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uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
Tue May 21, 2013, 09:28 PM May 2013

"Help That’s Helpful: Do’s and Don’ts After Disaster" and where to donate/volunteer, pets

Written by a survivor of the 2012 Heneryville tornado and shared because I think it is really good. Volunteering, donations and stuff for pets is in my first reply rather than OP.

http://forthesomedaybook.wordpress.com/2013/05/21/help-thats-helpful-dos-and-donts-after-disaster/

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All compassionate people want to respond, to help, to do something in response to tragedy. This impulse is good, because the people of Moore, Oklahoma will require outside aid, volunteers and resources to help them in their recovery. However, many well-meaning people and organizations give “help” that is far less than helpful, and may actually be harmful to the recovery process. I went looking tonight for a list of “do’s and don’t’s” for how to help after a disaster, but I didn’t find any lists that were more specific than “send cash, not stuff.” So I made my own.

As one who has worked closely with tornado recovery efforts in the last 14 months, I would like to offer these DO’s and DON’T’s, so that you can help in ways that are the most helpful, and avoid the ways that are not.

DO NOT
DO NOT send “stuff,” unless you specifically know it is wanted, needed and has a clear destination. The avalanche of used clothing, toiletries, canned goods, furniture and household supplies that pours in after a disaster can become a “secondary disaster” for a community, as organizations are forced to set aside the actual needs of survivors in order to attend to the mountains of stuff arriving at their doorstep. People who have lost their homes won’t need household goods and furniture for many months, and don’t have anywhere to cook your can of Campbell’s Chicken Noodle.
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DO
DO: Donate money. But not just today. While organizations like Red Cross and Salvation Army do amazing work feeding and sheltering people in the immediate aftermath, they do not rebuild homes or communities. Local leaders and faith-based organizations pick up the work of long-term recovery, and they will need major dollars for construction, case management, survivor support and more. Sure, send $10 via text message today, but wait to mail a check for $100 or $1,000, and send it to groups involved in long-term recovery efforts. Be careful to give to reputable, established organizations only. No matter what your faith or cause, there’s a group for you.

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kentauros

(29,414 posts)
4. Here's another great organization AsahinaKimi informed me about back when Japan
Tue May 21, 2013, 10:51 PM
May 2013

had the tsunami hit:

Global Giving - Oklahoma Tornado Relief Fund

I just donated to them this evening. They do good (and long-term) work

kentauros

(29,414 posts)
6. You're welcome :)
Tue May 21, 2013, 11:00 PM
May 2013

And that's a great list provided in the OP, especially with regard to long-term helping.

kentauros

(29,414 posts)
9. You're welcome :)
Tue May 21, 2013, 11:34 PM
May 2013

The only other one to come to mind was the Salvation Army, and they're mentioned in the link. As I recall from donating to them for the Joplin disaster was that they also do long-term help.

 

sad-cafe

(1,277 posts)
10. Thank you for this
Wed May 22, 2013, 12:08 AM
May 2013

this is excellent.



it seems like everyone wants to do right now....and it will take a long while even a year or two to realize you need somethign and won't have the funds. There isn't a quick fix give money now and forget about it. People who go through these things will be years down the road and still have needs and can still be devestated.


Guilt plays a part as well. Wh was my house not as bad as theirs, why did we live when they didn't and all of that. All kinds of emotions will cover the span of years.




This link is awesome. Thank you

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
11. Thanks for checking it out. An OK friend posted these on her facebook page. Was busy today....
Wed May 22, 2013, 12:18 AM
May 2013


"We unloaded trucks, sorted food and house hold supplies and helped folks coming in to get those supplies. We took hot dogs--and mustard--sandwiches, drinks, snacks, leather gloves and various stuff to the streets. There were folks who have no way out of their neighborhood -no transport- and folks there to work on their homes."

And more. I made the mistake post-Katrina of shipping donated stuff that turned out to be useless at best. We want to help, to reach out, and figuring out how is difficult. My community raised a bunch of money for Red Cross which went into the general coffers, so then a bunch filled a bus with stuff and went down to help. It is all a learning experience and so many want to help, are grieving from afar.

It takes years to process within yourself after a disaster, and it is just weird. Hope you know what I mean. Best wishes to you and to all affected by this disaster. And the other tornadoes and crap. There is such potential for bad things to happen, people don't really need to do bad things to each other. Rambling, sorry.

winter is coming

(11,785 posts)
13. Let me add one more excerpt...
Wed May 22, 2013, 12:20 AM
May 2013
DO NOT say dumb things like “I know what you are going through,” because you don’t. Only if you’ve lost a child or lived through a disaster do you have some first-hand knowledge and empathy to share. Even then, be cautious. Not everyone will feel the same way you do. It’s doubly presumptuous to say you know what people are feeling if you’ve never even been in a similar situation.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
14. I have a difficult time with "god heard us and saved us" because to me it means god didn't
Wed May 22, 2013, 12:22 AM
May 2013

hear those who died, but if it makes them feel better, I keep my thoughts to myself. It isn't about me but them.

Adding on to "not everyone will feel the same way you do". Be gentle. And thank you, that is really good.

winter is coming

(11,785 posts)
15. Yeah, I always get that implication (that God didn't hear others), too. I don't even bring
Wed May 22, 2013, 12:25 AM
May 2013

up religion if I'm comforting someone unless they introduce the subject first. Even people with religious beliefs might not want/need that after a traumatic event, or perhaps they do, but not from me.

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