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(19,768 posts)
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:16 AM Dec 2013

Do you find this offensive?





thoughts?
59 votes, 1 pass | Time left: Unlimited
Yes, I find that offensive to some extent.
22 (37%)
No, not at all.
29 (49%)
Other.
8 (14%)
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Do you find this offensive? (Original Post) Skip Intro Dec 2013 OP
White Santa - No Problem jberryhill Dec 2013 #1
I find it disturbing and unsexy Blanket Statements Dec 2013 #2
do you have a ... meh. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #3
Depends on context... VanillaRhapsody Dec 2013 #4
It flat out pisses me off pintobean Dec 2013 #5
"Hey Santa. Pass us that bottle, will ya?" opiate69 Dec 2013 #14
+1 nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #36
... Initech Dec 2013 #30
LOL Cali_Democrat Dec 2013 #123
If you had to deal with that many of other people's kids... RC Dec 2013 #88
Yes. Because reporting it is what they want you to do. grahamhgreen Dec 2013 #6
Obnoxious elleng Dec 2013 #7
Any opinion on this would be sexist, so it is a trap! The Straight Story Dec 2013 #8
hmm... dawg Dec 2013 #9
You'll be spanked for that... TreasonousBastard Dec 2013 #12
I post on DU don't I? The Straight Story Dec 2013 #37
Yes. Nye Bevan Dec 2013 #10
I don't think Mrs. Claus would be amused either RC Dec 2013 #89
Looks like he's trying to finish that "naughty and nice" list jberryhill Dec 2013 #154
Not offensive, but not appropriate entertainment for kids JVS Dec 2013 #11
"You gotta have a gimmick...especially when you don't have any talent." rocktivity Dec 2013 #13
ditto dipsydoodle Dec 2013 #56
^^ This, for the win ^^ Myrina Dec 2013 #136
A candy cane that big sends a terrible message about nutrition and dental health. n/t Silent3 Dec 2013 #15
How about stupid *and* offensive? Brigid Dec 2013 #16
"...stupid *and* offensive?" RC Dec 2013 #93
I don't find her sexuality offensive at all, and I like her voice. I don't like all of her liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #17
I find it tacky and dumb, but not offensive Scootaloo Dec 2013 #18
No, I don't, but your poll is slanted. JackBeck Dec 2013 #19
Offensive? No...I don't offend that easily. Tasteless and sleazy? You betcha. Lizzie Poppet Dec 2013 #20
Classy and of compelling artistic merit. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #21
is the new meeting to sitting on Santa's lap Niceguy1 Dec 2013 #22
I find it stupid. n/t man4allcats Dec 2013 #23
I find it tedious. WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #24
+1 treestar Dec 2013 #81
Annoying but not offensive. nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #25
Not offensive but raunchy. nt Live and Learn Dec 2013 #26
How about "boring" and "obvious?" Orrex Dec 2013 #27
There's no *yawn* category... Rhythm Dec 2013 #28
does nobody remember being young? Do the sixties ring a bell for anyone? liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #29
She gets a pass for the reach around while twerking Santa. aikoaiko Dec 2013 #31
Ho Ho Ho!!!! JoePhilly Dec 2013 #76
Sad that she doesn't have enough confidence in her own talent....... WillowTree Dec 2013 #32
I find all efforts to exploit ignorant white folks as "poor white trash" as offensive as grantcart Dec 2013 #33
I find it stupid, ridiculous and a pathetic sad attempt for attention. nt Raine Dec 2013 #34
I didn't know she did a Christmas themed twerk. rrneck Dec 2013 #35
This message was self-deleted by its author closeupready Dec 2013 #38
I find it stupid. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #39
Sad. Just tired and sad. pnwest Dec 2013 #40
Not offensive, just silly. To be offended one would have to take it seriously. n/t nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #41
with actual porn so readily available, this isn't shocking but it isn't pretty either yurbud Dec 2013 #42
No. Warren DeMontague Dec 2013 #43
I reserve the term offensive for more serious matters. Oakenshield Dec 2013 #44
Other - like the Duck Dynasty comments, this is a publicity stunt OmahaBlueDog Dec 2013 #45
I like to look at her. n/t leeroysphitz Dec 2013 #46
Other: Git off my lawn! Behind the Aegis Dec 2013 #47
Other - where can i get Spirochete Dec 2013 #48
disgusting ProdigalJunkMail Dec 2013 #49
It's looks as if it's mutually consensual behavior MrScorpio Dec 2013 #50
Juvenile (watch me blow your minds! No! Watch me!) Warpy Dec 2013 #51
I dunno. She's spent the better part of this year laughing all the way to the bank. Warren DeMontague Dec 2013 #52
Well, the poor thing can't sing and she can't dance Warpy Dec 2013 #54
She can't stop Warren DeMontague Dec 2013 #55
Here recent hit song was the first Miley Cyrus song I can bear listening to penultimate Dec 2013 #78
and she had already made a billion dollars hfojvt Dec 2013 #83
Definitely in poor taste, but not "offensive" Quantess Dec 2013 #53
The fact that she offends so many people is why I like her. PeteSelman Dec 2013 #57
Well if she's good for anything, then maybe it's that... nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #111
She should be smoking a joint with Santa, B Calm Dec 2013 #58
Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2013 #106
I call it an example of her only real talent. NM_Birder Dec 2013 #59
Well, maybe sour grapes by you..... Logical Dec 2013 #87
Logical,........... money does not = quality. NM_Birder Dec 2013 #94
I find it a clownish play for attention... HereSince1628 Dec 2013 #60
Who is the chick? bemildred Dec 2013 #61
Hannah Montana, Disney Kid Star NoOneMan Dec 2013 #82
Ahhh, Lindsey Lohan redux. nt bemildred Dec 2013 #120
I find the "skankification" of womanhood offensive. It's got nothing to do with Santa. Vinca Dec 2013 #62
