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malaise

(268,916 posts)
Thu Jun 20, 2013, 10:33 PM Jun 2013

One in three women suffers violence, WHO global study finds

WHO research reveals shocking extent of attacks on women, the vast majority of which are carried out by male partners
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2013/jun/20/one-in-three-women-suffers-violence
<snip>

More than a third of all women worldwide – 35.6% – will experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime, usually from a male partner, according to the first comprehensive study of its kind from the World Health Organisation (WHO).

The report reveals the shocking extent of attacks on women from the men with whom they share their lives, with 30% of women being attacked by partners. It also finds that a large proportion of murders of women – 38% – are carried out by intimate partners.

"These findings send a powerful message that violence against women is a global health problem of epidemic proportions," said Dr Margaret Chan, director general of the WHO. "We also see that the world's health systems can and must do more for women who experience violence."
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Frightening indeed!

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One in three women suffers violence, WHO global study finds (Original Post) malaise Jun 2013 OP
k and r--and waiting for the usual suspects niyad Jun 2013 #1
What typically happens in these threads... Bonobo Jun 2013 #2
as has been pointed out before, there is nothing stopping you or any of the others so niyad Jun 2013 #5
If you don't want a deflection, I invite you to lay off the snarky invitation. Bonobo Jun 2013 #7
again, nice try. as I said, YOU can post about your chosen subject. AND, you do not put words niyad Jun 2013 #8
Uh oh! You broke out the remdi95! Bonobo Jun 2013 #10
Why does it matter? BainsBane Jun 2013 #41
It takes a particular kind of person to respond to this kind of news BainsBane Jun 2013 #14
the response, of course, does not surprise any of us. goddess forfend we should discuss issues niyad Jun 2013 #17
Me either BainsBane Jun 2013 #18
no usually the title or the OP will make it about themself. hfojvt Jun 2013 #34
How awful for you to have to endure such abuse BainsBane Jun 2013 #35
or maybe some men just cannot stand for women to talk about themselves for even a mnute. niyad Jun 2013 #37
Reality = women's lives don't count BainsBane Jun 2013 #42
sure that's what I am trying to say hfojvt Jun 2013 #58
just because you spend time with the women of your family does not indicate that you care niyad Jun 2013 #59
perhaps logic 101 would tell you something different hfojvt Jun 2013 #74
as we keep pointing out, you are free to post about male victims as much as you like. the fact niyad Jun 2013 #75
am I also free to not have you boss me around hfojvt Jun 2013 #76
bossing you around? that is one of the funniest things I have heard today. pointing out that niyad Jun 2013 #79
"or maybe some men just cannot stand for women to talk about themselves for even a minute" MadrasT Jun 2013 #46
This is GD. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #52
even the so-called "safe haven" groups are not safe from a certain mindset. niyad Jun 2013 #60
It's a catch-22. It IS blaming the victim, but since men aren't victims it's okay. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #51
That doesn't come as a surprise to any woman. Beacool Jun 2013 #3
Truthfully one in three is a surprise to me malaise Jun 2013 #4
Truthfully, I thought it would be higher BainsBane Jun 2013 #15
I am the 35.6% bunnies Jun 2013 #6
Hope you're an ex-member of the 35.6% malaise Jun 2013 #24
Yes. I am. bunnies Jun 2013 #26
So am I BainsBane Jun 2013 #43
okay so I am reading GD and I see this thread hfojvt Jun 2013 #9
why are we not surprised? niyad Jun 2013 #19
who is this "we"? hfojvt Jun 2013 #33
Add me to the we BainsBane Jun 2013 #44
umm. that makes no sense. nt La Lioness Priyanka Jun 2013 #47
maybe you had to be there hfojvt Jun 2013 #57
Girls should get self-defense training marions ghost Jun 2013 #11
NO--girls should get self-defense, martial arts, starting in pre-school. females experience niyad Jun 2013 #12
OK let's say at least marions ghost Jun 2013 #20
Boys and men should get training to not treat women and girls like that. n/t Whisp Jun 2013 #16
that, too. niyad Jun 2013 #21
When everything in society tells boys it's OK marions ghost Jun 2013 #25
That does nothing to end it. redqueen Jun 2013 #22
It is a primary line of defense marions ghost Jun 2013 #27
