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Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:04 PM

Scorned women expose mistresses on ‘homewrecker’ website

Scorned wives and girlfriends looking to publicly shame and call out the "other woman" have plenty of places to go online, but one site in particular has been getting a lot of attention.

She's A Homewrecker is like a modern-day scarlet letter or a cyber-burn book. The controversial website, which is about a year old, gives jilted lovers a forum to posting pictures and private information about the "homewreckers," who are commonly referred to by all kinds of colorful names.

Sometimes the mistress’ home address or phone number is given along with her full name, while the person accusing them remains anonymous.


Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/homewrecker-website-exposes-shames-mistresses-article-1.1511054#ixzz2kHbDCUFd

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Reply Scorned women expose mistresses on ‘homewrecker’ website (Original post)
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 OP
bemildred Nov 2013 #1
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #2
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NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #4
Bay Boy Nov 2013 #6
DanTex Nov 2013 #9
gollygee Nov 2013 #13
tina tron Nov 2013 #59
gollygee Nov 2013 #61
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Bay Boy Nov 2013 #8
raccoon Nov 2013 #53
malaise Nov 2013 #26
laundry_queen Nov 2013 #106
CTyankee Nov 2013 #7
petronius Nov 2013 #24
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #25
petronius Nov 2013 #27
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #58
VanillaRhapsody Nov 2013 #80
CTyankee Nov 2013 #33
JVS Nov 2013 #38
JustAnotherGen Nov 2013 #56
Agschmid Nov 2013 #10
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #11
Agschmid Nov 2013 #18
chowder66 Nov 2013 #12
pipi_k Nov 2013 #32
chowder66 Nov 2013 #62
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #64
chowder66 Nov 2013 #69
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #70
chowder66 Nov 2013 #81
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #73
pipi_k Nov 2013 #103
chowder66 Nov 2013 #104
LittleBlue Nov 2013 #14
Iggo Nov 2013 #15
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #17
Capt. Obvious Nov 2013 #65
tammywammy Nov 2013 #16
Agschmid Nov 2013 #19
CTyankee Nov 2013 #39
Mojorabbit Nov 2013 #44
NaturalHigh Nov 2013 #48
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Capt. Obvious Nov 2013 #66
laundry_queen Nov 2013 #107
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Fumesucker Nov 2013 #47
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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:08 PM

1. Sounds like a source of employment for lawyers. nt

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Response to bemildred (Reply #1)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:10 PM

2. I thought about that too.

I'm guessing that the information posted would have to be false for the poster to be sued, though.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #2)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:13 PM

3. Yes, but I expect enough money could help your case.

With enough money you can sue anybody for anything, as many times as you like too.

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Response to bemildred (Reply #3)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:15 PM

4. True.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #2)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:18 PM

6. Or it may...

...or may not be provably true.

Let's say I call someone a 'prostitute'. I say that because I paid her for sex. Then I post on-line that "Susie is a prostitute" and she sues me for slander/libel. I now have to prove, in a court of law, that Susie does indeed take money in exchange for sex. It no longer matters if it is true or not.

Disclaimer: I did not give Susie money for sex.

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Response to Bay Boy (Reply #6)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:30 PM

9. Wouldn't the burden of proof go the other way?

Wouldn't Susie have to prove that she doesn't take money for sex in order to prove that you are guilty of libel?

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Response to DanTex (Reply #9)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:54 PM

13. No

If you say something you need to have proof that it's true, or at least substantially true, or at least that it was understandable for you to think it. It's almost impossible to prove a negative, so libel would be pretty legal otherwise. And people are legally responsible for what they post and for it being at least generally factual. It doesn't have to be proven to be 100% true, but there does have to be at least some truth to it.

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Response to gollygee (Reply #13)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:38 AM

59. Actually you have to prove damages

 

That the information is false and that it damaged your reputation financial or otherwise.

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Response to tina tron (Reply #59)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:54 AM

61. Yeah you have to prove that as well

I was just talking about the issue of truth.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:17 PM

5. I love how they blame the women their husbands cheated with

but not their husbands.

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Response to gollygee (Reply #5)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:21 PM

8. I'm betting the husbands are taking some heat too...

..but you are right that most of the blames should be on the cheating spouse.