Skankification. Egg-zactly. n/t BellaKos Dec 2013 #65
I think I'll have to come up with entirely new words. BellaKos Dec 2013 #63
Offensive, no. Trying too hard. Yes n/t Blaukraut Dec 2013 #64
It does seem that way. HereSince1628 Dec 2013 #69
Offensive? No Aerows Dec 2013 #66
No, it's not offensive. HappyMe Dec 2013 #67
Trashing Squinch Dec 2013 #68
It depends on the setting and circumstances etherealtruth Dec 2013 #70
Miley seems fixated riverwalker Dec 2013 #71
meh, just another stupid meme Javaman Dec 2013 #72
Sort of Meh...I can think of lots of female singers who went the sexy route and are....well sexier Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #73
Indifferent. penultimate Dec 2013 #74
I find it stupid. TransitJohn Dec 2013 #75
Unsexy. Untasteful NoOneMan Dec 2013 #77
All I can say is ... HO HO HO!!! JoePhilly Dec 2013 #79
Not really, but I do think she is kind of gross treestar Dec 2013 #80
That is a Clear Channel sponsored event RandiFan1290 Dec 2013 #84
Not offensive, but it is pretty sleezy. Bjorn Against Dec 2013 #85
Sad. Pathetic. Trying too hard. MADem Dec 2013 #86
nice slut shaming everybody. Feel better about yourselves? liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #90
Pointing out that you think something is tasteless is "slut shaming?" Lizzie Poppet Dec 2013 #108
I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together otherone Dec 2013 #91
The APA Task Force Report On The Sexualization Of Girls Zorra Dec 2013 #92
then parents shouldn't allow their young children to watch the VMAs. There is always liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #95
It's not just the VMA's. It's everywhere. Zorra Dec 2013 #98
But for some that is what sexuality is. It's not an illusion or parody for some young people. liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #102
If the MSM had not shaped much of her sexuality, would high heels still be who she is? Zorra Dec 2013 #109
There is nothing wrong with that being part of who she is so I don't care where she got it. liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #121
That's the important thing. The problem many girls/women have is never being pretty enough, Zorra Dec 2013 #147
Very well said, Zorra. Waiting For Everyman Dec 2013 #158
I think this is why women get disgusting catcalls on the street. Waiting For Everyman Dec 2013 #96
This should be pretty simple to understand.... jberryhill Dec 2013 #155
Nonsense. Waiting For Everyman Dec 2013 #157
No, and I don't blame anyone if they do find it offensive. Iggo Dec 2013 #97
Not offensive. Trashy and dumb. Boring and stupid. mokawanis Dec 2013 #99
I just don't get it... Do people actually pay to go see this? Taitertots Dec 2013 #100
Offensive. No. Sexy. No. Trashy. Yes. onenote Dec 2013 #101
Offensive? pipi_k Dec 2013 #103
I also find it sick and... Little Star Dec 2013 #104
No. H2O Man Dec 2013 #105
Question. Does she want me to look at her or not? grahamhgreen Dec 2013 #107
A representative has responded that while she generally wants everyone to look at her for sustained grantcart Dec 2013 #110
Gladly! she's rather gross, imho. Link needs a "Warning Graphic" tag, lol grahamhgreen Dec 2013 #112
Heh jberryhill Dec 2013 #153
No - for fucks sakes, let Santa have some fun this year! Baclava Dec 2013 #113
That's the greatest ever! Glassunion Dec 2013 #114
Well.. in a way I do find this horribly offensive... SomethingFishy Dec 2013 #115
No more so than Duck Dynasty mn9driver Dec 2013 #116
Lewd. moondust Dec 2013 #117
hope they both have their shots arely staircase Dec 2013 #118
Is that the War on Christmas Foxnews is always talking about? Rex Dec 2013 #119
Y'know... there is supposed to be a vast neutral area between cthulu2016 Dec 2013 #122
He's pretending to 'do her from behind' Boudica the Lyoness Dec 2013 #124
i think it's mostly boring JI7 Dec 2013 #125
yes, you post that you're offended by this CreekDog Dec 2013 #126
You're the one that Skip Intro Dec 2013 #138
No. But I can see why you've made the error CreekDog Dec 2013 #142
Lie about it as usual, CreekDog, Skip Intro Dec 2013 #146
it doesn't change that the only racism you complain about here is against whites CreekDog Dec 2013 #156
Should have been Miley PEGGING Santa Ken Burch Dec 2013 #127
meh. pop stars are provocative. I've often found when they are resorting to this, it's kinda because LaydeeBug Dec 2013 #128
Hey wait a minute ...> YOHABLO Dec 2013 #129
Carlin said it best jdadd Dec 2013 #130
Other: Sexualizing Santa drives the creep factor up exponentially MindPilot Dec 2013 #131
Ah, parody sakabatou Dec 2013 #132
She needs a new move, this one is getting old. n/t Motown_Johnny Dec 2013 #133
Agreed. Myrina Dec 2013 #137
How about "in poor taste?" malthaussen Dec 2013 #134
Next: bare ass naked sex on stage ...without a condum... L0oniX Dec 2013 #135
Boorish. Juvenile. But I'm not offended. maced666 Dec 2013 #139
No. It's a desperate attempt for some attention. GoCubsGo Dec 2013 #140
I find it arousing. nt politichew Dec 2013 #141
Anything Justin Bieber does, I find offensive ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #143
I like Miley because she pisses so many people off. kwassa Dec 2013 #144
When are this no-talent's five minutes of fame up? AngryOldDem Dec 2013 #145
She's 21. WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #151
Yes because Miley is a talentless hack. N/t alp227 Dec 2013 #148
imo Miley is like the house guest that has started to stink... polichick Dec 2013 #149
Is "waste of time" an "Other" or a "Pass" nt fadedrose Dec 2013 #150
Not offensive Flatpicker Dec 2013 #152
No, not offensive... NaturalHigh Dec 2013 #159
I am offended that such idiocy is actually popular Doctor_J Dec 2013 #160

