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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region Forums'Don't be that guy' addresses male sexual entitlement in a powerful PSA for men
In order to tackle sexual violence, we need tangible societal change. That starts with dismantling misogyny and addressing male sexual entitlement.
That Guy is a powerful new campaign from Police Scotland that aims to have frank conversations with men about the issue.
A PSA video released as part of the campaign addresses men and asks them to reflect on their past behaviour towards women. "Ever called a girl 'doll'?" the video begins. "Or whistled at her walking down the street? Ever stared at a woman on a bus or said to your mate 'I do that.'"
The video explains how rape culture and sexual entitlement manifests itself in men's behaviour and actions, from sending non-consensual explicit photos (aka cyberflashing), to expecting sex after paying for drinks or dinner, to coercing and pressuring women into sex.
https://mashable.com/article/that-guy-campaign-sexual-violence
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The video's good, accents and all!
Earthrise
(15,502 posts)I know "lad" means boy or man.
In the context of this video does it mean "stud" or "guilty asshole."
I am assuming stud - he pressures her into sex or rapes her and leaves feeling like a stud.
meadowlander
(4,387 posts)It comes from 'one of the lads' (i.e. a respected member of a group of (mostly young or immature unmarried older) men who go out drinking together, like sports, cruise for sex, etc.)
Or 'being a lad' - acting like a drunk boor in a way that gets you respect from 18 year boys in a 'boys will boys' 'locker-room talk' winking at bad behaviour from young men kind of way.
Earthrise
(15,502 posts)Celerity
(43,064 posts)Lad Culture is seen to have erupted during the Brit-Pop phase of the 1990s and has continued to become a growing phenomenon in English speaking countries all over the world, including the UK, U.S. and Ireland. Frequently seen as a growing concern in the student population, the goal of this article is to assess, address and decipher the problems of Lad Culture in every day life, as well as look at the future prospects with a culture so strong.
So what defines Lad Culture?
The definition of Lad Culture varies according to where you read it but before defining the phrase, we believe that its important to break down the two words singularly, before putting the two together. The word lad is not new, and its definition has changed over time. For example, a lad simply used to refer to a young boy. Today, some define the term as a boisterously macho or high-spirited young man. When we look to Urban Dictionary for other definitions, we find much more explicit definitions, namely:
However, we cannot stop here. Culture is also a term that must be defined, and is commonly defined as: the characteristics and knowledge of a particular group of people, defined by everything from language, religion, cuisine, social habits, music and arts. Cultures unsurprisingly vary according to what country you are in, which is why it comes as no surprise that some cultures are yet to experience the Lad Culture. When we put these two words together, the phrase Lad Culture is formed, and is a combination of the latter term of lad, combined with other cultural formations. We wanted to reach out to people that have experienced lad culture first hand, and asked them their view on the phenomenon.
Firstly, speaking to a range of people from countries including Spain, Greece, Ireland, Germany and the U.K we were struck by the fact that in the Mediterranean countries and even Germany, it just didnt exist at all. In fact, we found that those with whom we spoke to in these countries tended to be quite shocked by the idea of lad culture, explaining that its something that simply doesnt exist in their own countries.
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meadowlander
(4,387 posts)but in the UK it's not tied to college students - it's maybe mixed in with more of a working class hero myth.
A young guy that "works hard and plays hard" and is respected by other young male peers that like the same kinds of things (drinking and sports).
I don't think it's exactly the same as a "stud" because that can come across as positive from a female perspective (i.e. he's sexy and attractive" ). While a "lad" is what an 18 year boy thinks a woman thinks is a stud - a guy who gets laid a lot without getting tied down and can't wait to tell his friends down at the pub all about it.
Celerity
(43,064 posts)Hamlette
(15,407 posts)MetalMama
(83 posts)Skittles
(153,104 posts)as if most women would bother with such creeps