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CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:03 AM May 2013

"People were grabbing me and saying 'BENGHAZI'!"

Kelly O'Donnell said on Morning Joe just now that when she was covering the Sanford race in South Carolina, people were coming up to her demanding to know why the media wasn't covering Benghazi.

No wonder Colbert Busch lost that race. Sounds to me like repukes in that district are DERANGED...

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"People were grabbing me and saying 'BENGHAZI'!" (Original Post) CTyankee May 2013 OP
Low IQ = gullible. nt Lex May 2013 #1
"Derangement Syndrome" applies pretty well here... CTyankee May 2013 #3
Or O'Donnell is lying. djean111 May 2013 #2
She looked so goddamn smug. CTyankee May 2013 #5
Leading The Witness DallasNE May 2013 #24
Yep. A Wall Street paid shill. Mika May 2013 #12
Maybe because it's a 6 month old news story with no new developments.. JaneyVee May 2013 #4
Page 17 in the New York Times this morning...I had to hunt for it... CTyankee May 2013 #6
Don't watch TV news, it's all more-or-less bullshit. nt bemildred May 2013 #7
In this case, you have loss of sanity by right wingers...it's really interesting in a clinical CTyankee May 2013 #8
We are all nuts, big semi-deranged sex-and-status crazed apes. bemildred May 2013 #9
well, we do have our own conspiracy theorists but they are not mainstreamed into our CTyankee May 2013 #10
I'm in agreement CTyankee JustAnotherGen May 2013 #11
well, they certainly have a big megaphone for their CS theories... CTyankee May 2013 #13
True, the noise bazooka is not for the peons. bemildred May 2013 #14
The strange thing is how they take flying leaps from the cliffs of previous flying leaps. Marr May 2013 #20
Post removed Post removed May 2013 #15
what's this "we" shit? datasuspect May 2013 #16
And what mistake are we to wring leftynyc May 2013 #17
I think we're supposed to shake our heads solemnly... JHB May 2013 #32
Nice try Alex or Glenn or whatever. n/t Ganja Ninja May 2013 #22
What mistake was made?? ... please be specific. JoePhilly May 2013 #23
A really good October surprise just didn't work out as planned... nebenaube May 2013 #36
Clinton already DID that, svannahmann! She fully supported the findings of the commission CTyankee May 2013 #25
Exactly, thank you. All questions were asked and answered mountain grammy May 2013 #38
LOL. JaneyVee May 2013 #28
This Was Actually A Defeat For The Terrorists DallasNE May 2013 #34
But we aren't telling that story. Savannahmann May 2013 #40
why not tell this one stupidicus May 2013 #44
If the right wing wants to push meme they will do it no matter what. SalviaBlue May 2013 #50
There Was Confusion DallasNE May 2013 #64
riiiight!!! janlyn May 2013 #42
LOL.... you certainly seem to be hiding..... Something... n/t humbled_opinion May 2013 #45
It doesn't matter, not at all...there's no there there...with Plame there was ...no comparison uponit7771 May 2013 #49
As long as they don't grab my Benghazi. rug May 2013 #18
The 2013 Chrysler Benghazi... Jeff In Milwaukee May 2013 #27
Are they bringing back Corinthian Leather? n/t hootinholler May 2013 #35
If its Benghazi, it'd be Carthegenian leather. Which is really just canvas, bordered in ox-hide. Erose999 May 2013 #51
"Lee Iacocco's dream..." CTyankee May 2013 #60
I think the Media should be covering the story. Ganja Ninja May 2013 #19
Indeed! City Lights May 2013 #30
^^^This!^^^ BlueCaliDem May 2013 #31
And ^^^This!^^^ LeftInTX May 2013 #65
Their senator, Lindsay, has been obsessed with Benghazi. Fuck Kelly O'Donnell. She's a tool! Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2013 #21
The republicans master the "dog whistle" technique aikoaiko May 2013 #26
They are risking a big pushback politically, tho. That's the downside that they somehow CTyankee May 2013 #29
Not Sure They Face Any Pushback At All DallasNE May 2013 #37
I don't like anything Clinton. Give me Elizabeth Warren or Bernie Sanders or Raul Gravila (sic). xtraxritical May 2013 #46
Me either. I *will not* vote for Hillary, even if she is the nominee. Occulus May 2013 #63
I BET if you asked any of them where Benghazi was DainBramaged May 2013 #33
"Libya? What's next, Africa?" CTyankee May 2013 #61
yea there deranged alright tartan2 May 2013 #39
Did O'Donnell mean general public-- voters-- were saying 'Benghazi' to her? Somehow I got the... Gidney N Cloyd May 2013 #41
She said "people" but I think she meant voters. Interesting that she didn't say CTyankee May 2013 #62
I talked to my 84 year old father in SC yesterday. Fuddnik May 2013 #43
Nobody said that to her. What a crock of shit. Buzz Clik May 2013 #47
South Carolina conservatives take DERANGED to a whole new level, they make into an art form bowens43 May 2013 #48
This phony Benghazi outrage JEB May 2013 #52
Sure they were, Kelly. In a whisper. In the dead of night. In harmony. randome May 2013 #53
"Arrrhhh! Benghazi! Arrrhhh!" randome May 2013 #54
People? Technically, that's 2. And why doesn't it matter that it'd be sooooo very easy to set up patrice May 2013 #55
BENGHAZI! The Kooky Game for Fox News Morons! FSogol May 2013 #56
The power of advertising. Octafish May 2013 #57
That woman has spent a significant part of her career Skidmore May 2013 #58
Waaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrgggghhhh Blarrrrgggghhh Waarrrghhlllll Warren DeMontague May 2013 #59
BENGHAZI! is South Carolina slang for anal sex kenny blankenship May 2013 #66
I thought Benghazi was the point at which no more santorum was coming out. randome May 2013 #71
Because Benghazi is pure, unaltered bullshit!!!! Initech May 2013 #67
"Please proceed governor" applegrove May 2013 #68
Corporatemediawhore reporting that the goPropaganda Machine is Cha May 2013 #69
it's a solidly republican district from what i understood. why would a democrat win? HiPointDem May 2013 #70