The Straight Story

(48,121 posts)
8. Any opinion on this would be sexist, so it is a trap!
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:24 AM
Dec 2013

Some might say she is TRYING to get people to look at her, but then that is blaming the victim (even if she doesn't realize she is one).

I didn't want to look at the pic too long, but I did see someone dressed as a patriarchal Santa holding a bag that says xxx (must be his porn stash). He is also wearing red, the color of shame. His posture denotes one of male power and joy to have it, while his dark glasses hide his oogling eyes.

Also notice he is not wearing finger nail polish, but she is - enforcing sexist stereotypes. And she is bending over in front of him, not the other way around. She is obviously being forced (through possibly economic or social standards) to perform for jolly old "saint" Nick (and what could be more patriarchal than a saint? This was most likely a show put on by the Pope).

If you can't see the same thing you have problems!

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
10. Yes.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:27 AM
Dec 2013

Santa should be a lot fatter. And he should have a full white beard. And he should be focusing more on compiling naughty and nice lists, making presents, and maintaining elf discipline at this time of year. And I also think Mrs Claus would not be amused.

rocktivity

(44,573 posts)
13. "You gotta have a gimmick...especially when you don't have any talent."
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:31 AM
Dec 2013

Last edited Mon Nov 23, 2015, 03:49 PM - Edit history (1)

-- Fred Flintstone and Barney Rubble, 1965


rocktivity
 

RC

(25,592 posts)
93. "...stupid *and* offensive?"
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:58 PM
Dec 2013

Stupid? You don't know how much money she got for doing that. As for offensive, i kinda lean that way. The word I have for it "Crass". Or tasteless. This ain't Prime Time TV, no matter when it was on.

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
17. I don't find her sexuality offensive at all, and I like her voice. I don't like all of her
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:39 AM
Dec 2013

songs but I like her voice. Young women like to explore their sexuality. There's nothing wrong with that. I did when I was young. My daughter does. Lots of young women do. It would be nice if the music industry could be a little more inclusive and show a more broad range of singers. Adele has a fantastic voice. She's overweight, doesn't dress sexy, but she is beautiful and has a beautiful voice. That being said I don't begrudge Miley her success or her sexuality.

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
18. I find it tacky and dumb, but not offensive
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:41 AM
Dec 2013

That is, it's still much better than the average Adam Sandler movie.

