I did something today that I have NEVER ever done before in my life....

[lastlib]

Last edited Mon Mar 9, 2020, 11:52 AM - Edit history (1)

If I had done it in my teenage years, I would have been cleaned up off the floor with Dawn and a sponge.

I was watching CNN, Fareed Zakaria's interview of Hillary Clinton, and they were talking about corruption in the tRump administration. My mother, 92 years old, a hater of everything Clinton, who voted for tRump in '16, came in the room, and saw what the conversation was about, and said, "Well, there's the pot calling the kettle black."

It thoroughly disgusted me, and I just reacted, and said, "Oh, shut up!" Never in my 60+ years of life have I told my mother to shut up. It even shocked me, after I said it. But I don't think my deaf-as-a-rock mother heard it; if she did, she didn't react. But she didn't say another word about the interview.

Our primary is Tuesday. She doesn't drive, but I know she will want to go vote (she never misses an election), and I'm pretty certain she would vote for that orange bastard again. But I am VERY tempted to tell her that I won't drive her to the polls if she is going to vote for him.

Whaat to do?

[dewsgirl]

1. Good for you.😳

[dawg day]

2. IT's not the primary that matters -- Trump will win that.

In November, you might oops misplace the car keys after you've voted yourself.

[lastlib]

5. I don't care that it's just a primary--any show of support for that basturd bothers me.

I can't enable it.

[3Hotdogs]

8. There is no Repuke primary. The party leaders cancelled it.

[former9thward]

9. How do you know where he lives?

There are R primaries in most states. Only a few were canceled.

[3Hotdogs]

24. Yes, there were R primaries for Congress and Senate. None for president.

[Ace Rothstein]

28. It was only some states where the Republicans cancelled their presidential primaries.

The vast majority of states are still having them.

[MoonchildCA]

40. California had a Republican presidential primary.

[lastlib]

17. Missouri has one.

The shitgibbon is on the GOPee ballot.

[3Hotdogs]

25. There were R primaries for congress, senate and state elections. None for president.

[The Genealogist]

33. Greene County Mom's sample ballot shows 5 Republican candidates for president

[lastlib]

38. Better check again, pls.

https://ballotpedia.org/Presidential_election_in_Missouri,_2020

Yes, Missouri has a Republican presidential primary tomorrow.

[MagickMuffin]

23. They held their primary in Texas.

Separate machines for the Democrats and the republicons in Tarrant County.

[3Hotdogs]

26. Yes, for congress, senate and state posts.

[MagickMuffin]

37. And pResident

Yes, there were 7 candidates in that race and 2.76% 3,384 that didn't vote for anyone!

[Claritie Pixie]

3. It's never too late to set boundaries!

Good for you speaking your mind. If you don't want to drive her to vote for him, say so. Don't need to be harsh just honest. Good luck!

[GentryDixon]

4. She's one vote.

You may regret not taking her after she's gone. Guilt is a powerful thing. I still regret not spending more time with my mom in her last days.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

6. I'm not a fan of voter suppression, myself.

[lastlib]

18. I don't intend to suppress her vote--

She'd just have to do it on her own device. I'm not inclined to enable it.

[Tipperary]

34. Thank you.

[DFW]

7. Republicans want to make it difficult for people like her to vote.

In November, tell her you are coming to see things the Republicans' way, and have decided she must get to the polls and back under her own steam. Don't forget your ID, Mama!

[Dagstead Bumwood]

10. Take the high road and

take your mom to vote. It could be the last opportunity she has to do so, and if you deny her that, when's she's gone, you'll likely regret it.

[stillcool]

11. I'm having visions...

delicious visions....but.. she's your mom. The only one you'll ever have. Sometimes kindness is advantageous.

[Skittles]

12. drive her to go vote

when she passes, you don't want to know that Trump had the power to deny your mum a car ride

[50 Shades Of Blue]

13. Can she vote by absentee ballot?

[lastlib]

19. not at this late stage....

[rog]

14. If it will help (re: my mom's vote)

When my mom was living I helped her walk the one block to the polling place every election, while she was still able, and helped her fill out the absentee ballot, as long as she was able to do that, when she could no longer walk the block. I never regretted doing that, even though I knew her vote would negate mine every time. She voted straight Republican ticket her entire life. Edited to add that her TV was hard-wired to Fox News. That was rough.

Good luck.

♫rog♫

[Jake Stern]

15. So, to recap

- Mom has a differing political opinion than you
- Mom expressed that opinion
- You not only told her to shut up but have contemplated retaliating by not taking her to vote in the primary

And you're trying to make your mom out to be the bad person?

[Demonaut]

21. she is a bad person

brainwashed

[irisblue]

16. Take her to vote. Her vote is her business, not yours, your ballot is your business

And a suggestion, hook both of you up with mail in/absentee ballots for November.

[Demonaut]

20. flatten a tire or two

[Maru Kitteh]

22. Today is my Mom's birthday and I miss her so bad. I can't stop crying.

I lost her the year before last on Thanksgiving day. Some days I wonder if I will ever really feel okay again.

[Wounded Bear]

27. There is a reason the first story in the Bible involves disobedience to authority...

What to do? Be true to yourself. Drive your mother to the polls and let her be who she is.

[Chemisse]

29. Everybody should vote.

I wouldn't blame you for not wanting to drive her though.

I just bristle at any suggestion that votes should be stifled. I kept encouraging my son to vote, even though I knew he was going to vote for Bernie. Voting is important.

[Lucid Dreamer]

30. lastlib, whatever you do will have much more effect on your relationship than on the election. nt

[Rorey]

31. No, you gotta take her

It's the right thing to do. We shouldn't be about suppressing anyone's vote. That's what THEY do, and it goes against everything that a democracy is supposed to be.

[CountAllVotes]

32. Tell her to vote absentee given her age

You won't have to drive her anywhere.

If she can't fill out the absentee ballot and mail it in, well that is HER problem.

As for now, tell her you cannot continue to reinforce her behavior and thoughts by taking her to the polls to vote for a Nazi. Tell her to take a taxi to the polls!

Luckily I do not live with someone that votes for pukes. If I did, I would have thrown said person out a long time ago.

I have relatives that are pukes and I never hear from them thank god.

Do what you must to SAVE your sanity!

[marlakay]

35. Its hard when a family member

Believes in Trump or is republican. My younger daughter just told me my older daughter just registered to be a republican and that she didn’t want to tell me.

I admit knowing she lives in CA makes me feel better that it won’t change anything. she has been making really good money and upset at the higher taxes.

I signed my 93 yr old mom up for voting by mail, maybe that would help in your situation.

[JustAnotherGen]

36. Drive her to the polls

On election day in 2008 I went out to Allentown area of PA to get the vote out. Many trips to the polls later and canvassing and we uncovered two elderly people who had no ride.

Mr. Berryhill was an 'up souther/great migrationist' proud to vote for a black man.
Mrs. Irish Immigrant's son refused to take her to the polls to vote for Obama.

Good times - the arguments in my car over black vs Irish and how Obama was good for both - with me threatening to pull the car over if they didn't knock it off!

It's a Primary - take her to the polls.

ETA - Get back to me in November if you are Michigan.

[Blecht]

39. Never suppress the vote

It's not a very democratic or Democratic thing to do.