Help for Domestic Violence or Child Abuse?

[HockeyMom]

What about Divorcing couples whose hearings have been put on hold? Not every shelter in place household lives in a loving, healthy relationship singing from balconies. Throw these people to the wind for the greater good of society?

This is not simply a hypothetical question. It involves my daughter, SIL, and Grandkids. Their divorce hearing has been postponed indefinitely because of coronavirus. SIL has called the cops on my daughter for hitting him in front to the children. He is worried she is going to harm the kids. Believe her or him? I believe him because in one of her screaming fits she has pushed her own elderly mother.

My 4 year old Grandson is Autistic. Daughter is a screaming mess with him. His special needs school has been shut down as well. No services for him. He has now started biting himself, his brother, and mother. At home online learning is not going to work for him. Granny, too, is very worried for his safety. When she called me crying and asking if they could come stay with me, I agreed. Sorry for ignoring stay in place. I will protect my grandkids over the greater good of society.

If there are any professionals reading this, be they in fields of mental health or attorneys, please advise what can and is being done in situations as these.

Edit: I am a retired Special Ed Para and have worked many years with Autistic children under the guidance of school Psychologists and Behavior Specialists. Daughter refuses to listen to any advice I give her. I think she just wants someone else to take care of her son, as long as it is not she herself.

[Phoenix61]

1. It's stay in place, just stay in your place.

Keeping everyone safe isn’t safe just from corona virus, it’s safe from harm. It sounds like you are exactly what your grandson needs. Dealing with autistic kids is different and if you don’t understand that, it’s incredibly frustrating. That whole “kids want to please adults” just isn’t there. With your experience, I’m sure you know what I mean. Glad he has a granny who cares so much about him.

[a la izquierda]

2. I am in a situation you (sort of) described.

Absolutely no danger of abuse or violence, but we planned to file and move our separate ways (we’ve been separated but living together as roommates for health insurance purposes). Instead my spouse and I are tolerating each other. Also our elderly dog is dying.
Also my partner lives in England and he and his daughter have asthma; he has a young son as well with his almost-ex (they’re in a similar holding pattern because divorces in England take awhile and nothing is open). I haven’t seen him since December. I don’t know when I’ll see him again. Even if travel restrictions are eased, I’ll have to quarantine myself for two weeks upon arrival so I don’t bring any diseases into the house.