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boston bean

(36,221 posts)
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:14 PM Apr 2020

Ma (Little Star) passed away today at 5:08 pm eastern.

She loved DU.

She passed at my home that we shared for many years, with her four daughters comforting her.

Hardest thing I ever had to do, but the most necessary.

She was one hell of a strong woman. My best friend, my rock. The smartest, the most common sense, one hell of an intuition, full of life, strongest, loving women one would ever be privileged, to know.

She is no longer suffering, but I am going to miss her more than I could possibly express.

Rest In Peace Ma.

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Ma (Little Star) passed away today at 5:08 pm eastern. (Original Post) boston bean Apr 2020 OP
I'm So Very Sorry DarthDem Apr 2020 #1
I'm so sorry Ohiogal Apr 2020 #2
You have my sympathy KT2000 Apr 2020 #3
Holding you in the Light Ms. Toad Apr 2020 #4
My condolences. Rest in peace, Little Star. The Velveteen Ocelot Apr 2020 #5
Deepest sympathy boston bean malaise Apr 2020 #6
May you and your sisters be of comfort... 3catwoman3 Apr 2020 #7
Condolences. She will be missed. TreasonousBastard Apr 2020 #8
So sorry Brother. kimbutgar Apr 2020 #9
Heavens, I am so very sorry. I am glad you could all be there with her. hlthe2b Apr 2020 #10
I'm sorry, boston bean. Solly Mack Apr 2020 #11
Very sorry to hear this. ucrdem Apr 2020 #12
I am sorry, bb. Go in peace, Little Star uppityperson Apr 2020 #13
Thank you for this - Who wouldn't want to be loved like this. Shaddox Apr 2020 #14
I am so very sorry. dewsgirl Apr 2020 #15
I'm very sorry. ismnotwasm Apr 2020 #16
I love you, Boston bean. sheshe2 Apr 2020 #17
Oh, boston. I am so sorry. Squinch Apr 2020 #18
My condolences... 2naSalit Apr 2020 #19
My condolences bb ornotna Apr 2020 #20
Oh, I am so sorry to hear the sad news. Sending you much love dear boston bean. FM123 Apr 2020 #21
I'm so sorry, boston bean. femmedem Apr 2020 #22
So sorry for your loss. applegrove Apr 2020 #23
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Apr 2020 #24
I'm so very sorry, bean. Cha Apr 2020 #25
I'm very sorry. LuckyCharms Apr 2020 #26
I'm so sorry. underpants Apr 2020 #27
I'm sorry for your loss. Quackers Apr 2020 #28
My Condolences boston bean. denbot Apr 2020 #29
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔💔 live love laugh Apr 2020 #30
Condolences Me. Apr 2020 #31
I'm so sorry. Losing a parent hits hard. aikoaiko Apr 2020 #32
Yes you will. tavernier Apr 2020 #33
I'm so sorry. revmclaren Apr 2020 #34
I wish you peace. Zoonart Apr 2020 #35
💕💕💕 MLAA Apr 2020 #36
(((hugs))) samnsara Apr 2020 #37
I'm so sorry. dflprincess Apr 2020 #38
I am so sorry for your loss. crickets Apr 2020 #39
So sorry boston bean...it is a sad time. Demsrule86 Apr 2020 #40
I add my condolences to those of your many friends here jmbar2 Apr 2020 #41
Condolences. A lovely person gone. May she rest in peace. oasis Apr 2020 #42
Shine bright, Little Star! babylonsister Apr 2020 #43
I'm sorry, boston bean milestogo Apr 2020 #44
I'm very sorry for your loss. pdxflyboy Apr 2020 #45
My condolences. May she rest in peace. cayugafalls Apr 2020 #46
I'm so terribly sorry for your family's loss, boston bean. May good memories bring comfort... Hekate Apr 2020 #47
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Apr 2020 #48
I am so so sorry. 💕 emmaverybo Apr 2020 #49
Sorry for your loss Boston Bean... Pachamama Apr 2020 #50
I am SO sorry for your family! CousinIT Apr 2020 #51
Condolences on the loss of your beloved mother. gademocrat7 Apr 2020 #52
Sorry to hear of your loss. kentuck Apr 2020 #53
So sad. You have my sympathy. JohnnyLib2 Apr 2020 #54
