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Are_grits_groceries

(17,111 posts)
Mon Dec 16, 2013, 03:09 AM Dec 2013

A Barefoot Christmas

A Barefoot Christmas

When the weather is like this around Christmas, it reminds me of some Christmas celebrations at my grandparents. I know we spent time with my Daddy's family, but my most vivid memories are those at my Mama's home. There were more cousins near my age, and we had spent a lot of time together during summers and weekends.

We always had our shoes off when possible. Unless it was fairly warm, we ran the risk of incurring adult wrath. We considered any temperature above freezing as acceptable, but they had different standards. So when it was this warm, off went the shoes. We were 'barefooted as yard dogs' as my Mama so colorfully put it.

The first thing on the agenda was the Christmas dinner. The cousins would roll out the old flatbed trailer. That was no problem because there a lot of us. The Aunts as we called them, would cover the trailer with cloth and out came the food.

The trailer was covered with some or all of the following:
Fried chicken, roast beef, sweet corn, hot biscuits, plain rice, green beans, okra (both fired and boiled), mashed potatoes, cornbread, lima beans, corn on the cob, collard greens, pork chops, macaroni & cheese, Irish potatoes, gravies and dressings of all kinds, chicken pilau, catfish stew, pork roast, turkey, butter beans (the gray ones-yum!), yams, squash, and many other dishes that escape me right now.

For dessert, there was pound cake, pecan pie, pumpkin pie, apple pie, fruitcake, chocolate cake, cookies of all types, lemon meringue pie, and eleventy billion other things. It was a wonder we could even walk after the meal.

One time an aunt brought 'three bean salad.' This concoction was viewed with great suspicion because it had not been fried, baked, broiled or subjected to heat and grease of any kind. People took some so as not to hurt her feelings. To this day I remember some of the looks given that dish.

After everyone had eaten, the real fun began. The adults cleaned up and gathered in groups to chat or whatever. WE, the kids, headed for the fireworks. I do mean FIREWORKS!

SC sold any and everything. Cherry bombs, M80s, Roman candles, HUGE firecrackers, and stuff I can't even remember. It seemed to include everything up to dynamite, and we probably could have gotten our hands on some if we had tried.

We also got sparklers which were very dull unless used in an unsafe manner. Nobody ever said anything, so we used everything in an unsafe manner. Sparklers were good for 2 things as I remember. We played Sparkler Tag. That will insure Olympic speeds. We also scraped the powder off and found other uses for it.

Our parents bought us everything back then. They also never supervised us. We had a couple of general rules. We never hurt animals, and we never threw them an adult. That would insure an end to this tradition. When I look back on it, I wonder why none of use suffered major injuries, and if our parents were secretly trying to get rid of us through attrition.

At any rate, off we would go to blow things up. I think we even were making crude IEDs. At some point, 2 groups would form and the Christmas war would begin. We would go deep into the woods and gleefully toss these merry surprises at each other. There was a premium on arm strength, walking softly, excellent hearing, and very quick change of direction. At some undefined point, it would stop and we wandered back in or some rest.

We would sit on the front porch and either rock or swing. A few had to sit on the steps. We drank sweetened ice tea, and talked about everything. We also kept our ears open so that if the stories our Mamas were telling in the kitchen drifted our way, we might find out some secret family nugget.

I miss those barefoot Christmases, and the people we were then. Young, stupid, foolish and oblivious in those moments and sure we would not get hurt. We didn't argue about politics or current events. For that day together, we closed ourselves up in our own little world as dangerous as it actually was.

I don't see these relatives anymore because the discussions immediately start with political shite. It goes downhill from there. I long for the days when we only wished to blow useless stuff up and scare each other to death. Better that than trying to or supporting blowing the whole world up and scaring the entire planet to death.

(I hope this isn't used to start some sort of DU war. As bizarre as it may seem to some, this is my story. I think most people tell some family story that would raise eyebrows on some people. Thanks, Grits)

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A Barefoot Christmas (Original Post) Are_grits_groceries Dec 2013 OP
When my dad's parents were alive, big family dinners were great Warpy Dec 2013 #1
Grits..... Hekate Dec 2013 #2
you're lucky to have memories like that Skittles Dec 2013 #3
Great story. Jamastiene Dec 2013 #4
I used to take my Mama to NC every Christmas. Are_grits_groceries Dec 2013 #5
It is a policy in our family... ReRe Dec 2013 #6

Warpy

(111,138 posts)
1. When my dad's parents were alive, big family dinners were great
Mon Dec 16, 2013, 03:23 AM
Dec 2013

They featured a couple of my grandmother's backyard chickens and the poetry they became when she cooked them with hand cut noodles. I was too little to learn much of her alchemy, one of the biggest regrets of my life.

Everybody was crammed around an oversized, heavy Victorian table in an undersized Victorian dining room. The more truculent kids were fed in the kitchen. I can never remember not being at the main table. It wasn't barefoot weather, Indiana tended to get cold in September and stay that way until May.

Oh, and I ganked your gif.

Skittles

(153,111 posts)
3. you're lucky to have memories like that
Mon Dec 16, 2013, 05:23 AM
Dec 2013

I grew up in a military family and have no such memories - I never lived anywhere near my relatives; heck, I went years without even hearing the voices of my grandparents and aunts and uncles because it was too expensive to call overseas. You're lucky and I'm sorry rightwing hatefest has changed the tone.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
4. Great story.
Mon Dec 16, 2013, 05:39 AM
Dec 2013

I miss family get-togethers that were much simpler. Now, half the family hands out Chick Tracts year round and they get worse on Christmas. No thanks. I'd rather enjoy Christmas with family I am closest to and not have to hear about freaking politics religion and all the other topics that are bound to cause arguments on a holiday/vacation day.

Are_grits_groceries

(17,111 posts)
5. I used to take my Mama to NC every Christmas.
Mon Dec 16, 2013, 05:47 AM
Dec 2013

We would visit 3 of her sisters and other relatives there.

After an enjoyable dinner, the conversation would inevitably shift to politics. I was at the other end of the table and my Mama always sat by me. When she could tell I was getting ready to erupt, she would tell me to go downstairs.

She didn't enjoy that part of the visit, but being with her sisters meant a lot to her. After she passed, I quit going.

ReRe

(10,597 posts)
6. It is a policy in our family...
Mon Dec 16, 2013, 06:22 AM
Dec 2013

... to not discuss politics at get-togethers anymore. We are about half right/half left in politics. We're old enough to realize that we love each other too much to let politics divide us. Life is just too short.

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