Fine. But shouldn't BOYS get training early on NOT to do the abuse in the first place? CTyankee Jun 2013 #80
Ideally boys would be trained not to abuse marions ghost Jun 2013 #81
I'm not against strategies for self defense of anyone, but it seems to me that the offenders should CTyankee Jun 2013 #82
I don't see it as either/or marions ghost Jun 2013 #90
85% of them at the hands of a partner BainsBane Jun 2013 #13
I would be curious to know what that figure is for men. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #23
A percentage is not easy to come by... bunnies Jun 2013 #28
I'm curious about that too. bemildred Jun 2013 #30
Historically and today the answer is the same Major Nikon Jun 2013 #49
That's what I thought. bemildred Jun 2013 #53
Can't you taste the privilege? Nt galileoreloaded Jun 2013 #61
Oh I can see male privilege, it's quite real, I'm pointing out it can get pretty expensive too. nt bemildred Jun 2013 #64
And chickens lay eggs BainsBane Jun 2013 #93
Do you not like the answer I gave? Major Nikon Jun 2013 #94
Read the report BainsBane Jun 2013 #86
I wasn't that curious. nt bemildred Jun 2013 #87
I didn't think so BainsBane Jun 2013 #88
Quite. nt bemildred Jun 2013 #89
you could look it up, if you are, indeed, that curious. niyad Jun 2013 #38
Reading is too much work BainsBane Jun 2013 #91
Most men experience violence outside BainsBane Jun 2013 #48
a) you're talking to me. Not "you all". lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #50
Silence enables abuse BainsBane Jun 2013 #54
Yes it does. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #56
read the report BainsBane Jun 2013 #65
"And with that, she flung herself from the room..." lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #72
Ludicrous assumption BainsBane Jun 2013 #73
And with this galileoreloaded Jun 2013 #62
I'm not talking to you BainsBane Jun 2013 #66
clearly, because i deal in logic, and that statement was borderline galileoreloaded Jun 2013 #68
Borderline? BainsBane Jun 2013 #69
I was referring to Cluster 2 BPD. That statement, and some others, but that one galileoreloaded Jun 2013 #78
Your efforts to stigmatize the mentally ill are repulsive BainsBane Jun 2013 #83
That's not really what your first response said. :( galileoreloaded Jun 2013 #92
I have to agree malaise Jun 2013 #67
Of course the OP is about women... out of necessity. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #71
Again, your refusal to read is astounding BainsBane Jun 2013 #84
I think it's probably higher Marrah_G Jun 2013 #29
Yeah, I find that pretty low. nt bemildred Jun 2013 #31
Much higher if you include threats. Hatchling Jun 2013 #55
It would be interesting to see what percentage of men abuse 35.6% of women lunatica Jun 2013 #32
85% of those women are abused by their partners BainsBane Jun 2013 #36
I was suggesting that the study may not be as comprehensive as it could be lunatica Jun 2013 #39
No, they give a regional breakdown BainsBane Jun 2013 #40
Given the absolutely astounding "blame the victim" liberalhistorian Jun 2013 #45
oh my ******* god--I missed that one. I would say I am going to be ill, but, sadly, the mindset niyad Jun 2013 #63
Beg your pardon? Cerridwen Jun 2013 #70
WTF are you babbling about? liberalhistorian Jun 2013 #77
Apparently BainsBane Jun 2013 #85
I know, pretty sad and liberalhistorian Jun 2013 #95

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
2. What typically happens in these threads...
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 12:32 AM
Jun 2013

Is that someone points out that more men are victims of violence, murder, jail, war, etc...

And then YOU say, "But it is other men that do that to them"

But I can never understand why it matters that the person doing the violence has the same genitalia as the victim.

It is almost as if you are blaming the victim. Male victims are not really victims because they both have penises?

It's well...kinda weird.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
5. as has been pointed out before, there is nothing stopping you or any of the others so
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 09:58 AM
Jun 2013

concerned with male on male violence, to post threads on that subject. nice try at the usual deflection, though. promulgating arguments you say others are going to make, and then answering these unmade statements.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
7. If you don't want a deflection, I invite you to lay off the snarky invitation.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 10:02 AM
Jun 2013

You asked for the usual suspects.