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Response to Bay Boy (Reply #8)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:01 AM

53. It's easier for these women to get P.O. at the other woman than to get P.O. at their spouse. nt

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Response to gollygee (Reply #5)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:42 PM

26. I always laugh at that

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Response to gollygee (Reply #5)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 04:44 PM

106. I can walk and chew gum at the same time



No really, I'm guessing a lot of women do this because they still have to deal with their ex because of kids and child support/alimony and so on. They don't have to deal with the 'other woman' one on one. So it's okay to trash them. And I'm guess in 90-something percent of the time the ex does nothing to stick up for his new girlfriend so there's no blowback to deal with. It's easier to attack the other woman.

BTW in my case, my ex gets the full brunt of my anger but I don't leave the other woman blameless - who the fuck thinks it's okay to sleep with a guy who is married and has 4 kids? I'm sure he lied and said his marriage was horrible (something he neglected to even hint about when we were together, and always acted as if he was madly in love with me) but still...sometimes these women need to be held accountable too. Not sure this website is the way to do it but if were 2-3 years ago and I knew about this website....well, let's just say lucky for her I'm past the rage. I think.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:21 PM

7. Kinda rough justice, I guess. But how about the man?

He should get equal shaming.

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Response to CTyankee (Reply #7)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:36 PM

24. The article mentions that there's a companion site targeting men who cheat or

are 'the other man.' The person who came up with this sleazy business plan wasn't going to miss out on any opportunity to cash in...

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Response to petronius (Reply #24)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:40 PM

25. I read the story, but I haven't actually checked out either site yet.

How do they make money? Do they charge a fee for people to post this stuff, or do they have advertising?

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #25)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:44 PM

27. I was just guessing that it was ad-supported. Maybe eHarmony will

buy a banner...

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Response to petronius (Reply #27)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:30 AM

58. Now that would be ironic.

Maybe they would stop advertising so much on TV. Those are the most annoying commercials.

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Response to petronius (Reply #27)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:36 AM

80. Or Christian Mingle!

 

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Response to petronius (Reply #24)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:29 PM

33. well, spread the blame around...it's only fair...

folks: don't cheat on your spouse. Just don't. If you are unhappy, make an honest split and get separated. Then get your divorce. End of story.

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Response to CTyankee (Reply #7)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 09:00 PM

38. that already happened years ago on dontdatehimgirl.com

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Response to CTyankee (Reply #7)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:06 AM

56. Don't Date Him Girl

There used to be a site like that called don't date him girl - don't know if it's still around. But it wasn't just husbands - ex boyfriends were fair game too.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:38 PM

10. That is gross...

I read a few of them, there is a lot of people who apparently have unaddressed mental illness, or who need immediate counseling who participate in that website.

It's really sad to see a lot of those posts. It is also incredibly sad to see how people seem to assign blame for the actions of both parties involved.

Really nothing about that website is okay.

Horribly frustrating to look at.

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Response to Agschmid (Reply #10)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:42 PM

11. I didn't look at it.

I just read the story, but yeah, it seems kind of creepy. Strange times we live in.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #11)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:06 PM

18. Yup.

I really women would not throw other women under the bus so easily.

I realize I may get it for that comment.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:46 PM

12. What if the mistress has no idea about the marriage

or is being lied to that there is a separation? The ramifications are terrible all around. Obviously an affair can have disastrous and have long term effects on the family, friends and children.
But I don't think it's right to put more hurt out in the world. It's one thing to vent and use aliases but
the possibilities of very long term effects on the mistresses like jobs, bullying long after, chlldren that might be involved and
suicide are all issues that give me deep concern about this kind of call out.

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Response to chowder66 (Reply #12)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:27 PM

32. This actually happened

to me three times.

First time I was 17...he was 25. I guess I sort of suspected, but didn't really give it much thought. I was a kid...

Second time I was almost 19. That time I came right out and asked him if he was married. He lied straight to my face and said no. I only found out about the lie when his wife found my number and called to tell me he was married. I apologized and told her I had no idea. She was really nice about it. I never saw him again.

