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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsRe: Ignores and blocked mail. Do y'all really PM one another all the time?
I hardly ever have a private conversation with anyone, and almost never backstage talk about a thread. Might be more than anyone wants out there, and I understand if not, but I must admit I'm curious. Am I just not in on the gossip?
And hey, it ain't an invite!
Purveyor
(29,876 posts)those numbers up, indeed!
Tx4obama
(36,974 posts)nolabear
(41,938 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)But still maintain a friendship via pms that transcends political views, another who shoots the shit with me and asks me stuff when a thread goes into my expertise. Its a good way to talk to people without putting everything out there. One thing i hate is seeing people using pms to get info and then running to the thread to out someone.
Apophis
(1,407 posts)Before that, never.
enough
(13,255 posts)Tx4obama
(36,974 posts)then click on 'Transparency' tab, then click on the 'Show me my Transparency page' link
then look in the 'Member Feedback' section
enough
(13,255 posts)kentauros
(29,414 posts)to be in on the real gossip!
nolabear
(41,938 posts)But I salute all yo who choose to serve.
kentauros
(29,414 posts)Although our little group is mostly harmless, and thus, easy to moderate.
I wilt at the idea of being a host around here!
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)There's some petty, gossipy, backstabbling, personal-vendetta taking shit that goes on in there.
kentauros
(29,414 posts)I knew their reputation going in, and have kept our group problems "in house".
So, how's Meta-II (Hosts Forum) these days?
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)How goes it with The Committee these days? Still enjoying your demi-god status or is that wearing off yet?
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)is continuing their vigilance on those "watched" participants as you never know when one might break out in independent thought.
And thanks for the invitation to your group but I'm afraid I'll have to pass this time. See above reference.
kentauros
(29,414 posts)It's the civility concept that some have a difficult time figuring out
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)Except, of course when civility is confused with groupthink.
kentauros
(29,414 posts)and see where the problem(s) arose. Plenty of people of all kinds of thinking saw the problem for what it was, and not "groupthink". Civility is pretty easy to figure out for most of us. Some have that antagonizing way of thinking and it comes out of their keyboards automatically. They often don't see the problem in that and why we call it out for not playing nice.
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)"Plenty of people of all kinds of thinking saw the problem for what it was, and not "groupthink". " LOL! Thank you for making my point. Perfect timing!
kentauros
(29,414 posts)Glad I was able to entertain you, though. Have a nice day.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)I have gotten some PMs and sent some PMs, but probably the last twenty PMs start like this "results of your jury service".
But very rarely is a PM about gossip, in my experience.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)Quick, somebody PM me and let me know what's going on!
kentauros
(29,414 posts)Type louder!
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)Have you heard the news about Generalissimo Francisco Franco?
nolabear
(41,938 posts)Inquiring minds...
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)winter is coming
(11,785 posts)kentauros
(29,414 posts)Oh. That's very different.
Never mind.
(I was just watching some of Richard Pryor: Live at the Sunset Strip. It never gets old!)
winter is coming
(11,785 posts)Seriously, I rarely send/receive PMs. No idea whether that's typical.
nolabear
(41,938 posts)pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)You have the nolabear exception.
nolabear
(41,938 posts)hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)sometimes about hosting or say hello to a friend or two.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I have sent one or two randomly patting people on the back for posting amazing things. And responded to people or made plans to meet up years ago.
But I have gotten a few really nasty angry PMs and I think they just wanted to say something disturbing that wouldn't get hidden or out themselves as nasty people. Weird.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)But making up something disturbing and weird might be more of a challenge.
Would you settle for cute kitty pics?
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)I hardly ever get a PM.
it's all good.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)But I'm not in one so I only get the jury messages.
nolabear
(41,938 posts)Javaman
(62,504 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)had to block some tool that insulted me.
graham4anything
(11,464 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)do with DU.
siligut
(12,272 posts)It was called cliquish behavior when in the lounge, and created a problem a while back. I get the impression that some people still do it because I have been PMed "feelers".
You don't want to be in on the gossip, but I think you already know this.
nolabear
(41,938 posts)KG
(28,751 posts)then being blocked from replying by that person.
I still get and send occasional PMs from fellow old timers...
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)in an ATA thread. Sometimes I have "private" conversations about different topics, including things I don't think are appropriate for general discussion (health stuff, baby stuff, or my volunteer projects).
I was once invited to a discussion by a person who is now on "Ignore" who kind of had some issues with reality and truth (if you know what I mean).
I've been here a long time; sometimes friends and I reach out via PM.
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)several years ago, mostly lounge lizards, who had a little PM clique going on. I got privy to one of them about me. Think Jr. High School and then bring it down a couple of notches and you get the idea. Other than that, I PM people maybe 10-15 times a year and get the same back. A lot of times its just about something they posted that I want to know more about. For example, I got some great advice from some of our DU artisans on how to sell your stuff at Craft's Fairs, stuff like that.
nolabear
(41,938 posts)I mean asking for details on something or now and then exchanging info or poetry or such but nothing I can imagine would lead to being blocked. I wondered if people were back there lobbing snowballs and I didn't have a clue.
Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)more of an eyeroll moment: I always figured anyone who would spend their time like that doesn't have nearly enough to do.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)don't complain later on about how no one ever told you about the DU meetup and sex festival
nolabear
(41,938 posts)And "Whew!"
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)rl6214
(8,142 posts)hollysmom
(5,946 posts)reason I would contact someone is to thank them for an old post or because the thread has been closed. To ask for more information, never too old to learn, or to discuss something that would not be interesting to others. or because a friend of mine posts here.
I don't know people well enough to gossip.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Not so much these days.
FWIW (about my life) all too personal for public knowledge, not about other DUers (usually).