Why, is it something important?

JackBeck

(12,359 posts)
19. No, I don't, but your poll is slanted.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:46 AM
Dec 2013

"I find it offensive to some extent" vs. "No I don't find it offensive" can weight the answers unevenly.

But ultimately I don't find this offensive since I have no issues with a woman having confidence in her sexuality when the rest of the media has historically told her that she should look and behave otherwise.

 

Lizzie Poppet

(10,164 posts)
20. Offensive? No...I don't offend that easily. Tasteless and sleazy? You betcha.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:47 AM
Dec 2013

Fortunately, they're just still pictures and not videos...

Niceguy1

(2,467 posts)
22. is the new meeting to sitting on Santa's lap
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:19 AM
Dec 2013

I was wondering when we were going to get a thread on Santa porn lol hahahahahahaha

Rhythm

(5,435 posts)
28. There's no *yawn* category...
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:39 AM
Dec 2013

Takes a lot more than that to 'offend' me...
These folks simply leave me bored, and aren't worth my attention.
*yawn*

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
29. does nobody remember being young? Do the sixties ring a bell for anyone?
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:43 AM
Dec 2013

Or the 1980s? I watched Madonna as I grew up do almost the exact same things. It didn't traumatize me in any way. I dressed sexy as a teenager, had sex, and had fun. I grew up, got married, had kids and guess what still have fun having sex. And if people think twerking was the first dance move to simulate sex then people are forgetting dirty dancing. Everyone looks back on the movie Dirty Dancing fondly now because everyone loves Patrick Swayze, but parents were disgusted with dirty dancing and tried to keep teenagers from doing it. And the more the parents tried to keep from doing it the more the teenagers loved it. I think DU is showing it's age here a little.

WillowTree

(5,325 posts)
32. Sad that she doesn't have enough confidence in her own talent.......
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:48 AM
Dec 2013

.......that she has to resort to this kind of thing apparently all the time now.

grantcart

(53,061 posts)
33. I find all efforts to exploit ignorant white folks as "poor white trash" as offensive as
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 02:23 AM
Dec 2013

Amos and Andy was at exploiting African Americans.

But I guess that isn't what your were aiming at.

rrneck

(17,671 posts)
35. I didn't know she did a Christmas themed twerk.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 02:46 AM
Dec 2013

Was there a Halloween twerk and an Easter twerk as well? I can't keep up.

Response to Skip Intro (Original post)

yurbud

(39,405 posts)
42. with actual porn so readily available, this isn't shocking but it isn't pretty either
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 03:58 AM
Dec 2013

It's sort of like taking a dump--you know everybody does it, but you wouldn't want to watch them do it.

Oakenshield

(614 posts)
44. I reserve the term offensive for more serious matters.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 04:32 AM
Dec 2013

People saying gays are bound to go to hell, that is offensive. People saying women shouldn't have control of their own bodies, that is offensive. I really have no fucks to give if a musician wants to give a pseudo-lap dance to one of her backup singers as part of a live performance.

OmahaBlueDog

(10,000 posts)
45. Other - like the Duck Dynasty comments, this is a publicity stunt
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 04:40 AM
Dec 2013

Miley Cyrus does the twerking thing to a) re-establish for anyone who had forgotten that she is no longer Hannah Montana, and b) get people talking about her performance and how shocking it was so that she sells more copies of Bangerz and more concert tickets.

MrScorpio

(73,630 posts)
50. It's looks as if it's mutually consensual behavior
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 06:01 AM
Dec 2013

So, there's no point in me passing any judgement on it

Warpy

(111,222 posts)
51. Juvenile (watch me blow your minds! No! Watch me!)
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 06:52 AM
Dec 2013

and completely unsexy.

She's trying entirely too hard.

Warpy

(111,222 posts)
54. Well, the poor thing can't sing and she can't dance
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 07:06 AM
Dec 2013

and now that she's too old to play the kiddie role that made her famous, I guess shoving her thong clad ass into the faces and laps of inappropriate male characters is all she's got left.

At least Madonna could sing and dance.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
55. She can't stop
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 07:09 AM
Dec 2013

Actually I found that song mildly catchy. And I'm waaaaaaaaaaaay out of the target demographic.

penultimate

(1,110 posts)
78. Here recent hit song was the first Miley Cyrus song I can bear listening to
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:21 PM
Dec 2013

I think she'll be alright once she gets out of the trying too hard phase. By alright, I don't necessarily mean she'll continue to be a 'star', but I don't think she'll full on train wreck like many others before her.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
83. and she had already made a billion dollars
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:30 PM
Dec 2013

as Hannah Montana.

In other words, Newcastle has just received another trainload of coal.

