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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy Father in law just died.
Just got the call from my husband.
I'm in shock, and so, so saddened.
Some here might remember that I posted a few threads this past December about how he didn't get a flu shot due to being an anti-vaxxer, and then he got the flu and almost died?
Well, the flu virus attacked his heart (which is why he almost died in the hospital in December) and he'd been struggling ever since.
His heart just did not recover, and he went into congestive heart failure.
And, he died about an hour ago.
Please, please get your flu shots, people. He was 70 years old, but he was the only surviving child of his 97 year old mother.
I can't imagine being the one who now has to tell her.
In grief,
Coventina
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)Coventina
(27,064 posts)Uben
(7,719 posts)May God rest his soul
Coventina
(27,064 posts)redstateblues
(10,565 posts)Coventina
(27,064 posts)Maeve
(42,271 posts)Damn...wish I could find decent words to express the empathy I feel for the hole this can leave in your life, but the words that spring quickest to mind are those of traditional comfort and sorrow.
emmaverybo
(8,144 posts)Demovictory9
(32,423 posts)hlthe2b
(102,141 posts)especially under such circumstances.
iamateacher
(1,089 posts)My condolences to your family.
revmclaren
(2,500 posts)Sending positive energy in your time of sorrow.
I truly do not understand antivaxers, having a couple in my own family.
Coventina
(27,064 posts)revmclaren
(2,500 posts)on social media.
barbtries
(28,773 posts)especially for his mother.
UpInArms
(51,280 posts)mcar
(42,278 posts)diva77
(7,629 posts)what a heartbreaking story (sorry, no pun intended)
sending a hug from a safe social distance
sdfernando
(4,927 posts)vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)renate
(13,776 posts)That is so sad. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
babylonsister
(171,035 posts)frazzled
(18,402 posts)For you and your family. As if their arent enough issues to deal with right now. May his memory be a blessing to you and yours.
Demonaut
(8,914 posts)gademocrat7
(10,645 posts)Take care.
MelissaB
(16,420 posts)A HERETIC I AM
(24,362 posts)To borrow and paraphrase the letter to Mrs. Bixby by Abraham Lincoln, I hope you find a way that may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost.
May he have a gentle voyage, with eternal following winds and calm seas.
onecaliberal
(32,786 posts)Hortensis
(58,785 posts)Bluethroughu
(5,141 posts)Thank you for sharing although painful.
irisblue
(32,932 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,611 posts)I remember your post. Sadly, the flu is still out there along with cv.
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)sarge43
(28,940 posts)JudyM
(29,204 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)Especially to your mother in law. Its tragic!
Fla Dem
(23,591 posts)KY_EnviroGuy
(14,488 posts)KY.......... ........
QED
(2,747 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss.
LuckyCharms
(17,414 posts)BadGimp
(4,012 posts)littlemissmartypants
(22,594 posts)monmouth4
(9,686 posts)mgardener
(1,812 posts)It is scary.
I have a list of all the shots for that my husband and I got. I had to drag him to most of them because he doesn't get sick. He is 76 and I worry...
It is hard to get older
My sympathies for his mom.
Will say a prayer for both of them.
OhNo-Really
(3,985 posts)ChazII
(6,203 posts)our DU family in extending condolences to your family.
MissB
(15,804 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Jim__
(14,063 posts)snacker
(3,619 posts)May he rest in peace.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,729 posts)Yes, I recall those threads about his stubbornness. How sad that what you feared has come true.
HarlanPepper
(2,042 posts)Ive had the flu maybe three times in 45 years. But guess who will be first in line the next time theyre offered? Ive never been anti vaccine. We went to Africa a few years ago and got a variety of vaccinations. But I will be taking the flu more seriously moving forward. Im sorry for your loss.
Upthevibe
(8,018 posts).......and that of your family's...
FM123
(10,053 posts)Sending you and your family extra love at this very sad time.
Lonestarblue
(9,958 posts)And thank you for the warning about the flu. Medical science has come a long way, and Im sorry for people who would rather believe superstition than science for something that has proven to be beneficial.
Dem2theMax
(9,641 posts)Extending my sympathies to you and your entire family. Cannot imagine how a 97 year old mother can deal with the loss of her son.
Evolve Dammit
(16,702 posts)malaise
(268,720 posts)CountAllVotes
(20,867 posts)Please let your husband know that he has many condolences from your friends here at the DU.
