The final update

[mercuryblues]

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At 2:15 AM my father passed away. I never got to see him in person. We could not provide him comfort in his final hours. My hope is that he knew in his heart we were with him.

It did not have to be this way.

[LuckyCharms]

1. I'm so sorry, mercuryblues.

[StaunchDemocrat1957]

83. Condolences.

I'm praying for your peace as well as your father.. God Bless You!

[essaynnc]

2. I'm sorry...

it's tough and sad to loose your father.... he knew you loved him, I'm sure. warmest of thoughts to you.

[Lunabell]

3. I am very sorry for your loss.

Sending hugs and love to you in your time of mourning.

[OAITW r.2.0]

4. Sorry for your loss.

Unbelievable sadness for you' given the moment and times we are living in.

[MineralMan]

5. I'm so sorry to read that.

So many people, including myself, are unable to see their parents due to the COVID-19 pandemic. I believe they know that we are thinking of them in their situation. The necessity of this isolation is one of the true tragedies of this epidemic disease. Stronger measure should have been put in place much earlier to reduce its spread.

I mourn with you. My mother is also in her last days, not from COVID, and I cannot travel to say goodbye to her, nor to support my father, because that would risk bringing this disease back to my own family.

[Permanut]

81. Kind thoughts coming your way, MineralMan..

You and I are of the same generation. My parents are long gone, missed this current craziness.

[Firestorm49]

6. Very sorry for your loss.

[CTyankee]

7. I am so very sorry to read about your Dad.

It breaks your heart. Please try to stay well during your mourning period and after.

With my love and whatever comfort that you can have from an online friend.

[MissB]

8. I'm so very sorry

[apcalc]

9. Extending sympathy for your loss and the circumstances.

[MerryBlooms]

10. My deepest condolences, hon. He knew you loved him, just as you know he loved you.

Sending you a warm blanket of love and hugs. I'm so sorry.

[Laffy Kat]

11. Oh, mercuryblues...

There are no words.

[PatSeg]

12. I am so, so sorry

You are right, it did not have to be this way. Peace to you and your family.

[murielm99]

13. I am sorry.

Please stay safe and well.

[barbtries]

14. i'm so sorry.

no, it did not have to be this way.

[irisblue]

15. I am so sorry

[warmfeet]

16. Sorry for your loss.

[kag]

17. Oh, mercuryblues

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Sending love and strength to you and your family.

[2naSalit]

18. Sincere condolences...

[pandr32]

19. I am so sorry for your loss and pain

Such a horrendous reality too many are facing.
May you find comfort even though it will take time.


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[Traildogbob]

21. Breaks my heart

Wish we all could take a part of your pain and make yours not do hurtful. 💔😔

[spanone]

22. Sorry....

....

[TheBlackAdder]

23. That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that.

[Nevilledog]

24. ...

[Leghorn21]

25. He knew, sweetie, he absolutely knew

Surrounded with your family’s love, he drifted away

You’ll meet again, I believe that with all my heart

❤️❤️❤️

[sdfernando]

26. I am so sorry for your loss.

I know your father felt your spirit with him.

[RestoreAmerica2020]

27. Sorry to for your loss. Take care.

Paz

[3catwoman3]

28. How sad for all of you.

Wishing you strength and serenity.

[CaptainTruth]

29. I'm so sorry...

[hibbing]

30. Sorry for your loss, hang in there n/t

[niyad]

31. I am so very sorry for your loss. May he be at peace. Vibes for healing and comfort.

Your DU family is here for you.

[Snackshack]

32. I am very sorry.

🕯

[Marthe48]

33. Sorry to see your sad news

What a tough time for you and your family.

[wendyb-NC]

34. I'm so sorry for your loss

it's truly heart breaking. My loving thoughts go out to all.

[monmouth4]

35. So very sorry for your loss. May he RIP..

[onecaliberal]

36. I'm so very sorry.

[mgardener]

37. I am so sorry

[GeorgeGist]

38. So sorry for you loss.

[KPN]

39. So very sorry for your loss mercuryblues. May you

find peace in the knowledge of your many memories.

