'I don't know how many moments we have to have before it matters'

[Jilly_in_VA]

From Gabby Petito to Tyga to 'MAID': 'I don't know how many moments we have to have before it matters'
Alia E. Dastagir
USA TODAY




From Gabby Petito to Tyga to 'MAID': 'I don't know how many moments we have to have before it matters'

In the last couple of months, there have been a number of high-profile incidents of domestic abuse in the news.

The murder of Gabby Petito has received overwhelming media attention. Bodycam footage and a 911 call before Petito's death raised questions about possible domestic violence issues between Petito and her boyfriend Brian Laundrie, a person of interest in her death whose remains were found Wednesday in a Florida wilderness park. Rapper Tyga, real name Michael Stevenson and famously the former beau of Kylie Jenner, was arrested last week after an ex-girlfriend shared photos of his alleged abuse to her Instagram Story. The hugely popular series "MAID," which premiered on Netflix this month, explores the lesser understood dimensions of emotional abuse.

There have been several important cultural moments before. Advocates point to the abused housewife Farrah Fawcett played in the 1984 film "The Burning Bed," the O.J. Simpson trial in the '90s, Rihanna's violent assault by ex-boyfriend Chris Brown in 2009, and to some extent #MeToo. But combatting domestic abuse requires far more than increased public awareness – it is a complex social problem with many causes, different prevention points, affecting different populations with different needs. It also goes well beyond the highly sensationalized cases of physical violence or murder.


From Gabby Petito to Tyga to 'MAID': 'I don't know how many moments we have to have before it matters'
Alia E. Dastagir
USA TODAY






In the last couple of months, there have been a number of high-profile incidents of domestic abuse in the news.

The murder of Gabby Petito has received overwhelming media attention. Bodycam footage and a 911 call before Petito's death raised questions about possible domestic violence issues between Petito and her boyfriend Brian Laundrie, a person of interest in her death whose remains were found Wednesday in a Florida wilderness park. Rapper Tyga, real name Michael Stevenson and famously the former beau of Kylie Jenner, was arrested last week after an ex-girlfriend shared photos of his alleged abuse to her Instagram Story. The hugely popular series "MAID," which premiered on Netflix this month, explores the lesser understood dimensions of emotional abuse.

There have been several important cultural moments before. Advocates point to the abused housewife Farrah Fawcett played in the 1984 film "The Burning Bed," the O.J. Simpson trial in the '90s, Rihanna's violent assault by ex-boyfriend Chris Brown in 2009, and to some extent #MeToo. But combatting domestic abuse requires far more than increased public awareness – it is a complex social problem with many causes, different prevention points, affecting different populations with different needs. It also goes well beyond the highly sensationalized cases of physical violence or murder.

One in 3 women has experienced intimate partner violence, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

"I don't know how many moments we have to have before it matters," said TK Logan, a professor at the University of Kentucky whose research focuses on intimate partner violence, specifically stalking. "I've been studying this for almost 30 years and the attention comes in waves. It's good to talk about it. I don't mean to minimize that, but we have to do more than talk. We need to start helping women."

https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2021/10/22/gabby-petito-maid-tyga-domestic-violence-everywhere-now-what/6132427001/
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OCTOBER IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH! And please remember that domestic violence does not always have to be physical. It can also be emotional, psychological or sexual

[SheltieLover]

1. K&R!

[in2herbs]

2. I notice that Phyllis Chesler has updated the version of her 1986 book "Mothers on Trial" and I

haven't read the updated version but the 1986 version should be a must read for woman who contemplates marriage, divorce and/or having children. The discrimination goes beyond the judiciary as it is steeped in the teachings and practices of the Catholic Church.

How can things change? Stop thinking you have to attend church to "find God." Stop tithing to churches. When their funding is in jeopardy they will be forced to change or become extinct.

Don't forget, with DV and the police, the police won't charge a cop with DV because (in most states) that charge is a felony and if convicted the cop --- who the government has investment a lot of money into for training -- can no longer be a cop because s/he is now a convicted felon. I have always professed that the DV laws should go away and enforce the laws that are on the books involving assault should be applied in these instances. IMO the DV laws discriminate against the victim and further victimize the victim.

Finally, more $$ needs to be invested in helping women out of poverty.

I could rant all day on this subject.