Men and women here, ever been to a strip club?

[Archae]

I was in one, once.
Friend's birthday party.

I was bored out of my skull.

Why do (mostly) guys frequent those places?

[spanone]

1. duh....

[Skittles]

2. oh boy

[CatWoman]

3. I went to one with a lesbian friend

everyone (including her) found it funny

as did I

[Marrah_G]

4. I've been to male shows and female shows

I think that each place is different and each occassion is different. I couldn't see hanging out in one on a regular basis... just not my thing.

[Marinedem]

5. Tons

and tons.

[Speck Tater]

6. Some friends took me for my bachelor party back in 1965. Boring! nt

[Warpy]

7. Dunno, but the men in the place were all stone faced

and none of them looked like they were having a good time. I wasn't, either, since I'm straight and nekkid women don't exactly turn me on.

On the off chance that clothed women were throwing a wet blanket onto the festivities, I suggested we leave. We did.

[Jack Sprat]

36. Warpy?

I didn't know you were a woman. Hey! I'm glad. Holy cow! That's something.

[sadbear]

8. Not all strip clubs are the same...

I've been to a few like the one you described.

And I've been to others.

[dionysus]

9. went to one cause i was a groomsman in a wedding and it would have been poor taste to skip the

bachelor party...

it was weird a few of them were drinking beers with us and chit chatting in between their sets... not soliciting us for lap dances even.. it was if they were lonely.

i don't think that's typical but i don't have any other strip club experiences to compare it to... maybe it's because we were clean cut professionals and the rest of the clientelle were older and lets say.. grimy...

[bhikkhu]

10. Male, been to several

...and the one word that explains much of it is Alcohol.

Its been many years, but with a little maturity and a distaste for drinking (especially public drinking) and strip clubs just seem incredibly creepy now - the performers, the spectators, the whole idea.

[NYC_SKP]

11. No, not a classic hetero stripper club. But, if I did, I'd go to the Bada Bing...

Sopranos fan here...

[Cleita]

12. Too many times.

When I was a bartender, I became friendly with some of the girls, bartenders and bouncers of the strip club down the block from where I worked. They used to come into our place when off duty to shoot some pool. The place actually had good food, so I went there to eat when I had to do a double shift. I didn't have a membership but since the employees knew me they let me in.

You are right it's really boring but then I'm a woman. The best entertainment is to watch the gobs drooling over the women. Most of them couldn't get laid even in a whore house. I think the guys go there to impress each other. Many take clients there to do business. Most guys have told me the same thing, looking at what you can't touch is boring.

[eShirl]

13. A fool and his money are soon parted.

Especially an aroused, drunken fool.

[RKP5637]

14. It's fun a few times and then I think it's kinda boring. Maybe a lot of the guys there are

bored and it's something to do, maybe habit forming for regulars. Maybe more entertaining than a regular bar for some. I always preferred dance-clubbing.

[Initech]

15. Been to two different ones, hated both experiences.

[mike_c]

16. once, LOL-- but I was working....

No shit, this was somewhere in SE Washington DC back in the mid 70s and I was working for the telephone company. Anyway, I got a trouble call to this strip joint and spent half an hour working on the phone line under the bar while the afternoon regulars watched the show. I saw maybe five minutes altogether, and mainly felt kind of embarrassed. But yeah, that's my only strip club experience.

[VWolf]

18. Anyone tip you? n/t

[LadyHawkAZ]

17. A couple times in Vegas

It was like being a diabetic in a room full of very, very expensive candy. Meh. No fun. No fun at all.

[MrMickeysMom]

19. I went to one early in my marriage with my husband...

at the time, later 70's and a beer was $5.00. They played some Stevie Wonder song while this girl dangled herself around a pole. It was boring as hell. Later, we walked over the the adult book store just in time to witness the cops come in and question the owner about under age people at that store. I remember getting a very nasty look from one of the cops when I announce in ear's distance, "Geez officer, I'm almost 16!"

We left before my husband let me say another thing.

Really stupid... and I was really under-welmed by the whole experience... especially the $5.00 beer.

[ohiosmith]

20. For several years I had a ringside table at one in Vancouver, BC. It was where I took clients for

lunch. During that period I did about $250MM in business in the place.