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
5. She looked so goddamn smug.
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:10 AM
May 2013

Elijah Cummings was so good in that segment! He was very, very clear about how the repubs on that committee were trying to put "words in the mouth" of that foreign service officer...he referred to the sworn testimony of that officer several times in rebuttal of the picture the republicans were painting.

DallasNE

(7,402 posts)
24. Leading The Witness
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:56 AM
May 2013

Was what I thought as I caught segments of the testimony and something that is rather unethical. But then we are dealing with Republicans here.

 

JaneyVee

(19,877 posts)
4. Maybe because it's a 6 month old news story with no new developments..
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:09 AM
May 2013

Even though it in fact IS being covered by the media.

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
6. Page 17 in the New York Times this morning...I had to hunt for it...
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:13 AM
May 2013

how long before Joe wakes up to the fact that this is simply not going to fly. Even Cokie Roberts said that repuke politicization particularly of the Clinton testimony would bounce back on them...

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
8. In this case, you have loss of sanity by right wingers...it's really interesting in a clinical
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:17 AM
May 2013

sort of way....

bemildred

(90,061 posts)
9. We are all nuts, big semi-deranged sex-and-status crazed apes.
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:22 AM
May 2013

But some of us are more nuts than others, and believe in superstitions and speculations and outright lies that just make us feel better. And I do think it can be called clinical, but I don't intend to start any fights so I'm not getting into why.

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
10. well, we do have our own conspiracy theorists but they are not mainstreamed into our
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:28 AM
May 2013

homes via TV the way this Benghazi thing is by the REpublicans. That is what I mean when I use the term "clinical." They take these flying leaps again and again and land flat on their faces each time. It is beginning to look like a Roadrunner cartoon...

