I am officiating a wedding on Saturday....

[KatyMan]

I signed up for one of those Universal Life Church ordinations when my youngest step-daughter was getting married. it was an emotional time, as you can imagine, and I was the officiant at the (atheist) wedding. But, a friend of hers is getting married and I was asked to be the officiant, basically because I'm cheap (i.e....free). I said ok. But now the wedding is Saturday and I have the script of what I'm supposed to say (unobjectionable, just normal wedding stuff) but dang I'm nervous about it! The rehearsal is tonight (Thursday). Can I have some good vibes please??? I can't describe how uptight I suddenly am about this! This is a big memory for them...

[Feral Child]

1. ++Vibes++

I bet you'll be fine.

Relax and have fun with it!

[KatyMan]

4. Thanks!

I'll try.

[Egalitarian Thug]

2. In through the nose, out through the mouth, slow and controlled.

I know it's cliche, but imagine the whole group naked, it works.

Also, ONE shot/drink can be very helpful in losing some of the self-consciousness.

[KatyMan]

5. I've practiced the script a lot

and the more I do the more I stumble so maybe I'll just put it down
A shot might be in the offing beforehand...

[KatyMan]

6. in through the nose

and out through the mouth is very Joseph Campbell...

[Cirque du So-What]

10. You're right about stopping after ONE shot

Otherwise, you may...

...talk about the Twelve Commandments...

...mention Moses' building the ark and gathering animals two by two...

...or tell everyone about the Peter Pull at St. Taffy's next week.

[Egalitarian Thug]

13. Combine that with picturing your audience naked and hilarity ensues!

It would certainly be a memorable ceremony.

[Vincardog]

3. Relax, practice the script three times and put it down. After that concentrate on how well you can

see the event going. Concentrate on details, "How radiant the Bride will be", "How proud the groom is", How happy everyone will be when you pronounce them Man and Man/ Wife and wife/ Man and Wife.


Concentrate on how well it will go and allow yourself to enjoy it.

And Best wishes to you and the happy couple.

[KatyMan]

7. I like that Vincardog...

I really believe in visualizing things, whether it's a wedding or something to do for work. Thanks for your reminder!

[Vincardog]

15. Great; just imagine how great it is going to be --- and let it be that great.

[frogmarch]

8. I think that if you focus on

what a joyous occasion it is for the wedding couple, you'll forget how nervous you are. Your face will glow with happiness and you'll radiate happiness all around.

[LeftofObama]

9. I bet you'll do just fine.

Here's some good vibes for you anyway. {{{~~~}}}

If they didn't think you could do it they never would have asked you. I wish you and the soon-to-be married couple all the best!

[ryan_cats]

11. Good vibes on their way...

Good vibes on their way. I married a friend and his fiance. Where I live, we can be 'deputized' to be able to perform a civil ceremony on whatever day we pick. They give you a sample script as well as the things you need to say. The two wrote their own vows incorporating the correct terms and it went off without a hitch.

Not only will you do well, you'll have a great time, it was really neat. I know a couple of other people who did the same thing and they really enjoyed it as well.

[KatyMan]

12. thank you all very much

I know I'm being a butt about this and making it about me when all I have to do is read the script they give me and participate in a wonderful day with 2 wonderful people.
Maybe I posted to fish for sympathy, I won't deny it, but thank you all for your support, it means a lot!

[nadinbrzezinski]

14. You'll do fine

And they'll remember it for a lifetime.