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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy sister-in-law died from Covid last night.
My brother has been married to her for over 40 years.
Below is the thread about her initial hospitalization.
on the 15th:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100214558894
There was no point in trying to update it throughout her hospital stay. Her status seemed to change almost daily! Her blood oxygen (SpO2) was at 98% on Sunday (while wearing an oxygen mask) and the doctors/nurses seemed to think she would recover and be home within a week. Then she had yet another downturn and was placed on a ventilator a couple days ago, until passing away late last night.
It's an ironic coincidence that she passed away on Thanksgiving. They hosted our extended family Thanksgiving get-togethers, with her cooking most of the food (such as the turkey) for each of the last many years. We cancelled those plans weeks ago because of the pandemic, long before she was even infected.
PJMcK
(22,025 posts)I'm fearful that we'll see many more families facing these losses in the coming months.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)I'm going to log out for awhile and call my brother. I got the news from our sister early this morning.
applegrove
(118,589 posts)FarPoint
(12,314 posts)I do....Dayton area....So sorry to hear of your loss....(((HUG)))...
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)FarPoint
(12,314 posts)Upper Valley has been full for at least 3 weeks......both part of Premier system...both are at maximum capacity essentially....my son-in-law.. his step-dad's mother is just out of ICU at the Valley off a ventilator...
It is hitting families in clusters...everywhere I go now someone has covid-19 in the family...None of my current patient list/home care infusions have covid-19 yet...but definitely their family members do! Doing my visit...full PPE...
I only shop now at Costco and Dorothy Lane Market...DLM in Springboro is amazing...cleaning carts before returning cart to store...they have a cleaning station, hand sanitizer at several locations, at checkout...each checkout counter is disinfected after each customer, they ahve a monitor to tell checkers to even go wash their hands....No one there without a mask.
Wednesday night, I went into Krogers/ Englewood to quickly get a few items/ reluctantly mind you...crowded....multiple no masks...I offered one to a really tall fella...laughed at me said.." Are you kidding?" So, in 40 minutes...7 people without masks...No enforcement when reported....I plan to call BWC/ report line today...if they get 2 reports or more...closed for 24 hours...well..we will see...
Be aware...
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)An ambulance took her to a small Kettering hospital branch in Troy initially, and soon thereafter she was transported to their main hospital in Dayton.
I've been super-careful for months, not even walking inside a store since March. Groceries have all been pick-up orders for me.
I was concerned about that particular brother and his wife because they used to eat inside restaurants pretty often, but my brother said they stopped doing that after the pandemic.
She probably caught it from their young granddaughter, who got infected at her school but had no symptoms. We don't know that with certainty, of course.
Then she gave it to my brother, despite how he tried to avoid it, and they both had VERY mild symptoms for many days. He seems to be completely recovered from the virus now, but obviously her condition suddenly worsened about a week and a half ago.
Montgomery County is "Level 4" purple now, but I think some adjacent counties are actually worse. The positivity rate is higher in Miami County, for example, but that's not one of the indicators used in Ohio's color code system for whatever reason. Positivity rate is Ohio's focus in regard to travel to and from other states, but not for the counties within this state???
https://coronavirus.ohio.gov/static/OPHASM/Summary-Alert-Indicators.pdf
I'm surprised that the Kroger in Englewood would allow that mask-less nonsense! It's one of their biggest stores in the area! Do they really want to risk a temporary closure?! I agree with you for reporting it!
FarPoint
(12,314 posts)I'm so glad you are being vigilant with protocols...Not much we can do with the offensive covid-19 deniers/no-mask folks but avoid them, report them...and hunker down...I think my focus is that I will assume everyone has covid-19 as it keeps me sharp with my protection protocols.
This is going to get intensely worse by Christmas....I suspect we will have tent style covid-19 areas by then...You noticed, they are using Children's Hospital for adults now, stating non-covid 19 patients but they can't control that overall......That is a double edge sword...they need the beds/space but will contaminate ....This is big...real big now due tyo Trump and his election agenda to deceive America during a pandemic.
True Blue American
(17,982 posts)I know from Kettering and Centerville had to be picked up by parents and are now quarantined.
I know several that are connected with Kettering. One is a Nurse there. Others are retired.
