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packman

(16,296 posts)
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 12:25 PM Nov 2020

My run-in with a maskless idiot at the grocery store

Trying to decide what type of ribs to buy when a maskless guy comes up to me. I moved away and couldn't help commenting "nice mask you're not wearing"

He replied back " You can't live in fear"

I shot back, "No, but you can die in ignorance"

You know, I think I made his little brain pause for a moment- You could actually see the wheels turning

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My run-in with a maskless idiot at the grocery store (Original Post) packman Nov 2020 OP
too many teeth missing lapfog_1 Nov 2020 #1
This message was self-deleted by its author TxVietVet Nov 2020 #52
Hey a lot of my teeth I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2020 #61
Well said nt intrepidity Nov 2020 #70
Thanks for this. ShazzieB Nov 2020 #75
My heart goes out to you got shit teeth too. I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2020 #77
Obviously good points Richluu Nov 2020 #83
Wow. What a great reply! Ohiogal Nov 2020 #2
Agree! volstork Nov 2020 #24
+1. nt iluvtennis Nov 2020 #28
So simple a message..... OAITW r.2.0 Nov 2020 #3
I said to a maskless guy at the store recently: panader0 Nov 2020 #4
i'm saying as i point where he's going or came from "you know, there was a maskhole back certainot Nov 2020 #43
Perfect...my way is more like this Eliot Rosewater Nov 2020 #60
great line!...hope I remember it stillcool Nov 2020 #5
Enjoy your ventilator! Raster Nov 2020 #6
Love it, I'll use "Hope you enjoy your ventilator" on my next maskless encounter. KS Toronado Nov 2020 #15
I say birdographer Nov 2020 #36
I'm carrying pepper spray if they get too close 634-5789 Nov 2020 #7
I've thought of that too ... nebby70 Nov 2020 #17
Spraying someone with anything can be considered assault. cayugafalls Nov 2020 #31
Can you swing your fist near their face? Foolacious Nov 2020 #37
That would be assault (creating fear of injury). Actually hitting is battery. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2020 #79
Then not wearing a mask in public during a pandemic is assault... Foolacious Nov 2020 #89
Yes, in my opinion, but would be hard to make a case. And I Am Not A Lawyer. . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2020 #90
I checked with my legal mouthpiece... 634-5789 Nov 2020 #45
Don't do it unless you've taken other reasonable steps like backing away & warning them to keep away Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2020 #80
Understand. 634-5789 Nov 2020 #81
Do you live in a "stand your ground" state? BobTheSubgenius Nov 2020 #56
Then you can say, "See? Your should have worn a mask" world wide wally Nov 2020 #21
Well done! That's quick thinking on your feet! DonaldsRump Nov 2020 #8
What a superb rejoinder! 3catwoman3 Nov 2020 #9
I'm curious... with all the medical burn out over the virus would these "non believers" mitch96 Nov 2020 #10
Sadly they believe DarleenMB Nov 2020 #25
HE was making the choice for YOU. maxsolomon Nov 2020 #11
+1. That's the essence of it, yep. Authoritarianism. yonder Nov 2020 #32
Desperate to dominate I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2020 #62
That it, looking to dominate. That's what they're about. BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2020 #82
I hate those arrogant pricks too. I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2020 #91
Or, the wheel turn nilram Nov 2020 #12
Excellent comeback! PatSeg Nov 2020 #13
Perfect mgardener Nov 2020 #14
It's pretty good where I am. cwydro Nov 2020 #29
Also in a very red NC county birdographer Nov 2020 #38
I'm in GA metro ATL. gus1985 Nov 2020 #65
I've stopped going to a 7/11 near me wnylib Nov 2020 #68
All of our stores have signs birdographer Nov 2020 #88
Beautiful response, just perfect! Canoe52 Nov 2020 #16
He might've paused to try to remember which state Harker Nov 2020 #18
Smart response!!! liberalla Nov 2020 #19
Well Played! Sherman A1 Nov 2020 #20
Misshapen wheels grinding with no lubrication. paleotn Nov 2020 #22
Excellent riposte Turbineguy Nov 2020 #23
I don't think at this point ignorance can be an excuse Major Nikon Nov 2020 #26
i ignore those so and sos . i care more about my self not getting sick. AllaN01Bear Nov 2020 #27
To quote New Jersey Governor Phil Murphy... dchill Nov 2020 #30
Funny how that group believes they are living fearlessly, yonder Nov 2020 #33
Brilliant! diva77 Nov 2020 #34
Excellent TNNurse Nov 2020 #35
You're very quick thinking. That was a perfect retort! One more week & many people's lives Illumination Nov 2020 #39
What are the odds that the guy was carrying a concealed gun in the grocery store cause he's "scared" NightWatcher Nov 2020 #40
I have lost any composure for or around these people (mask 'truthers')... Moostache Nov 2020 #41
I'm very sorry about your mom... LuckyCharms Nov 2020 #46
Moostache, I am so sorryfor your great loss irisblue Nov 2020 #49
Thank you for the kindness... Moostache Nov 2020 #53
Words fail stopwastingmymoney Nov 2020 #58
I am sorry for your loss. Peace to you and yours. yonder Nov 2020 #51
I lost my mom in January this year I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2020 #63
I'm so sorry dai13sy Nov 2020 #71
Perfect response! LaMouffette Nov 2020 #42
Wearing a mask and going about your business is not living in fear Zing Zing Zingbah Nov 2020 #44
Well done, packman. n/t LuckyCharms Nov 2020 #47
FEAR IS WHAT MADE YOU VOTE FOR DONALD FUCKING TRUMP Skittles Nov 2020 #48
Good for you! ShazzieB Nov 2020 #76
Stand your ground and start yelling for the manager cutroot Nov 2020 #50
Well not in Oklahoma. No statewide mask mandate here SoonerPride Nov 2020 #69
Good for you! 58Sunliner Nov 2020 #54
Prudence is not fear. BobTheSubgenius Nov 2020 #55
K and R Ferrets are Cool Nov 2020 #57
In a perfect world, only the deniers would get infected. nt oldsoftie Nov 2020 #59
Can't live in fear? TexasBushwhacker Nov 2020 #64
Honestly. I just social distance myself and totally ignore them. Blue_true Nov 2020 #66
Great answer! mvd Nov 2020 #67
Post removed Post removed Nov 2020 #72
'Simply over someone not wearing a mask'? It's not simple. Not wearing a mask is violence. GoneOffShore Nov 2020 #74
With your permission, I'd like to use that ... aggiesal Nov 2020 #73
Oh ten points! mahina Nov 2020 #78
Thank you the perfect reply!! Cbus Girl Nov 2020 #84
Nicely done on the fly. I would add... elias7 Nov 2020 #85
worse you can kill with selfishness Dukkha Nov 2020 #86
Masks are primarily to zentrum Nov 2020 #87

