caring for me and telling me they love me.
I am sorry for your loss.
Take care of yourself and your family. So glad you had the opportunity to tell you Mom good-bye. Many of us do not get that chance. Stay strong.
I miss you mom.
I lost my mother, age 89, in January, 2014. She was just shy of her 90th birthday. She was surrounded by loved ones as she breathed her last. At her memorial I said that she must have known the Dalai Lama, because he said, "I consider that the purpose of life for a human being is the attainment of peace, joy and happiness." Mum was the happiest, most cheerful person I've ever known. May you find joy and comfort in the memory of your loving mother.
I feel the pain, sadness and emptiness from you, so similar to the loss of my mom.
Goodbyes are so forlorn as we miss their love and presence .
Especially for your mom you felt so much for.
My mom passed away earlier this year, I know how you feel.
I am so sorry for your loss.
My very best wishes to you.
I want to say, "I'm sorry," but that feels so inadequate. Just know, I'm feeling your grief with you.
I wish healing for you in your future.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of some political event and think, "I need
to call and see what daddy has to say and see what dad or mom thinks about that"
Peace and love
I am glad you had a chance to say good-bye and tell your mother how much you loved her, although I am sure she knew anyway, just as you knew deeply of her love for you. May that love continue to surround and guide you all of your days.