Third time I was 34. The guy wasn't married, but did have a girlfriend back home in a town about 40 miles away (he was in a "program" and went home on weekends). Again, I only found out about her when she called to tell me that he had a girlfriend. She told me I could have him...I guess he had done it many times before. I told her I didn't want him, thanks all the same. She wasn't pissed off at me.


Then...then... there was my first husband, who couldn't seem to stop himself from cheating...even with one of my own sisters. But anyway, one particularly bizarre incident happened when I was pregnant with my third child and got a visit from one of his girlfriends to tell me he was cheating on me AND her with another one. Yeah, just the kind of stress a pregnant lady needs...

Anyway, scumdogs are just scumdogs, and sometimes the "other woman" has no idea and even gets lied to.


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Response to pipi_k (Reply #32)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:56 AM

62. Whoa...

That's a lot! I feel like even if a mistress knew... the wife or significant other should probably handle it in the fashion the women did in your stories.
I can't see the point in revenge. It just drags everything out. Also, the internet shouldn't fully replace coping skills especially when more damage can be done that reaches far beyond "having a word" with someone.

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Response to chowder66 (Reply #62)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:15 AM

64. I was very surprised that a woman mentioned in that story...

who said that she had already gotten some rough comments and phone calls was willing to be interviewed and phtographed by the reporter.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #64)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:51 AM

69. An aol video

has an interview with her which she says she was lied to that the married man was separated and now it is ruining job opportunities.
http://on.aol.com/video/woman-says--homewrecker--site-is-costing-her-opportunities-518005698

I'm sure there are those that are fame-seekers but she seems to be willing to go on camera to make her point. She crys and says how sorry she is even though she was lied to. Is she being fully honest? It's not up to me to judge really but she seems honest enough. But more so is making a point I have great concern over and that is, women who are lied to and then exposed.

What stops someone from posting about other women they are just jealous of or "suspect" are flirting or having affairs.
I don't see where this stops and I don't see where this is for any greater good. The "founder" who goes by an alias says it's supposed to make women think before cheating and yet again, who says these "cheating women" know they are "cheating" if the husband/sig. other lies to them?

I'm not against women finding comfort but this is not the way to deal/cope with it. It doesn't really make them any better than the person who is cheating (husband or mistress). It's just more hurt all around.

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Response to chowder66 (Reply #69)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:02 AM

70. Interesting...she didn't say that in the NY Daily News study.

"The 29-year-old told Nightline that she ended her affair with a married man after she became pregnant with his child and realized that he was never going to leave his wife. She said she reached out to her lover's wife and apologized multiple times."

Is the aol interview from the Nightline segment the story mentioned?

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #70)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:41 AM

81. Transcript snippet

"Three years after she says her affair with a married man ended 29-year-old dana scott found her name and location plastered on the site. I remember thinking, okay, he is married, but he is, kind of flirty.
And at some point he tried to kiss me. That's when he told me he was actually, you know, separated. And they were talking divorce.
Reporter: Did you think he was going to leave her for you?
That is what he told me.
Reporter: But he didn't leave."
http://abcnews.go.com/Nightline/video/shesahomewreckercom-revenge-website-targets-alleged-mistresses-20825556

So she knew he was married but he said they were separated and talking divorce. She could have waited but who knows what else this guy was telling her.

I'm thinking about situations like this and others; like women who are jealous, who have an agenda, who are paranoid and vengeful.
Who stops them from saying some innocent woman they dislike is having an affair with so and so. It's just a terrible idea in my opinion.

In the end though, it makes you actually wonder about the women who are posting there. Maybe the fact that they do this says something about their character that their exes know about and is potentially the reason the spouses look elsewhere... in the first place.

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Response to chowder66 (Reply #62)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 02:16 PM

103. I know, right?

I'm older and married now, but if I were single and looking to date, I would be extremely suspicious of anyone who expressed interest in me.

Can I call them at home...

Can I call them at home freely...

Do I get to see the inside of their home...

Are they available on holidays or weekends...

Granted, that probably would be ineffective against a determined philanderer, but it's a start...

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Response to pipi_k (Reply #103)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 02:25 PM

104. That might work

but then again if the guy or gal says they are separated or going through a separation or getting divorced then that complicates things. Obviously it would be better to wait until the divorce but we know that can take some time and sometimes the attraction is too strong for some. And since so many people use cell phones and don't have landlines how could you really know?