I'm so sorry for your loss Docreed2003 Apr 2020 #55
I am so sorry for your loss. StevieM Apr 2020 #56
So sorry for your loss Boston still_one Apr 2020 #57
Very sorry for your loss.nt helpisontheway Apr 2020 #58
... mokawanis Apr 2020 #59
I am so sorry boston bean mercuryblues Apr 2020 #60
Big hug Boston Bean. mahina Apr 2020 #61
I'm so sorry for your loss Danmel Apr 2020 #62
Sorry for your loss musicman65 Apr 2020 #63
My condolences Crabby Appleton Apr 2020 #64
Thanks so much for including us at this time. Deepest sympathy... Karadeniz Apr 2020 #65
Boston bean, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I am glad you could be together as she passed. nt tblue37 Apr 2020 #66
My deepest condolences to you MaryMagdaline Apr 2020 #67
I'm so glad she had a good journey, boston bean mcar Apr 2020 #68
so very sorry demtenjeep Apr 2020 #69
My condolences. George II Apr 2020 #70
I'm so sorry to hear this, boston bean. Control-Z Apr 2020 #71
My dad died suddenly a year ago BigmanPigman Apr 2020 #72
So sorry to hear this. Thank you for letting us know. FailureToCommunicate Apr 2020 #73
My deepest condolences, boston bean. herding cats Apr 2020 #74
Very sorry boston bean. IADEMO2004 Apr 2020 #75
I am so so sorry irisblue Apr 2020 #76
Peace. Love. Light. CountMyVote4Reality Apr 2020 #77
I so sorry for your loss. NoRoadUntravelled Apr 2020 #78
I'm so sorry for your loss boston bean. barbtries Apr 2020 #79
So sorry for your loss. May she Rest in Peace. iluvtennis Apr 2020 #80
You have my deepest condolences OhioChick Apr 2020 #81
I'm so sorry for your loss, Boston Bean. smirkymonkey Apr 2020 #82
I'm so sorry, Bean! TheBlackAdder Apr 2020 #83
So sorry Boston Bean berni_mccoy Apr 2020 #84
I am SO very sorry, boston bean. Silver Gaia Apr 2020 #85
I'm so very sorry for mzmolly Apr 2020 #86
May her love bring you peace in the days ahead blogslut Apr 2020 #87
So sorry for your loss. Paz! RestoreAmerica2020 Apr 2020 #88
So sorry to hear this peggysue2 Apr 2020 #89
I am sorry, boston bean Kali Apr 2020 #90
My deepest condolences. dalton99a Apr 2020 #91
Sincere sympathy to you and your family. pazzyanne Apr 2020 #92
I'm so sorry to hear it. My condolences. (nt) scarletwoman Apr 2020 #93
My deepest condolences LostOne4Ever Apr 2020 #94
(((((((((((Boston bean)))))))))))) niyad Apr 2020 #95
I am very sorry. murielm99 Apr 2020 #96
Rest easy Ma backtoblue Apr 2020 #97
So very sorry, boston about your Ma, peacebuzzard Apr 2020 #98
Deepest condolences. joost5 Apr 2020 #99
Holding you and your family in the Light. Her life was a marvelous gift. TygrBright Apr 2020 #100
She'll be well looked after in your hearts. n/t Harker Apr 2020 #101
I am so sorry for your loss. May Ma Rest in Peace. Maraya1969 Apr 2020 #102
So sorry... hugz!! InAbLuEsTaTe Apr 2020 #103
Very sorry. Midnight Writer Apr 2020 #104
I am so sorry. LisaM Apr 2020 #105
I'm sorry boston bean. Greybnk48 Apr 2020 #106
May her memory be a blessing. EllieBC Apr 2020 #107
I'm so sorry. Here's to Little Star and all who love her. nolabear Apr 2020 #108
Sorry for your loss Bettie Apr 2020 #109
I'm so very sorry for your loss BB. StarryNite Apr 2020 #110
I can't assuage your grief; nor should I. I can only share this time and place with you. Peace NBachers Apr 2020 #111
Comforting hugs, boston bean radical noodle Apr 2020 #112
Your grief is felt deeply here. Duppers Apr 2020 #113
Cross gently, Little Star. Coventina Apr 2020 #114
I'm very sorry for your loss... Trueblue Texan Apr 2020 #115
My condolences Withywindle Apr 2020 #116
I am so very sorry. William769 Apr 2020 #117
she's no longer in pain, we will carry her foward Demonaut Apr 2020 #118
So very sorry.. A DU'er since 2005. She will be missed. Fla Dem Apr 2020 #119
I am so sorry for your loss Gothmog Apr 2020 #120
