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rustysgurl

(1,040 posts)
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 06:49 PM Apr 2020

Today's Been A Rough Day

First of all, I think I have it. Coughing, fever, extreme body aches and my sense of smell has gone haywire. I am asthmatic, but have a nebulizer which I am using regularly (whether I think I need to or not) just to keep my lungs clear. One day I'll feel better then the next I'm down again. But I think I'll be ok. I refuse to think otherwise.

Being sick has screwed with my sleep, so I end up awake most nights, surfing the interwebs and reading (to my psychological detriment) all the hate and vileness being spewed. Reading what the nurses who stood in the way of protesters endured really got to me (abortionists? fake nurses?). Our area just lost a nurse about to celebrate her 40th year in nursing to COVID-19. She was much loved, and the health care community is taking it hard.

Reading the comments on our local news FB page about Elizabeth Warren's brother made me so angry I wanted to hit someone. "He lived long enough," "I won't believe anything Pocahontas says unless I see his dead body," ... and it goes on and on. I just didn't have enough energy to respond to these hateful, hateful people, and it probably wouldn't have done any good if I had.

I have been speaking to several family members who were big Bernie supporters, and cannot get them to wrap their minds around voting for Biden because, if they don't, Trump wins. While they understand that, they are still railing against a two-party system they deplore which, they feel, doesn't address what's important to them. I don't know if I got through, and that makes me sad.

My husband and I are sniping at each other today (mostly because his boss sniped at him and he's passing it on, and me because I feel like crap). We know it's wrong, and we'll be ok ... but like I said, it's not been a good day.

I feel like I am surrounded by grief, hate, stubbornness and antipathy. The only joy I have lately is walking in the backyard and looking at my flowers pushing their leaves out of the soil. They don't care what's going on in the world, they just want the sunlight and warmth to nurture them and help them grow. I wish I could feel that way.

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Today's Been A Rough Day (Original Post) rustysgurl Apr 2020 OP
I hope you feel better. I know it is hard to stop surfing the web and reading, cayugafalls Apr 2020 #1
can you get tested? Blues Heron Apr 2020 #2
I hope you don't have it. cate94 Apr 2020 #3
I'm sorry you have had such a trying day rustysgurl leftieNanner Apr 2020 #4
Try proning about 15 minutes every four hours or so. Some Sniping is ok but don't go to bed angry Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #5
Take care and enjoy the flowers as they grow Maeve Apr 2020 #6
Best of luck to you Chainfire Apr 2020 #7
you really need some tlc, peacebuzzard Apr 2020 #8
((hugs)) Delphinus Apr 2020 #9
Asthma and possible COVID? Call your doctor! Hortensis Apr 2020 #10
Thanks everyone ... doctor is aware. rustysgurl Apr 2020 #11
Oh, good to hear. Even before this hospitals were Hortensis Apr 2020 #12

cayugafalls

(5,639 posts)
1. I hope you feel better. I know it is hard to stop surfing the web and reading,
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 06:57 PM
Apr 2020

all this stuff, but you must try and avoid the negativity while you are not feeling well. You need some positive light in your life right now. Do something that makes you feel good. Watch silly cat videos or old tv sitcoms or whatever makes you laugh or smile, it is real important to smile and think good thoughts.

I will be thinking good thoughts and sending them your way.

Love and good thoughts are healing energy...

cayugafalls

cate94

(2,810 posts)
3. I hope you don't have it.
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:00 PM
Apr 2020

And, I hope that you stop reading the comments. Seriously, when you are on a news site, don’t read the comments. There are a lot of angry, hateful people out there you don’t need to expose yourself to that.

I’m sorry you are feeling down. I hope things start getting better.

leftieNanner

(15,076 posts)
4. I'm sorry you have had such a trying day rustysgurl
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:01 PM
Apr 2020

But I agree with you that being outside and seeing the renewal of nature has been a tonic for me. The wisteria and lilac are in bloom. The azaleas and rhodies are not far behind. The bees are swarming our wisteria trellis (in a good way) and today we had a warm day. I do hope you recover your health. And go look for some of catbyte's animal videos here on DU. They are rejuvenating too!

Bernardo de La Paz

(48,988 posts)
5. Try proning about 15 minutes every four hours or so. Some Sniping is ok but don't go to bed angry
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:04 PM
Apr 2020

Proning is lying flat on your stomach. It has had some good reports in hospitals for keeping lungs clear, seems to have no side effects, and is easy to do. But listen to your body and don't overdo anything if your body protests or gives you mixed signals.

Gardening is great for the soul.

Tell your husband you love him, when you can and when he is able to really hear you.

It is good you reached out here.

Where some kinds of reading are not helpful, severely limit it. Hard, but doable. Don't fight it, but recognize when emotions start to rise and let it go by closing the tablet or the browser.

Replace anger with cold loathing. It's part of letting go. Do what you can, let go what you can't control and think about things just enough to sort the two out, but not much more. When anger or other negative emotions come in, recognize them fast, but do not fight them. Open a metaphorical window in your mind (visualize it) and let the breeze waft it out. It becomes easier with practice.

When you get past this you will be stronger. Envision the calmer stronger you, now, and become that person.

Maeve

(42,279 posts)
6. Take care and enjoy the flowers as they grow
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:09 PM
Apr 2020

Get off the internet, unless you're watching funny movies or shows. Laugh and get silly. Lie on your side or stomach, not your back, if you are having trouble feeling like you're getting a full breath.
Stay as far away from negative crap as you can--you don't need it and it won't help. Make your favorite comfort food and over-eat.

Chainfire

(17,519 posts)
7. Best of luck to you
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:15 PM
Apr 2020

Sometimes life piles on. We will keep taking the haters on for you for a while. Try to get some sleep and you will feel a lot better tomorrow. Keep us posted. I'm rooting for you! Go Team!

peacebuzzard

(5,158 posts)
8. you really need some tlc,
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 07:22 PM
Apr 2020

I had a few days like that last month. I took multiple hot salt baths, about 4 a day. I would dump pure table salt in the hot, hot (as hot as you can stand it) bathwater and baking soda and at times a bit of Epson Salt. Epson salt can give you the runs if you put too much in, but pure table salt and baking soda are excellent. Salt and soda in hot water extract and neutralize acid from the body. It also relaxes and promotes good sleep.
Testing was nowhere to be found last month and my doc had me stay in for 14 days, monitor symptoms, like checking temperature, staying hydrated, eating well, resting, checking temperature again. I had chills and only one day I had a spike in temperature. But now there are multiple test places for the virus. I was negative a week ago. It's a good idea, I think, to get the test.

Stay well, Rustysgurl.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
10. Asthma and possible COVID? Call your doctor!
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 08:08 PM
Apr 2020

For the rest, agree. Outside is a wonderful place to be, and glad you get comfort there.

As for your Sanders relatives, probably some wired-in dissidence there, in addition to reinforcing it in each other. Some simply cannot accept need for cooperation and compromise. No matter what the dominant mainstream liberal alliance does, in any nation, LW dissenters always believe so much more could have been achieved and ascribe "failure" to weakness and corruption.

Poor things. It's worse for them by far, you know. They care deeply, never see themselves as potentially endangering everything they claim to want, and always set themselves up to be stopped by majorities. A horrible fate. Maybe spare them another appeal?

And call the doctor without fail!

rustysgurl

(1,040 posts)
11. Thanks everyone ... doctor is aware.
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 08:26 PM
Apr 2020

The last place she wants me is in the hospital. I am treating at home, and have everything I need medication-wise. The only way I would go to the hospital is if my pulse ox drops and I need to be on oxygen. So far that hasn't happened.

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