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
13. well, they certainly have a big megaphone for their CS theories...
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:33 AM
May 2013

but you'd think they'd give up after all this time. It's getting more and more ridiculous for them and they are going to suffer for it...

bemildred

(90,061 posts)
14. True, the noise bazooka is not for the peons.
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:34 AM
May 2013

But that was my original subject. The Pubbies are in a corner and have nowhere to go nationally, History is in the process of dumping them in the ashbin. So of course they will say anything.

I expect a new "progressive" Republican Party to rise and give the Blue Dogs competition from the left eventually, there is no place else for them to go.

All I will say about theory is that theories are a dime-a-dozen, very easy to come up with, but on the other hand, theories that you can support, "prove" and rely on to get around in life, those are hard to come by and worth a lot.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
20. The strange thing is how they take flying leaps from the cliffs of previous flying leaps.
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:50 AM
May 2013

Do you know what I mean?

They begin with a very extreme interpretation of one, usually completely benign, piece of information. On that, they build an elaborate story. Then they build a new elaborate story on top of that one. And so on, and so on.

It always reminds me of the ramshackle housing you see in some very poor parts of the world, where a makeshift shack ends up forming the wall and part of a floor for several other makeshift shacks that look like they're all going to collapse at any moment. The difference is that, with arguments, all the added garbage only seems to reinforce the whole thing.

Response to CTyankee (Original post)

 

datasuspect

(26,591 posts)
16. what's this "we" shit?
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:42 AM
May 2013

ur post is almost laughable. and transparent as all hell.

ur doing it wrong.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
17. And what mistake are we to wring
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:44 AM
May 2013

our hands about? This isn't the first embassy attack and it wont be the last. Funny how it wasn't until there was a Democrat in the White House that this became a huge scandal. Nobody is saying losing 4 American lives overseas is not a big deal, they're saying the pubs are pretending to give a shit about dead Americans only to hurt the President and former Sec of State.

JHB

(37,158 posts)
32. I think we're supposed to shake our heads solemnly...
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:11 AM
May 2013

...as we look at the big cloud the Republicans are pointing to while saying "where there's smoke...", and never take a sniff to notice that it doesn't smell like smoke.

In fact it looks and smells suspiciously like the fogbanks of steam rising off mountains of elephant shit that Republicans also pointed to and said "where there's smoke..." back during the Clinton administration.

JoePhilly

(27,787 posts)
23. What mistake was made?? ... please be specific.
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:52 AM
May 2013

4 Americans were killed, and the details around that are now pretty well understood.

The GOP is not trying to figure out how a situation like that in Bengazhi could be prevented. Their hearings are not about improving security. Its not about how such security is funded (funding they voted to cut btw).

They are complaining about one set of media talking points, in which Susan Rice indicated that the information they had was incomplete.

What the GOP is proving is that dead Americans, after 9/11/2001, or after Benghazi, are nothing more than political props to them.

They are uninterested in what actually happened, and totally focused on trying to find any form of political gain from any aspect of the deaths. And they are willing to hold an endless series of investigations to that end.

This is not surprising. They don't intend on governing. They are never interested in that.

They will probably hunt until they find that some one got a BJ somewhere in Bengahzi.

 

nebenaube

(3,496 posts)
36. A really good October surprise just didn't work out as planned...
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:18 AM
May 2013

My tin foil is tight, thank you.

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
25. Clinton already DID that, svannahmann! She fully supported the findings of the commission
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:57 AM
May 2013

formed to investigate what happened. She took full responsibilty. Later she went to the Hill and gave sworn testimony. To believe that she would lie under oath before a congressional committee is pretty damn serious.

Maybe as a PR matter it would have been better had the official response been clearer, but there certainly WAS a "fog of war" argument to be made.

mountain grammy

(26,619 posts)
38. Exactly, thank you. All questions were asked and answered
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:24 AM
May 2013

except the ones Republicans pulled out of their ass, or Alex Jones' ass, like the question about Turkey.
Unlike the previous administration who took no responsiblity for their negligence resulting in 9/11 and all other foreign policy disasters that followed, this one was up front and took the blame. Those who want to follow the idiocy on Fox or crazy conspiracy crap won't believe anything except what they want based on no facts at all.