[llashram]

40. my heartfelt condolences

I am enraged because yes, "It did not have to be this way"

I wish your father eternal rest peace and peace to you also.

[mrs_p]

41. Condolences. I am

So very sorry for such a great loss.

[sobenji]

42. My thoughts are with you and your family

[boston bean]

43. I am so sorry for your loss, mercuryblues.

Losing a person in these times is soul crushing.

You might remember I lost my mom in April.

It was awful beyond the personal loss. But I want you to know and maybe take it from someone who does, time will be of help. I still have some pretty dark days and my mind is sometimes fucked, but it is slowly getting better and the bad days are fewer. Allow yourself to feel and grieve.

My heart is with you.

Love, bb.

[hamsterjill]

44. No, it didn't have to be this way.

I’m so sorry...

[mzmolly]

45. I'm so very sorry

for your loss.

[Nululu]

46. So sorry for your loss nt

[MissMillie]

47. I'm so sorry

[PCIntern]

48. Deepest condolences...

May his memory always be for a blessing.

[MLAA]

49. ❤️❤️💖💖💕💕💕

Sending love

[pazzyanne]

50. So sad to hear this.

Sincere sympathy to you and your family. It is hard to lose a loved on on a holiday. My family lost my Grandfather on Thanksgiving day. We still eat pumpkin pie in his honor. It was his favorite.

[BMW2020RT]

51. We are going to take a pass on Thanksgiving dinner today.

We can give thanks later, without the risk to my parents of 79 and 85 years respectively.

My condolences to you and your family.

[SayItLoud]

52. Thank you for sharing your loss, I/we here will share it with you.

I'm so very sure he knew you all were with him.

[sinkingfeeling]

53. I'm very sorry for your loss in such horrible times.

[TxDemChem]

54. So very sorry for your loss

[Sherman A1]

55. My condolences on your loss

[helpisontheway]

56. I'm so sorry...🙏🏽Nt

[kairos12]

57. My sincere condolences mercuryblues.

[StarfishSaver]

58. I'm so sorry

[demtenjeep]

59. I am so so very sorry

I am praying for you during this time of great sorrow

[Dreampuff]

60. I'm so sorry

You and your family have my deepest sympathy.

[marlakay]

61. Very sorry about your dad

Hugs and peace to you. 💕💕

[Joinfortmill]

62. So very sorry.

[RANDYWILDMAN]

63. so sorry for your loss.

RIP

[Moostache]

64. I am so sorry another family lived this same pain...

My mother passed on the 10th and I have spent the last 3 weeks trying to get closure and stave off the hate and anger that boils inside of me because this DID NOT HAVE TO HAPPEN THIS WAY...

I feel your anguish and pain and can only say that while yours is unique, you are not alone. I wish I could say that it gets better with time, but all I can say is that it gets less acute and feels less like an anvil on your chest each week. What we have had stolen from us - closure, goodbyes in person and the human contact so essential in grief - can NEVER be replaced, but please know you are in my thoughts today and I hope you find peace and receive the same support I have to keep me sane these last few weeks...

[Barbara2423]

65. I'm sorry, I believe he knew how much you loved him.

Stay Strong.

[Ilsa]

66. I am so sorry.

You are right: it didn't have to be this way. I would bet that he knew in every moment he was there how much he was loved.

I'm so sorry that this is your Thanksgiving.

[area51]

67. I'm so sorry.

[colorado_ufo]

68. Peace and comfort to you.

We carry our loved ones in our hearts; he carried you in his.

[mcar]

69. I'm so sorry mercuryblues

[ancianita]

70. Oh I am so sorry, mercuryblues. My heart goes out to you.

I know how it feels to not see your parent in person when they die.

He knew. May you find some peace that you knew his heart, and keep his spirit alive in yours.

[MontanaMama]

71. My deepest condolences.

I’m very sorry for your loss. Be kind and generous to yourself. These are terribly hard days.