Depriving Santa of what he needs for Miley's stocking.

PeteSelman

(1,508 posts)
57. The fact that she offends so many people is why I like her.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 08:01 AM
Dec 2013

I think her music sucks but I like that she ruffles feathers. That's what entertainers are supposed to do.

Response to B Calm (Reply #58)

 

Logical

(22,457 posts)
87. Well, maybe sour grapes by you.....
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:39 PM
Dec 2013

I am not a fan of hers because I am more a classic rock guy.

But she has had 3 number one albums and has sold 15 million albums in the United States and 50 millions albums worldwide.

So I guess she has been successful as a singer and performer by any standard.

 

NM_Birder

(1,591 posts)
94. Logical,........... money does not = quality.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:59 PM
Dec 2013

your standards and mine are different, just because it's popular doesn't mean it's good............to me anyway. I think her singing is as catchy and relevant as any other pop princess, but let me clarify this for you.

I think her singing is as two dimensional and shallow as Rihanna, Katy Perry, Kesha or any other crap my niece is currently infatuated with, I do however think she humps herself ....and now Santa on stage better than anyone else.

How long am I allowed to stare at a pretty girl humping Santa, before it's just her ass I'm staring at and not her gajillion dollar record deal ?

HereSince1628

(36,063 posts)
60. I find it a clownish play for attention...
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 09:10 AM
Dec 2013

If that's what it takes, I guess, a person has gotta do what a person has to do.


Vinca

(50,248 posts)
62. I find the "skankification" of womanhood offensive. It's got nothing to do with Santa.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 09:17 AM
Dec 2013

At least her tongue is in her head, that's something.

BellaKos

(318 posts)
63. I think I'll have to come up with entirely new words.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 09:19 AM
Dec 2013

Well, we can use the word, vulgar, I guess, but that doesn't convey the truly offensive aspect of this. I mean ... Is sexual expression supposed to be vulgar? And does it have to be in public?

It has nothing to do with the reaction of the audience, but rather the extremes women are willing to go to in order to get attention.
Here's a quick question?
Would any person whom you truly respect -- past or present -- exploit her sexuality and demean herself like this?

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
70. It depends on the setting and circumstances
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 09:53 AM
Dec 2013

Last edited Tue Dec 24, 2013, 10:26 AM - Edit history (1)

Obviously, this occurred at one of her concerts ... I would think he concerted goers expect nothing less. Posting photos of this ... definitely depends on the setting and audience.

I am wholly unentertained and unimpressed. I wonder about the motivation of posting it in this setting. DU is an adult setting, so after this post I wont be seeing it again.

edit: spelling program keeps changing unentertained to entertained ... I am NOT entertained by this

riverwalker

(8,694 posts)
71. Miley seems fixated
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 11:49 AM
Dec 2013

on her butt and tongue. Nearly every pic has her tongue out so far you can see her tonsils. I know it's considered "erotic" these days, but Farrah Fawcett and Marilyn were just as alluring without turning their esophagus inside out. I don't get Miley, and since she came out on Twitter insulting Sinead O'Conner I now refuse to even try.

Javaman

(62,507 posts)
72. meh, just another stupid meme
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 11:52 AM
Dec 2013

for people to freak out about over one reason or another.

by reacting to it, you promote it.

there is power in ignoring things that the media tells us is "outrageous".

if we did it more, stupid sensationalism would be less popular.

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
73. Sort of Meh...I can think of lots of female singers who went the sexy route and are....well sexier
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:01 PM
Dec 2013

For example:

penultimate

(1,110 posts)
74. Indifferent.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:18 PM
Dec 2013

I don't really find it sexy and it does scream of attention seeking, but isn't that what many entertainers do? I'm failing to be offended or outraged by this or anything else. Besides, if I don't want to see it, I don't have to watch it (which I do not)

TransitJohn

(6,932 posts)
75. I find it stupid.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:19 PM
Dec 2013

If it were accompanied by the 'music' I'm sure was being lip synched while this performance was occurring, the I would find it offensive.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
80. Not really, but I do think she is kind of gross
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:22 PM
Dec 2013

There is something about her - she's skinny, looks unattractive and unsexy, like a kid, so it has an ick factor to it. It's like she's not old enough for that.

If she can sing, why does she need this stuff? If you want to shed a good girl image, you just don't have to go that far. It's to a point of absurdity.

RandiFan1290

(6,226 posts)
84. That is a Clear Channel sponsored event
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:33 PM
Dec 2013

It must be family friendly and RW approved.

At least it ain't the Dixie Chicks, huh?


MADem

(135,425 posts)
86. Sad. Pathetic. Trying too hard.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:39 PM
Dec 2013

You can see Mama Joe do that same dance, only better, in a movie that was released back in 1997 called SOUL FOOD.

