I see all these people pulling their kids out of school or the schools closed

[RB TexLa]

and them being happy to have their children at home.

How many of them have gone to pull their elderly relatives out of the nursing home?

[marybourg]

1. The elderly would not be in nursing

homes if they could be taken care of at home without heroic efforts.

[herding cats]

3. This is true generally speaking.

I've never known a case where family didn't try and mitigate their going there, until they couldn't anymore.

By a majority it's because they're exhausted all other choices. It's usually a last option, and often a deeply painful decision.

[Tech]

2. Having a relative in a nursing home is incredibly difficult and never taken lightly.

I hope you are never in a position to need one for yourself or a loved one.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

4. It's not that easy. Most of the time people are in nursing homes

only because their families don't have the ability to care for them in their homes.

[herding cats]

5. As if most working parents can mitigate the lack of childcare?

If you're a service worker, a lack of school is a devastating situation.

Also, making a decision to let a beloved family member go to a nursing home is deeply painful, and personal.

You're lacking nuance in so many areas.

[ret5hd]

6. I don't judge with you.

[demmiblue]

7. ...

[Dr. Strange]

8. I hear ya.

[LanternWaste]

9. Ask these people you see. Get back to us w/ answers-- we'd be interested!

[EndlessWire]

10. Caring for an invalid at home

is one of the most challenging things you'll ever do. A nursing home, with all that entails, usually IS the last resort. It is a dreadful experience.

I used to feel as you do, until I cared for my mother at home in her last days. It is gawd-awful hard. Caregivers need their own respite care.

I favor in-home care for the generations, but there should be supportive services available beyond what we have now. For instance, I found medical transport to doctor's appointments to be terribly hard, and had to call for gurney transport, which was incredibly expensive. There was just no other way. I spent many hours dreaming of having my own medical transport van for her, but it was too expensive, and not to be.

Caring for the infirm at home is way more than just providing a room in your home. You have to have support systems in place for 24-hour care, and that's not easy to do.

[Ilsa]

17. I hear you.

I need help getting my MIL out to do anything from shopping to socializing. My son takes her on shopping tripping to the grocery store. I take her to get clothes or see the doctor. But we don't have the ability to take her regularly during the week to places where she can socialize. She doesn't qualify for most low income programs. I'm hoping I can get her a small VA pension to help cover payments to paid companions.

Right now she can take care of herself. I'll be able to get more help when she can't take care of herself.

[uponit7771]

11. Not having testing hurts us all

[blaze]

12. My Mom is in assisted living and I've been wrestling with this

We are both high risk. (93/65)

I could bring her home, but I am not really prepared for it... no safety bars in the shower, trip hazards (including my dog) and meal preparation are just some of the concerns.

But the one that really stops me is... what if I get sick and can no longer care for her? Would her facility let her move back in? Would my sister (2000 miles away) be able to take over?

For now, we are both self-isolating. (She, as much as she can)

[Codeine]

13. As if anyone is more socially-isolated

than elderly care home residents.

Also, I don’t drink with you.

[RB TexLa]

14. And a decade later still cyberbullying? Trump must be your hero on that, you are so much like him.

[Codeine]

15. Cyber- bullying?

Not sure how quoting you is bullying, but okay. Who knew big bad RBTexLa was that delicate deep down?

[RB TexLa]

16. Just noticing the similarity to Trump in your desire to obsessively

degrade, insult or make fun of someone. For over ten years.

Trump would be proud of your attacking ability.

[Codeine]

18. You just don't like being reminded

of your dumb troll thread and how ridiculous it made you look or how long the infamy has lasted.

[RB TexLa]

19. You all have made your point that I got "uppity"

And didn't appreciate me speaking to someone like that.

Or maybe that's why you think we get "uppity," cause of our "stupidity."

Actually, thank you. Now I see how you think and view people.