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40% of American still planning to attend Thanksgiving with 10+ people; 30% not planning to mask or a (Original Post) soothsayer Nov 2020 OP
Here: 6 people, outside, masked (except when eating) northoftheborder Nov 2020 #1
6 here too. Inside, but guests are required to isolate for 10 days prior or get a test and then Squinch Nov 2020 #9
Good idea Ahpook Nov 2020 #33
Let them know the requirements and they can decide. If they won't adhere to them, they can't come. Squinch Nov 2020 #35
One of my siblings and her hubby wanted to come here but I said malaise Nov 2020 #2
40% of Americans are selfish assholes. n/t Blaukraut Nov 2020 #3
Selfish, stupid, ignorant. SunSeeker Nov 2020 #4
Only our household. madaboutharry Nov 2020 #5
Get on zoom! It's fun soothsayer Nov 2020 #8
This is why we're doomed PJMcK Nov 2020 #6
There will be hubster and I.. luvs2sing Nov 2020 #7
Only the people who live here. onecaliberal Nov 2020 #10
A Dark Winter looms. sarcasmo Nov 2020 #11
Mom, sis, me. We live together anyway soothsayer Nov 2020 #12
I am having Thanksgiving with the other 2 family members who live in my home. CottonBear Nov 2020 #13
I'm giving it a miss this year. smirkymonkey Nov 2020 #14
Just the two of us this year Sherman A1 Nov 2020 #15
My sister has been graciously hosting 20-30 family members every Thanksgiving for decades. Midnight Writer Nov 2020 #16
Zoom it! soothsayer Nov 2020 #17
My sister also. Been doing it as long as I can remember captain queeg Nov 2020 #22
3 in my circle, out to eat? We haven't been in a store since 3/11, deliveries for everything since. Brainfodder Nov 2020 #18
maybe they can stick around stillcool Nov 2020 #19
My sister is throwing a Thanksgiving dinner AND birthday party for her 7 yr old daughter NickB79 Nov 2020 #20
damn. thats some kind of irresponsibility. JanMichael Nov 2020 #27
Wow. There's going to be more moonscape Nov 2020 #36
Insanity mcar Nov 2020 #21
The holidays are going to be a bloodbath. Crunchy Frog Nov 2020 #23
# of people at our table: MissMillie Nov 2020 #24
Thank goodness the eldest sibling in my family is totally being safe Beringia Nov 2020 #25
Might as well just eat the turkey raw MoonlitKnight Nov 2020 #26
A large thanksgiving dinner is safe so long as everyone is perfectly silent Klaralven Nov 2020 #28
Only 3 this year. gademocrat7 Nov 2020 #29
40%. It's always 40%. Buckeye_Democrat Nov 2020 #30
Only 5 for us AwakeAtLast Nov 2020 #31
Me, myself and I at my home ChazII Nov 2020 #32
We are truly fucked, OMG LymphocyteLover Nov 2020 #34
very small, but excuse to make a porkroast. pansypoo53219 Nov 2020 #37
Only the 2 of us. Duppers Nov 2020 #38
Zooms-giving is the best way to go, as Fauci is doing. radius777 Nov 2020 #39
For the first time in my life I will be spending Thanksgiving alone. StevieM Nov 2020 #40
Followed quickly by Christmas and New Years parties. KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2020 #41

Squinch

(50,941 posts)
9. 6 here too. Inside, but guests are required to isolate for 10 days prior or get a test and then
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:54 PM
Nov 2020

isolate for the remaining time before Thanksgiving.

And I'm STILL nervous!!!

I am hosting and have a beloved 88 year old aunt coming. If she ever caught Covid at my home, I would never forgive myself.

Ahpook

(2,749 posts)
33. Good idea
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 10:00 PM
Nov 2020

I wonder if I could get my family to adhere to such a thing! Doubtful, as a few of them are Trump weirdos.