And "Mama" was a grandma in that film.

Are the eighties back? That costume would seem to suggest it...all she needs are a pair of shoulder pads!

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
92. The APA Task Force Report On The Sexualization Of Girls
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 12:56 PM
Dec 2013
Sexualization of Girls

Journalists, child advocacy organizations, parents and psychologists have argued that the sexualization of girls is a broad and increasing problem and is harmful to girls.The APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls was formed in response to these expressions of public concern.
snip---
There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when

a person’s value comes only from his or her sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics;

a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy;

a person is sexually objectified — that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use, rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making; and/or

sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present; any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children. Anyone (girls, boys, men, women) can be sexualized. But when children are imbued with adult sexuality, it is often imposed upon them rather than chosen by them. Self-motivated sexual exploration, on the other hand, is not sexualization by our definition, nor is age-appropriate exposure to information about sexuality.

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
95. then parents shouldn't allow their young children to watch the VMAs. There is always
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:14 PM
Dec 2013

controversial material on the VMAs. And as their kids get older parents need to teach their children that it is okay to explore their sexual side, but that it does not define the entirety of who they are. They are also what they learn in school, the hobbies they have, the sports they play, the kind actions they display towards others, the lessons they learn through the mistakes they make, etc.

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
98. It's not just the VMA's. It's everywhere.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:58 PM
Dec 2013

Few girls ever get a chance to discover what a real "sexual side" is, or what our real "sexual side" is, because we are taught by mass media from birth that our "sexual side" is supposed to be exactly what is illustrated in the photos in the OP.

The fabricated, marketed role models propagandizing girls and women into how and what our sexuality is supposed to be is fucking everywhere, all the time, not just on the VMAs.

Exploring our sexual side would be awesome, if we weren't imprinted with the illusion, a parody, of what female sexuality is, by an all pervasive example pushed on us by profit motivated marketers, before we are out of the cradle.

If parents in the US were to make a serious attempt to shield their children, not just girls, from artificial sexualization, they'd practically have to move to a remote region of the Northwest Territories, not have any visual media, and keep the kids from going to town until they are 18.

Don't get me wrong, I love sex early and often, but I had to seriously ponder and eliminate the artifices in my sexuality that were created by media sexualization, in order to come to a place where I feel that my sexuality is genuine, and as much my own as I have been able to determine to this point.

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
102. But for some that is what sexuality is. It's not an illusion or parody for some young people.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 02:18 PM
Dec 2013

It's not a parody for my daughter. She has purple hair, wears leggings and high heels. That is genuinely who she is. It's not all of who she is, but it is part of who she is. It is not an illusion for her. We have to acknowledge that for some people that is what sexuality is. I guess it would be nice if we could see some other examples of what sex is, but it is just natural for young people to express themselves sexually. That is why we see it so often. I saw a commercial once that I thought was so cute. I think it was a cereal commercial where the wife was wearing jeans and reaching up to get something and her husband was looking at her butt. When she looked at him he said, "Yes, I was checking you out." My husband and I laugh at that because I catch him doing that from time to time. And the song Blurred Lines. That song was actually written for his wife who he is still hot for. My husband actually relates to that song as well because he is a very sexual person and he is still hot for me which I'm glad for. Sex is a lot of different things to a lot of different people.

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
109. If the MSM had not shaped much of her sexuality, would high heels still be who she is?
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 05:16 PM
Dec 2013

I understand what your are saying, and acknowledge that the fact that part of her sexuality was instilled in her by marketers, and that this became part of her sexual psyche, part of how she was sexualized. If she had never been taught that high heels were sexy, would she still wear them in order to feel attractive?

For some people, particularly in the past, having been presented with cigarette smoking as sexy and hot in the media, cigarette smoking became a part of their sexualization, and then a part of how they expressed sexuality.

http://tobacco.stanford.edu/tobacco_main/images.php?token2=fm_st129.php&token1=fm_img3764.php&theme_file=fm_mt011.php&theme_name=Psychological%20Exploits&subtheme_name=Sex%20Sells

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
121. There is nothing wrong with that being part of who she is so I don't care where she got it.
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 03:22 AM
Dec 2013

She is a strong, independent, self confident young woman who values herself not because of her high heels but rather values herself because she is sweet, generous, artistic, intelligent, loving, clever, articulate, and because she knows she is loved. She also enjoys coloring her hair purple, wearing high heels and enjoys experimenting with her sexuality. That is part of who she is and there is nothing wrong with it.

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
147. That's the important thing. The problem many girls/women have is never being pretty enough,
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 07:28 PM
Dec 2013

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skinny enough, well dressed enough, confident enough, etc., to measure up to media standards, and feeling that those standards must be met in order for them to value themselves as women and worthwhile human beings.

