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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region Forums" He passed out with his head in a plate of mashed potatoes "
That was a teeny portion of a recent conversation with a dear friend as we shared childhood memories of alcoholic fathers. I cried joking about coming home from school to find my bed missing....another piece of furniture swapped for a case of Pabst Blue Ribbon. The two of us laughed til we cried, cried til we laughed. Life back then was like being strapped inside a burning building with nobody willing to call the fire department.
Donald Trumps presidency reminds me of my childhood. No rational person in charge, nobody running things, no rules, no guidance, no standards, no bottom lines, no reasonable explanations, no kept promises.
Trumps presidency is like life after a tornado. You look through a hole where a wall used to be and see the neighbors bathtub crashed against your mailbox. Everything is upside down....nothing seems familiar and you wonder if youre even on the right street.
Just as it was during my childhood, there is the teeniest little light....far off but noticeable. People are gathering. Heroes are preparing. Women are planning. Children are hoping. It will take a mighty effort to rid ourselves of Trump and his enablers and put our country back together. But....yes, yes we can.
rownesheck
(2,343 posts)I'm turning into one those dads! Hang in there, me!
cilla4progress
(24,728 posts)That was beautiful. And heart-wrenching.
Thank you.
Leith
(7,809 posts)and be with likeminded people. We're all in this together.
blm
(113,047 posts)I hear you
pandr32
(11,581 posts)AJT
(5,240 posts)and had no direction and no idea what to do. My stepfather drank and my mother ignored us all. It was a parentless free for all.
bitterross
(4,066 posts)Silly me, sounded like a throw-back to Kavanaugh's antics.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)He told us because he said it was so strange an experience but also to say why he was breaking up with her...he was not a big drinker
As for Trump days everything is off kilter and reminds me of a twilight zone segment
(see my sig line )
but I see resistance here in Chicago and hope all are progressing forward everywhere, despite the current chaotic president.
We have to get back Dems in power if for nothing else , yes just to restore some reasonable order in the US
TheOther95Percent
(1,035 posts)He "chose" his family, but he was a dry drunk until my late teens. It was only after he had a relapse and a stint in rehab that my mother made good on her threat.
My earliest childhood memory is him passed out on the front portch, car keys in his hands.
Trump has triggered me big time. My dry drunk father acted exactly like him right down to the snarling mouth and general overall asshole behavior.
Rhiannon12866
(205,237 posts)You're not alone.
https://adultchildren.org/
Raine1967
(11,589 posts)Every day I feel like I am living like I did when I was a teen living with an abusive alcoholic.
Every day I have to use the skills I learned as an adult with a dysfunctional father.
The most problematic part for me is that I was able to leave my dysfunction. I could deal and heal with me and the scars it left. I did so for over 30 years.
I use those skills every day under this administration. I feel like I am back to being a teen living with an abuser. I'm pretty happy I have the coping skills I learned so many decades ago.
spooky3
(34,441 posts)are now dealing with everything Trump is dredging up.
It makes me think of "People get ready; there's a train a -coming..." by Curtis Mayfield. For those who are not religious, maybe we can put faith in democracy and in the many people working to make things better.
lastlib
(23,220 posts)I recall him puking on the Japanese PM at a state dinner, then passing out drunk and having to be carried out. They tried to dismiss it as a combination of jet-lag fatigue and stomach flu, but it didn't work.
volstork
(5,400 posts)Thanks for sharing.
Jarqui
(10,123 posts)The one alteration to the story I might suggest is that it seems there are a bar full of people like this trying to run the country. There is more than Trump who are responsible for this mess.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)czarjak
(11,269 posts)We will!
KentuckyWoman
(6,679 posts)Hugs
K and R
AllaN01Bear
(18,185 posts)slammed into the dumps again with the disaster we have now for president. i feel like the rug yanked out from under me and i am still falling.
maddiemom
(5,106 posts)about the Electoral College. Oh wait...after Hillary, it was so gratifying...Oh, never mind.
MontanaMama
(23,312 posts)and hopeful. I am in tears reading it. I share a similar upside down childhood filled with predictable unpredictability that cant be shaken or forgotten. But yes, there is the teeniest little light...far off but noticeable.
Yes we can.
Raine1967
(11,589 posts)I went to every group that could help me as a teen and as a young adult.
I used to think it was my fault that my parents were so messed up. I used to think it was my fault for so many problems with my family. I was a kid and a very sensitive one at that.
I got the help I needed and learned over the years that it wasn't me.
That was in the 80's/90's.
Now here in this days and age, I feel like I am back to living under the same roof as my father --
Now, as a 51-year-old, I can put my coping/survival skills back to use.
susanna
(5,231 posts)Thank you so much, democrank.
May we prevail.
And yes, yes we can.
Demovictory9
(32,449 posts)Luz
(772 posts)my hubby a little better. He comes from the same household of uncertainty and conditional love, and now I see the reason he's had such high anxiety since the election.
Yes, there is a small glimmer of light for us all.
kag
(4,079 posts)Thanks for sharing this. My father was the son of an alcoholic father, and never got any help. He had a lot of issues (including being a fox-watching republican). If he had lived to see Trump (he died in 2014), he would probably have felt right at home, wouldn't have seen what the problem was.
I think your post helps me understand a lot of his behavior. And it's funny.
MFGsunny
(2,356 posts)....... you raised my hope of: yes, we can! yes, we will!
iscooterliberally
(2,860 posts)My dad was both a raging alcoholic and a 'gun enthusiast'. He would buy a new rifle and come home and take it apart and then start throwing a tantrum because he was too drunk to put it back together. I would have to reassemble the gun from a pile of parts with no instructions or anything. I still have some of the guns, but I took them apart and left them that way. I'd much rather play with guitars. When I was about 7, dad came home really late. I happened to wake up at about 2am and saw him staggering up the drive way. I heard him trying to get in the front door, but he was too hammered and crawled into the back seat of the car. I went out and opened the door and woke him up and brought him inside. At that point I realized my dad had a problem, but I didn't know what alcoholism was.
and thanks
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)When my parents died, the saddest part of it was thinking about what a waste their lives had been. These thoughts came to me today as I watched the casket of George HW Bush arriving amidst a 21 gun salute and all the pomp and ceremony afforded a respected & beloved former president.
The comparison to the waste of my parents' lives in death came because I was imagining what the funeral would be for DJT. I wonder if he reflects at all on what might have been, had he even attempted to be the man and president this nation deserved. I wondered if anyone would even show up to greet his casket, except those who wanted to jeer at the waste and dishonor he brought to our country, to cheer that we were finally rid of him. Instead of being revered in death, he would be reviled as he was in life.
Peace.
klook
(12,154 posts)I was fortunate to grow up with normal(ish!) parents, but Ive certainly felt a heightened sense of anxiety for the past 2 years.
I look forward to a time when one of my first waking thoughts each day wont be, FUCK! Its really true? Donald Fucking Trump is the fucking president??
3catwoman3
(23,975 posts)...waking up incredulous every morning, but I am. My words are much the same as yours - "Donald Fucking Trump? Seriousy?"