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Yildirim says that Gider raped her, impregnated her and then, snuck into her home while she was sleeping and photographed her. The pictures revealed a pregnant body and Gider threatened to publish the pictures if she didnt obey him.
I chased him, she said. He fell on the ground. He started cussing. I shot his sexual organ this time. He became quiet. I knew he was dead. I then cut his head off.
She brought the head to the town square and in front of men sitting at a coffee House, she said, Dont talk behind my back, dont play with my honor. Here is the head of the man who played with my honor.
She was arrested and is in jail.
http://samuel-warde.com/2013/03/turkish-woman-kills-and-decapitates-rapist-delivers-his-head-to-town-square-video/
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)I guess they don't prosecute for rape in Turkey.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)and besmirch her honor in order to coerce her into having sex.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)I'm guessing Turkey doesn't prosecute for rape, or if they do, most guys get off (no pun intended). Hence, the decapitation.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Cleita
(75,480 posts)Not to detract from your story, but sometimes a little primitive in the way of feelings sneaks up on me. Also, I don't think things are going to go well for this woman, no matter how justified she was. Every criminal still need to be put on trial before they are executed.
aquart
(69,014 posts)I think she's Justice.
Turkey being the palace of charm it's always been, I'm sure she is in trouble. Personally, I hope this starts a trend.
HiPointDem
(20,729 posts)but if you're ok with people killing those who wrong them then i presume you'll have no problem with some of these workplace shootings.
aquart
(69,014 posts)Men who abuse sexual dimorphism to harm women and children or anyone physically weaker do not belong on this planet IMHO.
cliffordu
(30,994 posts)Jesus.
HiPointDem
(20,729 posts)property destructions, family break-ups, poverty and misery. americans, iraqis, afghanis.
the vision of his head on a platter doesn't apall me one bit.
i'd not support it if someone was actually proposing to do it in real life, but imagining it vicariously is not apalling at all.
cliffordu
(30,994 posts)I DO understand that she might forfeit her life as a result.
Nevertheless, there are fates worse than death.
If more women did exactly that, rapists would have to think twice.
It might be the only thing that prevents many rapes. It is obvious that the 'protection' of men and the law cannot.
Sometimes blood demands blood.
I celebrate that idea.
Sometimes killing some fucker is the only out.
As usual, your mileage may vary.
HiPointDem
(20,729 posts)Posteritatis
(18,807 posts)cliffordu
(30,994 posts)Actually, in the annals of hamfisted attempts to do that, the post we refer to is probably the world heavyweight champion.
Like the Sonny Liston of hamfisted attempts to hijack a thread.
Posteritatis
(18,807 posts)What a badass.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)Thinkingabout
(30,058 posts)Women are tired of the violence and taking action.
Tien1985
(920 posts)Of just shutting the whole thing down.
Ed Suspicious
(8,879 posts)She shut it right the hell down.
LeftInTX
(25,106 posts)I like that head thing.....
Auntie Bush
(17,528 posts)but I feel sorry for her.
Apophis
(1,407 posts)rdharma
(6,057 posts)The men present at the coffee house requested she be served DECAF!
Notafraidtoo
(402 posts)Tigress DEM
(7,887 posts)She may suffer just consequences for going off the deep end, but some men will think more carefully about what woman they mess with and what the potential for payback might be.
I don't condone rape or murder, but when your rapist comes back to torment you... it sounds like justice to me.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Her husband had an affair. There is a BIG difference.
Tigress DEM
(7,887 posts)I've always thought, if you don't want to be with someone because they've done you wrong, get divorced, break up, whatever - take care of yourself.
Getting revenge or staying around to fight it out over and over never was my style.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)wtf did Lorena Bobbit do except give us punny jokes?
whathehell
(29,026 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)In fact, I realize now I had her confused with the Buttafuoco case.
whathehell
(29,026 posts)Maybe you were thinking of the Amy Fischer/Joey B. case..That was completely different. In that case, as I remember, there was no castration, in fact I believe she shot Joey B.'s wife, not killing her, but permanently injuring her...She went to prison for that.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)What the Turkish woman did, in my opinion, should be met with jury nullification.