I'm so sorry for your loss. truly. eom LittleGirl Apr 2020 #121
my heart goes out to you orleans Apr 2020 #122
So sorry for your loss Meowmee Apr 2020 #123
So very sorry for your loss. n/t 7wo7rees Apr 2020 #124
... jdadd Apr 2020 #125
MY sympathies as well DFW Apr 2020 #126
I'm so sorry to hear this sad news 💔 Raine Apr 2020 #127
RIP Little Star Demovictory9 Apr 2020 #128
Oh, Boston Bean, Granny M Apr 2020 #129
Condolences to you and her daughters. GoneOffShore Apr 2020 #130
Deepest Condolences to You & Your Family SheltieLover Apr 2020 #131
May she rest in peace! BlueMTexpat Apr 2020 #132
So sorry to hear about this. Stay strong, boston bean. littlemissmartypants Apr 2020 #133
So sorry Boston Bean. n/t seaglass Apr 2020 #134
My deepest condolences, Boston Bean. tishaLA Apr 2020 #135
I'm so sorry for your loss. Nt raccoon Apr 2020 #136
... N_E_1 for Tennis Apr 2020 #137
She was a very fortunate woman, and so are her daughters. Hortensis Apr 2020 #138
She was a very fortunate woman, and so are her daughters. Hortensis Apr 2020 #139
Condolences, boston bean. n/t sarge43 Apr 2020 #140
Love & Light EarthFirst Apr 2020 #141
It's such a hard thing to lose a wonderful mother klook Apr 2020 #142
This message was self-deleted by its author klook Apr 2020 #143
My heart goes out to you and your family. octoberlib Apr 2020 #144
Peace be with you and your sisters in your mourning, Boston Bean. KY_EnviroGuy Apr 2020 #145
I'm so sorry. BooScout Apr 2020 #146
She's forever in your heart, boston bean...... Heartstrings Apr 2020 #147
I'm so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner Apr 2020 #148
My deepest condolences, bb R B Garr Apr 2020 #149
I'm so sorry to read that. MineralMan Apr 2020 #150
((LittleStar)) blm Apr 2020 #151
I am so very sorry for your loss. npk Apr 2020 #152
May she rest in glory and please stay strong and healthy, boston bean. Anon-C Apr 2020 #153
I read your post the other day..and stillcool Apr 2020 #154
I'm so sorry for your loss! bluestarone Apr 2020 #155
My sincere condolences. sinkingfeeling Apr 2020 #156
Condolences Leith Apr 2020 #157
i am so sorry for the loss of your mom dawn5651 Apr 2020 #158
So deeply sorry for your loss. volstork Apr 2020 #159
... spanone Apr 2020 #160
Tried to post this a while ago--Little Star by the Elegants. raccoon Apr 2020 #161
So sorry.. Stuart G Apr 2020 #162
My Condolences Andy823 Apr 2020 #163
Deepest sympathy to you and your family lillypaddle Apr 2020 #164
My heart is heavy for you bean. 😪 BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2020 #165
I'm so sorry, bb. brer cat Apr 2020 #166
I'm so very sorry. 😢💔 GentryDixon Apr 2020 #167
So sorry TuxedoKat Apr 2020 #168
Condolences to you and your family. edbermac Apr 2020 #169
I'm so sorry to hear this... NurseJackie Apr 2020 #170
My deepest condolences for you loss nt Soph0571 Apr 2020 #171
So very sorry, boston bean. SalmonChantedEvening Apr 2020 #172
I'm so sorry lapucelle Apr 2020 #173
i'm so sorry for your loss. wendyb-NC Apr 2020 #174
Loss of a loved one is the hardest thing we do. warmfeet Apr 2020 #175
Rest in peace DonaldsRump Apr 2020 #176
Deepest sympathies boston bean Peacetrain Apr 2020 #177
I'm so sorry! Phentex Apr 2020 #178
I am so sorry to hear that Marrah_Goodman Apr 2020 #179
Our Condolences ProfessorGAC Apr 2020 #180
Travel well, Little Star; and all love and peace to you, boston bean. VOX Apr 2020 #181
Thank you for all you did for her. Throckmorton Apr 2020 #182
I'm sorry to hear this. Renew Deal Apr 2020 #183
Lost one of the DU family.. Permanut Apr 2020 #184
I am so very sorry for your loss. yardwork Apr 2020 #185
I wish you peace Stinky The Clown Apr 2020 #186
Awwwww, boston bean. So sorry to hear this. calimary Apr 2020 #187