AND you, of course, have no answer for the glaring fact that you blame male victims because they share the same genitalia as their attackers.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
8. again, nice try. as I said, YOU can post about your chosen subject. AND, you do not put words
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 10:12 AM
Jun 2013

in my mouth, because I never said any such thing about male on male violence. but keep trying, someone might actually believe you. remdi95

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
10. Uh oh! You broke out the remdi95!
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 10:39 AM
Jun 2013

Actually I can post about my chosen subject wherever I like -and I will.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
41. Why does it matter?
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:28 PM
Jun 2013

It only matters if one thinks women's lives have value. You never pass up an opportunity to demonstrate your view on that. You could read the report to get a clue about how it's different for women, but that would require giving a damn. Cue: goes back to his safe space to whine about how horrible it is for men to be subject to reports about endemic abuse and rape of women by their partners.


BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
14. It takes a particular kind of person to respond to this kind of news
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:14 AM
Jun 2013

by completely ignoring the serious world health and human rights concerns in order to make it all about oneself. Is it really to much to expect people to be able to care about something other than themselves?

niyad

(113,257 posts)
17. the response, of course, does not surprise any of us. goddess forfend we should discuss issues
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:19 AM
Jun 2013

of interest to women.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
34. no usually the title or the OP will make it about themself.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 12:44 PM
Jun 2013

the OP will not just say "one in three women experiences violence" is will often include some disparaging remark about men. "WTF is wrong with men?" or some such blanket attack.

At which point, it is about them, at least a little. And that somebody replies on that does not make it ALL about them. Maybe they care about opposing bigotry against groups. Maybe they care about injecting a little bit of reality into an otherwise black and white discussion. It's possible anyway.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
37. or maybe some men just cannot stand for women to talk about themselves for even a mnute.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 08:11 PM
Jun 2013

one can, of course, simply ignore those threads which annoy one. "injecting a little bit of reality into an otherwise black and white discussion"? I just LOVE the assumption that, without certain input, the discussion is not based in reality. but then, that sort of assumption is not exactly new, is it?

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
58. sure that's what I am trying to say
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 06:05 PM
Jun 2013

I mean, I spent yesterday at my niece's wedding and today hanging out at my sister's house with my nieces, my three sisters, my mom, my aunt, my cousin and her two young daughters, and some guys too, because I believe that women's lives don't count.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
59. just because you spend time with the women of your family does not indicate that you care
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 06:36 PM
Jun 2013

about the lives of women in general. your constant, dismissive attitude shows that. tell yourself whatever you like, what you post here on du tells us something very different.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
74. perhaps logic 101 would tell you something different
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 03:33 AM
Jun 2013

if A then B
not B
therefore not A

in this case A is "women's lives do not matter"

Since, my nieces. my sisters, my mom, my aunt are all women (except the niece who is only 12) then that would imply

B "my nieces', my sisters', my mom's lives do not matter"

B is false, therefore Not B.

therefore A is false as well, or Not A.

Irregardless of what you think you read in my post.

If I am dismissive of anything, it is not of the real problems that women face, it is of this "sex war" frame of "females = victims" and "men = oppressors". Yes, I do reject that. I think the real conflict in our society is not men vs. women, it is more like "all vs. all". It's women vs. women, women vs. men, men vs. women and men vs. men. To pretend that only one of those battles is happening, to narrow your focus to just one thing, and want to exclude all other concerns, is, in my view, not true to the real world. It is not so much, "what about the men?" as it is "what about the big picture?" To look at the big picture is not to dismiss any victim, it is to include all victims. To include male victims does not mean that "female victims do not matter" or "male victims are more important than female victims", it is simply to say that "male victims should matter too".

niyad

(113,257 posts)
75. as we keep pointing out, you are free to post about male victims as much as you like. the fact
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 10:03 AM
Jun 2013

that there is this constant whine about women talking about violence against women, without, quel horror, talking about the men, indicates that that is the real problem. women talking about themselves.

but keep trying. we all understand exactly what is going on.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
76. am I also free to not have you boss me around
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 02:02 PM
Jun 2013

I am free to start a thread if I choose (and what happens to a thread i start on almost ANY topic?)

