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An Open Letter From Dylan Farrow
Whats your favorite Woody Allen movie? Before you answer, you should know: when I was seven years old, Woody Allen took me by the hand and led me into a dim, closet-like attic on the second floor of our house. He told me to lay on my stomach and play with my brothers electric train set. Then he sexually assaulted me. He talked to me while he did it, whispering that I was a good girl, that this was our secret, promising that wed go to Paris and Id be a star in his movies. I remember staring at that toy train, focusing on it as it traveled in its circle around the attic. To this day, I find it difficult to look at toy trains.
For as long as I could remember, my father had been doing things to me that I didnt like. I didnt like how often he would take me away from my mom, siblings and friends to be alone with him. I didnt like it when he would stick his thumb in my mouth. I didnt like it when I had to get in bed with him under the sheets when he was in his underwear. I didnt like it when he would place his head in my naked lap and breathe in and breathe out. I would hide under beds or lock myself in the bathroom to avoid these encounters, but he always found me. These things happened so often, so routinely, so skillfully hidden from a mother that would have protected me had she known, that I thought it was normal. I thought this was how fathers doted on their daughters. But what he did to me in the attic felt different. I couldnt keep the secret anymore.
When I asked my mother if her dad did to her what Woody Allen did to me, I honestly did not know the answer. I also didnt know the firestorm it would trigger. I didnt know that my father would use his sexual relationship with my sister to cover up the abuse he inflicted on me. I didnt know that he would accuse my mother of planting the abuse in my head and call her a liar for defending me. I didnt know that I would be made to recount my story over and over again, to doctor after doctor, pushed to see if Id admit I was lying as part of a legal battle I couldnt possibly understand. At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldnt be in trouble if I was lying that I could take it all back. I couldnt. It was all true. But sexual abuse claims against the powerful stall more easily. There were experts willing attack my credibility. There were doctors willing to gaslight an abused child.
After a custody hearing denied my father visitation rights, my mother declined to pursue criminal charges, despite findings of probable cause by the State of Connecticut due to, in the words of the prosecutor, the fragility of the child victim. Woody Allen was never convicted of any crime. That he got away with what he did to me haunted me as I grew up. I was stricken with guilt that I had allowed him to be near other little girls. I was terrified of being touched by men. I developed an eating disorder. I began cutting myself. That torment was made worse by Hollywood. All but a precious few (my heroes) turned a blind eye. Most found it easier to accept the ambiguity, to say, who can say what happened, to pretend that nothing was wrong. Actors praised him at awards shows. Networks put him on TV. Critics put him in magazines. Each time I saw my abusers face on a poster, on a t-shirt, on television I could only hide my panic until I found a place to be alone and fall apart.
The rest: http://kristof.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/02/01/an-open-letter-from-dylan-farrow/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=1&
JESUS CHRIST!
Whisp
(24,096 posts)Is this new news? I've not heard of this before.
o my god.
rudolph the red
(666 posts)I have never heard anything about this.
elleng
(130,768 posts)but obviously didn't make big news.
BeyondGeography
(39,351 posts)Down goes Woody.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Only one of them has a history of molesting little children and that's the one Mia supports.
Sorry, I just don't buy this story. I'm sorry that young woman has had to deal with these memories but I have strong doubts that events occurred the way she's been repeatedly told they happened.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)that shouldn't be put down.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)pedophile too? He now has 2 grown adult children that agree that he is a child molester,if he was just some schmuck plumber,no one would doubt their side of the story. Wealth and power gives him great privilege,they also cloud people's judgement about him and I think he's a pedophile.
WeekendWarrior
(1,437 posts)"Moses Farrow, now 36, and an accomplished photographer, has been estranged from Mia for several years. During a recent conversation, he spoke of finally seeing the reality of Frog Hollow and used the term brainwashing without hesitation."
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/27/the-woody-allen-allegations-not-so-fast.html
philosslayer
(3,076 posts)Doesn't that tell you something is a bit off with Mr. Allen? Why would you not buy it?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
Inspired
(3,957 posts)Don't you think?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I can't find a reason to believe two adults who aren't related, or in any type of parent/child relationship, getting together is illegal, unethical or disturbing regardless of how much some want to find a way to make it so.
Inspired
(3,957 posts)I think it is gross.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm sure there are things about you (and me) that others would find distasteful but I would hope they wouldn't judge based on a fragment of skewed information.
So I agree, I certainly am more tolerant that you.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)You have no issue with one half of a two-person adult relationship using their position of power to sexually molest the children of the partner?
I must have read your reply wrong because the alternative is too horrible to ascribe to you.
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Obviously, you have no interest in posting anything resembling the truth and are happy to smear anyone who doesn't agree with your opinions.
I couldn't live with myself if I did that to people.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)...to have sex with Mia Farrow's children?
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm wondering if you can say the same since you're here defending the word of a woman who supports convicted child molesters.
Why are you supporting Mia Farrow when she supports child molesters? Do you like child molesters?
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)...may have slipped off its tracks.
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Facts are hard, aren't they?
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)Are you defending Woody Allen's right to have sex with Mia Farrow's children as long as they're at least 18?
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)If you think it should be illegal you should get the petitions rolling. Otherwise, its the law and I support his right to have sex with any non-related adult who agrees to have sex with him.
ETA: By the way, that wasn't even remotely your question. You accused me of supporting child rape which is sickening. Both the accusation and the act.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)...when he had sex with them? Would you still defend Woody Allen's right to have sex with Mia Farrow's children?
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)If you can't understand what I've written, it's on you not me.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)...that you drew such a hard line in the sand over Woody Allen's right to have sex with Mia Farrow's children; particularly, in your view, if the children were of a legal age to consent. Woody Allen began his affair with Soon-Yi while he was still in a relationship with Mia Farrow.
Did you catch that? Woody Allen was still in a husband/wife relationship with Mia Farrow when he began fucking his significant other's young daughter. Since they were in a husband/wife relationship, the age of Soon-Yi becomes secondary to the fact that Woody Allen betrayed the trust of his common law wife.
Now, another of Mia Farrow's children has come forward and is spelling out the sexual abuse at the hands of her adopted father, Woody Allen, that began when she was just 7 years old. Dylan was not only adopted by Mia Farrow but she was also the adopted daughter of Woody Allen.
