Top 37 Things Dying People Say They Regret,

[G_j]

http://www.viralnova.com/regret-when-older/

Everyone goes through life experiencing enough mistakes and resulting damage that, by the time they are old enough, they have regrets. They say hindsight is 20/20 and when you look back at your life you will know what moments you should have changed. However, we want to help you out. Forget hindsight. We’ve compiled a list of the 37 things you must not do or else you will definitely regret them at the end of your life. Just read through these and trust us. It’ll be worth it.

1.) Not traveling when you had the chance. Traveling gets harder as you get older, as more people depend on your presence, day-to-day and it ends up becoming more expensive to bring more people with you.

2.) Not learning another language. You probably took years of another language in high school. You should put it to good use.

3.) Staying in a bad relationship. It may feel hard to get out of a bad relationship, but it’s not worse than staying in it and wasting everyone’s time.

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[Shandris]

1. An excellent list and advice well worth listening to.

15 and 16 are/were the bane of my existence, and its only recently that I've finally -truly- been able to put them behind me.

And for you men out there, the friends I've had who were nurses all said the same thing: the number 1 most-heard regret from dying men is working too much. It's anecdotal of course, but no one would know better. Don't let that be your last thought!

[The Wielding Truth]

2. None of those really. I just regret not being born with a brain that could fix the big problems

of this planet - medically, environmentally and culturally.

I would love to be able to make big changes to improve life for those who will be left with after today's greed has taken its toll.

[A HERETIC I AM]

5. Don't sell yourself short.

Are you doing things that make life better for even one person? Even if that person is you?

Then you ARE fixing the big problems.

[The Wielding Truth]

18. Thanks. I can manage my life circle to my satisfaction but I am not smart enough to arrest the

greed that has the power over our struggling democracy. I regret not having the capabilities to step out there and turn the tide. I know my limitations. I am a step above Palin, but I cannot lie well enough to reach the power of a McCain. I am so far from the mental savvy of Elizabeth Warren and ill equipped in financial intelligence to buy power. If I had the smarts to know when to play the game and when to strike, I would be able to negotiate changes. I don't have the goods.

That is what I regret.

[A HERETIC I AM]

20. You know what? No one that has "power" is any different than you are.

When I was young I thought the government officials I saw on TV must be some special breed of human. They must be particularly wise to be in a position to lead this country. I held that point of view well into my adult years.


I first realized that it was nonsense when it dawned on me that I was older than the White House Press Secretary - Ari Fleischer, to be specific. I'm no dummy, but realizing that this guy on TV speaking for the president was younger than I was and therefore likely just as big a schmuck as I was, and it kind of took the gloss right the hell off.

For the most part, they aren't special, they aren't a whole lot smarter, they are in no way unique - they are just in the positions they are in by accident of birth, family ties, dumb luck and occasionally, hard work.

But they are all still just dumb schmucks like me, with no special powers or insight.

So don't have any regrets. It gives too much to people that don't deserve it.

[The Wielding Truth]

21. I will not argue your point. I know that ordinary people can do extraordinary things.

It is more common that ordinary people can really screw things up. Would I be immune to threatening corruption? Could I understand the law enough to make needed decisions? Could I hold a press conference and make sense? Could I leave my friends and family to do the 24/7 job of a good leader? I would need help but I have no experience to set that up. Who could I trust? It takes someone with more brain power than me.

If you feel you have it then please take it. I would rather have a like minded Duer in charge than any brainy Republican.They are in a world that has little soul and less common sense.

[A HERETIC I AM]

28. I just got home from work, .....

so I apologize for the nearly 6 hour lapse here.

You flatter me unduly, but I appreciate it. I am not going to run for any office, however much I might like to or think I could do good. A single, 55 year old male Atheist isn't likely to garner much in the way of public support, regardless of the office.

I'll stick to truck driving!

I still think you are selling yourself short by your first paragraph, and we both know that neither of us knows the other at all. This is, to my recollection, our first exchange on this website.

I just don't like to read people say the sorts of things you are saying. Not all of us can be Elizabeth Warren or Barack Obama or whoever. Politicians tend to have enormous egos, from what I gather. It takes one to slog through a campaign, after all.

Hell, this country elected to the presidency a "C" Student who failed at every major undertaking he ever undertook with the possible notable exception of alcohol consumption. Well..."elected" might be a stretch, but you get my point.

Chin up and all.

Cheers

[Agony]

27. You understand a lot.

and say it well.

Cheerio!
Agony

[A HERETIC I AM]

29. That's very kind of you to say. n/t

[madville]

34. That person does not exist

No one person has had or will have that ability so I wouldn't feel bad about it

[Bluenorthwest]

3. I find it hard to believe that many dying people say they regret not having learned a good party

trick. Sorry, that seems insane.