Some people may have kids and don't want to invite someone in until they know it's going to work out and separated and divorcing people most likely will still spend the holidays with family especially if kids are involved.



Tricky stuff.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 06:59 PM

14. Some shocking stories on that site. Here's one

 



This woman ruined my marriage of nearly a decade and THINKS she got away with it. My husband and I got married pretty young when I found out I was pregnant. The situation was not ideal but we managed to make a good life together. I sacrificed my education to stay home and care for our son so that my husband could finish school and provide us a better life. We had 2 more children during our first 5 years of marriage and I was content. Money was always short but I really trusted my husband.

We had our disagreements. He was gone for school and work a lot and money issues put a lot of stress on us but we both loved our kids more than anything and I knew we would make it work. I thought our prayers were answered when he got a promotion at his job. The new job required he go to CA for several weeks of training but I trusted him and knew that he had to work.

He wasn’t gone long before I knew something was wrong. His communication with me was limited and short. When he finally got home after weeks he would hardly look at me and finally told me he wanted to separate. I asked him all the time if there was someone else and he denied. I guess he wasn’t smart enough to know that I was his wife and could basically get into all of his accounts, read his texts and emails and monitor his calls. It took about a day for me to find out her name and information. I was crushed for the years I wasted with him my kids and our future.

Lucy also worked for his same company and was at the training the same weeks as him. Not only is she several years older than him but she was married and had toddler twins! She would go on and on via email and text about how bad she felt about cheating but her husband was just so mean and so was I! Then shed start talking about their sex life and how she couldn’t wait to see him soon and be with him. She lived in TX and we lived in KY. I wanted to puke and scream and just lose it.

I felt sick about it all especially her acting like the VICTIM even though she was breaking up my house and hers! My husband kept saying there was no one even while he was telling her he missed her and they were discussing where they’d live when they both finally got their marriages officially ended. It was obvious my husband was capable of more lying then was possible in a good man just making a mistake so I didn’t even fight for him. I just let him pretend to be a saint as he left his 3 kids. I think they deserved each other and I just let those sneaky liars be.

Funny enough not long after he left our house and then actually left the town where I was still caring for our kids he dumped her. Maybe he got tired of her whining on Facebook and always posing with alcoholic drinks like she was 21 instead of a woman who was desperate and used up? Hobag. Dummy didn’t even realize ex-wife’s can still access there ex-husbands accounts.

I’m now happy as can be and their both alone and miserable. Cheaters and liars NEVER win. I’ve been so close so many times to letting her husband know what really happened because that poor man still has no idea the monster he was married too. She’s a wolf dressed up like a needy professional who hos around with married men. Watch out.

http://shesahomewrecker.com/luciana-lucy-depaiva-giffin-houston-tx/

lol her ex and the homewrecker ended up miserable and split up. Justice

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Response to LittleBlue (Reply #14)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:02 PM

15. Gross.

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Response to LittleBlue (Reply #14)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:05 PM

17. Dang...that was brutal.

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Response to LittleBlue (Reply #14)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:19 AM

65. The jilted wife has issues

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:04 PM

16. I've never understood the phrase homewrecker.

Isn't it the spouse, the person breaking their vows, the homewrecker? This website makes the person lashing out look juvenile.

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #16)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:09 PM

19. Yup. 100% agree...

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #16)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 09:09 PM

39. Absolutely, but so is the partner in the homebreaking...

I think the spouse responsible for the affair should be the one to blame. If he takes up with someone, shame on her/him too, but if the person going out after the affair is the one who is primarily to blame...well, they have some cause if you think about it...

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #16)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:58 AM

44. I think it makes them look human

I would never put my life up on the net this way but I can understand the heart break and hurt a betrayal like this produces. Perhaps this is the only way they have to vent. It is sad all the way around.

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Response to Mojorabbit (Reply #44)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 08:43 AM

48. Unfortunately, everyone seems to put their lives on the net these days.

I don't have a twitter or facebook account because I don't like that much online sharing. Too many crazies out there.

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #16)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 02:37 AM

46. Yes.

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #16)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:21 AM

66. Agreed

And if the spouse is cheating - the home wasn't that great to begin with.