You don't see a conflict of interest here; morally and in every other possible way?
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I find posts like yours to be the most repulsive thing on DU. They are filled with nothing but ignorant hatred and vile innuendo with no shame or respect for the truth.
These are pure tea party tactics used by the truly stupid and dead at heart.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts);...that you don't find Woody Allen to be morally reprehensible for fucking Mia Farrow's children while he was serving as a father figure to them.
TYY
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I know you can't actually be proud of that. Only a socio-path could be proud of what you're posting.
El_Johns
(1,805 posts)Marr
(20,317 posts)pnwmom
(108,959 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)But it is DYLAN who is making the claims now, and I believe her. I perfectly remember things and people when I was 7. She's only 26 and I'm sure she remembers all too well what happened.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Looks like you skipped over more than one part.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)their father. All the kids felt that way except for the young woman he got involved with.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)pnwmom
(108,959 posts)I didn't say that Soon-Yi regarded him as a father figure -- I said that the other children did. It didn't matter that they didn't share the same house; he was Ronan's father and he felt like all of theirs. That is disputed nowhere in the article. In fact, there is this quote:
"I also understand the simmering anger of Ronan Farrow (née Satchel), who has famously said of Allen, 'Hes my father married to my sister. That makes me his son and his brother-in-law. That is such a moral transgression.' However, this particular dilemma might be resolved by Mias recent revelations that Ronans biological father may possibly be Frank Sinatra, whom Farrow married in 1966, when she was 21 and the crooner was 50."
I strongly disagree with the writer that if Sinatra is "possibly" Allen's father that that is a mitigating factor. Ronan was a boy when his father married his sister, and he had no hint then that someone else might be his father -- except, possibly, for the abusive way Allen had treated him.
I believe the children. They know more than this guy who was doing a documentary.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Or you conveniently ignored it for the sake of your narrative.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)he was a father-figure living about a block away. And you're still not acknowledging what this did to Ronan, his actual son, who had to watch his father get involved with his sister. Yuk.
The Vanity Fair articles, as you know, paint a different picture from the article you linked to. They should all be read together, IMO.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Read the link then talk to me.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)to what we had been discussing -- how close the kids felt to Allen.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)That was very convenient, wasn't it?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)and it was backed up by everything that came out years ago. Along with his getting involved with Mia's 19 year old daughter, the sister to his son. At the time, I held off on judging Allen. But now that I've heard from her, at 26 well able to remember what happened to her at 7, I think her story is credible.
The guy who did the documentary is part of the Allen fan club; I wouldn't believe him over the young woman.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You can believe whatever you like, it doesn't make it right.
Ask anyone who's had to listen to a tea partier.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)and I read this one enough to see that it didn't have any new information pertinent to the charges she was making.
What was new was hearing from the young woman herself.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)What does that make your statement?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)I had to read, and then skim, the whole article to find out that it never addressed that point except with regard to Soon-Yi and Ronan.
I agreed that it's wrong for Mia to support child molesters. Why can't you agree that it's wrong for the writer of this article to support a child molester?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)And I condemn anyone who supports child molesters. I don't support anyone who decides someone is a child molester without proof. I still believe in innocent till proved guilty. You don't.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)and I don't think he should have been given that award.
You obviously have no idea how incredibly hard it is for an abused child to prove the abuse occurred. I applaud this woman for doing the only thing she could do -- speak out.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I do care when people are smeared and libeled without proof.
As for the award, why did Mia Farrow consent to them using her image then tweet her hateful comments? Why did Ronan's come right after? Why did Dylan write a letter to the NY Times days later? This was a pre-planned, concerted smear attack on Allen. I don't trust people who do such things as a rule.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)Why do you believe one child over the other? Why does one have "teenage issues" while the other has photographic memory from the age of seven?
Do you really not see how biased that is? Really?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)I believe HER because she is speaking about what happened to HER -- alone with Woody, without Moses.
Why can't you accept that something rotten could have occurred between Woody and Dylan, without her much older sibling knowing about it?
I'm saying that, as a teen, he was naturally most concerned with his own issues, not what was going on with a sister ten years younger. I had children that far apart. The older one was learning to drive and getting ready to go to college. She was not busy spying on her younger brother. They lived in different worlds.
I also have an extended family member who was molested -- and even though I saw him at lots of family events during that period of time, I had no idea it was happening, and neither did anyone else. It was only years later that he told people. And we believed him. Young people feel ashamed about this. Telling people is excruciating. I have a great deal of respect for those who find the strength to do so.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Not a single thing you wrote is based on facts concerning Dylan. They're what you've heard from distant family members then projected onto people you don't even know.
I can accept the theoretical possibility that Allen molested Dylan. It's you who can't accept the very real probability that he didn't. You want him to be guilty because he got away with marrying Soon-Yi and having a good life with her.
But for him to be guilty you have to ignore all the proof that he didn't do it and make up fantasies about how it must have happened.
Amazing, really.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)there is no PROOF either way. I just find the young woman's words more credible, knowing how hard it is for molested children to talk about these things, and you believe Woody.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You really do not seem to understand the basic logic of this.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)People will believe whatever makes more sense to them. We have to make judgements as to who to trust every day. And I find her much more credible. You don't.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You expect Allen to present absolute proof that he DIDN'T do something or else he's guilty. It is almost impossible to prove a negative, which is why the WMD accusations worked.
If that's your standard, you'll have a very rough time getting through life.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)an abuser molested them in secret.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I hope you never, ever make it to a jury room.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)be put on trial. But this isn't a matter of a trial, it's just a matter of opinion. And I'm not talking about "condemning" him. In real life, sometimes we have to decide who to trust. And I wouldn't trust him. Based on what I've read over the years, and now confirmed by her essay, I'd trust his daughter.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)term 'brainwashing' to describe Mia Farrow's treatment of her children, I might take a second look at the situation. Perhaps he remembers how his mother put him in front of the media at age 14....
Moses was "made available" by Farrow's retainers to reporters and even the nationally televised "Entertainment Tonight" show.