Response to lapfog_1 (Reply #1)

I_UndergroundPanther

(12,462 posts)
61. Hey a lot of my teeth
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 07:37 PM
Nov 2020

Are gone because of cracked tooth syndrome and I have a lot of tattoos and Pierces,wear a mowhawk,

And I am not stupid.

Don't denigrate
people into tattoos and body modification. Or people going through the hell of losing teeth and not enough money to get implants. Or can't get them because of health problems.

Being a magat / trumper is enough to see someone is dumber than a bag of hammers.

No need to base the ignorance of trump idiots on how someone changes their body or oral health problems and health issues.

ShazzieB

(16,265 posts)
75. Thanks for this.
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 03:17 AM
Nov 2020

As one who has lost all my teeth due to bad genetics, I get really tired of people equating toothlessness with a lack of intellect. I usually let such comments go by and move on, because I know no harm is meant, but they do bother me. Thanks for speaking up.

I_UndergroundPanther

(12,462 posts)
77. My heart goes out to you got shit teeth too.
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 03:36 AM
Nov 2020

Yeah the ignorance assumption is irritating.

My teeth crack easily. And when they crack they have to pull them out. They are sore alot.
Having teeth cracking and getting yanked out fucks up the nerves in the mouth and gums.

Well once my teeth are gone I can finally get a toungue pierce. The barbell wouldn't have any teeth to knock against and crack.

Richluu

(80 posts)
83. Obviously good points
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 09:33 AM
Nov 2020

I have a friend with one missing front tooth from an accident. It's a superficial physical quality that doesn't define him.

Sorry about your health issue. I wonder if oil pulling would help. It strengthens the teeth and pulls impurities out of the head. I was getting constant cavities until I started oil pulling. Just Google if to find out about it.

