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live love laugh

(13,100 posts)
Wed May 27, 2020, 08:51 PM May 2020

My friend's son is still hospitalized seven weeks now

I’m sharing this because I want others to know of the devastation it can wreak as a warning.

He’s recently tested negative for Covid though still on a vent. They tested him twice and then even tested the mucus he continues to emit a third time and all tests were negative. At this point it seems he’s suffering from the after effect of acute respiratory syndrome. (When he was first hospitalized he tested negative twice with textbook symptoms and only tested positive a third time when on the vent.)

He was briefly taken off the vent several days but couldn't breathe on his own, became extremely agitated and they re-intubated him. He got air pockets in his chest cavity from the initial intubation. They want to do a tracheotomy with him still on the vent but his mother is resisting that.

He was initially given Trump’s drug and subsequently sustained kidney damage. He was then put on dialysis while on the vent. He was given plasma which seems to have helped stop the raging infection as he had a fever for almost a month. He’s 38 and never had kidney problems. Remdesivir became available as well but with the plasma and the dialysis and Remdesivir’s possible liver damage as a side effect it was not administered--especially because he’s way past the window where it’s supposed to do the most good which is shortening the severity and duration of the illness.

The doctor told his mom one lung appears almost completely black. He’s got multiple blood clots. They do periodic video chats and he’s managed to blink or shed a tear at the sound of familiar voices.

The most important thing is that he’s still alive. Life, with God’s grace, won’t ever be the same for him. But we pray and hang on to hope every time we see a story about somebody else who also was hospitalized for a prolonged period and survived.

This thing can be monstrous.

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My friend's son is still hospitalized seven weeks now (Original Post) live love laugh May 2020 OP
I feel so sad for your friend and her son. Ilsa May 2020 #1
Thank you. Every positive thought is appreciated. nt live love laugh May 2020 #2
Hugs to you and everyone lunatica May 2020 #3
Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #5
I hope he gets well soon mercuryblues May 2020 #4
Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #6
Healing vibes to him SheltieLover May 2020 #7
Thank you it really means everything. I'll pass your message on. nt live love laugh May 2020 #10
You are most welcome! SheltieLover May 2020 #13
I'm so sorry. 🙏🏽Nt helpisontheway May 2020 #8
Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #11
This is so terrible Shanti Mama May 2020 #9
It's so dangerous and scary that we don't know how it might affect us or a loved one. nt live love laugh May 2020 #12
Yes. My uncle died quite unexpectedly from covid last Sunday Shanti Mama May 2020 #29
Thank you for sharing this. It's important. We're with you. ancianita May 2020 #14
Thank you. nt live love laugh May 2020 #15
I'm so sorry for him and those who love him dawg day May 2020 #16
Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #17
So sad. Too young to Scarsdale May 2020 #18
Yes this is ugly and gruesome but hopefully the seriousness is communicated. live love laugh May 2020 #23
Thank you for sharing. cayugafalls May 2020 #19
Yes thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #24
For inspiration a friend was on a respirator for over 5 weeks and recently left the hospital Books_Tea_Alone May 2020 #20
Thanks for the inspiration ... live love laugh May 2020 #25
To his mom - soldierant May 2020 #21
I will definitely pass this on live love laugh May 2020 #26
It definitely is not something anyone does for fun, or for practice. soldierant May 2020 #28
💔💔💔😢😢😢😢 onecaliberal May 2020 #22
Heart-wrenching. nt Laffy Kat May 2020 #27
details please---where? how old? Always Randy May 2020 #30
38 y/o father of two sons, veteran and college grad. Illinois. Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #36
So sorry Chicagogrl1 May 2020 #31
Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #34
Fight kid fight malaise May 2020 #32
Yes malaise! Thank you 😊 nt live love laugh May 2020 #37
As you say, he's still alive. We're seeing more discussion of Hortensis May 2020 #33
Thanks. nt live love laugh May 2020 #35
💕💕💕💕 to this young man and all who care for him MLAA May 2020 #38
Thanks. 🙏🏽 All well wishes have been conveyed. nt live love laugh May 2020 #39
How horrible!! Beacool May 2020 #40
this is utterly heartbreaking G_j May 2020 #41

