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KentuckyWoman

(6,679 posts)
Sun Dec 9, 2018, 08:00 PM Dec 2018

Oh what difference one serious illness makes.

An in law on my husband's side, a real blowhard who thinks he earned everything he has with no help from anyone, the police aren't harder on brown people, and homeless people all choose to sleep outside in 5 degree weather. Jesus is an NRA member, loves only white Republican men, and would nuke the whole middle east.

He don't need no gubmint help. Until his wife got cancer and their individual policy healthcare rates nearly doubled. Suddenly, there ought to be a law.....

Now he's hopping on the Medicare for All bandwagon with the idea we should all share the burden of his wife's medical care costs after 50 years of why should he have to help pay for medical care of poor people...

Funny how fast a person changes their mind when the sewer backs up into their house.....

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Oh what difference one serious illness makes. (Original Post) KentuckyWoman Dec 2018 OP
And sometimes it's one drunk driver, texter away Paula Sims Dec 2018 #1
Or one mass shooting at a concert :( Kittycow Dec 2018 #26
The problem is that these jerks take us down with them. olegramps Dec 2018 #44
It's sad but true. We never know when something major is gonna happen. Kajun Gal Dec 2018 #2
Have you confronted him on this "change of heart"? AJT Dec 2018 #3
Karma appears again. Is he willing to vote his newfound conviction? badhair77 Dec 2018 #4
I VERY much doubt it, based on experience with the type. BobTheSubgenius Dec 2018 #10
The last thing you'd want, of course, is for any help going to the undeserving. knightmaar Dec 2018 #15
You took the words out of my mouth lunatica Dec 2018 #19
Like anti-abortion zealots who run to Planned Parenthood when their kag Dec 2018 #38
I worked for PP of CT and believe you me, some of those protesters were picketing our clinic with CTyankee Dec 2018 #47
"Hypocrisy" is the only word for it. BobTheSubgenius Dec 2018 #50
40+years ago worked for a state Medicaid agency, white wingers complained about Hoyt Dec 2018 #5
Oh how I can relate. Wellstone ruled Dec 2018 #6
Sounds like if Archie needed some gummint healthcare, "it's different" erronis Dec 2018 #33
Yep, sounds like a true Republican packman Dec 2018 #7
I keep this bookmarked for times like this....... Roland99 Dec 2018 #8
Good graphic. KentuckyWoman Dec 2018 #13
Love that UpInArms Dec 2018 #29
Along that same vein... llmart Dec 2018 #9
Remember back in the 70s: A Conservative is a Liberal who's been mugged? Algernon Moncrieff Dec 2018 #11
So true! I've often wondered how many of those who bitch raccoon Dec 2018 #12
repukes in a nutshell... Javaman Dec 2018 #14
I wonder if they will be less judgmental of other people treestar Dec 2018 #16
Not very likely lunatica Dec 2018 #21
Well put. kag Dec 2018 #39
Shades of Ayn Rand. N/t NNadir Dec 2018 #17
It sounds a lot like when Ed Schultz made the transition CaptYossarian Dec 2018 #18
I think some people are just too judgmental (like those on the other side/RWNJs/etc.) until ... SWBTATTReg Dec 2018 #20
Miracles and Jesus can make them all better then. nt erronis Dec 2018 #35
Steve Scalise returned to the House True Blue American Dec 2018 #40
Jesus would say: Christ, I would have shot you too! erronis Dec 2018 #42
Now Steve is in the minority leadership in the House True Blue American Dec 2018 #43
Is blowhard's wife a smocker? That would eviscerate his personal responsibility argument. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Dec 2018 #22
Actually it's probably genetic KentuckyWoman Dec 2018 #24
He should accept exactly as much help as he'd extend to others. PoindexterOglethorpe Dec 2018 #23
I've seen it happen many times PatSeg Dec 2018 #25
I know several people that were shocked duforsure Dec 2018 #27
I hear this all the time Ginger42 Dec 2018 #28
I have a similar acquaintance. kag Dec 2018 #41
Bottom line is ALWAYS this - Healthcare is a RIGHT, not a Privilege, period. Moostache Dec 2018 #30
I don't think it is either one. KentuckyWoman Dec 2018 #32
It's more like a public resource that, by caring for and nurturing responsibly, it will... Bucky Dec 2018 #34
I agree. And if healthcare coverage requires a purchase (insurance or bills) erronis Dec 2018 #36
Sounds like a typical Republican, only cares about himself. Bluepinky Dec 2018 #31
and fuck him gopiscrap Dec 2018 #37
There's Nothing Like an Actual Frame of Reference to Open Up a Person's Mind dlk Dec 2018 #45
Republicans will knock you flat if you get between them and those "entitlements." VOX Dec 2018 #46
We should be talking about the COST of health insurance - not WHO gets it FakeNoose Dec 2018 #48
If he has an individual ACA policy, the rates didn't double from his wife's illness. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #49
This is typical of conservatives. trev Dec 2018 #51
If his rates doubled, it isn't because of her illness, it is because of what the republicans did to still_one Dec 2018 #52
I don't need help I'm a republican what happened to that? Selfish to think all is different now lunasun Dec 2018 #53
best wishes to your in laws wife....same thing happened with my.. samnsara Dec 2018 #54