And thanks for posting.

Ohiogal

(31,895 posts)
2. Wow. What a great reply!
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 12:28 PM
Nov 2020

I’ll have to file it away for the next time I encounter such a fool. Thanks!

 

certainot

(9,090 posts)
43. i'm saying as i point where he's going or came from "you know, there was a maskhole back
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:57 PM
Nov 2020

there sneezing a little while ago"

Eliot Rosewater

(31,106 posts)
60. Perfect...my way is more like this
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 06:17 PM
Nov 2020

When I see someone without a mask


&ab_channel=XanxiuZ



And in all honesty I dont do this, but I do talk very loudly about the need to wear a FUCKING MASK

nebby70

(471 posts)
17. I've thought of that too ...
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 01:11 PM
Nov 2020

... I've little bottle of lysol spray in my bag when i shop ...
... and I've considered 'accidentally' spraying some mask-less idiot ...
... would that be assault?...
... I figure I might get away with it since I'm a little old gray haired gal ...
... but then, i'm a little old gray haired gal who could get creamed by the yutz ...

Foolacious

(497 posts)
37. Can you swing your fist near their face?
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:35 PM
Nov 2020

And when they flinch, admonish them: "Are you living in fear? Don't live in fear. I probably won't hit you."

634-5789

(4,175 posts)
45. I checked with my legal mouthpiece...
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 03:05 PM
Nov 2020

She told me that if I feel threatened, (Yeah, I'm 69) to go ahead and give 'em a little 'back off' spray.

Bernardo de La Paz

(48,938 posts)
80. Don't do it unless you've taken other reasonable steps like backing away & warning them to keep away
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 06:57 AM
Nov 2020

Assault should be your last resort. If they suffer symptoms from the spray then it becomes battery.

(I am not a lawyer)

DonaldsRump

(7,715 posts)
8. Well done! That's quick thinking on your feet!
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 12:40 PM
Nov 2020

It is so disgusting that wearing a mask has been politicized like this, and Trump is the total cause.

mitch96

(13,869 posts)
10. I'm curious... with all the medical burn out over the virus would these "non believers"
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 12:42 PM
Nov 2020

work in a covid ward with out a mask? I mean just an extra set of hands to move beds, clean trash cans and mop floors.. I bet the Hospital would be GLAD to take them on board.
Me thinks they would not go for it at that point... Maybe I'm nuts but to me this is like denying a bullet would hurt you if you play russian roulette. uff
m

DarleenMB

(408 posts)
25. Sadly they believe
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 01:36 PM
Nov 2020

the ICU's are empty because Covid is a hoax. Even when, like in South Dakota, they are LITERALLY DYING from the disease they refuse ... REFUSE ... to believe it.

yonder

(9,653 posts)
32. +1. That's the essence of it, yep. Authoritarianism.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:10 PM
Nov 2020

There are so many good comments in this thread, including the OP's initial reply but your post is what it boils down to: maskidiots remove our choices by removing their masks.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
29. It's pretty good where I am.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:00 PM
Nov 2020

Red county in NC.

Though there’s always the ones with the nose out.

I keep my distance.

birdographer

(1,304 posts)
38. Also in a very red NC county
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:36 PM
Nov 2020

Trumpers seem to have picked their spots to swarm. No masks at a Bi-Lo grocery store or any Dollar General. Many more masks at any Ingles, large or small. And oddly, close to everyone in a mask at Lowe's. Do trumpers not do home repairs?

We avoid them as well, but playing Dodge Trumpers makes every shopping trip last much longer than it should.

 

gus1985

(11 posts)
65. I'm in GA metro ATL.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 09:39 PM
Nov 2020

I too gave noticed certain stores attract anti mask idiots. I guess its the ones with no mask required signs. Publix, Target Wal-Mart in Kennesaw, Woodstock Wal-Mart and Ingles seem to have the most people wearing mask. Kroger,Food Depot and Dollar General most not wearing mask.