[snooper2]

11. It's just a made up list of random things they thought were "deep"

It's not like they went to a hospice in every city, room to room asking people

[El_Johns]

19. It's fake. They just made it up. No one says they regret not having a party trick, I guarantee you.

I doubt dying people talk about travel, either. I've been around lots of dying people, and not one has talked about wishing they had traveled.

[ecstatic]

31. +1. They lost me at the "quit texting" tip

A more credible list, for anyone who's interested:

http://www.hospicepatients.org/five-regrets-of-the-dying-bronnie-ware.html

[El_Johns]

32. A better list, I agree.

[RC]

4. My top choices from this list.

1.) Not traveling when you had the chance.
(Traveling is broadening. People that have never travailed, never experienced other cultures, always seem to be missing something when you get to know them. More ridged in their thinking. The Rah, rah, rah, USA, USA, USA! syndrome.)

3.) Staying in a bad relationship.
(Staying in a bad relationship is damaging to a person. The hate and discontent builds and spills over into other aspects of your life. You in turn start abusing others to deal with your own abuse. The 'kick the dog' syndrome.)

8.) Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.
(My daughter is a post graduate engineering student. Her favorite toys as a child were Lincoln Logs, Lego's and Tinker Toys.)

11.) Not realizing how beautiful you are.
(I figured this out a long time ago. There are a lot of 'plain looking', beautiful women out there, just as their are a lot of good looking women, with ugly personalities out there. A reading of DU posts will easily show who is which.)

8.) Holding grudges, especially against those you love. Choose to let go of your pain, instead of dwelling on it.
(This is for the 'usual suspects'. They can't seem to let go. Watch their pile-ons. See also #11)


25.) Not stopping to appreciate the moment.
(Taking pictures helps me appreciate the moment. I notice more of what is around me. I also have the pictures for later remembrance and showing to others, who were not there.)

31.) Never taking a big risk (especially in love).
(I have taken huge risks several times. It paid off big each time. Each time, it changed the course of my life.)

[shenmue]

6. Good!

[malaise]

7. K & R

Nice

[riderinthestorm]

8. Bookmarking to read tomorrow when I have more time nt

[NM_Birder]

9. Great list, .....very motivational

[snooper2]

10. I regret never coming up with a list of 37 items

I mean, I've done 10...

done 15, even done 25 once, but 37?


I screwed up LOL

[nolabear]

12. Not learning an instrument.

[ProfessorGAC]

14. I Expected To See That On There

Was surprised that didn't make a list this long. Especially since a few of those 37 seemed like pretty much the same thing as another.

Fortunately, i don't have that regret. I play piano and anything with strings on it.

[Iggo]

15. That's a big one.

Every time I break out my guitar in front of people, at least one of them says "Damn! I wish I'd've learned guitar."

When I tell them they still can, I get blank looks.

They think it's too hard.

It's really not.

[The2ndWheel]

13. I find these funny when grouped together

14.) Spending your youth being self-absorbed. There is more to the world than just you and eventually you’ll realize that.

15.) Caring too much about what other people think. When you’re older, you’ll realize that the opinions of others don’t factor into your true happiness.

16.) Supporting the dreams of others over your own. Being nice is one thing, but sacrificing your happiness isn’t worth it.

Even if there is more to the world than just you, you're sort of better off just staying self-absorbed, since what you think and your happiness trumps what others think and what others dream about.

[Laelth]

16. k&r for exposure. n/t

-Laelth

[Ikonoklast]

17. They didn't list the actual #1 thing "dying people" regretted...

Wasting Time Making Another Stupid List for internet consumption.


Stuff like this all so much bullshit, no one asked anyone anything, it's just one of thousands upon thousands of 'lists' found out in cyberland made up in order to drive traffic to their website.

[Boudica the Lyoness]

22. Buying green bananas

should be on the list.

[vanlassie]

23. So should smoking.

[spanone]

24. when i'm dying will this be a quiz?????

[Art_from_Ark]

25. I can read all the signs in Number 2

So I guess I at least won't have any regrets about not learning another language (By the way, the photo was taken in the Shinjuku ward of Tokyo)

[JustAnotherGen]

26. #25

So very true these days. . .

[liberal_at_heart]

30. I'm working on finding a balance between never giving up on dreams and accepting that

they may not come true. I would love to complete my college degree and become a biologist, and I still plan on pursuing this. However, I have been taking care of a family for the past 20 years two of whom are disabled. Not to mention I have had debilitating anxiety and depression most of my life. So, I am trying to come to a place in my life where I can still work toward my dream and yet still find peace with myself if it does not happen.

[FatBuddy]

33. "I wish I would have worked more"

i want to die at my desk.