 

JaneyVee

(19,877 posts)
28. LOL.
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:03 AM
May 2013

Hilarious the conservative argument has went from a nefarious cover-up of dead diplomat's while Obama watched in real-time and purposely let people die while laughing like Satan to the State Dept. revised its story as facts became more clear. Ooookay. Maybe conservatives over-reacted just a bit?

DallasNE

(7,402 posts)
34. This Was Actually A Defeat For The Terrorists
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:17 AM
May 2013

Libyan forces killed nearly 100 of the terrorists so that severely disrupted their ability to strike again as the mole got whacked hard. Also, the Ambassador was dead within 20 minutes of the start of the attack so it is doubtful that even if America had a flat-top full of helicopters in international waters off of Tripoli that they could have saved American lives. (Tripoli is where our Embassy is located). About the only question I can think of is whether we should have opened the Consulate office in Benghazi that soon after Kaddafi was deposed. The CIA had no warning of a potential attack at this location and you can't cover all of the "what if" possibilities.

 

Savannahmann

(3,891 posts)
40. But we aren't telling that story.
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:29 AM
May 2013

All we are saying is that it happened a long time ago, that's all that Jay Carney said two days ago during the briefing.

The only people talking about it are MSNBC, which has the lowest viewership of the cable news, and is much less viewed than the broadcast news. When asked about Benghazi, why isn't Carney telling the story, over and over again, every day if that is what it takes? Instead we say it's Republican BS, but we don't explain why it's Republican BS where the press, and the people, can see it.

It was covered. Once, perhaps. Then on page 17 of the NY Times, or even farther back.

Carney should be shouting it from the rooftops every time someone mentions it. He should call on people just so he can get the message out.

The mistake? (I know it wasn't your reply but I'm not going to type long replies to everyone who demanded information while ignore the less intelligent who think I am an Alex Jones follower) The mistake was when in the first few days we said it was because of a video. That was the mistake. Yes, we acknowledged that mistake. Again, Carney should say whenever this is brought up the same information time and time again. When our side asks questions at the hearings, we should highlight that information, we made a mistake, and we acknowledged it on this date, and wouldn't you agree that if there is anything to learn it's about cutting funding for embassy security?

We aren't. We just say there is nothing here, time to move on. So the Meme get's going, and the people believe it is a cover up. Convincing those of us here isn't hard. We want to believe our leadership. The people out there are wondering, and all of those wondering are not RW racist homophobic hate filled folks. They are people who voted for us in the past, and if we want them to support us in the future, we have to work for it, and earn it.

SalviaBlue

(2,916 posts)
50. If the right wing wants to push meme they will do it no matter what.
Fri May 10, 2013, 11:14 AM
May 2013

They should be ignored or treated like the insane crazies they are.

DallasNE

(7,402 posts)
64. There Was Confusion
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:42 PM
May 2013

See post #44. The confusion could well have been a tactical part of the attack. When there is confusion it is best not to jump to conclusions and take the time necessary to sort it all out. That looks to be what happened here. Everybody was in agreement that it was an act of terrorism -- Romney learned a hard lesson on that in the 2nd debate. But it had to be sorted out whether it was an al Qaeda affiliated group or some old Kaddafi loyalists and also to reconcile some statements on the ground that it was the video when that turned out to just be a smoke screen.

Security was inadequate and that needs to be fixed.

janlyn

(735 posts)
42. riiiight!!!
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:49 AM
May 2013

the Republicans should absolutely admit that the financial cut to the state dept.was a mistake. Who knew that it costs money for security at embassies!!!

Good try!! I give it a 6 on the troll scale.