In the same way, I am also free to NOT start a thread if I so choose.

The fact that I (quelle horror) choose to post in threads that others have started (and thus keep them alive and on the front page (again quelle horror) to disagree with things I think are wrong or narrow-minded, seems to me one of the purposes of a discussion board - for people to discuss.

And I may note, that I have NOT said anything in this thread about violence against men, EXCEPT in the context of a meta-discussion that was started by somebody else who said "why do some people always do X?"

Of course, that was meant to be a rhetorical question that "we all understand" the answer to - because they are sexist pigs with some kind of personal defect (whether that defect is intellectual, emotional, or some combination of every defect known to humanity). Except I proposed a different answer.

In fact, before ANYBODY "whined" about men, somebody else made a post about them. "Waiting for the usual suspects to show up and start whining about men" and then some people who felt they were being talked about, called out, and disparaged actually DID show up to talk about a subject that SOMEBODY ELSE had introduced.

Which sorta proves my theory, some men show up to talk about men, ONLY AFTER some OTHER people FIRST show up to BASH men, or even just to BASH the men who always show up to defend themselves after they have been bashed.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
79. bossing you around? that is one of the funniest things I have heard today. pointing out that
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 07:25 PM
Jun 2013

you are free to start a thread on a topic of your choosing is "bossing you around"?? wow.

but, keep trying. I really need the laughs.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
46. "or maybe some men just cannot stand for women to talk about themselves for even a minute"
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:36 PM
Jun 2013

^^^ THIS ^^^

Every. Single. Fucking. Time.

"BUT WHATTABOUT THE MEN!!!!!!"

Like clockwork.

I will not give the time of day to folks who make a habit of this.

It is pure derailing.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
52. This is GD.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:51 PM
Jun 2013

The thing you're complaining about is exactly why DU has created safe haven groups.

Take advantage of those groups to talk about and among yourselves to your hearts content. But if you come here to lecture the rest of us, you've brought me into the conversation.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
60. even the so-called "safe haven" groups are not safe from a certain mindset.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 06:40 PM
Jun 2013

since this is gd, we, of course, are also free to talk to our hearts' contents even here, and free to respond to the predictable commentary. Lecture? no, the ones doing the lecturing are the ones who cannot stand for women's issues to be brought into the light of day. and how interesting that you seem to be implying that women's issues have no business in any but the safe haven groups. I do hope I am wrong about that.
keep trying, though.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
51. It's a catch-22. It IS blaming the victim, but since men aren't victims it's okay.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:49 PM
Jun 2013

Exactly right.

malaise

(268,916 posts)
4. Truthfully one in three is a surprise to me
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 06:44 AM
Jun 2013

I know women who have been victims of violence but one third of all of us is shocking!

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
15. Truthfully, I thought it would be higher
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:16 AM
Jun 2013

I've read statistics than 1/3 is for the US, whereas the WHO has the region of the US and Western Europe at closer to 24%. Of course that could be balanced out by lower rates in Europe.

 

bunnies

(15,859 posts)
26. Yes. I am.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:34 AM
Jun 2013

It was a long time ago. Thankfully! Took me YEARS to get him completely out of my life though. That bastard.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
9. okay so I am reading GD and I see this thread
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 10:22 AM
Jun 2013

and the thread right below it says

"John Oliver savages Paula Deen"

Makes it more real when you name one of the victims.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
33. who is this "we"?
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 12:20 PM
Jun 2013

Is your real name "legion"? Do you represent the Aspersion Society of America when you post? Thanks for injecting a little disdain into my day. Truly, you are a light to the world.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
57. maybe you had to be there
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 05:49 PM
Jun 2013

for me I saw these thread titles together.

"One in three women suffers violence, WHO global study finds"
"John Oliver savages Paula Deen"

The juxtaposition seemed to give an example, right there, of Paula Deen suffering violence.

And although there is certainly nothing funny about people suffering violence, the proximity of those two threads struck me as funny. So I thought I would share that in an attempt to bring some humor to others.