[NNN0LHI]

21. No but I had some friends who liked to go

Occasionally one of them would drink too much and get rammy with one of the strippers or bouncers and the next morning they would wake up laying in a farm field with lumps on their head. They always felt lucky lumps on the head is all they got. And they were lucky that is all they got because I knew where they were going and who owned them.

I don't like lumps on my head. From bouncers or from my wife so I always passed on the boys nights out stuff.

Glad I did too.

Don

[Atman]

22. If I'm going to pay six bucks for a beer...

There may as well be naked women around.

[sarcasmo]

23. I go for the food.

[JesterCS]

24. have been, and while it was fun for a few years of going once a month.. it got too expensive ><

but i did make friends with two of the strippers outside of their work. so thats a plus.

and funnily enough, one had an all you can eat buffet. That was worth the 5 cover alone lol.

[Archae]

25. The key words I used and many others noted, is how boring they are.

I guess it's like a bar.
If a person goes to a bar like "Cheers" to meet and shoot the bull with buddies, it can be entertaining.

But going there just to get plowed, or get their jollies watching people take their clothes off to over-loud music, jsut isn't my thing.

[Codeine]

26. My fiance keeps trying to drag me to one.

She really can't fathom the depth of embarrassment and - to be frank - shame that going to a place like that would involve for me. I'd rather spend every day of the week at the dentist.

[UnrepentantLiberal]

49. If what you're saying is true you might want to rethink

your future plans. If she's really into that and you're not...

[a geek named Bob]

27. I chaffuered a client to one a few times

while my client watched the women, I ate pizza, drank coffee, and talked to the ladies between gigs.

The ladies and the bouncers liked helping me write up some notes (it really wasn't my fault that the pushy clem got too close to a spark demonstration.)

[UnrepentantLiberal]

50. What does that mean?

The ladies and the bouncers liked helping me write up some notes (it really wasn't my fault that the pushy clem got too close to a spark demonstration.)

[a geek named Bob]

60. okay...

1.) Clem is an old carnie/stripper term for a client/mark
2.) While my client was watching one lady, I was experimenting with electricity.

[UnrepentantLiberal]

62. You stuck a fork in a socket?

[a geek named Bob]

63. Nah

playing with some tesla coils and a resonator circuit. The resonator was on a stage labeled "don't touch."

[B Calm]

28. I been to quite a few in my long life.

I don't get a big kick out of it. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy seeing naked girls from time to time.

But, over priced beer and naked girls that you can't touch and all of them wanting your money is not my thing!

[Maraya1969]

29. Girl here and been to several in the past.

Honestly have to say they were all a turn on. Even had a couple lap dances. Then again I'm bi-sexual. It's about as weird as I get sexually.

[JI7]

43. were they male or female strippers

or both ?

[Maraya1969]

72. Mostly women.

[BlueJazz]

30. I played in one for 12 weeks (Sax with bass, drummer and piano) It was ok but usually..

..the customers were crude and sometimes rude.
A few of the Women were going to school..of some sort.. and I found them to be pretty nice.

The songs though, were boring as hell.
Just a job. ...paid 100 bucks a night each...easy work.

[Tikki]

31. I went to that Chippendale's, once, many years ago....(someone's party)

I was embarrassed and kept thinking...what if their mothers saw them dressed like that.

Tikki
Maybe because I am the mother of sons.

[MrSlayer]

32. If you were bored you weren't doing it right.

I stopped going to strip clubs after I got serious with my wife. It's a huge waste of money if you can't bring the girls home with you. The wife is cool but not that cool.

[A HERETIC I AM]

33. "ever been to a strip club?"

Is Bismark a Herring?

[Ikonoklast]

34. Once, for a buddy's bachelor party.

It was a Friday night, I had worked twelve hours that day, and I had to get up for work at 0530 for work on Saturday...needless to say, I was beat.

All the other guys were off Saturday, I was in the wedding party and I didn't want to be a jerk, so I went.

I fell asleep.

[Keefer]

35. The Palomino Club

in Las Vegas. I won't go into details here, but let's just say I had a good time, TWICE.

http://www.vegas.com/nightlife/stripclubs/palomino.html .

[Jack Sprat]

37. Back in the 70s

Very classy. Not that I've been there.

[Rowdyboy]

38. Been to one with male dancers in the French Quarter multiple times...One guy was even a Tulane Univ.

pre-med student (showed me his student ID to prove he wasn't lying). They love to chat up customers during their breaks and my partner and I have met some really nice and intelligent guys. Most of them work for tips and while a dollar or two may not buy you love, it does rent you the company of some very sexy, nearly naked friendly young guys for a few minutes. Since the bar is usually pretty crowded it can be quite intimate to say the very least....