[EllieBC]

72. I'm so so sorry, mercuryblues. My heart is breaking for you and

Your family. May his memory be a blessing.

[GentryDixon]

73. I'm so very sorry. You're correct, it didn't need to be this way.

[Alacritous Crier]

74. Condolences.

[phylny]

75. I'm terribly sorry for the loss of your beloved father.

[DENVERPOPS]

76. We all share your pain........NC

[Marie Marie]

77. My heart goes out to you on your loss.

[Niagara]

78. I'm so sorry, mercuryblues.

[c-rational]

79. I am so sorry for your loss.

[StarryNite]

80. I am so very sorry for your loss.

He knows you were with him...he knows.

[Bettie]

82. I'm sorry for your loss

it had to be horrible not to be able to be with him.

[malaise]

84. Too sad

It did not have to be this way

[littlemissmartypants]

85. So sorry. ❤

[BobTheSubgenius]

86. No, it did not. And I'm so sorry that it turned out this way.

People can bear the inevitable. A situation like this...I won't make your misery worse by finding words to describe it.

I hope that knowing that DU stands with you makes it a bit better.

[cate94]

87. So very sorry.

[Demsrule86]

88. So so sorry. I wish you peace. You did all that could be done these days. And I believe

that something come after death and somehow they know how we feel. I have felt my Mom and Dad often since they died.

[marble falls]

89. "It did not have to be this way." If it happens to me I want this on my stone ...

I am so sorry for your loss. I am so angry for you because of the circumstances.

[lobointexas]

90. I am sorry for your loss.

[Karadeniz]

91. Bad enough that he passed away without family, but now you have to grieve without family.

[shanti]

92. Condolences for your loss

[rustysgurl]

93. My deepest sympathies for your loss. n/t

[vercetti2021]

94. I'm so sorry

[kskiska]

95. So sorry for your loss at this very difficult time.

[cayugafalls]

96. So sorry MB, you're right, it did not have to be this way.

He knew you were there in spirit.

[UpInArms]

97. I am so sorry

[Heartstrings]

98. ...

[58Sunliner]

99. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[SheltieLover]

100. Deepest Condolences to you & your family

I am so saddened to hear this.

Grieving is hard work, physically as well as emotionally & psychologically.

Please engage in good self care.

[blogslut]

101. I'm so sorry

❤️

[The Blue Flower]

102. He knew--and his was with you

May his memory be a blessing.

[peacebuzzard]

103. I am so very sorry.

Such a hard and deep loss, you are in my thoughts today. So sorry.

[7wo7rees]

104. So very sorry. Much love and hearts to you.

And you are so very right. It didn't have to be this way.
Know you are loved and you have a community to help and that is here for you every day, 24/7.

[BumRushDaShow]

105. Damn

I missed this post but seemed to have felt it with your absence.

Sending my condolences to you and your family and you're right - but I'll be even more emphatic - it SHOULD NOT have been that way.

[Maeve]

106. There are times when words don't reach, when nothing said can fill the emptiness

May your family and friends bring the comfort that can

[yardwork]

107. I am so sorry for your loss.

[greatauntoftriplets]

108. My deepest condolences on your loss.

[calimary]

109. Damn.

I’m so sorry, mercuryblues.

[denvine]

110. I am so very sorry!

[Buckeye_Democrat]

111. I'm so sorry!

[crickets]

112. I am so, so sorry.

[mercuryblues]

113. Thank you everyone

for the condolences. They are very appreciated.

i needed a place to go to, where I did not have to fake a smile because of Thanksgiving.

Again, Thank you all

[Rhiannon12866]

114. I am so very sorry, my friend.

I've been there and this is about as tough as it gets, even worse - if possible - at this time of year, not to mention the additional stress of the pandemic. My Dad has also been on my mind especially right now since November 30th is the anniversary.

Just take care of yourself, be good to yourself, and know that your friends on DU are here for you and are sending you strength and hope.