I make it a point to not shop at stores without a mask requirement and stores that the anti mask crowd shop at.



wnylib

(21,306 posts)
68. I've stopped going to a 7/11 near me
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 12:16 AM
Nov 2020

because ALL of the staff except one wears their mask with their nose hanging out. One clerk keeps pulling her mask down to talk. They sell take out food - pizza, coffee, sandwiches - and customers remove their masks to eat while they walk around the store.

birdographer

(1,304 posts)
88. All of our stores have signs
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 01:16 PM
Nov 2020

They say sternly that masks that cover nose and mouth must be worn in the store. Followed by "Thank you for your cooperation." If you don't choose to cooperate, no big deal, nothing will be done. Hardly a requirement. Interestingly, the. liquor store here enforces the masks and will escort you out if you won't wear one. The ONLY store in town that enforces it. We have not been to Walmart since March. I imagine you can see the virus in the air, given the typical shopper there. We haven't missed it a bit.

Harker

(13,957 posts)
18. He might've paused to try to remember which state
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 01:13 PM
Nov 2020

Ignorance was in, and whether it was the capital.

paleotn

(17,876 posts)
22. Misshapen wheels grinding with no lubrication.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 01:31 PM
Nov 2020

Thinking hard. Need sound bite. Liberal bad. Asshole good. Must follow leader.

Simple machines need very simple programming.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
26. I don't think at this point ignorance can be an excuse
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 01:45 PM
Nov 2020

It's fundamentally the same as people who refuse to wear helmets on motorcycles or seatbelts in cars. It has nothing to do with "living in fear" or ignorance. It's all about living with stupidity by refusing a simple solution which mitigates risk. There's also an element of assholery in that the aforementioned examples have nothing to do with mitigating risk for those around you.

AllaN01Bear

(17,944 posts)
27. i ignore those so and sos . i care more about my self not getting sick.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 01:46 PM
Nov 2020

i dont seek a confrontation.
somone on here once said " proud of your ignorance arnt you?"

yonder

(9,653 posts)
33. Funny how that group believes they are living fearlessly,
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:20 PM
Nov 2020

while many of them will insist on open or concealed carry for "protection" from fear.

 

Illumination

(2,458 posts)
39. You're very quick thinking. That was a perfect retort! One more week & many people's lives
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:39 PM
Nov 2020

will change because they were ignoramuses!...

NightWatcher

(39,343 posts)
40. What are the odds that the guy was carrying a concealed gun in the grocery store cause he's "scared"
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:41 PM
Nov 2020

He's scared of something that never happens, and we're scared of something that has killed a quarter million here in less than a year.

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
41. I have lost any composure for or around these people (mask 'truthers')...
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:44 PM
Nov 2020

My mother passed in the hospital this month. It was not entirely unexpected, but the trauma of her being isolated and not being able to visit her in the hospital because of COVID transmission and her ultimately becoming COVID positive near the end was, is and always will be a personal horror and hole in my being. I was robbed. My family was robbed. My mother was robbed. All the things that we as humans do with and for each other near the hour of our passing was STOLEN because some assholes "can't live in fear"...

To that mask-less fool:
FUCK YOU ASSHOLE!!! FUCK YOU!!!!
What my family has lost is so much more than just our matriarch and irreplaceable center...what is gone now can NEVER be returned, NEVER be made whole, NEVER be replaced. And I am not alone in this anguish or suffering - MILLIONS of others in families impacted by COVID or because of it are in similar positions.

Put that mask on your fucking worthless face and leave it there, because if you refuse and you lip off to me or near me about it, I am going to remove the tire iron from my truck and take out as many of your teeth as I can before they arrest me. I am through with this pain because of your fucking desire to act like a tough guy.

If someone like that says to me "You can't live in fear..." I am going to tell them that they had better start running then, because you can't live around me without a mask and keep your fucking teeth.

This whole thing is chewing me up inside and I don't think I am ever going to fully come out of it...I am really fearful of what may happen if people continue this path...

irisblue

(32,916 posts)
49. Moostache, I am so sorryfor your great loss
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 03:14 PM
Nov 2020

Have you and or your family talked about loss and grief since her death?

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
53. Thank you for the kindness...
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 03:35 PM
Nov 2020

My immediate family has been coping with this in isolation from each other still...due to COVID concerns and travel restrictions and the idea of trying to navigate arrangements for people from as far apart as Florida and Alaska, we are in a sustained state of suspended animation...