Meanwhile, one of Allen's lawyers, in a statement, charged that Farrow was using the children in a "media extravaganza" that only has hardened Allen's resolve to continue the custody fight in court.
Last week, Allen filed a lawsuit to gain custody of the three children he shares with Farrow: Moses and Dylan, who also is adopted, and Satchel, who is his biological child.
http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=19920821&slug=1508586
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)Hatred like that should not be allowed to mix with other human beings.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)or that we aren't all in court, where his arguments would actually mean something. WTF?
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)Atman
(31,464 posts)Virtually nothing you're asserting is supported by the article. You missed a lot of important facts as you "skimmed."
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)Last edited Sun Feb 2, 2014, 03:00 AM - Edit history (1)
Like every other thread you post in, there's nothing here but hatred built on ignorance.
krawhitham
(4,641 posts)Response to krawhitham (Reply #405)
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krawhitham
(4,641 posts)vs
last1standing
(11,709 posts)What fantasies you decide to let rule your mind are all on you.
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)
and told all of us, exactly what happened.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)That doesn't mean it happened the way she believes.
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)
and described it in great detail. In addition, she discussed the current psychological scars and
symptoms that she bears today as a result of the abuse.
Abuse from a father who decided that dating Mia Farrow's daughter and taking lewd pictures of her--was a good idea--while they were all living under the same roof.
You do realize that Woody Allen left Mia Farrow with Soon Yi in tow, don't you? Soon Yi and Woody Allen continued the relationship, were often photographed together, admitted that they were a couple and were married in Paris years later.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)So do we believe her when she said he did molester or when she said he didn't?
As I stated, I'm sure she's telling the truth as she knows it but I have no reason to believe that her truth is the truth after a lifetime of Mia Farrow's manipulation.
As for the rest of your post, I don't judge what consenting adults do with each other. If you do, that's your problem.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)pretended he had only touched her shoulder. Then she went back to her first story and stuck to it. It's the same account she's giving today.
There were also employees who were ready to testify about inappropriate behavior they had seen. It wasn't only the girl's word and Mia's.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Why didn't you say so? That changes everything. I'm sure you're not taking Mia Farrow's word for this, right? Right?
And again, if you had read the article you claimed you read, you would have found that the ONE employee who testified told another she was wanted to recant her statement.
You skimmed the hell out of that article. It's almost as though you weren't quite telling the truth when you said you read it. But that can't be right, can it?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)just between Mia and Woody.
But now that the girl and Ronan have come forward, I believe them.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Again (yet again) if you had read the article you would have read this:
But you didn't read it. You only claimed you did. How believable does that make you?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)No doubt, like all teens he was dealing with his own issues. Ronan was much closer to her in age and much more likely to know what she was going through.
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20782501,00.html
But in a controversial move, state's attorney Frank S. Maco announced in 1993 that while he found "probable cause" to prosecute Allen, he was dropping the case because Dylan was too "fragile" to deal with a trial. Mia agreed with the decision, he said.
Dylan was "traumatized to the extent that I did not have a confident witness to testify in any court setting, whether that's a closed courtroom or an open courtroom," Maco recalled to PEOPLE last fall after Dylan spoke out to Vanity Fair about the alleged molestation.
A Manhattan judge had already awarded Mia full custody of adopted children Dylan, Moses and biological son Satchel (who later changed his name to Ronan), and barred Allen from any visitation with Dylan in the custody case, which had exploded after Allen's affair with Farrow's adopted daughter Soon-Yi, then about 20, was revealed.
Allen, who vehemently denied the charges, lambasted Maco for saying that there was "probable cause," saying he had no opportunity to defend himself. His complaints led to disciplinary charges against Maco, which were eventually dropped.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You want to be judge, jury and executioner. You've convicted a man based on your own theories and will not let them go despite the proof that this was likely the result of Mia Farrow's machinations to get back at Allen for falling in love with the wrong woman.
You go on making up theories. Fortunately, none of those actually involved believe them.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)But that doesn't stop you from putting him there.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)and at least one employee said. Yes, I have an opinion.
P.S. I almost forgot -- yes, also based on his inappropriate behavior with the teenager, Soon-Yi.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Soon-Yi was an adult when they first got together but people like yourself can never forgive Allen for having the audacity to leave Mia Farrow for a younger woman (even though apparently it was more of a friendship by that point, anyway).
Farrow herself has insinuated that Ronan was Frank Sinatra's child even though he was married to another woman at the time and many, many years older than Mia (who he married when she was quite young). So it was fine when Mia did it but criminal when Woody does it. How is that not a double standard?
Nothing Woody Allen did with Soon-Yi Previn was "inappropriate." They were both single, consenting adults. If anyone did something inappropriate, it was Mia sleeping with a married man and possibly fooling someone else into believing he was the father. If you can't wrap your head around that, it's all on you.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)She was 19 as far as she and her siblings knew, and Ronan was Woody's son, as far any of the siblings knew. So Woody, their father, was sleeping with Ronan's, Dylan's, and Moses's older sister. Can't you really not see how grossly "inappropriate" that would be? Whether or not Ronan was Sinatra's child, Mia wasn't flaunting another relationship in her children's faces, much less a relationship with a sibling of theirs.
How can you say he wasnt a father figure to the siblings when he was the legal father of three of them? What do you think the impact was for them of having their father get involved with their sister?
http://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2013/11/mia-farrow-frank-sinatra-ronan-farrow
The author Priscilla Gilman, Matthew Previns girlfriend in high school and college, was constantly in and out of Mias apartment. One day, she recalls, Matthew called her at Yale and said, I have to come over. Its just so horrible. He was green, and he fell on my sofa. Woodys having an affair with Soon-Yi. Soon-Yi was the last person I would have thought of, she says. Matthew showed her the naked photos of Soon-Yi that Mia had found. They were extremely pornographicreally disturbing.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)She was either 19 or 21. Why don't you mention that she could easily have been 21? Oh yeah, it wouldn't fit your fantasy.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)she was 19 or 21; but at that stage in life, all the kids thought she was 19 -- that's the age she celebrated on her birthday. So as far as the kids knew, she was a teenager.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You want to tell other adults how to live their private lives. Plain and simple. That's no better than what the religious fundies want to do.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)Woody Allen got sexually involved with the teenage sister of three of his kids -- of Dylan, Moses, and Ronan.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)It may not be common but it's not the first time it's happened by any stretch and it's not illegal. Perhaps Mia Farrow should have helped her kids come to terms with the situation instead of poisoning their minds against their father and sister.
