Little Star, our goodbye
On Wednesday, we had a private viewing for immediate family, which lasted for an hour. Ma looked beautiful. There was so little make up. Truly I have never seen anyone look so naturally good. I am not just saying this because I am biased over my mom. But, I cannot tell you how good it made me feel and how much it helped to ease the images in my mind of her while watching her take her last breaths.
Yesterday we laid her rest. We said our last good byes at the funeral parlor. Very sad. Then had a procession to the gravesite.
With COVID, there could be none of the normal comforting. It did upset me my mom could not have the send off she so rightfully deserved.
However, we did the best we could and there are rays of comfort.
On both days there was live-streaming. At the private wake we played the 50’s oldies and all who were important to her we able to see and participate and also say their goodbyes. At the gravesite There was a beautiful canopy and seats where me and my three sisters were able to rest our weary bones. The Reverend, whom I had spoken to of my mother, said a wonderful tribute.
My hope was that many would be able to join the procession from the funeral home to the gravesite. And my hopes were answered. We had a procession of over thirty cars.
When I looked out over and around the cemetery people were social distancing paying their respects and honoring my mother. It was a beautiful sight. A person on this hill another over there and over there......
We did our best for mom in these times.
I thought you might like to know what it might be like when a death occurs during the Covid.
Also, want to thank you all for you wonderful comments on the other thread and special thanks to the admins for adding Little Star to the DU memorial page. It all meant the world to me and my mom as well, of that I am sure.
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will be an example for all too many of us to emulate in the months to come.
I'm glad you have that final memory of a deserving send-off and all the very good ones that came before. May peace find you and sustain you. 
to you and your sisters boston bean
I'm glad her friends were able to drive out for her quiet tribute.
-Laelth
"We did our best for mom in these times."
It is quite apparent from what you have shared with us, that you did your best for your mom at all times.
Hugs to you and your family. 
It's very hard to say goodbye to our mothers, but Covid robbed you of much comfort. I'm glad that so many friends were in the procession and grave site service.
You are with people who loved Little Star and love you, boston.
You did good Boston Bean... she has been honored world wide right here on DU..
Peace, comfort, and love to you
And what a beautiful tribute to your mom - 30 cars in these times.
And your altruistic effort to help others understand are quite a testament to your character. Thank you for sharing!
Wishing you peace and comfort throughout your grieving process.
May you always have warm loving memories in your heart.
Too many people must be going through similar feelings during this pandemic. It is hard to imagine grief without hugs.
It sounds like you did a good job for a proper funeral in spite of the circumstances.
Your mom and your entire family had to go through so much more. I am grateful that you were able to give her a very dignified and respectful and loving goodbye.
Please know we are keeping you and your mom in our thoughts. Be gentle to yourself as you go through this time.
Love and hugs to you and your sisters.
Peace to you, Little Star.
to you
R-I-P Little Star
you described it so eloquently.
Peace and love to you and yours.
I will think of your lovely mom and her strong and courageous daughter.
she will be missed.
no words can express the loss of a mom,
I am so sorry,
What a beautiful tribute. I don't know how you managed it all but sounds like you got everything right. She's smiling somewhere.
It's so hard to believe she's gone, from you, from us. May she rest in peace.