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Sun May 12, 2019, 01:00 PM

 

For my mother on Mother's day

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Happy mother's day to all mothers who are not narcissistic alcoholics. Who have the ability to see their offspring as something more important than themselves. Who are not void of love, empathy and compassion. Who actually give a fuck.

In case you missed the thought mom, in hell, this isn't you.

ON EDIT: My mother actually passed away a few years ago. She got wasted and dropped a lit cigarette on herself in bed. Burned down half the house my dad and I built for our family. Yep, we built a house from the concrete block foundation up.

She no longer lives rent-free in my brain. All the posts everywhere today about mothers just triggered me a bit. All the damned marketing e-mails in my inbox about what mom wants are very annoying too.

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bitterross May 2019 OP
Ohiogal May 2019 #1
malaise May 2019 #2
treestar May 2019 #3
leftyladyfrommo May 2019 #4
bitterross May 2019 #9
leftyladyfrommo May 2019 #10
Funtatlaguy May 2019 #5
Ilsa May 2019 #6
Rambling Man May 2019 #7
Funtatlaguy May 2019 #8

Response to bitterross (Original post)

Sun May 12, 2019, 01:16 PM

1. I'm sorry

Motherís Day must be a painful reminder for you .... Iím truly sorry for everyone out there, for whatever reason, who did not have good memories of their Moms. My husband falls into this category, too.

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Response to Ohiogal (Reply #1)

Sun May 12, 2019, 01:17 PM

2. Yes we lucky ones forget this

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Response to bitterross (Original post)

Sun May 12, 2019, 01:19 PM

3. So sorry

That happens. Mine not alcoholic, but certainly when I was a kid overwhelmed and self-involved and not very supportive. I remember most "Jesus Christ, give me strength!" because of normal kid stuff like knocking something over.

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Response to bitterross (Original post)

Sun May 12, 2019, 02:30 PM

4. From another survivor.

Get over it. Do whatever it takes to do that.

She messed up your childhood. Don't let her mess up the rest if your life.

These people cast a long shadow. Step out of it back into the sun. You have the whole rest if your life ahead of you.

Go for it!

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Response to leftyladyfrommo (Reply #4)

Sun May 12, 2019, 05:13 PM

9. She no longer lives rent-free in my mind

 

All the posts everywhere about mothers just made her come to mind today.

Mine actually passed away a few years ago. She got wasted and dropped a lit cigarette on herself in bed. Burned down half the house my dad and I built.

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Response to bitterross (Reply #9)

Sun May 12, 2019, 05:48 PM

10. Those people just wreak havoc with other people's

lives and they don't care at all.

My mother and her sister were both that way. It was always about what they thought and what they wanted and they didn't care who they trampled over. It is a disaster for children.

It took me years and years to get free. I still am bothered sometimes but she doesn't live in my head anymore.

I wish you the best.

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Response to bitterross (Original post)

Sun May 12, 2019, 02:48 PM

5. Mine was a very mean manipulative narcissist.

Difficult to find Mothers Day cards for that.
The good news is that her personality changed once she developed dimentia and is now a sweetheart that canít tell you what day it is. Life is strange.

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Response to bitterross (Original post)

Sun May 12, 2019, 03:01 PM

7. online discussion forums are NOT "safe spaces."

just a thought.

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Response to Rambling Man (Reply #7)

Sun May 12, 2019, 03:09 PM

8. True. But an ok place to vent. Not all holidays have good memories

for everyone.

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