Lorena Bobbit, and anyone else who, as a response to adultery, mutilates someone or cuts off arms, legs or other appendages or anything else that protrudes from the body, breasts, penis, nose, buttocks, etc. should spend 20 years in prison.
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Bonobo
(29,257 posts)demwing
(16,916 posts)Give her husband a short lived porn career.
Don't make her violence heroic.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Exactly. Maybe that will make men think twice before raping.
Luminous Animal
(27,310 posts)Texasgal
(17,037 posts)Luminous Animal
(27,310 posts)Texasgal
(17,037 posts)get over it.
Ofcourse I don't think that's justice.
It's funny. You'd love to peg me with this wouldn't you?
Ugh.
It's called sarcasm.
Luminous Animal
(27,310 posts)JI7
(89,239 posts)RandySF
(58,454 posts)against a man who raped her and threatened to blackmail her in a society where victims are truly second class.
JI7
(89,239 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)but not raping you.
aquart
(69,014 posts)cliffordu
(30,994 posts)Prism
(5,815 posts)But I don't want to unrec it either.
Luminous Animal
(27,310 posts)Prism
(5,815 posts)I miss meta, too.
Lets box!
Or have a wine drink off.
Or something adult.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)Posteritatis
(18,807 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)jury nullification.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)fact.
Should be pretty easy in this case. Amniocentesis, for instance would establish the paternity of the baby.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)?
there's WAAAAY to much rape in this world, but there is a hell of a lot more consensual sex than there is rape.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)HiPointDem
(20,729 posts)transport plumps for decapitation without trial for alleged rapists.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)p.s., If you want continue to argue with me about that other issue, you really should do it in that other OP, not try to hijack someone elses.
aquart
(69,014 posts)To bring her gourmet meals in jail?
McDiggy
(150 posts)Wow...kinda frightened by the people that think murder is okay in any circumstance, to be honest. She deserves at least the Turkish equivalent of manslaughter.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)In most states here there would be no punishment.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)You have zero way of knowing from the news account if A) he was a rapist, or B) she is a common murderess (albeit with a dramatic flair).
I understand the kneejerk emotions this elicits because when I saw it I immediately went and posted it on Facebook with a "you go girl" comment... but then I got to wondering why I accepted her story?
HiPointDem
(20,729 posts)justifies any and all retaliations.
and because we're being conditioned to think that islamic men are particularly prone to rape, and that islamic culture doesn't protect women who are raped.
personally, i find some aspects of her story questionable.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)whereas you think it's what?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)They automatically assume the man did something wrong and deserves it.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)If she had shot someone stealing a television set, no one would give a damn. The fact is, our women sees women's lives as less valuable than inanimate objects.
What should she be able to defend her life? She's only a woman. It's not like she's important like a car or something.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)First of all, if she had shot someone stealing a television and cut off his head no one would care?? Of course they would! They would be horrified at what she did.
And as to defending herself, no one is arguing that she is "only a woman and not important.
What I would ask, however, is does the person who was shot in the genitals, killed and mutilated have a right to defend himself against the charge of rape? What if he was innocent? What if she was crazy (actually it sounds like she was if she did THAT)?
Do you think it is unreasonable to even suggest that he may have been innocent of the charge? Dead men tell no tales... and he will never be able to assert his innocence because she killed him.
How can you spin this into a situation of "No on cares because women aren't important". Don't you think that is a bit reactionary and over-the-top? Honestly speaking.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Law in this country enables anyone to shoot someone who enters a house to steal property, but it doesn't allow a woman to defend herself from rape with the same level of force.
You ask what if he is innocent. What if she is innocent? She is the one in jail. Just because he happens to be male doesn't mean you have to jump to his defense.
Yes, I think it virtually impossible that he was innocent because a Muslim woman is not going to claim she was raped when she wasn't. She is seen as culpable for her own rape. Why would a woman admit to that? It means a complete loss of honor for her. And It isn't going to help her one bit in the trial. There is NO reason for her to invent such a claim.
My statement reflects the situation in American law that values women less than property. That the law values television sets over a woman protecting her own body is what is OTT. Some of the comments in this thread reflect some of that same perception, albeit unconsciously.