Hopefully some laughed, and doubtless others didn't get it, but it kicks the thread anyway.

Others felt the need, to not only not laugh, but to throw some insults my way.

I guess that demonstrates that they are much better people than I am. Somehow.

marions ghost

(19,841 posts)
11. Girls should get self-defense training
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:05 AM
Jun 2013

in high school or college as a part of the curriculum. I guess that's NA in places where girls don't even get to go to school, but in more enlightened nations.

This could go a long way to helping end this. They need to learn where the line is and how to protect themselves. Too many women are psychologically vulnerable to abuse.

niyad

(113,257 posts)
12. NO--girls should get self-defense, martial arts, starting in pre-school. females experience
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:11 AM
Jun 2013

violence at every age, and the youngest amoung us should also know how to defend themselves.

marions ghost

(19,841 posts)
20. OK let's say at least
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:21 AM
Jun 2013

by the time they get out of high school they should have had self-defense training. I was referring more to the type of violence that women experience as teens or twenties when they begin to get into VOLUNTARY relationships with boys, not when they are preyed upon by pedophiles and child abusers. But you have a point.

marions ghost

(19,841 posts)
25. When everything in society tells boys it's OK
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:31 AM
Jun 2013

I think realistically you are looking more at self-defense as a primary strategy.

But if you have self-defense for boys also, the discussion of what is appropriate behavior & how to control aggression comes up and it could include how to respect girls and women, or "weaker" people in general, including children. I agree, it's not being taught at home by very many families. Too afraid their son will be a wuss.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
22. That does nothing to end it.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:26 AM
Jun 2013

That merely enables them to come out of the violent encounter with less serious injuries, maybe.

Treating symptoms is not the way to deal with this.

marions ghost

(19,841 posts)
27. It is a primary line of defense
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:39 AM
Jun 2013

that empowers the vulnerable.

Not only does self-defense training teach how better to handle a violent encounter, it gives women the psychological strength not to make themselves vulnerable in the first place. Self-defense training has positive effects in many aspects of life, including encountering abuse that does not involve physical attack, but which can be just as devastating.

It also sends a message to girls that society has your back and will support you if you are attacked. Self-defense can completely change a person's outlook and self-esteem. Give more confidence and maturity. I'd favor it for boys also.

--I'm not claiming this is the WHOLE answer to the problem--just that it would go far to helping women to NEVER form a victim mentality. I have other ideas too.

CTyankee

(63,901 posts)
80. Fine. But shouldn't BOYS get training early on NOT to do the abuse in the first place?
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 07:27 PM
Jun 2013

THEY are the ones doing the abuse. Why should just girls get "self-defense training"? I know we have to have it now but it SHOULD be something MALES take care of themselves, not leave it to young girls to fend of attackers on their own!

marions ghost

(19,841 posts)
81. Ideally boys would be trained not to abuse
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 07:51 PM
Jun 2013

but that is not what is happening generally. I don't think we're going back to the age of chivalry (not that it was so great anyway) anytime soon. Social behavior will need to be re-defined for a new age. Of course I agree that self-defense training is not the ONLY strategy

I think it will take decades, if not centuries, to turn around these sexist predatory attitudes. They are deeply engrained in our society, not to mention even more oppressive cultures. One day this will be history--I'm an optimist about it and believe in fighting against any sort of abuse and exploitation directly and as hard as possible--but the fight is a long one. The reality is that we have to think self-protection at this point in time, for women who voluntarily go out with or marry men but are then abused (not talking about child abuse and pedophiles). I am talking about not being quite so vulnerable.

I have said a couple of times here, that IMO self-defense training is good for everybody. It teaches discipline and self-control, and helps with anger management. But if you were to train girls as a matter of course in basic self-defense (not talking about anything that calls for special athleticism)--it sends a very important message. It sends the message that women are not going to be easily victimized. It sends the message to the girls and to others that --"society has your back." It sends the message that girls can be strong and can set boundaries for themselves--and I mean mentally strong. This is not merely about physical self-defense.