hlthe2b

(102,234 posts)
10. Heavens, I am so very sorry. I am glad you could all be there with her.
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:20 PM
Apr 2020

I know what that "hole in the heart" feels like, but I'm forever amazed now that I can see so much of my late Mom in myself and in my sister. She is definitely still with us in that respect. And I can much more readily remember a funny or happy story now after time has passed, rather than the pain of loss. May that happen for you and your sisters too and may your mother RIP.


sheshe2

(83,748 posts)
17. I love you, Boston bean.
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:23 PM
Apr 2020

I am so glad you and your sisters were there in the end to hold her hand and give her all the love in your hearts.

I know you are hurting. I want to say I loved Little Star, she made DU a better place'

Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,

Like a diamond in the sky.Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
When the blazing sun is gone,

When he nothing shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, all the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,


Love and hugs to you and yours.

She will still be shining brightly above the world so high.

Sweet dreams, Little Star.

2naSalit

(86,577 posts)
19. My condolences...
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:23 PM
Apr 2020

I am glad you were able to be together for that. Many will not be able to with the virus. Virus or not, my mom will be going soon and I hope it's after the isolating s over but I'm thinking it will be sooner. Called her today to try and chat, she was lucid today so I made sure to tell her I love her, I never know if it's the last time we will ever speak.

Do take care of yourself.

femmedem

(8,201 posts)
22. I'm so sorry, boston bean.
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:25 PM
Apr 2020

What a beautiful description of her. May she rest in peace, and may your grief ease in time, knowing you did all you could for her and that she knew she was loved.

jmbar2

(4,874 posts)
41. I add my condolences to those of your many friends here
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:34 PM
Apr 2020

Your posts about her here on DU showed how much she was loved and honored. I wish you peace as you learn to live with this big hole in your heart.

pdxflyboy

(675 posts)
45. I'm very sorry for your loss.
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:38 PM
Apr 2020

I lost my Mom on 4/9/88 at 7:25 am. My consoling hugs go out to you. You you will never forget that date and time. Peace to you.(

Pachamama

(16,887 posts)
50. Sorry for your loss Boston Bean...
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:43 PM
Apr 2020


I have been following your updates this last week and I am so sorry to hear she has passed...

I remember your mom on DU since way back...

Big hug to you

Docreed2003

(16,858 posts)
55. I'm so sorry for your loss
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 10:44 PM
Apr 2020

My deepest condolences during the awful time. My thoughts are with you and yours!

BigmanPigman

(51,586 posts)
72. My dad died suddenly a year ago
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 11:00 PM
Apr 2020

and I am still in shock and dealing with it. He used to say to me when I was little, "Where are you, little star...here I am". I hope you deal with your loss better than me.



TheBlackAdder

(28,188 posts)
83. I'm so sorry, Bean!
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 11:21 PM
Apr 2020

.

It's nice to hear that all of your sisters were with her and you in her final moments.

Take solace in being there with your mother and helping her though her final years, as it sounds as though she had medical problems.
Caring for one's parents is a very draining task that often goes unmentioned, more so than raising children, but it really is a spectacular accomplishment and one that you will look back upon with great pride. It also speaks worlds of your selfishness and devotion to family.

I wish I could say that the pain goes away, but over time it more like buries itself, waiting to surface again and again.

.

Silver Gaia

(4,544 posts)
85. I am SO very sorry, boston bean.
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 11:21 PM
Apr 2020

Your mother is and has been missed here.

May peace be with you and your loved ones.

LostOne4Ever

(9,288 posts)
94. My deepest condolences
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 12:15 AM
Apr 2020

My mother passed away just a little under 3 months ago and I’m still feeling numb. But the world keeps on moving and all loving mothers would want their children to keep on living as best as we can.

May you find all the solace you need from your friends and/or family in this trying time.

niyad

(113,278 posts)
95. (((((((((((Boston bean))))))))))))
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 12:18 AM
Apr 2020

I know that words are not adequate now, but know that your DU family is here for yup.

Rest gently, Little Star.

peacebuzzard

(5,170 posts)
98. So very sorry, boston about your Ma,
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 12:31 AM
Apr 2020

Little Star so bright, on the wings of angels.
I am so sorry for your sad loss.

TygrBright

(20,759 posts)
100. Holding you and your family in the Light. Her life was a marvelous gift.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 12:42 AM
Apr 2020

And that gift will endure.