The whole story could be manufactured for all we know. But of all things to decide not to believe, the man's being innocent of rape strikes me as the least likely. Rape is a VERY common crime.
Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)She tried but failed to have an abortion. There wasn't going to any hiding it from her husband or community.
Rape is a very common crime. Consensual sex w/ someone you're not married to though, is far more common. Killing and beheading is extremely unusual.
ProgressiveProfessor
(22,144 posts)Yet some here oppose effective firearms for self defense claiming they are not needed.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Most use handguns. More false propaganda.
ProgressiveProfessor
(22,144 posts)ARs as well, but both are caught up in the hysteria
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)If you need more than 10 bullets to hit a single person, you probably shouldn't have a gun.
ProgressiveProfessor
(22,144 posts)And as you yourself has pointed out, rape is about the most heinous crime one can face. Why artificially limit what is clearly the most effective defense? Not talking 100 round magazines, but the standard ones designed for that handgun...often between 13-16 rounds
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)and the fact is the woman is far more likely to have the gun used against her than she is to use it against an assailant. If she wants to run that risk, that is her choice. But I'm not going to sit back while you use women as a justification for your gun propaganda.
ProgressiveProfessor
(22,144 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)What happened to pretending to support the President's plan? Oops.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)I just find it more than a bit ironic that you say this in the same thread that you were justifying killing someone as they were trying to escape and then chopping off their head and displaying it in the town square.
You seem to be taking two conflicting positions in the same thread.
ProgressiveProfessor
(22,144 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)I support the President's gun control measures. I believe the type of guns people can own should be limited.
I do not believe that a woman doesn't have a right to defend herself against assault. I do not hold property in higher value than the life of a woman. Nor do I think men's lives have intrinsically more value than those of women or children.
There are not contradictory positions. Murder is horrific. Rape is also horrific and a violent crime. Women should have the same rights to defend themselves against violent assault as men.
LeftInTX
(25,106 posts)I hope that it causes some men to shake in their boats
And I hope Amnesty International gets involved with her defense.
undeterred
(34,658 posts)His head would have fallen off sooner or later anyway.
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)Hard core. He had it coming.
sibelian
(7,804 posts)Well, there ought to be trials and things but still...
Nanjing to Seoul
(2,088 posts)the beheading didn't kill this wonderful example of manhood.
While I do not condone it, I understand it. And I would vote to acquit.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My sentiments exactly.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)At a public hunt area in TX. folks who killed pigs (the 4-legged variety) would post the head on a fence. No coffee houses, so not a valid comparison.
ProgressiveProfessor
(22,144 posts)Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)Mutilating them and placing their severed head in the town square to intimidate others who had nothing to do with the original crime makes this even more sickening. I think rapists should suffer serious consequences for their actions, but I sure as hell am not going to pretend this kind of vigilante justice is acceptable and I don't think anyone who believes it is acceptable should be allowed access to guns.
dkf
(37,305 posts)If only she had let him keep raping her she wouldn't be in jail
XRubicon
(2,212 posts)We could cut out the middle men, think of the tax savings. No police or courts required. We could use Somalia as a model.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)This was not an act of self defense, she shot someone as he tried to run away. She claims he had raped her in the past which may or may not be true, but according to her own story he was running and she was chasing him at the time of the murder. That is not self defense.
Brigid
(17,621 posts)Who knew?
ReRe
(10,597 posts)... men have been doing this and worse to their wives and children for eons. Yet when a woman can't take it anymore and does something like this, everyone thinks she went too far. Duh? Two wrongs don't make a right, but if there is no justice to be had, male or female, you go vigilante. Too bad the woman didn't have a way to get out of Turkey, away from the SOB, instead of reverting to violence.
Life sucks, all over the fucking world.
Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)In a country like turkey the law was against her from the start. If she reports the rape she's gonna be the one in trouble. If she goes along with what the guy says she would be in trouble so faced with the options of screwed and screwed why not get a bit of justice.
Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)If not, I suggest reserving judgement. Although I suppose even if she is, it's still murder and needs to be prosecuted, even if she does deserve sympathy.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)A. She is Muslim and Muslim women would never lie about rape because it would shame her to do so.
B. Also, rape is common.
A + B = C, in other words, he is guilty (and deserved to be shot in the penis and decapitated).
(NOTE: Unless she's crazy in which case you can forget about everything above. Oh, and btw she sounds pretty fucking crazy if you consider chasing down another human, shooting them in the genitals, cutting off their head (not all that easy considering the thickness of the vertebrae and THEN plopping it down on a table in front of a group of diners, crazy)
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)If you are going to respond to something I say, do so directly.
You haven't said why you assume the woman is guilty. Not only guilty now, but crazy. Evidently applying double standards don't concern you at all. If he is a Y chromosome, he needs protection against the evil women of the world.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I think it's a crucial distinction- that her society gave her no good options.
If she was married, sadly her best option would be to keep her mouth shut and bear the rapists baby. Wouldn't that make you crazy?
If that didn't, imagine being blackmailed into endless years more of being raped.
I'd probably end up shooting the guy too.
The head thing, not so much.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)This was not even an act of self defense as she admits when she says "I chased him". Rapists are sick people who need to be punished, but there are just punishments and then there is this. She not only killed a man as he was running away, but she placed his head in the town square to intimidate others who probably had nothing to do with the rape. No matter what horrors she experienced in her past, there is no excuse for this sort of vigilante justice.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)a tv set. That is perfectly acceptable.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)I sure as hell don't think it is acceptable to kill anyone for taking a tv set and never suggested anything of the sort so please stop with your stupid strawman argument.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)It's not a strawman argument. In most states in this country it is legal to kill someone who enters your home to take your property, while a woman doesn't have the right to protect herself against assault.
The people here so outraged at this woman's actions don't run to criticize people shooting burglars.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)In fact just this week on DU I criticized someone for shooting a robber...
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1172&pid=113243
Maybe you should stop making ridiculous assumptions and realize that it is possible to be outraged both by this murder and other murders.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)How many months of rape and abuse must a woman submit to? Do you assert she has no right to protect herself and should just sit back and be raped as long as the man feels like it? Why is his life so much more valuable than hers?
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)Nowhere, I repeat nowhere did I suggest that a woman should sit back and allow a man to rape her as long as he feels like it. What I expressed opposition to is chasing a man down while he is running away, shooting him, cutting off his head and leaving it in the town square. Nowhere did I suggest allowing anyone to rape. Your strawmen arguments are absurd.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)She WAS raped for months. He DID threaten to kill her children repeatedly. Those are the facts. They are not straw men arguments. You 1) either don't know the circumstances of the case, or 2) have decided they don't matter.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)It is not self defense to chop off someone's head and place it in the town square, no matter how horrible the guy's crimes may have been it does not justify placing a severed head in a public area to intimidate others. If you think that is justified you have serious issues.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)She shot him first. Chopping off a head would equate to mutilating a corpse under US law.
It certainly isn't how I would handle the situation, but I can understand the effectiveness of doing what she did. Even in this country, only 6% of rapists are punished. The whisper of being raped ruins a woman's life in some Muslim societies. Honor is no small thing. If it made some potential rapists thing twice, then it served a purpose.
I wonder how many times you would allow yourself to be assaulted until you believed defending yourself against your attacker was justified? Rape IS a VIOLENT assault. She had every moral right to defend herself.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)Quit trying to pretend that placing a severed head in the town square to make a statement to people who had nothing to do with the rape was an act of self defense. The guy was not raping her or even threatening to rape her at the time of the attack, by her own admission she chased the guy as he was running away. She then killed him when he fell to the ground and chopped off his head to place in the town square as a warning to others. In order to claim self defense she would have to show an imminent threat, shooting a guy as he was trying to escape is not self defense no matter what the guy did to her in the past. Placing his severed head in the town square in order to intimidate others is even less of an act of self defense, it is a serious criminal act and there is no way to spin it otherwise.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)just shouldn't be done under any circumstances. Rapists should be made to feel completely secure in their ability to rape women at will without any repercussions.