I think many people are misunderstanding my points here. So I guess I'll just have to hang it up. I had hoped to get some supporters but maybe a lot of people don't understand the meaning of self-defense training. It's very empowering in a lot of ways, for anyone who experiences it. I would like to see more girls exposed to it at about middle school age. Statistics tell us that they will encounter
some sort of exploitation or abuse as young women. If boys can be taught to respect girls & women more, that would be great too, but women need to have strategies in case they don't. It would help the whole situation IMO.

This is as clear as I know how to be.

CTyankee

(63,901 posts)
82. I'm not against strategies for self defense of anyone, but it seems to me that the offenders should
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 08:01 PM
Jun 2013

be taken care of before the victims! Doesn't that make sense? We simply MUST make it clear that abuse is NOT tolerated, and back it up.

And, again, yes, girls should be empowered at any level to get all the self defense strategies they can get. It's just that boys should be trained EARLY that abuse of females is UNACCEPTABLE. That will go a long way to changing "hearts and minds."

If they don't, well, there should be HEAVY penalties!

marions ghost

(19,841 posts)
90. I don't see it as either/or
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 08:53 PM
Jun 2013

--or one thing before another.

Teaching girls self-defense sends a strong message to boys that may be as, or more effective than lip-service by parents and teachers that is often ignored, especially in a sexist society. It is hard even for good parents, who want to do the right thing by their boys, to overcome the subliminal & not so subliminal messages that tell boys to dominate and even to disrespect girls. It is ingrained in society at every level. Boys of all backgrounds know that it is always better to be a boy....still--that backward idea still persists. The statistics about abuse of women tell them that, if what they actually see doesn't.

All I'm saying is--girls learning self-defense and how to set boundaries with boys--can lower the statistics and is one way toward a better future. If it goes along with training more boys to respect women, that's the best scenario. In societies that are so far down the bad road, women need all the help they can get not to be victimized. Women who have sheltered upbringings are especially vulnerable IMO.

I'm all for heavy penalties. But would rather focus on prevention.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
23. I would be curious to know what that figure is for men.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:29 AM
Jun 2013

I am also curious to know why no one else is curious.

 

bunnies

(15,859 posts)
28. A percentage is not easy to come by...
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:41 AM
Jun 2013

but I did find this:


(snip)

Due to cultural norms that require men to present a strong façade and that minimize female-perpetrated abuse (Mooney, 2000; Straus et al, 1997; Sorenson & Taylor, 2005), men are less likely to verbalize fear of any kind.
(snip)

Surveys find that men and women assault one another and strike the first blow at approximately equal rates.
(snip)

Men and women engage in overall comparable levels of abuse and control, such as diminishing the partner’s self-esteem, isolation and jealousy, using children and economic abuse; however, men engage in higher levels of sexual coercion and can more easily intimidate physically.


Halfway down the page: http://dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C61/

bemildred

(90,061 posts)
30. I'm curious about that too.
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:45 AM
Jun 2013

I would wager that many if not most men experience harassment and violence too, less of it sexual, and more of it violent. I know I have been subject to both, and I'm 6' 2' 200 lbs and mean looking when I'm pissed.

But it would be interesting to know if it is statistically safer to be a man today, or not. I'd wager that historically the answer is "not", but today I'm not so sure, and you have to consider things like female infanticide which is popular in large parts of the planet.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
49. Historically and today the answer is the same
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:44 PM
Jun 2013

Men are murdered at 3 times the rate of women. Men are also more likely to be the victim of violent crime.

bemildred

(90,061 posts)
53. That's what I thought.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:54 PM
Jun 2013

Of course most of the time we are killed by other men, not women, but it's not true that just because you are a guy you are protected or lucky in life.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
93. And chickens lay eggs
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 11:43 PM
Jun 2013

This report is about domestic violence and rape, which affects high numbers of women and few men. But don't pass up a chance of play victim.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
94. Do you not like the answer I gave?
Mon Jun 24, 2013, 01:29 AM
Jun 2013

If you have something relevant to offer to refute it, then please do so.

I'm not the one playing the victim. You've already covered that angle quite well.

Just sayin'

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
88. I didn't think so
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 08:42 PM
Jun 2013

but why pass up an opportunity to validate the guys who can't stand the fact women speak in public about issues that concern them?

