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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThe human race is beautiful. The big shots try to keep that a secret.
The human race is beautiful. The big shots try to keep that a secret.
For starters, theres millions of nurses putting their lives on the line taking care of contagious patients. Theyre working 12 hour days day after day, trying to give their hearts and souls and minds to make their patients feel less lonely, cared for, safer, in good hands. These nurses put their hearts on the line, every patient is a risk to them not only physically but emotionally. Yes, I know they learn to separate themselves, but I got a think theres gonna be some serious cases of PTSD after these traumatic weeks.
I do believe that pure love is what motivates a whole lot of them.
Then theres the doctors. They are rushing around patient to patient taking responsibility for life or death based on their knowledge and judgment of a situation that seems almost hopeless. But theyre not giving up. Whats the best thing to do for this guy? For this woman? Dang this one looks like my grandmother. Dang, Ive GOT to save this life. And this one. And this one. Read some more, diagnose, think, order tests, communicate, check, think, dont panic, deal with it, save, save, can I save? Fight on.
The cleaners. Dang theres a brave job in this environment. They dont get the glory, but they sure have some risk. They know their job is important. Maybe they seem invisible, maybe they dont make the big bucks, but they are important and they gotta know it at a time like this..
People are researching, volunteering, being creative. And a lot of them arent doing anything more heroic than staying home. But at the present, thats generally motivated by the fact that we care for each other. The simplest actions, if motivated by love, become noble.
The big shots may not even know just how beautiful people can be. Civilization is being led by a lot of people that are motivated mainly by money or power or status. But thats the small number.
All the best to you all. May peace reign in your homes. Invent something that addresses some real human needs. Create something that inspires and unites us. Make yourself stronger or smarter or more balanced or just more rested. Love on your kids and your spouses and your dogs. Lets make ourselves better as a culture, during this forced interruption of our normal lives.
Stevegberg
(80 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)That's what a real leader would do.
Yes, a whole lot of people are truly beautiful.
lostnfound
(16,162 posts)badseedboy
(174 posts)to acknowledge the existence of pure love as incentive in nearly every human setting. It's sometimes hidden, but still there in someone's heart.
VWolf
(3,944 posts)crickets
(25,952 posts)sdfernando
(4,925 posts)The real heroes are not the ones on the TV giving a 2 hour nonsensical campaign rally. The true heroes are the ones in the trenches...as you said, the nurses, doctors, orderlies, cleaning & maintenance, EMTs...oh and lets not forget the morgue workers who are so overwhelmed right now...everyone on the front lines that does real and actual work to either save lives or give dignity to those that have passed and their loved ones that remain.
hunter
(38,302 posts)... since patients are not allowed visitors.
MerryBlooms
(11,757 posts)Locrian
(4,522 posts)it's when we reduce *everything in life to $* is when we fuck it up
Silver Gaia
(4,540 posts)I was outside on my porch disinfecting groceries yesterday when my mail carrier walked up. I asked her to please just put my mail on the steps. When she did, I noticed she was wearing a mask, but no gloves. So, I asked her if she needed some gloves, saying I'd heard that some post offices don't have enough things like that.
She held up her small hand and said the only gloves they have are sized for men and are way too big for her. I held up my small, gloved hand and asked if some THIS size would help. Her eyes widened and she said, "Yesssss...?" I told her I could spare about 10 pairs and would pack them up and clip them to the mailbox for her. She accepted gratefully.
So, I did. I also gave her a small bottle of hand sanitizer, a small travel-size bottle filled with 70% alcohol and some paper towels, a few Clorox wipes sealed in a zip-loc, and a fresh mask in an individually sealed package. I placed all of that in an opaque bag (so as to discourage thievery) and clipped it to my mailbox. It's gone, so I think she found it.
I'll try to leave more when I can. Helping her helps me, and in turn, everyone on her route. This is something we can all do. Focus on the little ways we can help. It all adds to the whole.