What a concept, huh?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)That's what made it disgusting to them and grossly inappropriate for him. He crossed a boundary that a loving father would not cross.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)And what made it disgusting to them is their mother's brainwashing according to her own son. But I forgot, he's not believable because he was a teen-ager (unlike Soon-Yi).
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)A sibling is a sibling, and a father isn't supposed to be having sex with your sister, even if she is a young adult.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm seriously tired of explaining why it's wrong to stick you nose into the private sex lives of consensual adults. You obviously have a problem with that and I can't change your problem.
Let's just be done here.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)It is very strange how you have such a need to defend this creep, but I'm fine if you're done now.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)The brother's "testimony", which, btw, you reference as a quote of two words or so with no context - is more valuable than the words of the woman who claims molestation? Publicly claims that a sue-happy rich as fuck asshole molested her? Soon Yee, izzat you?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I know, its fine to spew ignorant hatred against people so long as they can't spit it back at you, right? But at least it tells me immediately what you are.
Mia, izzat you?
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last1standing
(11,709 posts)As well as a lack of self control or self respect. Most people would be ashamed to throw the tantrum you're exhibiting here. I'd suggest trying to pretend you're an adult, even if you don't feel like one.
El_Johns
(1,805 posts)of molestation & speculated the child was emotionally damaged or had been coached.
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)Soon Yi was a very vulnerable child, when she met Woody Allen. She had been a foster child, in the system until Mia Farrow adopted her. And how lovely that Woody Allen, a grown adult who should have known better, decided that she was a nice piece of ass that he just had to have.
That poor girl never had a chance. Taken away from one set of wolves, only to be sexually desired by the man in her new, adoptive home. That girl never had a childhood. She's stunted, which is the only reason she would be with a man like Allen. Abuse victims often end up with abusers--very common to be abused and pick an abuser for a mate. She never healed.
Never stood a chance, because Woody Allen, the pedo wolf, decided that he just had to have her. But that's what pedophiles do. They seek out the most controllable, easy-to-manipulate prey--and they further wreck them--keeping them controllable and damaged forever.
But just give it a few years. Wait until she shows the slightest bit of independence
or maybe she'll age a bit further--reminding Allen that she's really not a little girl anymore. He'll be off to find someone else who looks like a 12-year old girl. It'll happen. Fuckfaces like Woody Allen don't just stop their behavior--especially when so many surrounding him are happy to look the other way.
What a fucking piece of shit that man is and was.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm done trying to challenge this because it doesn't have to make sense or have facts for you. You smelled the blood in the water.
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)Yep. It's perfectly normal for a fucking 56 year old man to date HIS GIRLFRIEND'S 19 year old daughter behind the back of his girlfriend that he's been in a relationship for ten years.
Yeah. Nothing wrong here!
LOL!
Our society is so fucked, if we can't even agree that this is morally detestable and repugnant.
It's shameful that ANYONE would sanction such disgusting behavior.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)The reason our society is fucked is that some people can't get their perverted noses out of other people's bedrooms. That is truly shameful.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)and be cheered on by half the internet. Some here are living through him. And if they become millionaires will have a shot at their own teenager some day too!
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)El_Johns
(1,805 posts)El_Johns
(1,805 posts)revelation come?
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)just as she describes it.
How could this have been proven in your eyes? Would he have had to rape her in front of people? Adults have all the power in these situations -- most abused children can never hope to prove what happened to them, unless there are obvious marks.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)But I'm tired of spoon feeding you when you didn't read the article you claimed you had read. Go read the article then come back. I won't answer your constant questions till then.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)Authors who spent a lot more time with the family than he did, since he made it clear he wasn't interested in this story being part of his documentary.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Now you're again saying you read it. Just read the damned thing before asking me any more questions about the facts or trying to make up more shit that isn't true.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)And I, unlike you, who claimed he wasn't even a father-figure to the siblings (though he was a legal father to three of them) have said nothing that isn't true.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)That was clear in the context of the posts but if you need to "misread" it an attempt to prove me wrong, go for it.
Regardless, you want to be the moral judge of who can sleep with whom but fortunately, the world won't follow your artificial rules.
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)on Ronan, Dylan, and Moses.
He's slime. Legal, but still slime.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)As I said, let's be done. I'm never going to stop believing that adults are free to have consensual sex and you'll never stop believing they should only do so according to your dictums.
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)Just Wow.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)Seven year olds are old enough to remember. But there was plenty of testimony at the time -- which is why a judge didn't allow him any further contact with the girl and restricted his visitation with his son.
I just don't see why you would believe Allen over this incredibly brave woman:
"When I asked my mother if her dad did to her what Woody Allen did to me, I honestly did not know the answer. I also didnt know the firestorm it would trigger. I didnt know that my father would use his sexual relationship with my sister to cover up the abuse he inflicted on me. I didnt know that he would accuse my mother of planting the abuse in my head and call her a liar for defending me. I didnt know that I would be made to recount my story over and over again, to doctor after doctor, pushed to see if Id admit I was lying as part of a legal battle I couldnt possibly understand. At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldnt be in trouble if I was lying that I could take it all back. I couldnt. It was all true. But sexual abuse claims against the powerful stall more easily. There were experts willing to attack my credibility. There were doctors willing to gaslight an abused child."
pnwmom
(108,959 posts)Did you read the whole essay or was it too sickening? It certainly is hard to read, but I have no reason to not believe her. The judge believed her when she was 7 and that's when Woody lost visitation.
"After a custody hearing denied my father visitation rights, my mother declined to pursue criminal charges, despite findings of probable cause by the State of Connecticut due to, in the words of the prosecutor, the fragility of the 'child victim.' Woody Allen was never convicted of any crime. That he got away with what he did to me haunted me as I grew up. I was stricken with guilt that I had allowed him to be near other little girls. I was terrified of being touched by men. I developed an eating disorder. I began cutting myself. That torment was made worse by Hollywood. All but a precious few (my heroes) turned a blind eye. Most found it easier to accept the ambiguity, to say, 'who can say what happened,' to pretend that nothing was wrong. Actors praised him at awards shows. Networks put him on TV. Critics put him in magazines. Each time I saw my abusers face on a poster, on a t-shirt, on television I could only hide my panic until I found a place to be alone and fall apart."