This is so heartbreaking for your brother.
True Blue American
(17,982 posts)That is so sad, losing her that way.
I live between Dayton and Miami County. Montgomery went purple this week. So did Franklin.
How many more before we get a vaccine?
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)So many people in this country are nuts.
FarPoint
(12,314 posts)but...just realize that the covid-19 virus has been here say 10-11 months...spreading, mitigating and not going away...we just won't have vaccine compliance and we really don't know if it will be that effective...projected outcomes are what we have based upon small, tiny test poole of the study....It will be at least 10 months for vaccine improvement in infection rate and that is if there is compliance.
Lock down is my hope.... along with treatment modalities.
soothsayer
(38,601 posts)tavernier
(12,375 posts)So sorry for your family.
Maeve
(42,279 posts)May the good memories bring warmth in the sorrow.
livetohike
(22,133 posts)and family. May every good memory comfort you .
Maraya1969
(22,474 posts)Clash City Rocker
(3,396 posts)I lost a beloved cousin to this horrible virus, so I have some idea how you feel. I was thinking about her yesterday, because we always spent Thanksgiving with her family, and those memories are precious to me.
Make sure you talk to someone about how youre feeling right now. Im very sorry for your loss.
Snackshack
(2,541 posts)🕯
Roisin Ni Fiachra
(2,574 posts)So sorry for your family's loss and grief, especially your brother.
40 years.
TxDemChem
(1,918 posts)FM123
(10,053 posts)It must have been especially difficult for the family to lose her on Thanksgiving, a day that is so associated with her family dinners.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Sending sympathy and courage to you and your family.
barbtries
(28,787 posts)out of words (hug)
area51
(11,902 posts)spinbaby
(15,088 posts)There are no words.
mercuryblues
(14,529 posts)May you and your family find comfort where you can. I am sending you virtual hugs
yardwork
(61,588 posts)pazzyanne
(6,546 posts)Losing a loved one on a holiday colors that holiday for years. We lost my grandfather on Thanksgiving day, and each Thanksgiving we eat our pumpkin pie in his memory. He loved pumpkin pie!
May you find comfort in the happy memories and in the support of friends and family. Sending virtual (((hugs))) and well wishes.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)ucrdem
(15,512 posts)I hope your brother rallies. This must be a difficult season for you. Keep yourself safe and all best wishes.
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)LittleGirl
(8,282 posts)and I really appreciate you posting this sad result.
Oddly, it reminds me that staying home is the safest place to be sheltered away from friends and family until the vaccine is distributed. Posting this makes it real for us so thank you.
My condolences.
BumRushDaShow
(128,742 posts)Am so sorry to hear this after your updates in your other thread that seemed to suggest she appeared to be recovering.
This virus is nasty and insidious and you can never know how your body will respond to it...and it seems to depend on how much of a viral load you were exposed to coupled with where it gains a foothold and any pre-existing conditions.
You and your family have my deepest sympathies and are in my thoughts.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)... about her from the hospital.
The entire family was convinced that the worst was behind her this last weekend, with her blood oxygen reaching 98%.
Her treatments involved convalescent plasma early on, then Remdesivir.
The doctors wanted to put her on a ventilator pretty soon after she was hospitalized, but she refused. So then her lungs were "aspirated" in some way and she showed dramatic improvement.
Yet her lungs filled with fluids yet again. Another downturn and lower SpO2 levels.
Then she coughed up fluids after being placed on a BiPap machine instead of her previous continuous-pressure CPap, and that's when her blood oxygen was finally back to the upper-90's.
Then that didn't last either! She weakened yet again and was finally put on a ventilator regardless, passing away about two days afterwards.
BumRushDaShow
(128,742 posts)where the lung alveoli gets damaged as the virus explodes and then clumps, basically blocking air/O2 exchange. That's "covid pneumonia".
redwitch
(14,944 posts)Such a sad thanksgiving.
calimary
(81,192 posts)Im so sorry for your loss, Buckeye_Democrat.
niyad
(113,216 posts)FailureToCommunicate
(14,012 posts)forward for all of you.
This nightmare, made worse by this administration, has taken a terrible toll that will linger for years.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)... it to be from a pandemic!
As Obama said a few days ago about it, managing this pandemic wasn't rocket science!
