Scorned Wife Who Donated Kidney to Husband Wants it Back. Whaa?

[NaturalHigh]

A wife who donated a kidney to her ailing husband who allegedly cheated on her after the operation, has changed her mind about the donation. And yes, that means she wants it back.

U.K. couple Samantha and Andy Lamb have been married since 2007. Four years ago, after Andy's kidneys started failing, he began undergoing thrice-weekly dialysis sessions. In an effort to save her husband's life, Samantha, now 41, offered up one of her kidneys, which Andy, now 45, gratefully accepted.

http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/scorned-wife-donated-kidney-husband-wants-back-whaa-214900174.html

[CBGLuthier]

1. ala George Lopez

You got to be a special kind of asshole to cheat on a woman who saves your life. Very special indeed.

[NaturalHigh]

27. I had forgotten about that.

Is he even still around?

[Nye Bevan]

2. I'm pretty sure "no backsies" applies to this situation (nt)

[HappyMe]

3. I would think that this would be an

all sales are final type situation.

[1000words]

4. LOL ... it doesn't work that way

Just get a good lawyer and take his money, instead.

[Swede Atlanta]

9. Right now she is asking for "specific performance"

in other words she wants the kidney and nothing else.

There are all kinds of problems with her claim. She has no claim for a gift she gave. The only claim she might have would be if she could demonstrate there was a contract between her and her husband, i.e. a kidney in exchange for fidelity. Even then courts in the U.S. at least normally would require something in writing and would likely find some legal basis for finding the contract unenforceable (the "ewww" factor). Even if they found a binding contract they would likely never find for "specific performance", i.e. to hand back the kidney because a human life is dependent upon it and again the "ewww" factor.

As for suing for money what would be the basis of her claims? Aside from a settlement out of a divorce, it would be innovative law making for a judge to find that "equitable division of the assets" would include setting a value on the kidney. With the value of the kidney established that would be added to the "his" column and the equivalent money value of the kidney would go into the "her" column. That would be innovative jurisprudence indeed.

[geek tragedy]

21. no, she's not asking for the kidney back.

If I could, I'd take it back and give it to someone else. ... All I want from him is his name on the divorce papers.

[JVS]

5. Surgery out of spite? Not happening.

[Swede Atlanta]

6. I don't think that kind of gift is subject to recovery......

it is the kind of gift, like when you purchase underwear from a store, that you cannot reclaim or as with the underwear, return.

It is unfortunate for her that he was such a slime ball but she needs to forget getting the kidney back. That is not going to happen.

[unblock]

7. it reads like they made a sensational story out of a throwaway whine.

first, even the article says she would want it back in order to donate it to someone else, not to have it back in her own body.

second, it doesn't sound like she's suing for it or anything like that.

it really sound to me like a completely idle whine, gee, I'm so angry at him for cheating i wish i could have donated my kidney to someone else.

instead of recognizing it as idle venting by someone who believes they were cheated on, they're treating it far more seriously than i suspect it was intended.

[B2G]

8. He should send her a jar of piss. nt

[geek tragedy]

16. Two alternatives: (A) you didn't read the article before making that comment*; or

(B) you're a really awful human being.

*she is not suing to get it back and is not asking for it back. She's saying she wishes she could have given it to someone more deserving, since she hates him (for cheating on her AFTER she saved his life by giving him her kidney).

[B2G]

23. You're right, I didn't read the article

But was going on the thread title.

[geek tragedy]

25. article titles are often deceiving

in this case, the woman gave up her kidney to save his life, he responded by cheating on her, and now she wants a divorce and made an offhand comment that she wishes she could take it back and give it to someone else--a rather mild comment in this context.

[B2G]

26. He is as scumbag for cheating on her

The whole article was written for sensationalism.

[bravenak]

10. That's too bad that he hurt her like that.

She's lashing out, she's in pain, I understand. She knows she can't have it back. He should feel like an ass for cheating on her after she gave him a piece of herself. A very important piece that he needed for survival. What a selfish man.

[Shrike47]

11. He's a horrible man, but legally, he'll keep the kidney.

I can see her suit alleging fraud: he said he'd love me forever if I gave him a kidney.

[NaturalHigh]

15. Definitely, but she will probably come out the winner in the divorce.

At least she will if they still have anything left after the kidney transplant. Not sure how it works in England, but a transplant is pretty pricey around here, even if one has insurance.

[DRoseDARs]

12. Sloppy and disingenuous journalism...

She isn't trying to get her kidney back. She made a comment of regretting giving him her kidney. Whoever wrote this article made something out of whole cloth.

To wit:
"I would definitely go through the operation again - but I wouldn't give the kidney to him. I hate him. If I could, I'd take it back and give it [to] someone else. Obviously I don't want people to be put off putting their names on the organ donor list. But all I want from him is his name on the divorce papers."

[geek tragedy]

13. lovely headline-- 'scorned' wife--

legally she's not likely to have a remedy, but the husband is a world-class scumbag. Makes John Edwards look like husband of the year.

[NaturalHigh]

14. I just posted the headline as it was.

Yes, I know that word sets off anger bells for some. In this case, though, the word is factually correct.

[geek tragedy]

17. actually, no. She was not scorned, she was betrayed nt

[NaturalHigh]

18. That too.

[geek tragedy]

19. scorned means rejected, insulted--here she wasn't rejected--she

busted him for cheating and kicked his ass to the curb.

[NaturalHigh]

20. Okay.

I didn't mean to set off a word police trigger. Again, I also didn't write the headline.

[geek tragedy]

22. understood, peace nt

[Auntie Bush]

24. Losers weepers...finders keepers.................

[magical thyme]

28. Possession is 9/10's of the law

or something like that!

Just read the article. Sensationalism. Should have known...

[Kelvin Mace]

29. Tabloid journalism

The story contradicts itself:

A wife who donated a kidney to her ailing husband who allegedly cheated on her after the operation, has changed her mind about the donation. And yes, that means she wants it back.

"I would definitely go through the operation again - but I wouldn't give the kidney to him. I hate him. If I could, I'd take it back and give it [to] someone else. Obviously I don't want people to be put off putting their names on the organ donor list. But all I want from him is his name on the divorce papers."

[davidn3600]

30. Well...it was 4 years later. It wasn't like he dumped her after getting off the operating table

He claims their relationship was having issues even beforehand and that her family hated him.

[1000words]

31. Bottomline: A gift is a gift.

He owes her nothing, in that regard.

[NaturalHigh]

32. That's true.

I'd like to think I would have made every effort, though, if my wife had forked over a kidney. Maybe he did.