To heck with the gathering if not! I'll get heat from a couple of them, but fuck it. I'm taking care of my mother with dementia. There is no way I can bring even a molecule of that shit in this house.

Squinch

(50,941 posts)
35. Let them know the requirements and they can decide. If they won't adhere to them, they can't come.
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 10:08 PM
Nov 2020

I'm not willing to risk dying alone and painfully just because a relative wants to make a point.

malaise

(268,898 posts)
2. One of my siblings and her hubby wanted to come here but I said
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:48 PM
Nov 2020

absolutely no months ago. Just as well given the spike there and here.

madaboutharry

(40,203 posts)
5. Only our household.
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:52 PM
Nov 2020

Everyone at their own house. It makes me sad, but we want to be safe.

It is going to get so much worse because of the holidays. How will they feel when multiple relatives get sick and might even die? For what, just to have dinner?

PJMcK

(22,026 posts)
6. This is why we're doomed
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:52 PM
Nov 2020

Not that we're all going to die, of course. But such a large percentage of Americans are just stupid, ignorant or represent examples of the Dunning -Kruger effect.

I have family members who still think the virus is a hoax! We're closing in on 300,000 deaths since March(!) and they think this is fake. One cousin said that wearing masks is part of the Democrats socialist plot to deny all Americans their rights. Insane.

We're having exactly three people at our Thanksgiving table: my son, my wife and me. I would love to dine with my 89-year old father, my sister and her family and my brother and his family as we've done for decades. Not this year.

We were walking in NYC this afternoon and I was appalled how many people were not wearing masks! This is New York State which is fighting really hard to stem the tide of the virus and yet, some people don't seem to care. It's baffling.

It makes us feel like it's everyone for themselves. Not a good look for America.

luvs2sing

(2,220 posts)
7. There will be hubster and I..
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:52 PM
Nov 2020

and two friends who are in our bubble. Lots of layers, depending on the temperature, and open windows, masks required. We are all psychotically careful..and we always spend the holidays together.

CottonBear

(21,596 posts)
13. I am having Thanksgiving with the other 2 family members who live in my home.
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:55 PM
Nov 2020

We miss our parents, grandparents, children, other relatives, siblings, and friends, however, we don’t want to risk our lives or theirs. We haven’t even met the newest member of our family, a baby girl, because of COVID19.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
14. I'm giving it a miss this year.
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 05:56 PM
Nov 2020

Not worth the risk, especially with children who are attending school. I will miss seeing my family, but I think it's for the best this year. All of us are staying home this holiday and possibly Christmas as well. I will really miss seeing the dogs.

Midnight Writer

(21,738 posts)
16. My sister has been graciously hosting 20-30 family members every Thanksgiving for decades.
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:00 PM
Nov 2020

A feast fit for kings.

Not this year.

She has called it off. It's not worth someone getting sick.

I whole heartedly agree with her.

I love seeing family, love the great meal, love the atmosphere of familial love.

But skipping a year isn't going to kill anyone.

Not skipping a year just may.

captain queeg

(10,157 posts)
22. My sister also. Been doing it as long as I can remember
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:29 PM
Nov 2020

We were starting to plan to have dinner out in the car port, and I made tentative reservations at a hotel. But at this point doesn't sound like its going to happen. Its a bummer, but lots of worse things, like getting people sick or dying.

I have a friend who keeps spouting how its all exaggerated. Yes, I very likely wouldn't die. But I could get very sick and I could give it to someone else. That's the part the deniers don't bother to take into account; spreading it to others.

Brainfodder

(6,423 posts)
18. 3 in my circle, out to eat? We haven't been in a store since 3/11, deliveries for everything since.
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:10 PM
Nov 2020

For sure not taking the vax when it is first made available, after this much BS, you first red shirts!

It's the least you can do!

Meanwhile, the captain and I will stand here with phasers on.....