Trueblue Texan
(2,419 posts)...I didn't have any gloves to give her. The mail carriers need gloves even more than I do and I work in health care! At least I can wash my hands! I wonder if the pharmacies are out of gloves. I'll check and give that carrier some gloves if I can get some. Thanks for the suggestion!
Silver Gaia
(4,540 posts)before they became scarce just because I thought I would be using a lot more of them. I can't clean anything without them, or do much of any kind of work with my hands. With all this disinfecting I'm having to do, my fingers would be bloody and peeling by now without the gloves. My husband is immune compromised from chemo, so i am disinfecting EVERYTHING that enters this house.
I buy accelerant free (OK for nickel allergies) nitrile (OK for latex allergies) gloves on Amazon. The ones I usually buy can only be bought by healthcare professionals now. There are a few others available, but the delivery dates, even for Prime, are anywhere from a week to a month out.
My mail carrier said she is most scared when people have mail for her to pick up because she has no idea if they might be sick, and she has no way to wash her hands and no hand sanitizer either. That's bad for everyone because she then has to touch the mail she's delivering. I felt bad for her and can see how it's a threat to the community.
Good luck getting some gloves! I'm so sorry you dont have any gloves. You SHOULD have them, too! We should not be this low on these needed supplies. This is starting to feel like WWII rationing!
FiveGoodMen
(20,018 posts)HarlanPepper
(2,042 posts)lostnfound
(16,162 posts)But theres more kindness than there is hate. It needs to be honored and flown like a flag, held up as a standard to honor.
Trueblue Texan
(2,419 posts)...but extremely powerful that is going on inside the hearts of those health care workers. Because they work with human beings and not raw materials and merchandise, they experience something very human that other professionals may not get to experience.
When I tell people I work with the elderly, they so often say something like, "it takes a special person to work in that field..." They are also missing this very important subtlety about health care. It doesn't take a special person, it makes you a special person to care for another. When we start in the field, we're pretty much like everyone else: we go to work every day, we do our jobs as best we can, we take home our paychecks and along the way, when we find more is needed, we do it just like most people would. The difference is, we're doing it for our fellow human beings and the more we do for them, the more people whose needs we answer, the more that something inside grows.
With our efforts to address another's needs, our ability to care even more than we already do, grows even more. When I realized this about myself and understood that this subtle shift, this transformation of who I was and what my purpose in the job was, my understanding of the phrase, "taking care of" completely flipped. I'd always understood this term to mean the one who was "taking care of" someone was performing a bunch of functions the other was unable to perform for themselves. Once my understanding shifted, I realized "taking care" of someone really means you have expanded your ability to care about a person through the act of performing those needed functions for them. in this sense, "care" is like an object, or a personal commodity, like salt, money, tires--it is not an abstract thing--it is literally something you have taken for yourself. In other words, when you "take care" of that person, you have actually taken "care" for yourself, increasing within yourself, a greater ability to care that you didn't have before you engaged in addressing the needs of another. This is difficult to put into words, but I bet those in the health care field know what I'm trying to say. You can distance yourself from patients all you want; you can refuse to cross the boundary of professionalism that allows you to express affection for those patients, but once you have taken care of a patient, the ability to care for them is there in your heart, in your being, contributing to the new person you have become and whom you wouldn't have become without the opportunity to care for that patient.
That identity of taking care of others is a powerful motivator for those who are pressing forward in their care for the sick, even when they are exhausting themselves and putting themselves at increasing risk each day.
Silver Gaia
(4,540 posts)(I'm a teacher), but I'm a nurturer and a caretaker (of my disabled husband) and I totally get what you're saying. You made me think about Carol Gilligan's "care ethic." (I just bought your book, BTW.)
Trueblue Texan
(2,419 posts)Trueblue Texan
(2,419 posts)...teachers can identify with this concept of taking care
lostnfound
(16,162 posts)Its funny how so many things in relationships have a zen aspect. Like parenting. When I read that the child is the parent of the parent it opened my eyes. After all, I wasnt a mother until my son was born. His arrival gave birth to me as a mother.
Mc Mike
(9,111 posts)Love trumps Hate.