Mom requested that there be no wake or viewing and wished to be cremated, so we have honored her wishes, but we are unable to get closure or start healing because we cannot get finalization on her Memorial Mass or services and the rest - the lack of intimate closure and final in-person good byes - will never be filled in. I will carry that hole in my heart with me the rest of my days and there is nothing that anyone can do to fill it now. I'll learn to live with it, it hurts a little less acutely every day, so I know that in the cruel passage of time, the anguish will fade to be less immediate, less present than it is now.

It is made all the worse by the stories and photos and experiences of those who refuse to wear masks or insist that COVID is overblown as a concern and not as serious as it is.

One day, I will have what passes for peace, when the entire 24 hours will pass without a reminder of this horror show...but that day feels a long, long way off right now...

I_UndergroundPanther

(12,462 posts)
63. I lost my mom in January this year
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 07:52 PM
Nov 2020

And it hurts. What happened to your family is so sad.. I don't have words, so

dai13sy

(330 posts)
71. I'm so sorry
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 02:01 AM
Nov 2020

you lost your Mama in such a horrible and preventable way. I know what you are feeling because the same happened to my Mama and I alternate between crushing pain and burning anger and I too want to hurt anyone who is so ignorant as to not understand or just don't give a shit what their behavior is doing to others. If I see them in the grocery store I make sure to turn and walk away because everything in me wants to follow them to the parking lot.


I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and just know that someone (and not just me) knows what you are going through. I hope you can find some peace.

LaMouffette

(2,017 posts)
42. Perfect response!
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:53 PM
Nov 2020

Next time someone says that to me, I'm going to tell them, "You're not afraid of Covid? Good! You should go volunteer at the hospital to help move the dead bodies to the refrigerator cars or hold up the phone for dying Covid patients to say good-bye to their family. Be sure to tell them at the hospital that they don't need to supply you with a mask, since you're not afraid of getting Covid."

Zing Zing Zingbah

(6,496 posts)
44. Wearing a mask and going about your business is not living in fear
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 02:57 PM
Nov 2020

I do not wear a mask because I am afraid of covid-19. I'm at low risk. I wear it to protect other people in my community and so we can keep our hospitals from being over run with covid-19 patients.

Skittles

(153,104 posts)
48. FEAR IS WHAT MADE YOU VOTE FOR DONALD FUCKING TRUMP
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 03:14 PM
Nov 2020

that is what I told the MAGAt who said that to me

cutroot

(873 posts)
50. Stand your ground and start yelling for the manager
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 03:17 PM
Nov 2020

These people are breaking the law and they should be escorted out of the building.

SoonerPride

(12,286 posts)
69. Well not in Oklahoma. No statewide mask mandate here
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 12:27 AM
Nov 2020

Because of course not. Stitt is a trumpian moron.

I don’t know about the OP and what state they live in so maybe there is a law there.

There isn’t here.

Some cities have ordinances and most stores have posted signs.

But no one seems to want to confront anyone over it.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,558 posts)
55. Prudence is not fear.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 04:44 PM
Nov 2020

Good exchange. You made your point, may well have scored a hit, and not a gun to be seen.

Blue_true

(31,261 posts)
66. Honestly. I just social distance myself and totally ignore them.
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 09:44 PM
Nov 2020

If I have to pass one, I hold my breath until in a space that they were not in.

mvd

(65,156 posts)
67. Great answer!
Thu Nov 19, 2020, 09:50 PM
Nov 2020

I hope he does get a clue. You could have saved his life.

Mask wearing in my area continues to be excellent, but it is the household gatherings where people can let their guard down.

Response to packman (Original post)

GoneOffShore

(17,336 posts)
74. 'Simply over someone not wearing a mask'? It's not simple. Not wearing a mask is violence.
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 03:13 AM
Nov 2020

Interesting screen name - OANHS? Welcome to DU.

Dukkha

(7,341 posts)
86. worse you can kill with selfishness
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 10:39 AM
Nov 2020

Anti-mask is anti-christian.

Here in Ohio it's so bad merchants are taking a zero tolerance approach. Grocery stores have greeters with a box of masks at the door. Put it on or turn around

zentrum

(9,865 posts)
87. Masks are primarily to
Fri Nov 20, 2020, 12:29 PM
Nov 2020

……to protect OTHERS.

It's patriotic to wear a mask because it protects others.

It confers some protection for the wearer. But it's mostly about giving a damn for other people.

So it isn't about "living in fear"—it's about living and killing in selfishness.

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