Paula Sims

(877 posts)
1. And sometimes it's one drunk driver, texter away
Sun Dec 9, 2018, 08:06 PM
Dec 2018

I know many younger people that feel they are healthy and don't need insurance. Then one day one of them got hit by a drunk driver. Over a year in rehab.

olegramps

(8,200 posts)
44. The problem is that these jerks take us down with them.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 05:23 PM
Dec 2018

My brother who has worked his entire life, he is 82, He has lung cancer. No, he doesn't smoke. Maybe it was fertilizer. He has always been a Democrat and has worked with me campaigns. The drug that can possibly help him cost $16,000 per month and this does not include his co-pay of $2000 a month for treatment plus additional charges for diagnostic work ups. If he lived in Canada this would be totally taken care of by their health system. Here you are facing a choice of bankruptcy or death. Hell of a choice. Forgive me God, but I hate Republicans. I can't say what I wish for these nincompoops in my worse moments that comes to my mind.

knightmaar

(748 posts)
15. The last thing you'd want, of course, is for any help going to the undeserving.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 11:35 AM
Dec 2018
I definitely deserve it.

But those "thugs" and lazy people don't.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
19. You took the words out of my mouth
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:08 PM
Dec 2018

Children have that mentality, which every parent and elementary teacher and child psychologist knows. But at some point most people become empathetic enough to get over it. The ones that don’t are developmentally arrested in early childhood. Trump is the perfect example of an emotionally stunted five year old. He doesn’t think. He emotes.

kag

(4,078 posts)
38. Like anti-abortion zealots who run to Planned Parenthood when their
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 04:13 PM
Dec 2018

sixteen-year-old daughter gets pregnant. "Oh but this is different. We're not really 'like' this. It's a one-off."

These are the people for whom I save my greatest contempt.

CTyankee

(63,880 posts)
47. I worked for PP of CT and believe you me, some of those protesters were picketing our clinic with
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 06:25 PM
Dec 2018

signs one day and in our office for their abortions on another when they discovered they had an unplanned, unwanted pregnancy. Their answer as to why? A shrug and "My case is different."

It drove our staff crazy. Those effin hypocrites. We just hope they learned from PP's excellent, caring staff that PP is a wonderful organizations that helps women in "bad" situations.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,557 posts)
50. "Hypocrisy" is the only word for it.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 08:49 PM
Dec 2018

Or at least, the one that comes the closest to covering all the bases. There are other words one could use, but they are just modifiers.

I hate hypocrisy more than almost anything. Certainly more than, say, straight-up thievery. At least a thief is clear about his motives and objectives.

 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
5. 40+years ago worked for a state Medicaid agency, white wingers complained about
Sun Dec 9, 2018, 08:26 PM
Dec 2018

those irresponsible moochers and lazy people. But they darn sure expected help when they or a family member became sick.

 

Wellstone ruled

(34,661 posts)
6. Oh how I can relate.
Sun Dec 9, 2018, 09:43 PM
Dec 2018

Use to Volunteer at a Social Service Group in the twin cities. Yupper,those thightee Whitiees were the loudest bitchers in the world. Especially when the shit storm hit their house or family. I want mine right now!

erronis

(15,155 posts)
33. Sounds like if Archie needed some gummint healthcare, "it's different"
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 02:19 PM
Dec 2018

This makes me think about all those anti-vaxxers that are putting whole communities at risk by this same attitude.

llmart

(15,524 posts)
9. Along that same vein...
Sun Dec 9, 2018, 10:32 PM
Dec 2018

I know a married couple who have been retired since their early 50's. They are both retired auto plant workers who were union all their working careers and live a very comfortable life thanks to being retired union. However, they vote Republican and now criticize the unions.

Same thing. It's the "I've got mine, the hell with the rest of you."

Algernon Moncrieff

(5,781 posts)
11. Remember back in the 70s: A Conservative is a Liberal who's been mugged?
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 01:14 AM
Dec 2018

For the past 20 years or so, it's becoming "A Liberal is a Conservative who lost health care coverage."

raccoon

(31,105 posts)
12. So true! I've often wondered how many of those who bitch
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 09:27 AM
Dec 2018

About paying for other people’s health care have grandchildren who are on Medicaid.

