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Pam's Law (Patiently Awaiting Mom)
This is not me nor my story, but it is poignant and wanted to share it with all of you:
A debate about birth certificates and reunions came up on another page. This was my reply and I thought it is appropriate to share here to:
A name on a birth certificate was the only thing that solved my case last year. I was 21 when I found my mom...I will never speak to her as she died in 2007. I was 16 the day she died. Why did she die? Because she got cancer due to losing me. She was given 18 months to live but lived 15 years! Most say she was holding out to find me and it worked for her somehow. She never wanted my adoption to happen, her abusive husband said so because I was not a perfect baby. My mom DID register with every registry in my state but I was too young to register myself and did not find out until I was 21. I had to be 21 to get my OBC and I did so the first day I could. I found her an hour or so after giving my search angel her name and last address known. I did get my non identifying information but it held nothing that helped me find her. The only thing that worked was knowing my parents names. My mom wanted to find me but could not and I did not get to find her until it was too late. Due to my closed state before 2011 I now have to live with only seeing my mom in pictures. Hearing stories from those that knew the woman who loved me more than herself...but I don't get to hear her voice myself. Fair? FAR from it I'd say.
Besides the support of those around me the ONLY thing that has kept me gong during the last almost 14 months is the fact that it is believed that my mom got a picture of me each year. Someone requested the department of children services ask my adoptive family for a picture for the file....each year this happened....until the year my moms cancer came back when I was 10/11. Then it suddenly stopped and has never happened again. We really think it was her asking for them to look at her baby girl grow up....yet she was not allowed contact. She did not make it until I was "old enough" or for OBC laws to change.
http://www.facebook.com/#!/PamsLaw/posts/519228418116621
A name on a birth certificate was the only thing that solved my case last year. I was 21 when I found my mom...I will never speak to her as she died in 2007. I was 16 the day she died. Why did she die? Because she got cancer due to losing me. She was given 18 months to live but lived 15 years! Most say she was holding out to find me and it worked for her somehow. She never wanted my adoption to happen, her abusive husband said so because I was not a perfect baby. My mom DID register with every registry in my state but I was too young to register myself and did not find out until I was 21. I had to be 21 to get my OBC and I did so the first day I could. I found her an hour or so after giving my search angel her name and last address known. I did get my non identifying information but it held nothing that helped me find her. The only thing that worked was knowing my parents names. My mom wanted to find me but could not and I did not get to find her until it was too late. Due to my closed state before 2011 I now have to live with only seeing my mom in pictures. Hearing stories from those that knew the woman who loved me more than herself...but I don't get to hear her voice myself. Fair? FAR from it I'd say.
Besides the support of those around me the ONLY thing that has kept me gong during the last almost 14 months is the fact that it is believed that my mom got a picture of me each year. Someone requested the department of children services ask my adoptive family for a picture for the file....each year this happened....until the year my moms cancer came back when I was 10/11. Then it suddenly stopped and has never happened again. We really think it was her asking for them to look at her baby girl grow up....yet she was not allowed contact. She did not make it until I was "old enough" or for OBC laws to change.
http://www.facebook.com/#!/PamsLaw/posts/519228418116621
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