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
91. Reading is too much work
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 10:00 PM
Jun 2013

besides the real problem is women daring to speak in public about issues that concern them. And here you thought this was the 21st century!

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
48. Most men experience violence outside
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:41 PM
Jun 2013

the home, while women are mostly beaten, raped, and /or killed by their partners. There are many global reports on violence. I myself regularly post a on gun violence yet I don't recall your participating in those threads. Yet WHO releases a report on endemic violence against women and you swoop it to display outrage after showing zero interest in the many daily threads about gun violence. You all could not be more transparent.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
50. a) you're talking to me. Not "you all".
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:47 PM
Jun 2013

b) I don't participate in the gungeon. The tools of violence are less important than the violence itself.
c) The WHO stats on violence against women include all forms of violence. I find it intriguing, yet unsurprising, that they don't compile and report on the same statistic for men. If they did, I suspect it'd look something like this.



or this

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
54. Silence enables abuse
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 03:24 PM
Jun 2013

My threads about guns are in GD and have received hundreds of replies. If you don't care about gun proliferation, you don't care about violence against men.

You could post an OP about violence anytime you want instead of shitting on a thread about violence against women. It's quite obvious you and the other 2 in this thread see women's lives as worthless. Go whine in the men's group about how Persecuted you are for seeing a thread about women. Or just use
trash thread. But it is nauseating
for you to
play this outrage game every time
anyone dares to mention half of the
human race that doesnt include you. As much as you might like us to disappear, we have a right to speak and a right to be free of abuse and rape. So deal with it.
All the men who beat, rape, and kill their
wives doubtless share your outrage that anyone would talk about those crimes.




 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
56. Yes it does.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 03:51 PM
Jun 2013

So here we are, discussing your posts.

Your level of nausea at the topic of victimization of men doesn't appear to change whether the issue is raised in op or reply. So get up off the fainting righteous indignation couch and explain to me why it's a good idea that WHO doesn't measure and report the violent victimization of men.

Preview: if you fall back to your typical rationalization that most victimizers are men, then be aware that this response isn't "sorta" blaming the victim, it's EXACTLY blaming the victim.

Worse, it's blaming the victim based on your stereotypes and factors entirely out of his control; namely the fact that he shares the same style of plumbing as the perpetrator.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
65. read the report
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 09:42 PM
Jun 2013

If you Want to know why WHO committed the atrocity of conducting a report on violence against women, Read the fucking report.
Then you can moan some more about how anyone dared to imagine women's lives have any value. Imagine the nerve to think we are actually human beings.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
72. "And with that, she flung herself from the room..."
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 10:36 PM
Jun 2013

"flung herself upon her horse and rode madly off in all directions."
― Stephen Leacock (paraphrased)

I know it seems comforting to argue against a statement that you're pretending I made, but it's really a false sense of comfort.

What I asked, twice, is if you think it is appropriate for the WHO (tool of the institutional patriarchy that they are) to not gather data or report on the incidence of violence against men.

Absent that bit of info, the entire premise of the OP has zero context and is thus not useful. Is 35.6% more or less than one would expect? Anecdotally, I'd be surprised that it is that low among men. Pretty much 100% of the men I know have been on the receiving end of violence at some time in their lives.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
73. Ludicrous assumption
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 12:51 AM
Jun 2013

based on willful ignorance. They do gather data about men, which you would know if you bothered to read. You have no interest in the daily threads about violence but become enraged that women dare to speak about their concerns in public. You could always petition Skinner to make GD about men only.

Don't worry about my throwing my self from the room. Blessedly, you and I will NEVER be in the same room. I have no plans to take a trip back to the stone age.




 

galileoreloaded

(2,571 posts)
62. And with this
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 06:51 PM
Jun 2013

"If you don't care about gun proliferation, you don't care about violence against men."

...... the train just jumped the logic tracks on its way to "Make Sense Junction".

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
69. Borderline?
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 09:59 PM
Jun 2013

Then let me make it crystal clear. I despise misogynists. The positivist pretense only makes it worse.

 

galileoreloaded

(2,571 posts)
78. I was referring to Cluster 2 BPD. That statement, and some others, but that one
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 07:21 PM
Jun 2013

specifically seem to point in that direction.