Funny how fast a person changes their mind when the sewer backs up into their house.....


Great analogy!

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
21. Not very likely
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:11 PM
Dec 2018

It only matters when it happens to them. And they’ll tell you they got better because it was Jesus’s doing.

kag

(4,078 posts)
39. Well put.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 04:20 PM
Dec 2018

I've known too many of these right wing idiots who believe they got what they have by "working" for it and by the "Grace of God" when the truth is that they were born white and rich with "connections" that get passed down through the generations.

CaptYossarian

(6,448 posts)
18. It sounds a lot like when Ed Schultz made the transition
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:07 PM
Dec 2018

from conservative blowhard to liberal champion because his mother got a serious illness and he discovered that Repubs didn't give a damn. Luckily, he was smart enough to switch teams.

SWBTATTReg

(22,044 posts)
20. I think some people are just too judgmental (like those on the other side/RWNJs/etc.) until ...
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:08 PM
Dec 2018

something actually happens to them. I found this out about an old but constantly recurring back injury which I have literally had to crawl multiple times on my hands and knees to the restroom and no one in my family believed me when I described how bad it was. Then it happened to them (a back injury)...now they know how I feel.

It's sad for they ask us to believe in things like Jesus, miracles, etc. on blind faith, but they can't believe or trust you when you state something about yourself.

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
40. Steve Scalise returned to the House
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 04:24 PM
Dec 2018

After the best health care in the world saved him,loudly proclaiming that God spared him.

The next time I saw him he was celebrating in front of the WH taking health care away from millions.

I wanted to ask,” Steve, what would Jesus do?”

erronis

(15,155 posts)
42. Jesus would say: Christ, I would have shot you too!
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 04:33 PM
Dec 2018

And Jesus can't be indicted or subpoenaed since he's been dead for a few years. Yet He (and his older dad) still is invoked by a bunch of power-hungry politicians.

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
43. Now Steve is in the minority leadership in the House
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 04:44 PM
Dec 2018

And, you can bet he will fight health care for all.

The worst part is they do not see the irony of their non Christian actions.

KentuckyWoman

(6,679 posts)
24. Actually it's probably genetic
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:24 PM
Dec 2018

Wifey has had fairly healthy habits all her life. She could afford to eat good and pay for personal trainers etc. This was either luck of the draw or genetic. Basically a total kick in the hind end to someone like the blowhard.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,808 posts)
23. He should accept exactly as much help as he'd extend to others.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:21 PM
Dec 2018

And he should be told that, over and over.

I've simply had it with people like him.

PatSeg

(47,168 posts)
25. I've seen it happen many times
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 12:25 PM
Dec 2018

When hardship hits the conservative, all of sudden they view government programs differently. The only thing is they believe that THEY earned them, but that guy over there is not deserving. They can only see the world through a subjective lens.

In fairness, there are some who do change their world view, but most are still self-centered and maddeningly entitled.

duforsure

(11,884 posts)
27. I know several people that were shocked
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 01:24 PM
Dec 2018

When they realized they were lied to by trump about the tax scam bill, and have close relatives that lost their health care because of him , and are running away from trump and the gop now, and even more pissed than most others now at them.

Ginger42

(59 posts)
28. I hear this all the time
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 01:40 PM
Dec 2018

A coworker of my husband’s is a die-hard Republican. She’s also on every government program imaginable. She carries around a big black binder to keep them all straight and she’s always Googling for more. She’s “married” when that helps her (mostly for car loans and insurance, mortgage) and “single” when that helps her, which is most government programs. She’s always complaining about all the “freeloaders out there” on all the same programs she’s on. My husband once asked her why she votes Republican since they oppose all the programs she’s on. “Oh, they’d never kick me off. They’ll just kick the freeloaders off.”

kag

(4,078 posts)
41. I have a similar acquaintance.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 04:30 PM
Dec 2018

The family get all of their food from food pantries, they're on medicaid, food stamps, all their clothes come from a "Good Will" type place, etc. But when talking politics, the dad claims to be an "anarchist" and won't vote, bitches about freeloaders, and doesn't pay attention to elections. The only smart one is their daughter who got a great scholarship from a government agency, and her family mooches a lot of the money off of her for their own use. Makes me want to scream.

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
30. Bottom line is ALWAYS this - Healthcare is a RIGHT, not a Privilege, period.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 01:52 PM
Dec 2018

There is no other framing or explanation necessary.

If someone disagrees, ask them to define who gets the privilege.
Government? Lottery? Grift? Trade/Barter?