NickB79

(19,233 posts)
20. My sister is throwing a Thanksgiving dinner AND birthday party for her 7 yr old daughter
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:25 PM
Nov 2020

Because her birthday is on the 29th, they combine them.

All the family, including my 80-yr old grandparents and my brother-in-law's father who is in poor health, AND all my niece's school and neighborhood friends, AND some of my sister's coworkers and THEIR kids. Probably 20 people in one house, in central Minnesota, when it's 40F outside. No opening windows or doors for ventilation.

They're Trump-voting anti-maskers. I'll be staying home, no matter how much they try to guilt me into driving up north.

I honestly don't expect both of my grandparents to survive this shit.

moonscape

(4,673 posts)
36. Wow. There's going to be more
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 10:09 PM
Nov 2020

of that going on than I want to believe. So sorry. Hope your grandparents will be okay. Wish they’d decline, obviously.

mcar

(42,298 posts)
21. Insanity
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:28 PM
Nov 2020

We've canceled our plans to spend Tgiving with our kids in DC, as did DIL's family. We'll spend Christmas with my sis and BIL, but we'll be outside for most of it (Florida).

It's hard to not be with them but makes no sense to endanger ourselves and others.

MissMillie

(38,548 posts)
24. # of people at our table:
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:36 PM
Nov 2020

TWO


(I offered to deliver 1/2 of our turkey, some stuffing, some gravy and some pie to my sister and my dad who live two streets over, but they said they think they have everything covered.)

Beringia

(4,316 posts)
25. Thank goodness the eldest sibling in my family is totally being safe
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:42 PM
Nov 2020

And she called the shots of no family gathering this holiday. I really don't know if my older brother were in charge, if he would take the precautions or any other number of my siblings.

MoonlitKnight

(1,584 posts)
26. Might as well just eat the turkey raw
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 06:43 PM
Nov 2020

Having a thanksgiving dinner this year assures that someone won’t be having one next year because they will be dead.

Let’s beat this virus and then we all will have a true thanksgiving to celebrate.

 

Klaralven

(7,510 posts)
28. A large thanksgiving dinner is safe so long as everyone is perfectly silent
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 07:17 PM
Nov 2020

It is primarily the vibration of the vocal cords that produces droplets and aerosols that can infect other people. Normal breathing through the nose doesn't produce them.

So before coming into the house, everyone must be sworn to a vow of silence.

It will also prevent a lot of other problems.

AwakeAtLast

(14,124 posts)
31. Only 5 for us
Sat Nov 14, 2020, 09:56 PM
Nov 2020

Our big dinner was cancelled. I'm spending it with my husband, daughter and parents. Dad has already recovered from COVID (thank the Lord!).

radius777

(3,635 posts)
39. Zooms-giving is the best way to go, as Fauci is doing.
Sun Nov 15, 2020, 04:57 AM
Nov 2020

Nuclear families can do thanksgiving together, and simply Zoom in with extended family and friends doing the same thing. They can also share some of what they made with each other, just bag it up and deliver it wearing a mask.

People just have to sacrifice - it's better than being dead - and in all likelihood we'll be through this next year when we have a real president and the vaccine is widely distributed.

StevieM

(10,500 posts)
40. For the first time in my life I will be spending Thanksgiving alone.
Sun Nov 15, 2020, 05:04 AM
Nov 2020

I miss my family, but it is the right thing to do.

KY_EnviroGuy

(14,489 posts)
41. Followed quickly by Christmas and New Years parties.
Sun Nov 15, 2020, 05:13 AM
Nov 2020

We're royally screwed until Joe is in office and he will still have an uphill battle for months with the right-wing idiots, both public and political.

We should have a law similar to those allowing a declaration of war to combat a pandemic to remove idiot's freedom of choice until it's under control.

Our people, including my parents, were under strict rules and rationing during World War II and everyone pitched in with the war effort with little or no complaint.

This is a life or death matter and yes, it is a war......

KY

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