Do you know Compulsive Liars in Real Life?

[cthulu2016]

Do you trust them? Are you able to have close relationships with them?

[Tansy_Gold]

1. Yes. No. Depends on what you mean by "close." n/t

[Scuba]

2. Yes. No. No.

[rbrnmw]

3. don't most of us?

[Romulox]

4. Yes. No. No. All the "compulsive" liars I know seem to have NPD, as well.

NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Our culture seems to celebrate psycopaths and NPDs.

[cthulu2016]

7. I know one paranoid and *several* NPD compulsive liars

[Jazzgirl]

11. +1

The main one I know definitely has NPD.

[XemaSab]

5. I know a compulsive liar

He's a conservative Christian.

I'm sure you're all shocked.

[bemildred]

6. Yes, no, no.

And they are many, it's like a valuable job skill.

[elleng]

8. Yes, I do know them.

Don't trust them, but must have 'close' relationships, as they're close family members.

[grantcart]

9. OK this is going to be reaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaal funny. Yes, alot of them, but the worst was Bush.

If you do a lot of recruiting then you will find a percent of appllicants that just lie their heads off.


So I worked for a management consulting firm and eventually reached partner level, and then left over ethical differences.

Went to another company and every couple of months I would get somebody who would state that they were a former employee of the firm I was at. Ninety percent of the time they clearly were lying about what the did.

I had one guy who came and stated that he was hired as a consultant to that company, which I knew to be a lie.

So I called him in and he turned out to seem to have a good set of skills so even though I know he had exaggerated we hired him.

I worked with him for a couple of weeks and it seemed that he was OK. He watched me make a dozen sales and then I watched him.

Well his last name was Bush and he actually look a lot like Bush and he kind of reluctantly admitted that he was a cousin.

He was very good.

And then he started disappearing from work for days at a time. The explanations got more and more outrageous. Laura Bush had an uncle die and she came quietly to Orange County and he spent two days with her. That kind of stuff.

I worked with him a couple of times and got him to open up all about the Bush family and it was very convincing.

Then all of the sales bounced. I went to investigate and he had gone back to the places I sold and redone the paperwork.

He never worked a day, it was all an elaborate charade to get free per diem for about two months.

He was the best liar I ever saw. Turned out the only thing that was true was that his last name was Bush. The rest, not one word of truth.

[Jazzgirl]

10. Yes but I don't associate with them anymore. I couldn't take it.

n/t

[Bluenorthwest]

12. I have, of course not and don't be absurd.

I do not deal kindly with liars. The only liars I deal with consistently are on DU. In real life, they are simply not welcome, but this is Skinner's house not mine.

[Cleita]

13. Some.

There are two kinds of compulsive liars. There are the ones who lie about themselves or first person liars. Their stories about their upbringing, family, education and work are mostly pure fabrications that change over time and they often trip over their lies and expose themselves. The thing is that they are harmless and don't hurt anyone. I can trust this kind of liar not to upset my life and change it.

The second kind of liar is a third person liar. This is the one who makes up gossip about others, who lies about events and situations. This liar makes up fiction like it was true. This kind of liar is malicious and should never be trusted. I have had friendships with the first person liar but never with the third person liar.

[HopeHoops]

14. Yes. You can tell.

[NV Whino]

15. Yes, I did know a couple

The first was so outrageous with his lies he simply kept me entertained. He was very bright and I think he made up elaborate lies to keep from getting bored. And if he hadn't lied about his cat, I probably never would have found him out.

The second was (for a time) a close personal friend. I never figured out why she lied, but she lied about everything. And everything was a secret, even the most mundane things. I lasted about two years and finally couldn't take it anymore.

[bigwillq]

16. Thankfully no.

I wouldn't be able to trust them or have a close relationship with anyone like that.