Namely the constant reframes and contextual hijacks. I teach folks that when you meet someone who constantly shames and erects barriers in any interaction, run away. They are ill and toxic to the rational mind.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
83. Your efforts to stigmatize the mentally ill are repulsive
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 08:21 PM
Jun 2013

There doubtless are members on this site with BPD, which is a highly treatable disorder, but your using it as an insult further stigmatizes mental illness and makes it less likely for people to seek help. That kind of bigotry is entirely unacceptable.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
71. Of course the OP is about women... out of necessity.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 10:26 PM
Jun 2013

Because the world health organization doesn't measure or report on violence against men.

It is reasonable to speculate why and also reasonable to ask if this is appropriate.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
84. Again, your refusal to read is astounding
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 08:27 PM
Jun 2013

But ignorance must be carefully nurtured and you do an astounding job.
The WHO reports on all kinds of illness that afflict men and women. The fact is that Domestic violence is endemic against women and rare against men. It has severe health consequences, which is why they did a report on it to alert health professionals how to deal with it. To make you feel better, should we all wish 40% of men are beaten and raped by their partners. Would that make you feel better? Then you could give birth to low birth weight babies and be at risk for a whole host of diseases that result from that battery and rape. Since you are so anxious to be the victim, maybe you should live as woman in India for a few years.

Hatchling

(2,323 posts)
55. Much higher if you include threats.
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 03:46 PM
Jun 2013

My ex once cornered me in the kitchen and told me: " My father hit my mother but I've never hit you." The unspoken "yet" terrified me and I toed the line pretty carefully after that. I also spent the next few years planning a safe exit from that marrige.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
32. It would be interesting to see what percentage of men abuse 35.6% of women
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 11:59 AM
Jun 2013

One father can be abusive and violent to the entire family.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
36. 85% of those women are abused by their partners
Fri Jun 21, 2013, 03:50 PM
Jun 2013

according to the report I heard on NPR last night. No unless I misunderstood, that would not suggest a small percentage of men are inflicting most of this violence.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
39. I was suggesting that the study may not be as comprehensive as it could be
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 09:51 AM
Jun 2013

And I don't believe that only 35% of women are abused. Maybe 35% talk about it or report it, but there's many more than that. In some countries it's part of the culture even to the point of being actively promoted by religion and government.

Maybe the study is saying that 35% of American women are subject to abuse and violence.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
40. No, they give a regional breakdown
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:20 PM
Jun 2013

So that number is global. I agree it's likely an underestimate.

liberalhistorian

(20,816 posts)
45. Given the absolutely astounding "blame the victim"
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 12:35 PM
Jun 2013

responses on this GD thread yesterday, I'm waiting with bated breath to hear from some of those posters why this isn't a big deal, why all women have to do to avoid it is to be issued a crystal ball at birth so that we can foretell what every man we meet in our lives will do to us and if we don't, then WE are the ones at fault, not the men who assault, rape and control us. I was truly shocked to read these posts here on DU. It only shows that the blatant, open sexism I've noted occuring more and more frequently nationally has even reached into the ranks of an allegedly progressive site. Unbe-fucking-lievable.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023059894

niyad

(113,257 posts)
63. oh my ******* god--I missed that one. I would say I am going to be ill, but, sadly, the mindset
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 06:53 PM
Jun 2013

exhibited in that thread is all too common here.

Cerridwen

(13,254 posts)
70. Beg your pardon?
Sat Jun 22, 2013, 10:05 PM
Jun 2013

This site has the following in its "Terms of Service":

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liberalhistorian

(20,816 posts)
77. WTF are you babbling about?
Sun Jun 23, 2013, 07:08 PM
Jun 2013

What the HELL does all of that have to do with what I was discussing in my post? I am a staunch Dem and have every intention of remaining one. Not sure how you could have inferred otherwise.

And I've been on here for ten years, so I think I know what the TOS are.

liberalhistorian

(20,816 posts)
95. I know, pretty sad and
Mon Jun 24, 2013, 10:27 AM
Jun 2013

disgusting, isn't it? I find it especially irritating that one cannot even bring up the subject of violence against women without men taking it as a personal affront against them. Bleh.

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