May the pain of loss bear you to the transcendence of loving memory.

respectfully,
Bright

Greybnk48

(10,167 posts)
106. I'm sorry boston bean.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 01:08 AM
Apr 2020

You've been a good daughter and a good friend to your mom. My deepest sympathies for your loss.

NBachers

(17,108 posts)
111. I can't assuage your grief; nor should I. I can only share this time and place with you. Peace
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 01:15 AM
Apr 2020

Bless you all for helping Little Star cross

Duppers

(28,120 posts)
113. Your grief is felt deeply here.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 01:19 AM
Apr 2020

"The deeper the love, the deeper the grief."

Your mom, Little Star, deserves her martyr status.



Trueblue Texan

(2,429 posts)
115. I'm very sorry for your loss...
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 01:33 AM
Apr 2020

...and sending you loving thoughts that your appreciative memories of such an amazing woman will hold you up and help you in your pain and sadness.

Fla Dem

(23,655 posts)
119. So very sorry.. A DU'er since 2005. She will be missed.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 02:10 AM
Apr 2020

Peace to you and all your family, Remember the good times.

orleans

(34,051 posts)
122. my heart goes out to you
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 02:46 AM
Apr 2020

"Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!"

("This poem is often read at funerals. The author, Henry Scott-Holland (1847 - 1918), a priest at St. Paul's Cathedral of London, did not intend it as a poem, it was actually delivered as part of a sermon in 1910. The sermon, titled, "Death the King of Terrors" was preached while the body of King Edward VII was lying in state at Westminster."

and this:

"Your Mother is always with you.
She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street.
She's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and
perfume that she wore.
She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well.
She's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day.
She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a
rainbow.
She is Christmas morning.
Your Mother lives inside your laughter.
She's crystallized in every teardrop.
A mother shows every emotion .......... happiness, sadness, fear,
jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy,
sorrow... and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the good
feelings in life. She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's
the map you follow with every step you take.
She's your first love; your first friend, even your first enemy, but
nothing on earth can separate you. Not time, not space...not
even death!"
-author unknown

Raine

(30,540 posts)
127. I'm so sorry to hear this sad news 💔
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 03:33 AM
Apr 2020

Sounds like she was a very special person, you're lucky to have had her for your mother. 💞

BlueMTexpat

(15,368 posts)
132. May she rest in peace!
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 04:18 AM
Apr 2020

All my condolences!

She was very fortunate to have such loving children and to have spent her last hours with them.

littlemissmartypants

(22,634 posts)
133. So sorry to hear about this. Stay strong, boston bean.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 04:41 AM
Apr 2020

I hope you find comfort in the memories she left behind. ❤



klook

(12,154 posts)
142. It's such a hard thing to lose a wonderful mother
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 06:45 AM
Apr 2020

I lost mine last year. But you'll never lose her love.

So sorry for your loss.

Response to boston bean (Original post)

KY_EnviroGuy

(14,490 posts)
145. Peace be with you and your sisters in your mourning, Boston Bean.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 06:51 AM
Apr 2020

Moms are with us forever in our hearts each day.

Mine is still, after all these years and at 72 now I walk with her often for solitude and repose.


RIP, Little Star.......

stillcool

(32,626 posts)
154. I read your post the other day..and
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 02:28 PM
Apr 2020

don't know of many women that have had the kind of relationship with their mother, that you obviously have. I'm sorry for your loss, but I thank you for expressing what love is.

Leith

(7,809 posts)
157. Condolences
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 02:54 PM
Apr 2020

It's rough. Very rough. Some day, once you get through the worst of it, you will be able to think of her and smile. I haven't reached that stage yet.



VOX

(22,976 posts)
181. Travel well, Little Star; and all love and peace to you, boston bean.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 08:27 PM
Apr 2020

I know how difficult this time is for you. Know that you are connected and much loved here.

Go safely, and be well—

Throckmorton

(3,579 posts)
182. Thank you for all you did for her.
Sun Apr 12, 2020, 08:29 PM
Apr 2020

A passing is hard, and in these times it is extra trying. I am sorry for your pain, may it soon pass.

Love, Throckmorton

calimary

(81,220 posts)
187. Awwwww, boston bean. So sorry to hear this.
Mon Apr 13, 2020, 03:07 AM
Apr 2020

Such a sorrowful time. And then this on top of everything else.

I’m so sorry. Let DU keep a vigil with you. For her.

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