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elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)Walk away
(9,494 posts)You read this article that you have been peddling around and (exactly like the author) you make a case out of everything but the words of the victim. It actually seem a little sickening to me.
It is very sad that there is a pedophile in the Farrow family. And even sadder that they invited another one into their family circle. Apparently, this is not unusual in a dysfunctional family. It is actually quite frightening that he hand picked a child to start another family of children/possible victims with.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You don't give a damn about a little girl being molested, you just want to get back at Allen for leaving Mia Farrow for a younger woman. You're happy to have the girl surrounded by real pedophiles so long as you can get your pound of flesh.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)but I do care when a child has been raped and has the gut to say so. Trying to turn this into a man hating issue is just pathetic.
According to his victim. Woody Allen is a pedophile. a child rapist. He has managed to get away with it before and he is extremely likely to be victimizing someone one else because he has plenty of access and a history.
I will ALWAYS stand up for abused children and all of your excuses and cherry picked nonsense won't change that. Calling me sexist because of it just makes you look even creepier.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Nothing else to be said. You've made it all abundantly clear.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)You have an odd affinity to rapists and a disdain for victims. It is sad and disturbing. There really isn't any more to say.
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RainDog
(28,784 posts)Last edited Sat Feb 1, 2014, 07:53 PM - Edit history (2)
to avoid others knowledge of her as the sexually abused child of Woody Allen.
He also, of course, the violated parent/child relationship (a cultural taboo) by marrying entering into a common law marriage with his step daughter. marrying the daughter of a woman he was romantically involved with for ten years and with whom he adopted and conceived children.
eta: actually, according to Slate, Allen did marry the daughter of the woman he had been seeing, and with whom he conceived a child.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Everyone who has even glanced at this issue knows that Allen did not marry his step daughter so your post merely confuses those who haven't read anything about him.
Why is your post trying to tell people things that aren't true?
RainDog
(28,784 posts)I'll alter that to reflect that Woody Allen sexually abused his daughter and entered into a common law marriage with his step daughter.
classy guy.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Why do you continue doing this? If you were right you wouldn't have to post things that aren't true. Not only does New York not recognize common-law marriage, Mia and Woody never lived together.
Also, I don't think you can really judge who has class based on the series of misrepresentations you've posted.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)That's the general definition of common law marriage. I wasn't trying to cite specific law in regard to NYC. Last I heard, Woody was living in Paris.
Since there were several witnesses to his behavior and since Farrow found crotch shot photos of her daughter in Allen's apartment when she was seeing him, I think my statement actually is mild.
Why are you defending Allen when he is a pedophile?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)In fact, I bet you can't find sources article claiming he ever spent the night at her place.
And you also have again posted things that aren't true in order to further an agenda of ignorant hatred. There were no reliable witnesses and there were no "crotch shots." Those statements are untrue unless you can prove otherwise.
Why are you trying to condemn an innocent man without the slightest bit of reliable evidence.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)Farrow stated she found the crotch shots. That's how she found out about the affair.
I'm not trying to condemn an innocent man.
You are defending a pedophile.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Your posts show a glaring lack of democratic principles so I doubt you will ever believe that anyone has ever been accused of a crime they didn't commit - even when there is not one shred of reliable evidence supporting the claim.
Those who don't care about the truth will be very sympathetic to your wild claims. Everyone else will laugh at them.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)yeah. that makes all the difference in the world.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You have an agenda that won't be stopped so I'm done with you. People here can see the facts and see the lack of true statements in your posts.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)From the time she was 10 years old. If you don't recognize that such a situation is very much like a step daughter relationship, then there's nothing to say to you because your denial is so deep.
For ten years Soon-Yi saw him as the man her mother had a romantic relationship with and the two adopted and conceived children together.
If that doesn't qualify as a parent-child relationship, then neither do any actual legal step relationships.
I find your defense disgusting, to tell you the truth.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)supports Roman Polanski, too.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)But don't let that stop you from getting your hate on.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)not
last1standing
(11,709 posts)But you hate me for standing up for someone who was never even charged with the crime. Makes sense.
Your hatred for child molesters seems to be very selective.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)I would be interested in the defense she used.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Walk away
(9,494 posts)before I came to one sentence referring to her brother who was a child molester and nothing saying she supported his act. At the very end was a reference to her acting as a character witness for Roman Polanski in a defamation law suit against a magazine that he won.
I came away from the article even more convinced that this young women is telling the truth. All of this means nothing in the face of her accusations. It was clearly written from the point of view of someone desperate to prove Mr Allen innocent by weaving a lot of crap together. (how could Woody be a pedophile? No child molester would ever rape a child with so many people in the house) yeah,that never happens.
I can't believe I wasted so much time reading pages to get to the answer of my question.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)The defense is so rabid, and the berating of the victim is so vicious.
This is weird.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)who also deny he abused children.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)But there is a rising level of evidence that you want to imprison someone without any evidence of wrongdoing.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)Case closed? Not necessarily. Three months later, that June, Acting Justice Elliot Wilk of New York State Supreme Court ruled against Allen in his effort to wrest custody of his three children from Farrow. Wilk criticized YaleNew Havens findings, stating that the hospitals team had not interviewed Dylan, declined to testify at trial except via deposition, and destroyed its notes on the case. In her first piece for Vanity Fair about the Allen case, published in 1992, Orth had at least 25 on-the-record interviewswith sources both named and unnamedattesting that Allen was completely obsessed with Dylan: He could not seem to keep his hands off her, Orth wrote.
In his June 1993 ruling, Wilk also denied Allen any visitation rights with Dylan or his older adopted child with Farrow, 15-year-old Moses. In May 1994, in a hearing considering custody or increased visitation for Allen, the Appellate Division of the state Supreme Court cited a clear consensus among psychiatric experts involved in the case that Allens interest in Dylan was abnormally intense.