[dembotoz]

39. not in over 20 years

pleased to see my reaction is similar to many here.

i think most guys have been to one at least once.

think the last time i went my main emotion was my god
am i really this alone????

[Mnemosyne]

40. I was taken to one on my twentieth birthday by a dumbass. Took me in through the back,

which was also the men's room.

It went downhill from there....

Oh, I'm a woman. They are boring and sad places.

[grasswire]

41. yes, to the original Pink Pussycat in Hollywood

with my husband and our neighbors. One time. I was scandalized, having been a fairly sheltered teen in a church-going family. Also went to the SF Playboy Club, with husband and my brother and his wife. That's not really a strip club. Just a comedian and bunnies. That's it. Meh.

[Quixote1818]

42. I have been about five times but not in the last 10 years

Always with co-workers. It's like looking at Prime Rib and not being able to eat it. Torture!

[apocalypsehow]

44. Yep, when I was in college. My Fraternity brothers had a favorite locale.

Dropped a lot of fives & tens in that place.

[polly7]

45. I took my parents out to one

by mistake. It wasn't actually a strip club, just a bar with strippers ........ I had no idea what the night's entertainment was. Wow, did ma and pa get an eyeful.

[cliffordu]

46. Yep, I go to one. Just one.

I started going right after my wife and I split up.

I have been a regular for a couple of years now- Lately not as much since I moved 50 miles out of town -

I know some of the dancers and the bartenders and the owner well enough to call them good friends.

I go to the family christmas party every year, hang out at birthdays and have gone to one dancer's wedding.

I used to trade walking the bartender's dog for cat sitting duty.

It's funny to be on the other side of the wall - to be out of the category of "trade" - I no longer get offers for private dances. I get to see photos of the kids and listen to relationship problems.

It is a very rich subculture, and dancers cannot be lumped into stereotype any more than DU can.

I have to drive to town tomorrow so I'll go have lunch and say howdy.

Why do you ask?

[NBachers]

47. Organ Grinder in Miami

When the girls found out I wasn't a big money dropper they got cold and catty real fast. I felt terrible. No good. I just can't afford those places.

[A HERETIC I AM]

51. Holy shit!

I lived right up the road from the Organ Grinder! 89th & 115th, just off Galloway and Killian.

I used to go there all the time, back in the early 80's. I was just by there the other day. It's no longer the Organ Grinder though. Still a strip club, but I don't recall the name.

[UnrepentantLiberal]

48. I don't frequent them but I've been to strip clubs.

Been to strip clubs with girlfriends. Enjoyed it every time except for the one in Troutdale Oregon. Biker women don't do much for me.

[Egalitarian Thug]

52. Looking for love...

[Raine]

53. Yes several times, my cousin & I went to Chippendales in N. Hollywood. I also went

with my boyfriend to some strip clubs in TJ, Mexico and some in Hollywood. I've been to clubs where the males strip and also ones where females do. Strip clubs are an interesting experience.

[longship]

54. Silly, expensive diversions

Of course, one time I went with a bunch of guys and my future brother-in-law in Detroit. We went for the entertainment of seeing dirty old men acting stupidly as much as the "dancers".

One was in a dodgy neighborhood -- Hell, they all were. The owner began pacing the floor when one of the patrons began flossing his teeth with nature's own dental floss (to put it in a literary sense). That's when we realized that we'd better split before the paddy wagons pulled up to the door.

That was years ago and I've not been to one since. They are sleezy; drinks are too damned expensive; I don't like cover charges; and I am just not entertained by the whole milieu.

[a la izquierda]

55. Yes, several times...

and I'm a woman.

[michreject]

56. Plenty of times

My ex wife was a dancer. She wasn't a dancer when we got married.

This was in 77 or so.

[Capt. Obvious]

57. Sure have

[MadrasT]

58. Once in Baltimore back in the eighties.

It was a real dive. It was interesting purely because I had never been to one before do it was a new experience and it seemed like a cool, edgy thing to do with my boyfriend when I was 20.

I've never really been interested in going to another one. And the idea of going to see male dancers doesn't appeal to me at all.