I know what a horrible shock it is when someone close dies like that.
Take care, both of you!
Vivienne235729
(3,377 posts)volstork
(5,399 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,438 posts)MineralMan
(146,262 posts)Kaleva
(36,259 posts)Dem2
(8,166 posts)I just lost my dad a month ago from heart failure. Haven't even had time to grieve due to the emergency :/
EllieBC
(2,990 posts)May his memory be a blessing.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My sincere condolences.
denvine
(799 posts)MLAA
(17,252 posts)cpmx2006
(35 posts)Sorry for your loss...
tavernier
(12,369 posts)My doctor died of the flu because he was too busy to get the shot. The only doc in Florida to die of the flu. He was a pretty awesome doc but should have worried more about himself.
KSNY
(315 posts)Loryn
(943 posts)mokawanis
(4,435 posts)eleny
(46,166 posts)Did I get that right. Your mil survived?
My condolences go out to you all.
LovingA2andMI
(7,006 posts)Our condolences....
iluvtennis
(19,835 posts)CottonBear
(21,596 posts)My condolences to you and his family.
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)For your loss. My condolences.
We had a death in my family tuesday. A shock.
I don't know how to show the emojis here that hug each other. Sending that one, to you.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)SlimJimmy
(3,180 posts)Ohiogal
(31,924 posts)Coventina
(27,064 posts)When my mother died in 2003, I was blown away by the kindness everyone expressed then, and I am humbled and moved to tears yet again.
You guys are the absolute best!
I have to sign off for tonight, but I will be back, I hope, sometime tomorrow, as familial duties permit.
cry baby
(6,682 posts)DownriverDem
(6,226 posts)for you and your family.
BayAreaAtLast
(37 posts)I am so very sorry.
McCamy Taylor
(19,240 posts)in those who already have some underlying coronary artery disease. Flu is a tremendous strain on the heart. I had two relatives both in their 60s experience their first MI's when they had Flu B a few years ago. One died on the cathe table, the other survived.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,007 posts)strength in the coming day for you and your husband and family.
So sorry to hear of his passing, Coventina
FuzzyRabbit
(1,967 posts)I hope you have some good memories about him.
PlanetBev
(4,104 posts)Ill be 70 in November. You just cant risk your life on specious theories pushed by the likes of the anti-vaxxer crowd.
Coventina, my condolences to your entire family. 💐
murielm99
(30,717 posts)58Sunliner
(4,372 posts)herding cats
(19,558 posts)Peace to you and your family.
The_jackalope
(1,660 posts)It hits especially hard for me. I'm 69 and have heart failure as well.
Flu shots save lives.
Hugs from Canada, Coventina.
ailsagirl
(22,887 posts)calimary
(81,127 posts)Thank you for urging the flu shots. Even in your own private sorrow you still think of others.
People like you are the reason I still believe we'll somehow get through this.
GoneOffShore
(17,337 posts)CountMyVote4Reality
(209 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. And thank you for sharing the circumstances so some here may avoid a similar loss.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)No matter what age a person, is losing a child is one of the most difficult life experiences to go through. Having lost one, I can not imagine going through that again. Deepest sympathy to the family. Stay strong for your husband's sake.
Raster
(20,998 posts)...
ProfessorGAC
(64,875 posts)And, take care.
SnowCritter
(810 posts)n/t
Pugee
(346 posts)I know what you mean! My dad got the flu and was hospitalized. A few months later he had a massive heart attack and died a few days later. The doctors said the flu weakened his heart and system so much he just could not bounce back. He was 55
liberalla
(9,227 posts)gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)sheshe2
(83,660 posts)MontanaMama
(23,296 posts)Good lord these are hard days. My father in law died on March 11th. No funeral. The churches are closed and the funeral homes wont allow gatherings of 10 or more. I am holding you and your family in my heart.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Judi Lynn
(160,451 posts)Your words should most surely move people to be more determined to encourage everyone they know to never fail to ask for their flu shot each year as soon as they become available.
DU'ers will be thinking of you and your family as you work through this time during a very difficult time in the world.
Hoping you will all stay safe through this period and look after your own health throughout.
Your many friends here will be thinking about you, and hoping for the best for you and your family.
May he rest in peace. 🕯️
qanda
(10,422 posts)😔
Danmel
(4,908 posts)GetRidOfThem
(869 posts)No matter what the circumstances, a lost life is always a tragedy!