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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region Forums'Real Housewife' Melissa Gorga's New Book Advocates Marital Rape
Please stop watching reality shows.
Real Housewives of New Jersey star Melissa Gorga has written an advice book, Love Italian Style, for people who want a marriage as hot and happy as the one she has with her husband Joe. Her entire ethos on the subject boils down to this sentence: "Husbands want their wives to submit; wives want our husbands to dominate."
The amount of sexism, gender essentialism, and caveman logic within its pages is so appalling that it's difficult to believe that her book is anything but a cry for help.
It's very clearfrom her anecdotes, observations, and tipsthat she's married to a controlling asshole that barely views her as human, let alone an equal. He won't "allow" her to go on overnight trips without him, he has a say in the clothes she wears, didn't want her to get a job (even before she became a mother), and he has gotten violent when Melissa does things that he doesn't like.
JoeTeresa Giudice's brotherseems to restrict any expression of individualism or independence on her partincluding this book. He constantly interjects throughout with his own opinions on how women should behave. His are perhaps the most egregious passages in the book, particularly his thoughts on sex.
Men, I know you think your woman isn't the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated.
Women don't realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.
http://jezebel.com/real-housewife-melissa-gorgas-new-book-advocates-mar-1371722729
MADem
(135,425 posts)That woman needs a psychiatrist and a good lawyer. She's fucked up and in a fucked up relationship, to boot.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,779 posts)It's all fake. Every last bit of it . . . except for how things used to go down when they went out to bars!
So you can't take it seriously. You just can't. The most entertaining and REAL thing about this book are the comments at Jezebel!
Really - she has had THREE children and she expects people to believe that her husband has no clue that she EVER has bowel movements?
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)I'm not a big fan of reality shows but I'm one of those people who, if I happen to see a show (by accident or at someone's house or something else) I have to see what's next, LOL. So, this show. None of the other housewife shows or reality shows. Well, maybe the Voice. Anyhow...
This woman talks about how her dad cheated on her mom all the time. In one episode she acts like she BLAMES her mom for not trying harder to keep her dad around. So, I think, she's trying to desperately prove that she can keep her husband happy by doing everything he wants all of the time. It just so happens her husband is a total asshole and a misogynist. Which is not surprising given her experience with her father. Do I think she's being abused? probably, she just doesn't realize it, because of her own experience. When you grow up like that you think this kind of behavior is normal. She probably doesn't realize how fucking messed up this 'advice' is.
JustAnotherGen
(31,779 posts)Don't know if it's back up - but try famewhorgas.net . . . A lot of background on how Melissa and Joe met - and the fact that Tre is the 'paid patsy'.
And I'm not ashamed to say I watch this. . . I was acquainted with a member of the original cast and got sucked in that way!
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)Fuck them, they live in the land of Make Believe.
Orsino
(37,428 posts)Phentex
(16,330 posts)Prometheus Perez
(23 posts)It's a lie. It's publicity.
It's like the perfumes. Aroma professionals chose how the "Britnay Spears" perfume would smell. She lends her name to the brand, that's it.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)They glorify ridiculous behavior and present it as the real way people live.