to actually remain away from the greater society and children and to receive help for their affliction. And I'm not so certain people are born as pedophiles. Many pedophiles were themselves abused by adults when they were children. A pattern and cycle of abuse. Children who see their father's abuse their mother's will grow up to then abuse their own wives.
Children learn from the adults around them... The adults influence the life of their child and the life their children will lead as adults. If they are fed fatty, unhealthy diets, they often continue the fatty, unhealthy diet as adults. If they are taught that gays are unnatural or that black people are inferior or even dog fighting is ok, then those imprints often remain with the child into their adult life... even if they don't want it to... even if they recognize it as bad. There are many things that I do that I recognize my parents doing or saying... expressions, the way I make my spaghetti sauce, the way I view education, the way I tend to procrastinate till the last minute when there is no reason not to, the way I tend to keep to many things that I don't need and let things "pile" up until I have no idea what I was keeping those "important" papers in a pile for... We are influenced by who is in our lives when we are learning. Its our parents and relatives who we look to to teach us, nourish us, and protect us. If these areas are violated, it can be confusing and leave a lasting impression forever.
There are also other things that will cause us to re-act or act in different manners as we are adults as well. If one has been mugged or raped, then one probably is more precautions against being in dark, un-known areas by one's self. If someone has been harassed, one may put up more barriers. If someone has divorced or gone through a tough break up, one may be more cautious about who they allow into their lives again.
And then there is the genetic make-up of people. Some people are going to be more pre-disposed to being better at sports or art or music or math or science or building.... These tendencies often run in the family (but not always)... If a Mom and Dad are musical, offspring tend to learn and be musical too. Not always, but genetics do play a role in who we are. So, it would make sense that some people are more genetically pre-disposed to having sexual predatory issues.
And then there is the exposure of society as to what is normal and what is allowed. Sexual harassment in the work place was very common before Anita Hill and the national exposure/ discussion of working and being harassed at work. I was a younger girl at the time of the Anita Hill/ Senatorial Grilling, and I was not subject to the rampant harassment that was common place. Pinching butts, staring at chests, forcing sex for positions. Thankfully, I was never exposed to that sort of work place environment. AND when the women came forward about Herman Cain, we were disgusted and revolted at the stories. But back in the day, it was common place for this type of behavior, especially so, seemingly, at the top of the food chain.... It was like CEO types were allowed this "boys will be boys" crap, and that maintaining the "wife" at home and sleeping with the secretary and making women uncomfortable and give "favors" for access up the chain, was expected... At one time, slavery was common place and natural in society. Now, it seems that tall heels, volumed hair, butts, boobs, and lips are the common "fashion" for younger women.. with clothes that leave little to the imagination. Society changes, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, but society does imprint and make an impression on who people are.
Traditions from people to people or country to country, help to define people as well.. That short story of "The Lottery" where the tradition in a small, quaint town, picks a name of a person every year to stone to death because it is tradition and it is what they are used to, whether it is actually right.... Kind of like making GLBT community as a moral fault has been..... and that the idea that it is some deficiency is changing with the younger generation (those of the younger generation who are bigoted fools, learn it from their family, friends, church, and small-minded community as they are growing up), but for the most part, the younger generation is being taught that it is wrong to harass people and that families come in all different shapes and sizes... I absolutely love the newest anti-bullying campaign. Bullies hurt people no matter what their age, but they can be absolutely devastating for children... And the Republicans just look like bullying asses...
Anyway, maybe it is best to figure out what makes someone more apt to rape a child, try to figure out a way to treat a person who would feel they need to rape a child, and treat them in a humane manner for their safety and other's safety. I mean shoving them into ministry in the Catholic Church hasn't done anyone any good at all. Wearing their robe did not stop them from raping children and the power or their robe and their "connection" with God, made them powerful to keep their evil under wraps and to keep children stuck, locked with a secret.
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