It sounds like your daughter is secure within herself, and that her self worth and self esteem are not primarily based on her appearance. It's nice to hear about girls who are not adversely affected by sexualization.

BTW, I am not at all offended by the photos in the OP. I do find them disturbing on a social level; I hate the idea of some poor girl being sexualized into believing that the sexualized image represented in the OP is what she has to be in order for her to feel good about herself.

Waiting For Everyman

(9,385 posts)
158. Very well said, Zorra.
Thu Dec 26, 2013, 08:35 AM
Dec 2013

A parody is exactly what society is being sold as a norm. And society is buying it.

Waiting For Everyman

(9,385 posts)
96. I think this is why women get disgusting catcalls on the street.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 01:19 PM
Dec 2013

Really??? Do we really think that men are going to look at images of a performance like that (which can be seen on any dance floor anywhere by the way, including on mass media tv), and then walk out on the public streets and look only at women's eyes, respectfully? To assert that we do expect that is dishonest bullshit! Look at the OP images again -- we're quite clearly encouraging men to treat women in a particular way, and it isn't good! And when it's presented as something that is ok to see in public, it's presumed to be ok public behavior. It's simply "monkey see, monkey do". I'm sitting here wondering, do we really not get this? Just how dumb are we today?

If this is the acceptable norm for pop culture entertainment now, as it certainly seems to be from all I can tell (and it must be, because there is no noticeable objection to it from DU's feminists in this thread), then it is preposterous to complain about leering behavior on the streets, as several current threads in GD are heatedly doing. The lack of objection in this thread shows that those leering threads are completely phony "fighting only for the sake of fighting", without any point.

If this isn't encouraging people to see women as "sexual objects", then that term has no definition left at all, and the whole issue has no frame of reference anymore.

Feminists, if this is ok with you, then your complaints about objectification are bullshit, a meaningless joke and a fraud. "Friends of women", if you care about how women are treated, and a pop culture like this is ok with you, the same goes for you.

Yes, I have a problem with those images -- I think they are degrading to all women (of which I am one). I may not be able to do much to change pop culture, but I'll be damned if I'll sit by anymore and say that it's ok with me. No, it sure isn't. I'm sick and tired of seeing it, getting more and more disgusting each year, while everybody says sure it's fine -- just as if they wouldn't say "shit" if they had a mouthful of it. Well figuratively, that's the case alright. And it's about time to say so, and quit feeding the mass pretense.

Miley Cyrus, you're a dangerous, destructive twit (although certainly not the only one, more's the pity). And it's a real shame our society can't find something more worthwhile to reward that much.

 

jberryhill

(62,444 posts)
155. This should be pretty simple to understand....
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 11:59 PM
Dec 2013

Miley Cyrus is a PERFORMER, AN ENTERTAINER. The picture above is not taken from a hidden camera or some reality show. It is her performing - engaging in fantasy - for entertainment.

A woman walking down the street, in your class, or in your workplace is NOT PERFORMING FOR YOU. She, as opposed to someone on stage and under lights for the purpose of entertaining you, is LIVING HER LIFE. And it would behoove you to respect that she is entitled to LIVE HER LIFE on her terms, not yours.

Your basic underlying thesis here is what leads to making women wear burkas.

It does not matter what Miley Cyrus does on stage, as her profession, for the express purpose of entertaining an audience. Burlesque is a classic form of entertainment enjoyed by men and women alike. It is an ACT. It is not even who Miley Cyrus is, much less any and all random women for whom "what Miley Cyrus does to entertain" is, in your mind, some sort of excuse for poor behavior.

Waiting For Everyman

(9,385 posts)
157. Nonsense.
Thu Dec 26, 2013, 08:26 AM
Dec 2013

Miley Cyrus and others at her level of mass awareness have created the sum total of what we refer to as pop culture. That culture definitely gives the mass population its impression of what is acceptable. It is a major factor in how attitudes are molded.

This isn't a matter of one person performing like this, it is commonplace. It is the norm now. It is widespread, the "thing to do". It is seen constantly everywhere. And yes, it has become a problem for society as a whole and needs to change. The public needs to wake up and reject this garbage in the "maketplace of ideas", and that is where feminists, if they were interested in doing so, could exert some pressure and provide some leadership, but clearly they are not interested in taking on anything so formidable as pop culture. Apparently it's easier to just nitpick the perceived attitudes of individuals in one-on-one interactions, and vaguely decry the patriarchy.

It isn't burkas OR live sex acts onstage (which is where we're headed if this goes much further). Rejecting one extreme doesn't require us to accept the other extreme. People are so easily bamboozled today, by arguments like that.