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Response to Capt. Obvious (Reply #66)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 05:07 PM

107. That is just bullshit

I'm sorry but this whole "people have to have a reason to cheat" stuff is just absolute bullshit. BULLSHIT.

In my case, we had a great sex life, we got along great, we were great friends, we had 4 kids, a nice house, a great life. He lead a double life for YEARS and I had no idea (yeah, those of you who say, "how could you not know?" Trust me when you are married to a sociopath, you WON'T know, or even have a clue.) he lied. He put us into bankruptcy. All of his friends were so shocked they came to me after I found out and said, "OMG, why would he do that to you? You were the COOLEST wife! He had it SO good! WTF is WRONG with him?" His co-worker was the one who came to me to tell me about the cheating because he said I was such a good person he couldn't stand to see what my ex was doing to me and he had to tell me the truth.

My ex cheated because he was/is a sociopath who thinks he is the smartest guy in the room. He does what he wants, when he wants so long as it benefits him in the moment. He doesn't ever consider consequences because he thinks he's smart enough to get around anything that might happen if he gets caught. There is NOTHING I could've done differently. I've gone over this a thousand times with therapists - who think he's either a narcissist or a sociopath - and the consensus is that the marriage was doomed because he is a sociopath/narcissist and there was nothing I could've done differently that could've ever changed the outcome. When he grew tired of 'a family life' he strayed. He only kept the family life going as long as it was advantageous to his career. When it wasn't doing him good anymore in his career to have a family, he had no problems throwing us all away. He still sees the kids, but rarely (once every 3-6 weeks). His new schtick is that I don't let him see the kids (?? Lies - our agreement is he can see them any weekend he wants, he doesn't even have to give notice) and that I spend all the child support on myself (LOL, ask anyone I know where I shop for myself and what I own and how my kids are dressed and taken care of.) Right now, it benefits him to tell his sob story about what a great dad he is and how horrible I am to him and how his kids are growing distant because of me (like the teenagers haven't figured out he cheated - my oldest was the one who was surprised during her first visit to see the girlfriend who moved into our old home - I had no idea, she's the one who told me). He will continue with that story until the day it's no longer convenient or beneficial. He's even convinced himself that some of these lies are true.

Anyway, I just needed to get that out. My whole life revolved around this man, and I loved him with all my heart and I gave up a lot to stay at home and raise our kids. I thought our marriage was great, and we had no issues with communication - the only flaw was that everything he told me was a big fat lie, and being a sociopath, it was all 100% believable. At the time I knew nothing about sociopaths, and we had been together since we were 19 years old, so how I was I to know? I guess my big mistake was not understanding what were the signs my spouse was a sociopath, although even my therapist cleared me of that, saying when you are raised by 2 co-dependent narcissists, you don't know that sociopathic behavior isn't normal.

So, no, not all cheaters cheat because their home life sucks. In my divorce support group there was rarely anyone who had been cheated on who had any clue their spouse was even a little bit unhappy. How about telling your spouse you aren't happy before you go out and cheat? Seems to me THAT is obvious.

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #107)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 10:11 AM

109. Self reflection is in order

Once the blind siding wears off you realize the home life wasn't some mystical fantasy you thought it was.

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Response to Capt. Obvious (Reply #109)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:49 PM

110. LOL. sounds like you are a cheater. nt

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #110)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:54 PM

111. LOL. Not really

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Response to Capt. Obvious (Reply #111)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:55 PM

112. "not really" tells me all I need to know.

Ex, is that you?

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #112)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:56 PM

113. Your hysterics tell me all I need to know about you

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Response to Capt. Obvious (Reply #113)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:57 PM

114. Wow. Sexist much? I'm hysterical?

You reveal yourself.

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #114)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:57 PM

115. As do you

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Response to Capt. Obvious (Reply #115)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:58 PM

116. Whatever. Even my ex agrees that I was a great wife. nt

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #116)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:00 PM

118. LOL

I'm sure he does.