Ilsa

(61,694 posts)
1. I feel so sad for your friend and her son.
Wed May 27, 2020, 08:56 PM
May 2020

Tell her others are thinking about those stricken and their families, offering up prayers and good wishes and peace.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
3. Hugs to you and everyone
Wed May 27, 2020, 08:58 PM
May 2020

I hope he survives and gets better very soon. This is such a hard time for all of you. I’m so sorry that everyone is going through this.

Shanti Mama

(1,288 posts)
9. This is so terrible
Wed May 27, 2020, 09:08 PM
May 2020

Why can't people get it that this virus is terrible, awful, deadly, contagious, not to be messed with?

Shanti Mama

(1,288 posts)
29. Yes. My uncle died quite unexpectedly from covid last Sunday
Thu May 28, 2020, 11:34 AM
May 2020

Yet so many are relaxing a bit. I guess they want/need to to feel secure.
I think we need to accept, even embrace our new normality.
My thoughts are with you and your son and his friend. I will hold the friend in my heart.

ancianita

(36,023 posts)
14. Thank you for sharing this. It's important. We're with you.
Wed May 27, 2020, 09:27 PM
May 2020

Please let your friend and son know how many here hope and pray with them for a life ahead.

Scarsdale

(9,426 posts)
18. So sad. Too young to
Wed May 27, 2020, 10:15 PM
May 2020

have to face so many ailments. Anyone who feels that wearing a mask is dumb should read this. The effects of this virus are not all revealed yet. Please tell your friend we are all pulling for her and her son to both come through this ordeal soon.

Books_Tea_Alone

(253 posts)
20. For inspiration a friend was on a respirator for over 5 weeks and recently left the hospital
Wed May 27, 2020, 10:43 PM
May 2020

She has a long road ahead in a rehab facility but was able to come off the vent and will survive. Thinking of your friend's son and wishing him well.

live love laugh

(13,100 posts)
25. Thanks for the inspiration ...
Wed May 27, 2020, 11:17 PM
May 2020

I'm constantly watching the counts and give thanks he’s not included in the casualties.

soldierant

(6,847 posts)
21. To his mom -
Wed May 27, 2020, 10:47 PM
May 2020

My husband would have been dead for over 50 years had he not received an emergency tracheotomy in the ambulance taking him from the scene of the accident (they thought he was dead but heard him make a sound.) He was sensitive about the scar when we met, but it's no longer visible. I would expect a tracheotomy done in a hospital to leave even less of a scar, but ask the experts. But please - give it consideration.

live love laugh

(13,100 posts)
26. I will definitely pass this on
Wed May 27, 2020, 11:20 PM
May 2020

I’ve been trying to tell her a trach should only be temporary and that if he has less discomfort it’s worth it. Thanks

soldierant

(6,847 posts)
28. It definitely is not something anyone does for fun, or for practice.
Wed May 27, 2020, 11:52 PM
May 2020

If they think it's a good idea, there's a reason. Thanks. Hope the information helps. If she has any questions, feel free to DUmail me. I'm not medical, though, just a spouse

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
33. As you say, he's still alive. We're seeing more discussion of
Thu May 28, 2020, 03:50 PM
May 2020

people whose lives will never be the same, and the more we do the better. Thanks for posting his experience, Live.

Beacool

(30,247 posts)
40. How horrible!!
Thu May 28, 2020, 09:36 PM
May 2020

I'm so sorry your friend and her son are going through this ordeal. My thoughts, prayers and good vibes are going their way.

I hope that he recovers.

G_j

(40,366 posts)
41. this is utterly heartbreaking
Thu May 28, 2020, 09:50 PM
May 2020

all I can do is try to express to others how very real and terrible the danger is.
..sending every positive thought I can, with love.

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