Yet President Idiot and his cultists still managed to make it far worse.
marble falls
(57,063 posts)... family over it.
MissMillie
(38,546 posts).
malaise
(268,868 posts)secondwind
(16,903 posts)go through so much.......... thankfully, DU is there for all of us, when we need it the most.
Demsrule86
(68,539 posts)ever experienced...so sad for you and your family.
keithbvadu2
(36,732 posts)' Almost nothing' acc to the Trumps.
blogslut
(37,997 posts)❤️
cate94
(2,810 posts)mountain grammy
(26,613 posts)This should never have happened.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)I appreciate it. She was a very good-hearted woman. My brother and niece are emotional wrecks right now, obviously.
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)Nevilledog
(51,063 posts)Fla Dem
(23,635 posts)Thanksgiving will have a whole different meaning for her family going forward. I'm just sad for you all. Peace to you all.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)So sorry for your loss.
Hulk
(6,699 posts)I can only imagine the sorrow you bare. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and all your family.
Ohiogal
(31,956 posts)Please accept my sincerest condolences
What a nightmare this past year has been.
Trueblue Texan
(2,424 posts)This has been the saddest year of our lives for most of us. Sending healing thoughts for you and your family.
bluestarone
(16,899 posts)This virus is so hard for so many people!
MissB
(15,805 posts)This insidious virus is going to ruin the happy lives of so many.
gademocrat7
(10,651 posts)Sending hugs and love to you, your brother and family.
MerryBlooms
(11,761 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,381 posts)Damn virus. Damn Trump. Damn all his supporters. It didn't have to be this bad.
Virtual hugs to you and all of her family.
shrike3
(3,556 posts)Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)I'm going to log out of DU again for awhile, but I've appreciated the kindness!
Marthe48
(16,931 posts)Such sad news. It is never a good time to lose loved ones, but this time of year is worse.
NNadir
(33,512 posts)mikeargo
(675 posts)Prayers for your family
Peacetrain
(22,874 posts)Ninga
(8,275 posts)democrank
(11,092 posts)pandr32
(11,574 posts)Absolutely heartbreaking.
liberalla
(9,234 posts)Shocking the speed and efficiency of the virus, with no time to adjust. So very sad. My sincere condolences to you, your brother and your entire family.
marieo1
(1,402 posts)My sympathy to you and your family..........
StarryNite
(9,442 posts)Hortensis
(58,785 posts)seems from a distance meaningful as well as ironic.
grantcart
(53,061 posts)MLAA
(17,267 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)BobTheSubgenius
(11,562 posts)The need for condolences has arisen far too often this year. I wish there was something I could say that would make this..."better" is a terrible word here...I'll have to settle for "less awful."
I'm so sorry.
crickets
(25,959 posts)My heart goes out to you, your brother, and your whole family.
Metatron
(1,258 posts)from another living in Ohio. Condolences to your family.
Iggo
(47,547 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,161 posts)of your sister-in-law; my condolences to your brother and your family. so tragic and sad.
Niagara
(7,592 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My sincere condolences to you and your family.
You mentioned that you think she caught it from an asymptomtic child family member and that is what worries me so much about the holidays this year. The children are going to be the superspreaders at all these family gatherings and people aren't going to be as cautious around them as they would be around adults. This is primarily the reason I want to avoid Christmas and want my parents to avoid it as well.
Again, I am so sorry to hear about your sister-in-law. Sending you and your family healing thoughts.
bucolic_frolic
(43,122 posts)There just are no words. I'm beginning to feel for all who have lost loved ones. And it will be a bleak winter. It could be any one of us.
Upthevibe
(8,033 posts)your sister-in-law....
Permanut
(5,597 posts)Need to be told a million times. Almost 270,000 families have shared this tragedy just in the U.S., all because of a Hitler wannabe and his brown shirts. I'm sorry for your loss.
Takket
(21,551 posts)Big hugs from your DU family.
c-rational
(2,590 posts)SergeStorms
(19,192 posts)to your brother, yourself, and the rest of the family. There's absolutely no reason people should still be dying from the Trump virus at this stage.
PatrickforO
(14,569 posts)for your family's loss.