...But Finkelhor, again speaking generally, also makes the case for an entirely different scenario. In other cases, people will make claims about things that they were willing to look past or that children were keeping under wraps for fear of breaking up the family, he says. These things will come out at the time [of a divorce or custody battle], because then they feel more freedom to articulate them. The consequences of realizing that intra-family sexual abuse is going on are so devastating that its not uncommon for people to overlook it or explain it away.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)What a useless waste of time this is. You want to sit there and condemn the guy without a shred of evidence? Do it. I'm done with you.
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last1standing
(11,709 posts)Incredible.
valerief
(53,235 posts)valerief
(53,235 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)And the rabidness and the viciousness.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)reports the rape at the time it is happening, and the child's story hasn't changed since then...
... when those things happen, I tend to take the accusation seriously.
Also, when a man is in a position where he is a father figure - whether he is in that position legally or not - of an under-aged girl and then has a sexual relationship with her, whether he marries her or not, it is abusive.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)And as for the stretch of calling Allen a father figure to Soon-Yi Previn, that little bit of bullshit has been debunked thoroughly. The only way to believe it is to call the woman who would know best, Soon-Yi, a liar. Are you calling her a liar?
Of course you are. Otherwise you couldn't get your hate on.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)"A state's attorney in Connecticut said yesterday that he had "probable cause" to prosecute Woody Allen on charges that he sexually molested his adopted daughter, but had decided to spare her the trauma of a court appearance.
...
But Mr. Maco seemed to go out of his way to say publicly that he believed the child had been molested. He was not obligated to make his decision, or his reasoning, public."
last1standing
(11,709 posts)He did not have "probable cause" and was reprimanded for his actions when he tried to influence other officials with unproved, prejudicial remarks.
Amazing how quick you are to rush to judgment on this. Even more amazing how little you care for the truth in making your claims.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm sure it won't stop you from wanting your pound of flesh but there's the link.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)It says the prosecutor was sanctioned because his comments could have a negative effect on the adoption hearings. It says the prosecutor made the statements knowing that he would get in trouble for making them, which to me underscores the importance he placed on making the statements. And it says that the sanctions were overturned.
So, it doesn't do much to discount the prosecutor's statement.
The rest of it can be paraphrased, "but I like the guy!"
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I expected nothing less.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)On the other hand, one of Farrow's children has come forward and claimed that she was manipulated by her mother to hate Allen and to believe this story. Not to mention the fact that Dylan changed her story several times. Oh, and Mia Farrow has a long time history of defending actual convicted child molesters such as Roman Polanski and her own brother.
Those are all facts, but I'll stick with the fact that Allen was never charged with a crime.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)allowed to be alone with Dylan because of his unhealthy obsession with her when she was a child.
For someone who is "only dealing with facts," you seem to be dealing in a lot of hearsay.
And though he was never charged with a crime, the prosecutor said (as you have pointed out, at great cost to himself) that he had evidence that a crime occurred and he was not pursuing it for the benefit of the child.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You obviously don't know what it means.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)Since that's all you got, you've got nothing.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)But you have no clue, do you?
Squinch
(50,922 posts)Now you're just fighting with yourself!
last1standing
(11,709 posts)You do the grammar Nazi routine then misspell words and won't even see how small that makes you look.
enjoe yur "viktery."
Squinch
(50,922 posts)Carry on with your crusade here. It's very revealing.
Have a nice night.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
Thanks for the laugh
It was really necessary after wading through this dirt, again. The obsessive moralizers never tire to go for another repeat of their lies. Almost as disgusting as imagining goldilocks fucking the vomit-inducing, ugly, mobster and Reagan friend Sinatra.
"She also said that Ol Blue Eyes was the great love of her life and we never really split up."
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Or better yet, attacking Mia Farrow for insinuating that she slept with Sinatra while he was married and made Woody Allen pay child support for a kid that wasn't his and that she brainwashed to hate him.
Their righteous anger is incredibly selective.
morningfog
(18,115 posts)Do you have a link to a rape allegation?
Today is the first time I've read anything about this. The article and open letter says "sexual assault" which is not the same as rape. And the situations described (other than the undescribed incident in the attic) don't sound like sexual assault.
morningfog
(18,115 posts)It didn't go to a grand jury. He wasn't indicted. A prosecutor said he had probable cause. But prosecutors ALWAYS have probably cause in their minds.
El_Johns
(1,805 posts)me there wouldn't be when a grown man has relations with a 7 year old.
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Whisp
(24,096 posts)cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)That strikes me as an odd outlook.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)BeyondGeography
(39,351 posts)Squinch
(50,922 posts)RainDog
(28,784 posts)Vanity Fair, tho it's a fashion magazine, is also notable for its investigative articles. This article in Vanity Fair tells more truth than you have in this entire thread.
http://www.vanityfair.com/magazine/archive/1992/11/farrow199211
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)She has described, in great detail, her visceral and emotional reaction to him and to her memories of abuse.
She gets physically ill when she sees his picture. She remembers him sexually abusing her. She remembers lying on her stomach, as that toy train went around the track, and still have issues with toy trains today.
And on and on
This is not someone who is brainwashed. A child who has been told to lie--doesn't have automatic physical reactions to lies. She is clearly traumatized and telling us how the abuse affected her, and still does today.
What the hell is wrong with the people on this thread? Jesus. Even when a victim comes forward and speaks her truth--there is still a contingent who insists on muddying the waters.
Fuck all of you who do this to victims.
cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)Induced traumatic memory operates and functions like trauma.
We deal with what we believe to be true the same whether it is objectively true or not. That is what it means to believe something to be true.
Your introduction of the notion of *lying* is a meaningless and rather cheap diversion. I don't think this person is *lying* and I doubt many of the folks who you, in your weird black and white worldview, see as wicked for not *believing* her think she is lying.
It does not, however, follow that she is recounting real events.
The intellectual framing you ought to have is not a child who has been told to lie but rather a child who has been convinced of something.
And yes, people who have been convinced of things operate ike people who are convinced of things.
Nobody is born believing in Jesus. Children are instructed. Most all adults who are, today, devout Christians were convinced of things as children. Were they being "told to lie"? Would anyone seeking truth about people or about the world say, "All people who believe in Jesus as God have been told to lie."