Ganja Ninja

(15,953 posts)
19. I think the Media should be covering the story.
Fri May 10, 2013, 09:48 AM
May 2013

They should be covering how the GOP cut the requested funding for security.
They should be covering the previous lack of outrage by Republicans & Fox News for Embassy attacks during the Bush administration.
They should be covering the story of how FOX whips up hysteria and tries to create a story all out of proportion with nothing more than innuendo and over dramatization.
They should be covering the story of how the Republican Congress has already held 10 hearings on Benghazi and still has produced little if any useful information meanwhile using the opportunity to make false claims and repeat wild accusations.
They should be covering the collusion between the FOX Network and the GOP and how they have used this formula on not just this story but story after story for years.

BlueCaliDem

(15,438 posts)
31. ^^^This!^^^
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:11 AM
May 2013

Also, the Democrats should be pointing this out. It would show just how petty and partisan the Republicans have become, and how they're trying to use everything they can to undermine this administration and a potential Hillary run.

This is why, when anyone says that President Obama should use the "bully pulpit" to do anything, I keep telling them, there's no such thing as a bully pulpit anymore. It's all corporate media all of the time, and corporate media prefer Republicans. That's why they can get away with a lot of shit and never be called to task.

LeftInTX

(25,272 posts)
65. And ^^^This!^^^
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:43 PM
May 2013
Also, the Democrats should be pointing this out. It would show just how petty and partisan the Republicans have become, and how they're trying to use everything they can to undermine this administration and a potential Hillary run.

Us Dems on the intertube are pointing it out, but we need some Dems with more visibility, like those in congress. Yes, the media seems to favor the Rs, but I don't get the impression that Dems in congress are making a stink. Even if the corporate media shuts them out, they could still put it on their websites.

Maybe a congress critter's webpage could say something like this:

I am congress critter XYZ and I am proud of our foreign policy under Obama. We ended the war in Iraq. We are ending the war in Afghanistan. We caught OBL. We are not rushing into war with Syria. We are not lying about WMD as the Bush administration did. This led to the loss of over 3,000 lives. The Republicans have one goal in mind: They want more wars. They truly believe that Americans should fore-go vital domestic programs and pursue needless wars instead. They want your sons and daughters to die for them. And that is why they are pushing Benghazi. They want to create the impression that Democrats are soft on defense and terrorism. They want us to go to war with Iran and Syria............ (Yeah it sounds kinda silly the way I wrote it, but with enough editing it could be something coherent)


Note: I personally think the Benghazi witch hunt is also about their war mongering. If they get rid of Dem, suppress Dems, make Dems appear soft on defense or put pressure on Dems then they get to have more wars!!

aikoaiko

(34,169 posts)
26. The republicans master the "dog whistle" technique
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:01 AM
May 2013

We generally don't roll that way (and I think that is good), but damn they are gifted at mobilizing their base with a soundbyte.


CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
29. They are risking a big pushback politically, tho. That's the downside that they somehow
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:06 AM
May 2013

haven't thrown into the equation here. People LIKE Hillary, even some republicans like her. They LIKE the job she did representing U.S. interests as our Secretary of State. They are beginning to look like rabid dogs and mainstream voters turn OFF when presented with them...this is going to be a big MINUS for the repub party...

 

xtraxritical

(3,576 posts)
46. I don't like anything Clinton. Give me Elizabeth Warren or Bernie Sanders or Raul Gravila (sic).
Fri May 10, 2013, 11:05 AM
May 2013

The Clinton's and their NAFTA money changers need to be kicked out of the temple. If more Clinton's is the direction of the Democratic party count me out.

Occulus

(20,599 posts)
63. Me either. I *will not* vote for Hillary, even if she is the nominee.
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:40 PM
May 2013

No, I don't care if she's the best we can do, because if that's the case, we deserve to lose just for being that damned pathetic. I will not vote for another Clinton, especially Hillary. Not now, not later, not ever.