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Response to Capt. Obvious (Reply #118)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:04 PM

119. As does my MIL. Who is still one of my best friends. And doesn't talk to her son anymore. nt

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #119)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:29 PM

124. You're obviously a wonderful daughter in-law too

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Response to laundry_queen (Reply #114)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:12 PM

121. Yes. Capt obvious is that obvious. Let him off the hook to swim away to

 

Play his game another day.

And laundry....

Hugz

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #121)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:23 PM

122. Yep.

That one is obvious.

Thanks for the hugs. It means a lot.

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Response to seaglass (Reply #20)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:24 PM

21. Yeah, the story mentioned that as sort of a companion site.

People love to share all in this digital age.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:32 PM

22. The parents may be doing the adultery, but it's always the kids that get royally "messed up".

 

It's hard enough with divorce or the split of parents, but the hyperdrama of cheating and lying and manipulating and blaming and shaming and custody fights...erode the emerging humanity of the children. And you know the kids know about the sites...horrible, horrible parenting.

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Response to libdem4life (Reply #22)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 07:35 PM

23. Very good point.

Even if the kids don't read this site, you know their friends do.

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Response to libdem4life (Reply #22)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:36 PM

34. Always the innocent victims...

of people who think they have the right to fuck up a kid's head.

Which is why I would be glad to see mandatory psychological testing before people were allowed to be parents.

I mean, really...don't prospective adoptive parents have to go through background checks and testing or something?

Yet they let any fuckwit with the proper equipment make a kid and nobody gives a shit unless/until the kid ends up abused or dead at the hands of its "parent".

ugh.

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Response to pipi_k (Reply #34)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 03:15 AM

47. That would damn near be the end of the human race

We are all descended from a long line of fuckups, even if we aren't aware of the fuckups of our ancestors rest assured a bunch of them were just that and did just that.

None of us would be here but for the fuckups of our ancestors.

I was over fifty before I learned some of the less savory truth about my own heritage, by that time I was experienced enough for it not to shock me but rather make me deeply appreciative of the humanity of those who came before me.



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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:05 PM

29. all is fair in

Love and war.

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Response to Niceguy1 (Reply #29)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 08:45 AM

49. This site seems like it's heavy on the war and light on the love.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:12 PM

30. Typical that the women are portrayed as the wrongdoers in these situations.

The cheating men had nothing to do with it.



I always thought it odd that when a woman finds out her husband is cheating, oftentimes, it's the other woman that is the object of the betrayed wife's wrath.

Very, very odd.

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Response to MadrasT (Reply #30)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:37 PM

35. you are absolutely right. The men need as much scrutiny as the women and also if they started it!

n/t.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:20 PM

31. This will not end well. nt

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:52 PM

36. Women are competitive when it comes to men

 

Men typically won't fight over one woman. Instead, guys tend to encourage each other to find a woman. A male friend will help his bro find a girl and encourage him to ask her out.

Maybe that's part of it. In our dating culture, guys do the asking out. So a guy can go out some night and ask out a dozen girls. He doesn't have to fight over someone because he realizes there are many, many, many single women out there.

Women usually dont do the asking out. They wait for a man to approach them. And that creates a competitive environment with other women.

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Response to davidn3600 (Reply #36)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 01:30 AM

45. Hint: change your calendar. Its 2013 not 1950

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Response to u4ic (Reply #45)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:28 AM

77. I know, right?

That man certainly declared the rules to us! We are not to ask them! They remain in control with a choice of a huge number of women! We just have to wait on the few who decide to ask us. It's up to them to choose us! We have no say and are desperate for someone to choose us!

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Response to davidn3600 (Reply #36)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:04 AM

54. guys dont fight over women?!

 

youve got to be kidding me.

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Response to bunnies (Reply #54)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 01:01 PM

101. exactly

 

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 08:57 PM

37. Ugh

 

Cheating just sounds like too much trouble and too much work. Especially for a lot of the broads on that site.

I mean if you're going to kill your livelihood (not recommended), at least have the good judgement to aim at least for an 8 or higher.

But I guess to each his own...

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Response to CFLDem (Reply #37)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 09:13 PM

41. Yeah, and women cheating should just aim for their best chance...

grab a high earner so you don't have to work any more and have a husband who pulls in the big bucks...too bad for the ex-wife and those kids...