Delusions are not false testimony, they are delusions.
It is possible that her version of events is accurate and possible it is not. (Note how I didn't turn that statement into nonsense by larding it with nonsensical baggage like "telling the truth"
But either way, your mode of analysis and understanding the question is worthless. Your approach has convicted many people we know, for a fact, to have been innocent so it a worthless approach.
Whether you are "right" or "wrong" about the event, you have no rational basis for your bitterly strong opinion that you are right.
WCLinolVir
(951 posts)induced memories. Your mode of analysis is worthless. Who has a delusional personality "testify"? Are you an abuse survivor? Because I hate to break it to you but induced memories, unless done in a hyper-suggestive state by a skilled person are not triggering like actual visceral memories of abuse. And if you studied these people there are long term psychological differences between real survivors and those who have been led to believe abuse occurred. Our understanding of the brain chemistry of abused children has advanced in recent years, and we do not see the same effects in people given "false memories".
Inspired
(3,957 posts)And you are a denier.
zappaman
(20,606 posts)Although, CRIMES AND MISDEMEANORS is a close second.
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)Tom Ripley
(4,945 posts)BeyondGeography
(39,351 posts)And the ones I have enjoyed the most, like Crimes & Misdemeanors and Match Point, are about getting away with murder.
Just an observation.
valerief
(53,235 posts)Squinch
(50,922 posts)Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)It was supposedly based on his real life "affair" he had with a Stuyvesant high school girl named Stacey Nelkin. It's gross on so many levels, but one thing that really pissed me off was how in the movie he tries to keep her from experiencing an amazing adventure by going to London to study acting. Why? Because he wants to keep fucking her in New York.
undeterred
(34,658 posts)with lots of moral insight.
Mia Farrow hates Woody Allen with a passion. Also just an observation.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Bit I have to separate his comedies out and list then on their own:
Hannah and her Sisters
Annie Hall
Radio Days
Purple Rose of Cairo
Broadway Danny Rose
Zelig
Manhattan
COMEDIES:
Bananas
Love and Death
Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex
Sleeper
Take the Money and Run
A Midsummer's Night Sex Comedy
zappaman
(20,606 posts)And still haven't seen BLUE JASMINE...
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)When I was pretty young, when HBO was still a box with a red/black button you pushed, they would show the same movies over and over.
I must have watched Love and Death 50 times at least. It is pretty much committed to memory. A really hilarious movie still.
And yes, I plan on watching Blue Jasmine soon.
DisgustipatedinCA
(12,530 posts)I own all of Woody Allen's movies--long-ago Christmas gift, with downloads of the stuff that's come out since.
Deconstructing Harry and Everyone Says I Love You are also great movies, in my opinion.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)angstlessk
(11,862 posts)Roy Rolling
(6,908 posts)My first response was "Bananas"! Then I realized it wasn't a thread about movies.
Happyhippychick
(8,379 posts)But my tendency is always, always always to believe the child so I just do.
adirondacker
(2,921 posts)dionysus
(26,467 posts)is there a greater chance of the victim lying about it?
Squinch
(50,922 posts)dionysus
(26,467 posts)adirondacker
(2,921 posts)is no longer a child and for her to make this story up is quite unplausible. It doesn't fit into the "childhood imagination" realm any longer.
dionysus
(26,467 posts)eShirl
(18,480 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)You have no proof whatsoever, that Allen did anything. He was never charged with a crime. The facts show that it was incredibly unlikely that he ever molested anyone.
Yet her you are, smearing and sliming someone just because it fits your agenda.
That's creepy.
philosslayer
(3,076 posts)You KNOW he's innocent? If you have inside knowledge perhaps you should divulge it.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm sorry this very core basis for the American judicial system isn't to your liking but it is still the supposed law of the land. Maybe you can join in with the republicans who KNOW that Barak Obama is from Kenya. They have every bit as much proof for their beliefs as you have that Allen molested anyone.
philosslayer
(3,076 posts)One can be legally not guilty yet still not innocent.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
Skittles
(153,122 posts)I think he is scum for pursuing the young adopted daughter of his partner of 12 years - who only discovers what is going on by finding explicit pictures of her - I've never looked at Woody the same ever since
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I don't believe a word Mia Farrow says about this situation. She has no problem with Roman Polanski or her own brother who are both confirmed molesters of children so I don't have much confidence in her selective outrage.
Skittles
(153,122 posts)he is a certified creep
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I may not think its the smoothest move but I won't judge what two non-related adults do when they're not breaking any laws.
Skittles
(153,122 posts)what an adult does is come clean with that person they've been with, not allow them to find explicit photos
last1standing
(11,709 posts)Many homophobes do the same thing.
Skittles
(153,122 posts)DONE HERE
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)Really?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)This topic seems to have really touched a nerve with you. You should ask yourself why. At best, Allen is a creep who had sex with his long term love's young, potentially underage, daughter. That is absolutely indisputable. At worst, he's a disgusting pedophile who raped his own seven year old adopted daughter. Do you not see that the possibility of a connection between these two behaviors exists? Seriously?
And yet here you are, defending him to the bitter end, AND, bizarrely, referencing homophobes to boot. What exactly is going through your mind while you're doing this? Because I gotta say, my creep meter is off the charts right now.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I find puritans who demand the ability to decide which non-related adults can have sex to be pretty creepy as well as puritanical (the same thing, really). And right now, my "creep meter" is beeping pretty loudly at your need to post things that are provably untrue to condemn consenting adults who have sex.
I see it as exactly the same thing that homophobes do. And it is extremely creepy.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)Keep on keeping on, dude. But a word of advice - you are the ONLY one on this thread who is preaching to your choir. Just sayin'...
last1standing
(11,709 posts)But I would keep on keeping on if I were the only one. I'll never judge consenting adults who have sex.
Dr. Strange
(25,917 posts)Skittles is uncomfortable with Woody's child molesting, just like homophobes are uncomfortable with homosexuals.
Sometimes the mask slips.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)n/t
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Here you are flailing like a first grader at a fist-fight at people, hounding them for leveling accusations against Woody Allen. Your argument is that he's innocent until proven guilty, that the accusations have no basis, so on and so forth.