One lubeless, triple screw with a smile (NAFTA, DOMA, DADT) was quite enough to permanently cement my refusal of everything Clinton, and she and her husband's policies and positions are joined at the skull whether or not some here fail to see that.

Not just no. Fuck no.

DainBramaged

(39,191 posts)
33. I BET if you asked any of them where Benghazi was
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:13 AM
May 2013

one in one hundred would know exactly other than 'the Middle East'.


Stupid people shouldn't breed, but they do.

Gidney N Cloyd

(19,833 posts)
41. Did O'Donnell mean general public-- voters-- were saying 'Benghazi' to her? Somehow I got the...
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:46 AM
May 2013

...image in my head of repub operatives and campaign honchos. (Maybe she just doesn't seem to me like the kind of person who likes to get out and rub elbows with the common folk but I guess I shouldn't make that leap.)

CTyankee

(63,909 posts)
62. She said "people" but I think she meant voters. Interesting that she didn't say
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:16 PM
May 2013

Republican voters. She said that they wondered why the media wasn't covering Benghazi.

Fuddnik

(8,846 posts)
43. I talked to my 84 year old father in SC yesterday.
Fri May 10, 2013, 10:49 AM
May 2013

That's all he squawked about, Benghazi, Benghazi, Benghazi.

 

JEB

(4,748 posts)
52. This phony Benghazi outrage
Fri May 10, 2013, 11:32 AM
May 2013

reminds me of Terri Schiavo. GOP stampede for the microphone facts be damned aided by the compliant media. Disgusting really.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
53. Sure they were, Kelly. In a whisper. In the dead of night. In harmony.
Fri May 10, 2013, 11:35 AM
May 2013

Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi. Benghazi.

Were there drums, too?



[hr]
[font color="blue"][center]Stop looking for heroes. BE one.[/center][/font]
[hr]

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
54. "Arrrhhh! Benghazi! Arrrhhh!"
Fri May 10, 2013, 11:38 AM
May 2013


[hr]
[font color="blue"][center]Stop looking for heroes. BE one.[/center][/font]
[hr]

patrice

(47,992 posts)
55. People? Technically, that's 2. And why doesn't it matter that it'd be sooooo very easy to set up
Fri May 10, 2013, 12:29 PM
May 2013

something like that with a few stringers.

FSogol

(45,481 posts)
56. BENGHAZI! The Kooky Game for Fox News Morons!
Fri May 10, 2013, 12:36 PM
May 2013

Manipulate an tragedy to wreck careers! Create innuendos of wrong doing to slime your opponents!
Whip mouth breathing tea party idjits into a foaming frenzy of uncomprehending anger!

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
58. That woman has spent a significant part of her career
Fri May 10, 2013, 12:47 PM
May 2013

following Joh McCain around. She has always struck me as being protective of him and those who ally with him. I don't see her as as a dispassionate reporter.

kenny blankenship

(15,689 posts)
66. BENGHAZI! is South Carolina slang for anal sex
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:43 PM
May 2013

It's true. People down there were grabbing her and yelling "Benghazi!" I'm afraid Kelly was a victim of a vicious rumor about her recently going around South Carolina. I'm afraid I started it.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
71. I thought Benghazi was the point at which no more santorum was coming out.
Sat May 11, 2013, 07:10 AM
May 2013

As in 'He's Benghazi-ed. Please proceed, Governor."

[hr]
[font color="blue"][center]Stop looking for heroes. BE one.[/center][/font]
[hr]

Initech

(100,065 posts)
67. Because Benghazi is pure, unaltered bullshit!!!!
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:51 PM
May 2013

That's why you're not hearing about it - everything the Fox News sheeple are saying is based off a fabricated conspiracy theory, it has no relevance!

Cha

(297,160 posts)
69. Corporatemediawhore reporting that the goPropaganda Machine is
Sat May 11, 2013, 04:11 AM
May 2013

working!

That's what we were saying.. that this Benghazie 24/7 is about 2016 And 2014 Elections. turns out we missed a year.

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