KentuckyWoman

(6,679 posts)
32. I don't think it is either one.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 02:10 PM
Dec 2018

It is a commodity to be purchased. But it should be considered a necessary utility for living in a first world country, just like electric and clean water and we should be pooling our resources and efforts just the same.

We subsidize the infrastructure with our taxes, and charge user fees based on usage. We support the poor with assistance to help with the user fees. Medical care purchasing should be the same.

I disagree that medical care services and good should ever be a RIGHT on the level of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. On that level we have doctors getting sued because they refuse to prescribe whatever medicine or procedure some hypochondriac sees on the TeeVee and thinks they have a right to have regardless of the consequences - or a 99 yr old smoker who demands a heart transplant. Where do you draw the lines?

I also disagree medical care goods and services are a privilege. Poor people should have the same access to medical care as the rich. Period. And it is why I look at medical care as a utility, rather than a right or a privilege.

Bucky

(53,926 posts)
34. It's more like a public resource that, by caring for and nurturing responsibly, it will...
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 02:20 PM
Dec 2018

help our competitive edge in world markets. Really, no one else in the world does this with their people; only America, wand we're weaker for it.

erronis

(15,155 posts)
36. I agree. And if healthcare coverage requires a purchase (insurance or bills)
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 02:26 PM
Dec 2018

Then who can afford it? Just the well-to-do (the privileged.) Not those that may have been born into a lower-earning family.

It's also ridiculous to tie insurance to employment. That is an artificial construct to get around benefit payments in WW-II.

dlk

(11,496 posts)
45. There's Nothing Like an Actual Frame of Reference to Open Up a Person's Mind
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 05:58 PM
Dec 2018

Experience is a great teacher.

VOX

(22,976 posts)
46. Republicans will knock you flat if you get between them and those "entitlements."
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 06:06 PM
Dec 2018

Because, in their microscopic dinosaur brains, Medicare, Social Security, SSDI and the ACA exist solely for THEM.

Not for POC, not for women, but strictly for patriot-Liberty-white-makes-right folks.

FakeNoose

(32,527 posts)
48. We should be talking about the COST of health insurance - not WHO gets it
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 07:23 PM
Dec 2018

Why is good health care so ridiculously expensive in the US? It's not expensive in other countries such as Canada and most of the European countries. We took a sharp turn right in the late 1970's and suddenly insurance is not affordable any more like it used to be. Hillary & Bill Clinton tried to change that but the entrenched, entitled conservatives shut them down before it could happen.

There's too much waste and too much profit in the medical services and medical insurance industries - and they want to KEEP it that way.



Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
49. If he has an individual ACA policy, the rates didn't double from his wife's illness.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 07:55 PM
Dec 2018

The ins. cos. don't take prior claims into account. All policies fr each plan are the same amount for the whole area and for your age group and whether you smoke.

It's possible she or he crossed an age threshold. The ins. cos. are allowed to TRIPLE premiums once a person reaches a certain age. It's the only discrimination built into the ACA. I know. I was in that triple premium group.

Or it's possible he chose a better policy, when it was time to renew. The price goes up a lot, if you get a policy with a low or moderate deductible.

It's also possible they just got one of those short term policies that recently we're allowed to buy. But probably not. They would probably just not renew your policy, if you turned in too many claims.

But whatever the reason, if there are enough like him, maybe we can get Medicare for all passed. If there was ever a time, this may be it. If we don't have a recession.

trev

(1,480 posts)
51. This is typical of conservatives.
Mon Dec 10, 2018, 08:52 PM
Dec 2018

They're against all public assistance until they need it themselves.

still_one

(92,055 posts)
52. If his rates doubled, it isn't because of her illness, it is because of what the republicans did to
Tue Dec 11, 2018, 01:37 AM
Dec 2018

whittle away at the ACA rules. Even if they are covered outside of the market place, they, they had to follow the minimum requirements of the ACA, and no one can be penalized for a pre-existing conditions under the ACA. However, that may not last long if the republicans have there ways since they are trying to invalidate the pre-existing condition protections under the ACA.

The most significant factor in ACA or insurance premiums going up is because the republicans effectively removed the individual mandate, and that directly increases the premium rates.






samnsara

(17,599 posts)
54. best wishes to your in laws wife....same thing happened with my..
Tue Dec 11, 2018, 11:54 AM
Dec 2018

...t party sis who lives off the grid in N Idaho. Needed a liver transplant due to childhood medical condition. she had to be rushed to a seattle hospital for the transplant. (both she and hubby are collecting SSI for physical issues))...total cost of her transplant..less than 1000$

THANK YOU O CARE!

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