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 09:11 PM

40. Everybody loves a good slut-shaming.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 09:13 PM

42. No man (or woman)

is worth giving up his/her integrity to this kind of website. Get over it, move one, but stop with the posting thing. You're only embarrassing yourself.

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Response to Le Taz Hot (Reply #42)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 08:47 AM

50. I imagine that a lot of the people...

who post on this site in a moment of anger end up regretting it later. I wonder if there is a way for them to delete their own postings.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Sun Nov 10, 2013, 09:18 PM

43. If the site had existed 20+ years ago

one of my husband's sisters would have dissed her husband's rape victim there for trying to break up the marriage.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 08:48 AM

51. men get revenge. women are scorned. when a man is being dumped on, he takes revenge.

 

when a woman is dumped on she is a "scorned" women.

simple language, gives us two descriptions.

just something to think about

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #51)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 08:49 AM

52. Whatever.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #52)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:05 AM

55. language matters. kinda why you have the woman go after the woman, while men go after the woman.

 

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #55)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:08 AM

57. I'll put on my outrage hat.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #57)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:25 AM

67. because just making a statement ='s outrage.

 

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #67)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:32 AM

68. This was intended as a light-hearted thread...

about a story I read online. It wasn't intended as some sort of deep, introspective thread about supposedly sexist language that has managed to offend nobody but you so far. If you're interested, there is a companion site to this one where you can go and trash the men too.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #68)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:19 AM

72. then you should not have gotten all outraged over a simple point. let it go....

 

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #72)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:23 AM

75. Who said I was outraged?

I was enjoying a little back and forth about the site when you came to teach us a lesson about the genders. You're putting way too much thought into this.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #75)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:41 AM

82. hmmmm, ya. lol. right. wink

 

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #82)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:45 AM

85. Wink back atcha.

With a smilie, even...



Do you going around looking to pick fights?

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #85)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:48 AM

87. re read. i made a statement. that simple. i have focused on that statement, again, that simple. YOU

 

on the other had have told me to shut up, called me names, insulted me, lectured and stomped your foot.

Do you going around looking to pick fights?


in every. one. of. your. posts.

still cant let it go?

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #87)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:52 AM

90. What names did I call you?

When did I tell you to shut up?

Hyperbole (and flat-out lies).

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #90)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:53 AM

92. you can NOT let it go. more more more. oh please, fight with me. see ya.

 

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #92)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:57 AM

93. Never mind answering the questions I asked.

What names did I call you? When did I tell you to shut up?

Bye bye

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #75)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:44 AM

84. That's silly. Go to the Lounge. You obviously want mindless entertainment.

There's no such thing as too much thought about how women are dumbed down with "the she-devil made me do it!" kinds of bullshit. Centuries of that bullshit. That shit's so not funny and the shallow level of jokeyism here isn't cool. I scrolled through it in shock. Maybe it takes all kinds to make a party, but until half the government is represented by the female half the US, this stuff isn't really even worth GD's time.

The problem with this OP is, anyone who doesn't put enough thought into how such these sites simply reinforce stupidity about adult responsibility in committed relationships, and then just spreads the mindless stupidity of horndogginess.

If this is amusing to people here, no wonder women aren't getting anywhere.

Go to the fucking Lounge.

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Response to ancianita (Reply #84)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:46 AM

86. Gee...

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Response to ancianita (Reply #84)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:50 AM

88. ya. lol. i am off to play...

 

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Response to ancianita (Reply #84)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:25 PM

94. Bravo!



Someone puts up a gender-based post in GD and then gets all outraged when it isn't met with what they desperately want to be 'light-hearted humor'. There's nothing at all funny about this, other than the fact that the OP saved his/her outrage for when one of our better known feminists showed up.

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Response to Sheldon Cooper (Reply #94)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:36 PM

95. Shit's just not funny. It should be in the DU Lounge, anyway.

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Response to Sheldon Cooper (Reply #94)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:49 PM

96. Yeah well...

some of us are still allowed to have opinions that are different from Seabeyond and the HOF crowd. Galling, I know.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #96)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:52 PM

97. Sure you can have a different opinion.

Just wondering how selective your outrage really is. And how remarkable that YOU are entitled to your opinion, but seabeyond isn't.

