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Playinghardball

(11,665 posts)
Tue May 7, 2013, 02:17 PM May 2013

Loophole forced mother to pay spousal support to daughter’s convicted rapist

California mother says that she was forced to pay spousal support to her ex-husband after he raped her daughter for years.

Carol Abar told KCBS that her former husband, Ed Abar, began raping her then-9-year-old daughter soon after she married him in 1991.

But the daughter, who did not wish to be identified, said she did not tell her mother for 16 years because she was terrified of her stepfather.

“He had threatened me that he would kill my mom; he would kill my stepbrothers; he would kill me,” she recalled.

When Carol Abar found out, she filed for divorce. Because she made more money than her husband, a judge ordered her to pay alimony of $1,300 a month.

“The judge told me I had no proof. It was my word against him,” she explained. “He had been raping her since she was little. Since I got married to him.”

Just last year, Ed Abar finally pleaded guilty to one of four rape charges and was sentenced to over a year in jail. After Carol Abar had paid about $22,000 in support, a judge temporarily halted the payments.

More at: http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/05/07/loophole-forced-mother-to-pay-spousal-support-to-daughters-convicted-rapist/

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Loophole forced mother to pay spousal support to daughter’s convicted rapist (Original Post) Playinghardball May 2013 OP
"Every time I wrote that check I cried, because I felt like I was paying the man ... pinboy3niner May 2013 #1

pinboy3niner

(53,339 posts)
1. "Every time I wrote that check I cried, because I felt like I was paying the man ...
Tue May 7, 2013, 02:28 PM
May 2013

...that raped my daughter."

Hearing the mother's inteview was pretty powerful, and I tanscribed what she said about writing the check.

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