It's really past bad with my family & friends Trumpers.
Like I bet many of you have had to do over the past 3 years, I’ve had to ask myself some really hard questions lately.
When is enuf enuf?
If these (supposedly) good people in my life continue to support this man who is destroying our country, how do I remain in the SAME type of relationship with them.
I’ve already canceled any social media to avoid their vile.
I’ve dropped those relationships that were just casual.
And, now, I’m thinking about dropping some REALLY important relationships.
With most, (as I’m sure you’ve probably done) we have always just agreed to disagree and just never discuss politics.
But more and more it seemed to seep into everyday life with snide remarks with them or their friends, neighbors, and acquaintances about how great Trump is in “owning the libs”.
I am not a confrontational person.
I often go along to get along.
But, if I hear one more Trumper say.... “who cares about the stupid shit he says, my 401K looks great”.
First, why does he get credit for that?
Second, why does Obama/Biden get no credit for saving us from a likely depression?
Third, no matter how good the stock market is doing right now, what goes up usually comes down.
Fourth, is having another car 🚘 or a boat 🚣♀️ really worth the damage that this evil corrupt person is doing to our country and to our planet?
Fifth, have these people been so outFauxed and Rush Limbotomized that they really believe the country would be better off with four more years of him than a “radical, tree hugging, baby killing, bed wetting liberal”? (That was rhetorical- of course they do).
The really heart ❤️ crushing part is that these are people that I love and that love me.
How do I keep them in my life and still keep my self respect and semi sanity?
This is what I hate most about Trump. He has impacted my actual life so negatively.
Or, make that, I have ALLOWED him to do so.
Any suggestions from those that understand where I’m coming from?
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I'm not really sure what precipitated the change in attitude. But, one day, *poof*, all of the lighted yards signs and flags were gone and it's been over a month since I saw a Trumpanzee wearing a MAGAt hat. These deplorable fish swim in different circles from me. So, I don't know what particular signal was issued.
Maybe, it was the USS McCain incident. There are many vets here and they weren't too happy about that episode from Old Yeller. And, I have seen more veteran service ball caps.
Dunno. It is a breath of fresh air, tho. 
I'm on Kauai and after the "election" there was a trump banner, hanging between 2 palm trees, on a golf course, that I saw from the bus. But it didn't stay up long..
This I whole heartedly(Spell) agree with.
But, freedom of speech only mean the government can not come down on someone for speech.
It has nothing to do with me being able to refuse service to someone who espouses racist bigotry, or punch somebody in the face, if I so choose. I may get arrested for punching someone, but NOT for violating their 'right to freedom of speech.'
Germany has specific laws about what kind of speech is illegal, and with good reason.
How about deliberately committing yourself to protecting your relationships, and the continuity of your family itself, while you wait for this to pass? And it will. Some day. Politically involved conservatives have been encouraged to become very bad versions of themselves, but with better leaders they can be much better. And quickly.
Maybe approach this coolly and intellectually since the old emotional relations are failing. If you understand them much better and also understand how they came to what you cannot respect, loving and being with them should be a lot happier business. And goodness knows there's no shortage of studies on what on earth is going on with them and why. 
Here's a quick article I grabbed. I'm among those who believe Jonathan Haidt's book, The Righteous Mind, is flawed in some respects, but he became respectful of and sympathetic to conservatives when studying and knowing them better (before Trump), a good thing, and does a good job of helping people understand conservative reactions, thinking, views on morality. Even all our best versions are strikingly different in some ways, although very similar in most, and we really should understand each other better.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/calling-truce-political-wars/
I know how you feel, I have one family member that is on the fence about tRump. She wants to side with facts but likes the drama.
Anytime I hear someone boasting something about him, I kindly say, " I have standards, and if what he's said and done doesn't bother you, then I guess babies in cages doesn't either".
Usually, this sparks a, "What do you mean"?
I explain humans at the boarder, stripped of their childern, so they can be put into cages in closed Walmarts, yes this is your country and your leader doing this. The conversation usually ends and everyone is quiet for a few moments. I 'll then break the silence with, "It's bad, really bad".
You can't control them, but you don't have to sit idle and listen to their talking points fed to them from the teevee.
Remember you are part of the majority, we are here for you.
Focus on how he benefited from the tax cut and that’s why he is lying to them. Talk about the “caravan”.
“That totally disappeared off Fox after the election. Caravans are still going on. That caravan was a LIE designed to get you to vote for billionaires. Sucker. And you don’t even KNOW you’re gonna pay back that $2 trillion tax cut.”
Say “sucker” a lot. And “useful idiot”
Sounds crazy to us, but Republicans like Fox because they actually are persuaded by direct language and name calling. This would never work on a Democrat. But we’re not talking about Democrats.
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All you have to do is pick a topic they will likely bring up. The economy, foreign relations, immigrants in cages, or anything they feel passionate about or like to take jabs at you about. Then you list off like 20 or 30 facts and go into as much detail as possible. I know they won't let any of it sink in but that isn't the point. The point is to bombard them with so much information that their eyes glaze over and then keep talking. You really want to get to the point where you can tell they are annoyed. Ask pointed questions and interrupt them when they try to answer. Make it an all out verbal assault. It won't change their minds but they will be more and more reluctant to bring up politics with you in the future. Remember, walk into the situation with enough preloaded information to keep talking for 10 to 20 minutes. You win when they start getting up and leaving the room and you're still talking. I suggest following them and not letting up. It can be really fun.
Talking about how and why Fox lies to them.
Talk about Rupert Murdoch’s tax cuts
Talk about the $2 trillion tax cut for billionaires on a credit card.
Say
“There’s only two kinds of Republicans: billionaires, and suckers”
Pointing out how and why Fox lies to them is incredibly effective over time.