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Response to Sheldon Cooper (Reply #97)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:55 PM

98. Of course she is entitled to her opinion.

I don't have to respect her opinion any more than she has to respect mine. Interesting that the HOF crowd came riding to her rescue when she accused me of calling her names but then wouldn't say what I called her.

This isn't a protected group like HOF. People don't have to grovel to the party line.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Reply #98)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 01:57 PM

102. "The HOF crowd"?

Far as I can tell, that would be me. Do you have a problem with that? Am I allowed to express an opinion on this, or am I just to go along with you and your light-hearted caper? Seriously, you had no problem with anyone until seabeyond commented, which she is of course entitled to do. But as soon as she did, you showed your ass. And now a couple of strong women are saying that your post was bull, and you're struggling with that. Laughable.

And I notice that exactly no one is coming to your rescue. What does that tell you?

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Response to Sheldon Cooper (Reply #102)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 02:46 PM

105. How exactly am I struggling?

I don't really need anyone to come to my rescue.

As for your opinion...express away.

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Response to ancianita (Reply #84)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:58 PM

99. +1

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #55)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:11 AM

71. Why do you suppose that is? And what might be done about it?

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Response to Orrex (Reply #71)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:21 AM

74. well, stating it outloud to recognize we do this with women is a start. but, then, people

 

get all outraged by a simple statement, so..... lol.

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #74)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:51 AM

89. I'm outraged that you replied to me.

Hardy har har.

Yeah, I'm not a fan of public shaming sites in any case, but this particular format seems especially problematic. Seems too easy to malign someone without fear of repercussion. I mean, what recourse does a woman have after she's been shamed as a "homewrecker?" Even an unsubstantiated accusation is damaging, I think.

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Response to Orrex (Reply #89)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:52 AM

91. you are funny...

 

i hear ya. not a fan of either gender that fucks around with a married person. less of a fan of the one that commits.

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #51)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:29 AM

78. Yes, it shows the way they want to be fairly well

They choose, we are produce to be chosen from. They own us and are wronged, we are the ones who are left behind.

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Response to treestar (Reply #78)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:43 AM

83. and a man fuckin around with a married woman certainly doe snot get a title like "mistress"

 

which states an ownership. bought, paid for.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 09:38 AM

60. Thank jeebus nobody ever lies when relationships go bad.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 10:13 AM

63. I'm good with it. If you are screwing around with someone's spouse

 

(and the spouse hasn't given permission) with the "hope" they will abandon their family, I have no problem with people finding out your character.

If you want to publicly announce the name of the jerk you were screwing with, I'm good with that, too, because that person's character is scummy, too.

Whatever the victim wants is fine with me - if the victim wants to keep it private (as many do), I support that. If the victim wants people to know they've been emotionally assaulted and abused / possibly exposed to disease against their will, I'm good with that.

I dislike the folk who think there is nothing wrong with screwing with someone's marriage, but find the idea of TALKING ABOUT IT offensive.

Whatever.

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Response to IdaBriggs (Reply #63)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 11:34 AM

79. I agree.

If somebody is so angry and hurt and this helps them unload some of it - fine.

I don't think that the cheating husband is getting off scott-free, since he still has to deal with the wife he cheated on.

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Response to IdaBriggs (Reply #63)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 05:11 PM

108. :)

Everything you said.

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Mon Nov 11, 2013, 12:59 PM

100. ugh. this is truly awful.

 

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Response to La Lioness Priyanka (Reply #100)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 12:58 PM

117. Agreed

 

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:04 PM

120. I'm sure all the scorned wives here are perfect saints *eyeroll*

I hope the husbands have a place on the site to rebut the posting and really put the truth out there. lol

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Response to NaturalHigh (Original post)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 01:24 PM

123. There is a bigger site called "Cheaterville"

 

People post cheater profiles of their cheating spouse there. The site has an automatic hit system that drives the profile up in google. Within days their profile comes up in the top 2 or 3 of a google search of the cheaters name.

They can only have the profile removed by legal means. It is used heavily against affair partners.

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Response to AgingAmerican (Reply #123)

Tue Nov 12, 2013, 04:52 PM

125. Wow...not only exposed but Google bombed too.

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