Last month I was bored on a business trip (in a small city in the midwest I've been to a hundred times) and I went to see "Magic Mike" and boy was that a mistake. Boring as hell. The audience was filled with middle aged women oooohing and aaaaahing and giggling and I just thought the whole thing was ridiculous. I was hoping the story would be good but the story was even stupid. The weird thing was that I am also a middle aged woman and there I was watching all these other women in the audience wondering why they thought it was so great and yet I was so bored. Guess we're all wired differently as to what we think is interesting and exciting.

[belcffub]

59. 35 year old guy and have never been to one

a fool and his money are soon parted... same goes for casinos and lotteries... I have better things to do with my time and money...

[ArnoldLayne]

61. Oh yes many times! Haven't been to one in about 2 years. Now you brought it up I might have to now

thanks alot!

[HopeHoops]

64. Yep.

[11 Bravo]

65. I dated a stripper for five years before I met my wife.

During that time I frequently would pick her up after work (at Good Guys, Camelot, and other dance bars in D.C.) As a result, I spent more than a few hours sitting and nursing a beer while waiting for her to finish her shift. I'll admit that I kind of dug it initially, but after a while it became pretty fucking boring.

[Burma Jones]

66. Yes, I have - an interesting story........

As a HS Senior, I took some classes at the local Community College. I was 18, the legal drinking age then. One of my classmates in a Music Theory class stripped at a completely nude club in DC to pay the bills. Her father was not happy about this. He would come to the club, sit in the front row and try to embarrass his daughter out of doing this. He behaved well enough to avoid being bounced out - he just sat and stared. She did not receive financial support from her family. She asked us to come to her club and take up the tables in the front and confront her Dad to try to get him to stop. So, when she performed, about a dozen of us, men and women, would get there early, pay our minimums and take up as much of the front row as we could. We also talked to her Dad saying that it was pretty sick for him to come and watch his daughter do this. Eventually, he stopped showing up - and so did we. She later quit dancing and waited tables.....eventually she joined the Navy and got her degree that way.

At 19, I went to a club in DC where a performer took hold of the grid of the suspended ceiling and the whole thing came crashing down.

At 21, I went to a club in San Francisco, Carol Doda's Condor Club, which had unusual performers including a third trimester pregnant woman, little people and a woman with snakes. I was a Theatre Major and found the whole thing interesting but not particularly erotic.

After that, I went to a few Bachelor Parties at clubs.....the last time I think was about 1995.

Every time I went, I was thinking more about why the people involved were there rather than thinking about having sex. I would think about sex a lot more when I went to the beach or was playing in a band or at parties........

[pnwest]

67. true story, swear to God, if im lyin - im dyin...

Mid 80's when renting a limo was a trendy big deal, my 21st bday. I and 6 other girls rented a limo, went out drinking and touring bars and strip clubs. Only found one with male strippers, had male and female both, and it was a sad, sorry dive. We were determined to have fun, though, so we were cutting up and laughing, and one girlfriend was kind of embarassed to be there, so she pulled the tablecloth over her head, just playing it up for laughs.

Two days later she went to the Dr. cause she thought she had pinkeye...

...she had crabs in her eye.

Funniest. Shit. Ever.

[seabeyond]

68. i went to a chippendale once. stupid. hubby a couple times young,

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not his thing for his reasons.

[Iggo]

69. Yep.

A friend's Welcome Home party.

Had a real tough time getting past thinking "that's someone's mom/daughter/sister."

It's just not my thing. But I tipped like a champion. (Hey, I'm not a jerk.)

[quinnox]

70. yup, many times when I was in my 20s

Come on, why do you think most guys go, to see naked women, duh.

[lumberjack_jeff]

71. Once. Not an especially enriching experience, but I guess it's part of the tour. n/t

[taterguy]

73. I went because looking at nearly naked women aroused me

I guess I'm funny that way.

[mythology]

74. I haven't been to one

Partially because I think I would find the phony attention rather depressing and partially because I'm too cheap.

Also I don't care for giant (fake or otherwise) breasts. All I can think about it is how much that has to hurt the back.

I think guys do it for a number of reasons. The most obvious is men tend to be more visually stimulated. Also it can be useful for those of us who aren't exactly successful with women, albeit in a stunted fashion. For those who go in groups, there's the whole bonding thing, and at least some people see it as a rite of passage. When my stepdad heard I had never been to one, he encouraged me to go at least once.