The article does not say he wasn't trying to rape her at the time. In fact, the CNN video said he had come over to her house and she believed he was going to rape her again, like he did every other time he was there.
She's in jail. She will be imprisoned. Half of all women in Turkey will continue to face rape or domestic battery.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)In any random group of five men in this country, one will be a rapist. In Turkey, since rapes are more common, so are the numbers of rapists. Odds that there were no rapists are pretty remote.
This is not a court of law. It's a news story. We don't have all the facts. You've already tried and convicted her and decided it isn't self defense, with NO evidence to support your position.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)You don't even have to have evidence that they are rapists, just because they are men and a minority of men are rapists that is an excuse to intimidate any man she sees with a severed head? That is a pretty disturbing position if you ask me. You may want to think that one in five men are rapists but that is completely false, it is true that one in five women has been raped but that does not mean that one in five men are rapists. What it does mean is that there are some sick assholes who have raped a lot of women, but the vast majority of men have not raped anyone.
I did not convict this woman, but if the words quoted from her are accurate then there is real evidence that she committed multiple crimes. She admitted she chased the person, if she had to chase him then it was clear he was not an imminent threat and therefore it is not self defense. Sawing off the head of a dead body and displaying it in the public square is also a crime in case you did not realize. I have not convicted her nor can I convict her, but based on her statements alone there is plenty of evidence to bring her to trial.
You want to yell at me for not having evidence despite the fact that the killer admitted what she did, but you don't seem to need any evidence apart from an inaccurate one in five statistic to justify displaying severed heads to random men. That is pretty messed up if you ask me.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)but I find more disturbing the widespread culture of rape and that you are so much more concerned about a fate of a rapist than the millions of women raped every year.
I don't have evidence they were rapists. Statistically chances are extremely remote than none were rapists. Here are numbers from a study of US college students:
One in 12 male students surveyed had committed acts that met the legal definition of rape.
16 percent of male students who had committed rape took part in episodes with more than one attacker's gang rape.
75 percent of male students and 55 percent of female students involved in date rape had been drunk or using drugs.*
33 percent of males surveyed said that they would commit rape if they could escape detection.**
25 percent of men surveyed believed that rape was acceptable if the woman asks the man out, the man pays for the date or the woman goes back to the man's room after the date. ***
http://rwu.edu/campus-life/health-counseling/counseling-center/sexual-assault/rape-myths-and-fac
Your argument here rapidly moves. Is her crime killing an assailant or scaring the shit out of men in the public square, including potential rapists? You began by saying she didn't act in self defense, which UNLIKE your claims, she makes quite clear that is exactly what she was doing. Now you're concerned about the poor men sitting in the village, that they might have been traumatized. One thing you have been consistent about: Your concern for men over a female rape victim.
She will be imprisoned and half of all Turkish women will continue to be raped or assaulted by their partners. You really don't need to worry about some onslaught of activity making life difficult for rapists.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)Last edited Mon Mar 11, 2013, 12:03 AM - Edit history (2)
You are completely and horribly wrong for claiming I care more about a rapist than millions of women, that is dishonest and disgusting for you to make such an allegation. I have marched for women's rights and to prevent rape, I have stood shoulder to shoulder with women who have been raped and you have absolutely no business suggesting that I don't care about them.
None of the women I stood with ever severed a man's head and displayed it in the town square, it is very possible for me to oppose both rape and chopping off people's heads. If you don't understand that then you have issues.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)The fact is you have had plenty of opportunity to show what concerns you here, and you have done just that.
Bjorn Against
(12,041 posts)Don't pretend like you were not insulting in this thread, if you are going to claim I don't care about women who are raped then don't expect for me to sit silently while you try to smear me as some rape supporter. I oppose both rape and beheadings as do most sane people.
hobbit709
(41,694 posts)Chalco
(1,307 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)He deserved it. There is very little recourse for women in muslim countries. I can completely understand why she did this.
Monk06
(7,675 posts)for Christ's sake. What kind of society is it where men feel justified raping women because their husbands aren't around to protect them.
It appears rape is not just condoned in Islamic countries it is considered a man's right.
May women rise up and pile the heads high until this stops.