The fact that any feminists are ok with this just flat amazes me. Only a few here have voiced any criticism of this, and in future I will give more weight to their views for doing so. The rest have demonstrated clearly (either by approval, indifference or silence), how shallow feminism today really is.

mokawanis

(4,438 posts)
99. Not offensive. Trashy and dumb. Boring and stupid.
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 02:07 PM
Dec 2013

Another celebrity (so many of them to fill up the pages of People magazine!) acting like a clown in public. Welcome to the US of A.

 

Taitertots

(7,745 posts)
100. I just don't get it... Do people actually pay to go see this?
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 02:15 PM
Dec 2013

Does anyone look at that picture and think that it is cool?

Little Star

(17,055 posts)
104. I also find it sick and...
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 04:23 PM
Dec 2013

it makes me wonder if she was molested as a child. Just being honest that's what I really think, sorry.

grantcart

(53,061 posts)
110. A representative has responded that while she generally wants everyone to look at her for sustained
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 05:41 PM
Dec 2013

periods of time and when in the venue she is performing yell thunderous shouts of approval while she 'performs' she specifically requests that the person named 'grahamgreen' look away whenever she performs.

 

Baclava

(12,047 posts)
113. No - for fucks sakes, let Santa have some fun this year!
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 06:22 PM
Dec 2013

bah-humbergers piss me off...X-mas is just another party, get in the game

SomethingFishy

(4,876 posts)
115. Well.. in a way I do find this horribly offensive...
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 06:33 PM
Dec 2013

Not her or her stupidity. What I find offensive is the amount of money spent on this little no talent hack could be financing the careers of dozens of talented musicians who have paid their dues, who have practiced until their fingers bled, who have honed their craft while touring sections of the country sleeping in a old crappy van playing anywhere they can for whatever little money they can scrape up.

What I find offensive is that if you want to make it in the music business today all you need to do is sing in front of the mirror in your bathroom, try out for a "talent" contest on TV and then sell your soul to Simon Cowell.. Or get "discovered" by the Disney Channel.

mn9driver

(4,422 posts)
116. No more so than Duck Dynasty
Tue Dec 24, 2013, 06:52 PM
Dec 2013

Or any of the countless other shows out there that showcase talentless hacks doing outrageous things in the name of entertainment.

It's just another kind of porn.

cthulu2016

(10,960 posts)
122. Y'know... there is supposed to be a vast neutral area between
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 03:37 AM
Dec 2013

what is outre, distasteful, quirky, alien, unlovely or whatever and what one finds offensive.

The crackpot division of the world into the admirable and the offensive is f'ing nuts.

I do not find this offensive. I don't have the time, energy or imagination to gin up offense over some burlesque show. (That's about what we're talking about here.)

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
156. it doesn't change that the only racism you complain about here is against whites
Thu Dec 26, 2013, 01:30 AM
Dec 2013

which is actually racist.

but there you are.

 

Ken Burch

(50,254 posts)
127. Should have been Miley PEGGING Santa
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 04:04 AM
Dec 2013

I mean, if she's gonna go there...she really needs to COMMIT to it.

 

LaydeeBug

(10,291 posts)
128. meh. pop stars are provocative. I've often found when they are resorting to this, it's kinda because
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 04:04 AM
Dec 2013

their song doesn't *sing*

 

MindPilot

(12,693 posts)
131. Other: Sexualizing Santa drives the creep factor up exponentially
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 11:38 AM
Dec 2013

You already have this moralistic, punitive, judgmental, voyeuristic bearded old white dude materializing in your house in the middle of the night to perform the childhood equivalent of an annual review. Please no. Not EVERYTHING needs an Xmas theme. Sex is one of them--at least for me.

 

L0oniX

(31,493 posts)
135. Next: bare ass naked sex on stage ...without a condum...
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 01:06 PM
Dec 2013

but then that wouldn't be a new thing ...since The Fugs did it back in the sixties.

GoCubsGo

(32,078 posts)
140. No. It's a desperate attempt for some attention.
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 02:24 PM
Dec 2013

Not to mention sleazy and tasteless, as some here have already pointed out.

kwassa

(23,340 posts)
144. I like Miley because she pisses so many people off.
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 04:15 PM
Dec 2013

Kind of a performance art thing, and more entertaining than the vagina knitter.

polichick

(37,152 posts)
149. imo Miley is like the house guest that has started to stink...
Wed Dec 25, 2013, 10:38 PM
Dec 2013

Her behavior is so pathetically desperate, it's easy to forget that she actually does have talent.

Wish she'd just sing again:

NaturalHigh

(12,778 posts)
159. No, not offensive...
Thu Dec 26, 2013, 10:06 AM
Dec 2013

but not interesting either. For the life of me, I don't understand how this young woman pushes the buttons of so many people.

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