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70sEraVet

(3,493 posts)
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 12:03 PM Nov 2020

A family conundrum for next four years

My daughter texted me a couple of days ago, to ask that I don't mention the election to her husband because he voted for Trump. I'll try to honor her wish - I certainly don't want to to make a difficult situation more difficult for her, and I do love and respect my son-in-law. But, just how long do I have to avoid it? Do I have to pretend for the next four years that Trump is still the president when I'm with her husband?

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CaliforniaPeggy

(149,588 posts)
1. And how can he avoid finding out?
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 12:30 PM
Nov 2020

Unless he's in a coma! He will surely find out, one way or another.

I don't think your daughter is doing her husband any favors.

BusyBeingBest

(8,052 posts)
3. Why would people need to tiptoe around it?
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 01:01 PM
Nov 2020

Is he that big of a baby that he can't handle his guy losing? Jesus Christ.

lettucebe

(2,336 posts)
4. You just do not discuss politics -- most of my family vote republican
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:10 PM
Nov 2020

When Obama ran they said he'd lock all Christians up in camps. Didn't happen. When he ran again, I think they rehashed the same BS. Didn't happen. I didn't gloat (as much as I wanted to), and I didn't remind them of how foolish their beliefs were. I just went about my business.

Will admit I did tell them no republican would ever be elected president again, and then tRump won, so learned that lesson. I just do not discuss politics or religion for that matter with anyone I know holds the opposite beliefs. It's just a waste of breath. They are certainly not going to change my mind so why should I think I'd change theirs?

Demsrule86

(68,552 posts)
5. I would say forever. I have family members whom I love who are Republicans. We don't
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:11 PM
Nov 2020

discuss politics. It is so not worth it to lose people you love because of politics.

TeamPooka

(24,221 posts)
7. Tell your daughter to put her big girl pants on and live in real world. If hubby can't handle it
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:13 PM
Nov 2020

I'm sure she can find love elsewhere.

Statistical

(19,264 posts)
9. Just talk about something else. I mean what good would bringing up Biden do?
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:16 PM
Nov 2020

Turn a family event into a screaming match about how Biden stole the election and libtards are communists. Talk about the weather, talk about the food. Sometimes it is good enough that Joe won. No matter what he thinks Joe won.

birdographer

(1,323 posts)
11. Do you typically discuss politics?
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:18 PM
Nov 2020

If not, treat this like she told you not to mention the pollution in Pune, India or the new tapir born at Tufts University. There's a lot of other stuff to talk about!

JCMach1

(27,556 posts)
12. Don't troll him, but don't self censor either... He doesn't like,
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:19 PM
Nov 2020

Tell him to put on his big boy pants

avebury

(10,952 posts)
13. Do you best to honor your daughters wishes by not talking politics with
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:21 PM
Nov 2020

the snowflake. BUT, if he brings it up, all bets are off.

Mariana

(14,854 posts)
14. Is she afraid he'll get violent, do you think?
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:22 PM
Nov 2020

A lot of Trump supporters are very, very angry right now.

 

SlogginThroughIt

(1,977 posts)
15. You do not have to make nice.
Mon Nov 9, 2020, 02:24 PM
Nov 2020

You do not have to stow truth and your feelings for ANY MAN. And neither should your daughter. Maybe your son in law is a great guy. I don't know. But these are some massively large red flags here.

Women should no longer pretend to go along just to get along.

EDIt; i just realized for some reason I assumed you were her mom. I shouldn't have but everything I said applies to your daughter as well.

Good luck.

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