Tonight I will light a candle of remembrance to all who have died under this horrible administration.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)Sounds like she put up a good fight.
roamer65
(36,745 posts)Sorry to hear it.
Warpy
(111,232 posts)and who will start to rally and then crash and burn. The only good thing that can come out of this horrible year is more money going to molecular biologists studying exactly why some people die, some are maimed, and some barely know they had it.
I am so sorry you lost her to this horrible disease.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)... which was seen during a chest scan a few days before her passing, and which had never been observed previously.
Low blood oxygen can damage organs, and this virus is known to damage heart tissue among other organs too.
I'm sure that her damaged heart played a significant role in her dying, but I don't know those details yet.
ProfessorGAC
(64,983 posts)I know of nobody that died, but we're up to knowing 13 people infected now.
Thankfully, none of them were critical.
Best regards to your family.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,587 posts)Condolences to you and your family.
mtnsnake
(22,236 posts)My sincere condolences to you and your family.
rustysgurl
(1,040 posts)Another empty chair.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,713 posts)Cha
(297,071 posts)Alacritous Crier
(3,815 posts)healthnut7
(249 posts)shanti
(21,675 posts)DENVERPOPS
(8,804 posts)all rot in hell for making this much worse than maybe it needed to be.........and continuing to encourage it's carnage......
Need proof? Look no further than the Sturgis gathering and the state of South Dakota right now.........
My continued thought is that I wish the Virus only struck everyone in the entire RepubliCON party.......
Sorry, I don't like thinking like that, but with all that has transpired, I feel it is fair..........
If DU censors this, so be it. They need to know that there are tens of millions who are thinking, if not saying, the same exact thing...
The Wielding Truth
(11,415 posts)DENVERPOPS
(8,804 posts)several mayors are trying to stop all patient transfers from Red States and Red Colorado Counties who are refusing to enact the Red Level Warnings by the Governor........
Sadly, medical ethics probably won't allow that and the RepubliCON courts will probably overrule their efforts.......
If you think the Sturgis debacle fallout was bad, just wait three or four weeks for the Thanksgiving Debacle Fallout as a result of the massive Thanksgiving commingling from 70 million trumphumpers and the Religious still gathering across the entire nation in one room and singing without masks......
Makes one wonder about this absolute craziness.........
demtenjeep
(31,997 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)the rest of the family. Her life was cut short.
Jim__
(14,074 posts)Progressive Jones
(6,011 posts)58Sunliner
(4,379 posts)mac56
(17,566 posts)bdamomma
(63,825 posts)for you and your brother.
It didn't have to be this way......sigh
LaMouffette
(2,020 posts)If they could read your post and the posts of so many DUers who have lost a loved one or several loved ones to Covid, I wonder if that might convince them of the seriousness and the tragedy of this virus. It's heart-wrenching! But I'm starting to think they have sacrificed their very humanity to the Republican Party.
My deepest condolences to you and your family!
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)I'm so sorry. Sympathy to you and your family. No words are adequate in this time of loss, but thinking of you.
live love laugh
(13,095 posts)a kennedy
(29,643 posts)prayers, and love to you and your family.
BadGimp
(4,013 posts)All the best!
BigmanPigman
(51,583 posts)And on Thanksgiving too. Man, this year is never going to be forgotten. Tragedy made worse thanks to tRump.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)May she rest peacefully in your familys hearts forever.
dsc
(52,155 posts)Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)They have a traditional funeral planned for her, but I hope my brother will be understanding when me and my other siblings don't appear for the indoor viewing and service.
We've all sacrificed too much to avoid infection up to this point, especially with vaccines on the horizon and the current uncontrolled spread.
There might be many of her friends and coworkers in attendance, but some of them could be some reckless Covid deniers for all I know.
The later funeral outdoors? I'm willing to attend that, but while masked and distanced.
Thanks again, everyone!
Bettie
(16,084 posts)And for your brother.
ancianita
(36,016 posts)DangerousRhythm
(2,916 posts)Awful. 😞
AwakeAtLast
(14,124 posts)Sending my love and hugs to you and your family!
mahina
(17,638 posts)And the same to your sister in law. So sorry, truly.
Sherman A1
(38,958 posts)StocktonNative
(120 posts)Bless Your Family especially during these holidays that are meant to be festive.