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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy poor daughter in law! Criticized in Starbucks for "covering up too much" while breastfeeding!
This in a liberal, Northeastern Ivy League town!
Apparently, this woman came up to her and asked why she wasn't proudly showing more of herself nursing her 8 month old and the happiest baby on this earth, IMO!). Something about being "ashamed."
My d.i.l. is too polite but if I had been there, I wouldn't be!
What is the deal with people not minding their own business when they see a mom nursing?
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)n/t
CTyankee
(63,900 posts)just a couple of weeks ago, she was approached in an Aqua Babies class. A woman demanded to know why the baby hadn't had the class earlier in his dear little life.
Turbineguy
(37,312 posts)The woman just wanted to see her breasts.
leeroysphitz
(10,462 posts)Schema Thing
(10,283 posts)BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)11 Bravo
(23,926 posts)Squinch
(50,935 posts)Now it's our duty to show our boobs?
Congratulations on your grandchild.
CTyankee
(63,900 posts)and my great genes, of course...
Squinch
(50,935 posts)CTyankee
(63,900 posts)Monster_Mash
(24 posts)Not ever happy unless everyone else is behaving within their personal behavior standards....
hobbit709
(41,694 posts)and tell me that what I was buying wasn't very healthy.
I replied "I have a health tip for you. You'll live a lot longer if you keep your nose out of other people's business."
LuvNewcastle
(16,843 posts)God, I hate nosy people.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Idiots DO travel...and some are even homegrown in the 'best' of places.
Consider the source. If the source is a butt-in-ski busybody, ignore the source!
Igel
(35,293 posts)It's a case of "You're not doing everything I want to advance my agenda. What's more important--your opinion or my agenda? D'uh. Me, of course."
Lots of those. My mother was one. She got a class action suit for sex-related wage discrimination going against her employer and railed mercilessly against women who "didn't know their best interests." Of course, their best interests were invariably my mother's primary interests. Hard to argue with that kind of blind egocentrism wrapped up in nice ideological burqa composed entirely of body armor.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Ya can't let morons make ya feel bad.
A mother should do what makes her feel comfortable because if she does that, her kid will feel comfortable. As far as anyone else is concerned, it just ain't their damn biz-niz!
Logical
(22,457 posts)CTyankee
(63,900 posts)Quantess
(27,630 posts)Just ignore people with terrible social skills. No point getting ruffled feaathers.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)When she is connected with baby in a nifty bonding moment. The woman had an agenda and she made this situation fit where it did not fit. Her agenda more important than mom and baby. Sad
JustAnotherGen
(31,798 posts)Look up. If everyone had seabeyond's common sense and kindness this wouldn't have happened.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)lol. you are the sweetest
i am a mess. cold, coughing, snifflin', i think broken hand,.... and here your are being sweet. thanks.
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niyad
(113,216 posts)seem to be incapable of minding their own business.
CTyankee
(63,900 posts)to moms nursing in public. Where do they get such nerve?
MineralMan
(146,284 posts)The "amazed stare" is the proper response for such people, in case that situation arises again for your d-i-l. You just look up wide-eyed and shocked at the meddler, as if to say, "I can't believe you just said such a thing." No words are needed. It's a very handy behavior to have available on a moment's notice. Works a treat.
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)Gape-jawed, and usually followed by an OMG that they can hear but that nobody very far away can. And an eyesroll.
I don't suffer fools.
MineralMan
(146,284 posts)CTyankee
(63,900 posts)face and tell them they are rude and need to knock it off...
Are_grits_groceries
(17,111 posts)Put a very confused look on your face. Then start to look around everywhere.
Somebody will usually ask what you are looking for. Then reply,"I'm looking for who you are talking to."
MineralMan
(146,284 posts)etherealtruth
(22,165 posts).. are not autonomous private individuals.
To you idiots that believe you have a say in this ... you don't. mind your own damned business
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)CTyankee
(63,900 posts)FarCenter
(19,429 posts)CTyankee
(63,900 posts)ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)We all know it was in Olive Garden and the supposed "baby" was a pit bull named Rand.
Also, the butting in busybody was some smelly old dude.
suffragette
(12,232 posts)Privacy is undervalued, especially any privacy in what is perceived as a public sphere. And pretty much everything, including our communications and actions, whether in or out of home, are perceived by many as in the public sphere.
Although in public, your DIL had made no overture to invite comment from this person, who showed no hesitation about intruding and forcing her unasked for opinion on her. No common courtesy or respect for another person's choice there.
I know of employers who have finagled their way into employees Facebook pages, only to make snide comments of noticing employees seemed to be enjoying beer quite a bit, etc.
The other side of that are disapproving comments with a tinge of suspicion about people like me who have chosen not to be on Facebook. Because why wouldn't someone want to do that - do they have something to hide? Don't they want to know everyone's opinion about, well, everything?
And it goes on to the debate about surveillance cameras and NSA snooping - what is, isn't, should be, shouldn't be, viewable, commentable and actionable in public and private spheres. And what are these anyway? To what point does our personal space extend?
It seems to me that person intruded into your DIL's personal space, which we all have even when out in public.
CTyankee
(63,900 posts)I'm still trying to figure that out...