And then you call people homophobes when they argue with you.
Do you have proof of Skittles being a homophobe?
As much proof you claim others have that Allen is a pedophile, right?
last1standing
(11,709 posts)So you keep posting things that aren't true and I'll keep laughing at them.
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)And now that you're being called on your hypocritical bullshit, you're just backtracking. I've dealt with people like you often enough to know the technique.
Child abusers seem to be the sort prone to it, incidentally.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)If you can't, either apologize for posting things that aren't true or slink off like a rat.
Your choice.
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Excellent sign of when a passive-aggressive insulter has gotten their balls caught.
There was no comprehensible reason to refer to homophobes in your response to Skittles. It was out of the blue. Further you are clearly alluding her to homophobes by doing so.
Here's your post to Skittles, in image form:
You do not outright say "you are a homophobe" - but then you don't actually need to, as the statement is made very clear by what you did say.
Welcome to literacy 101; context and author intent.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)What I said, since you appear to have troubles with this basic concept, is that this is the same logic homophobes use to condemn gay sex. I stand by that comment.
If you don't like it, I suggest you tell me how it's different or try to deflect in some other half-assed way.
cinnabonbon
(860 posts)last1standing
(11,709 posts)And please tell me why it matters.
cinnabonbon
(860 posts)Now stop using my oppression in order to shield an alleged pedophile from criticism. Thanks.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I'm gay and I'll do what I want with what I call my "orientation", thank you.
cinnabonbon
(860 posts)Please explain to me how criticizing child rape is anything at all like how bigots treat consenting adults in loving relationship.
Because I can think of at least one big difference, there.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)This thread has really brought out the bitterest dregs of DU to attack other posters with lies an deceipt.
So show where I've compared homophobia with "criticizing child rape." If you can't, that will make you a liar.
I don't think being gay has oppressed you; it was more likely your desire to be oppressed.
cinnabonbon
(860 posts)are a member already, since you're gay and all.
Before you answer, you should know: when I was seven years old, Woody Allen took me by the hand and led me into a dim, closet-like attic on the second floor of our house. He told me to lay on my stomach and play with my brothers electric train set. Then he sexually assaulted me.
This post is about a woman talking about her sexual abuse when she was a child. That is the child rape I am talking about. You come into a thread about the guy and say "It's even creepier how there are always people rushing to condemn innocent people." making it clear you 1) consider him innocent and 2) don't give the victim the same reasonable doubt you give the old white guy.
And when people comment further on his character, you comment with: Merely pointed out that homophobes use the same logic to condemn consenting adults.
So here we were, criticizing the molestation she talked about in the OP, when you decided the criticism pointed towards him was just like unwarranted hatred that gay people face. ...Because a white, rich old man who is accused of sexually assaulting a kid is so much like how people treat an oppressed population. So while you weren't particularly clear, you nevertheless made the connection.
The thing is, comparing how people respond to him because of this child molestation case to homophobia has the unpleasant undertone of linking child molestation with gay men. I'm sure you're familiar with that horrible stereotype. One of the best-publicized anti-gay campaigns of the late twentieth century, Anita Bryant's "Save Our Children" crusade during the early 1980s, capitalized on the stereotype of gay men as child molesters.
If you are gay I am sure you wouldn't perpetrate such a harmful stereotype.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)I guess that means you were completely wrong but can't handle admitting it, huh?
If you want to be a professional victim, go for it. Try not to drag the rest of us down with you, though.
UTUSN
(70,652 posts)pnwmom
(108,959 posts)decided she wasn't credible. Then a judge ruled that she was - and took away Allen's visitation. A prosecutor thought he had probable cause but to bring the case would be too hard on the girl.
So we don't know.
The point Kristoff makes is that no one's talking about putting Woody Allen on trial. But we also don't have to honor him. Aren't there plenty of other people who could be honored without giving an award to someone who has a good chance of being a molester?
El_Johns
(1,805 posts)Squinch
(50,922 posts)eShirl
(18,480 posts)Squinch
(50,922 posts)Imagine what she went through growing up.
And the idea that the child's recollections are her mother's fault "because she was scorned!"
This is like some Puritan ministers convention.
Whisp
(24,096 posts):barf:
RainDog
(28,784 posts)To state that Farrow would trump up charge of abuse because she was a woman scorned.
Any woman would question the ethics of a man who slept with her daughter. She was in a relationship with Allen from 1982 until 1992. Soon-Yi was 10 when Farrow began seeing Allen and Soon-Yi was 20 when her mother discovered the crotch shots Allen took of her daughter.
Anyone who tries to disparage Farrow in this incident is an asshole of the highest order.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)witnessed by many family members and friends who later commented publicly about it.
RainDog
(28,784 posts)but that's not proof of anything because... Woody Allen.
CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)A previous poster said that the "facts" state that Woody Allen didn't molest anyone.
That doesn't even make sense.
How are there "facts" that someone didn't molest someone?
You have the victim detailing her abuse and even detailing further--the ramifications of that abuse.
She describes repeatedly, how she is triggered by the sexual trauma that happened to her. She still lives it.
That should be evidence for anyone. This isn't a frickin court of law. An abuser comes forward and shares her pain. Why is there always this little creepy, peanut gallery that steps in and casts doubt on people who say that they were sexually abused as children?
Squinch
(50,922 posts)The prosecutor made a point of publicly saying that he had probable cause to try Allen, but he and Mia decided not to for the benefit of the child.
I kept reading that person's posts that say stuff like "there's no evidence that he molested her..." and all I can think is, "well, here's some evidence--an article written by the victim detailing the molestation in great, gory detail. Looks like evidence to me."
Also, in a typical rape case, there is seldom any evidence besides the proverbial "he said, she said." That's why they are so difficult to prosecute, and that's why so many rapists and child molesters--especially rich, powerful ones--get away with it.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)I think this thread is going to change that.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)It makes you see what people go through when this happens to them. That's horrifying.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)Hard to read too. So many men like this have gotten away with these types of crimes and for the same reasons.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)and who knows how many more.
Now THIS is something to get ones soul sickened over.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)continue to skulk around the community and continue to prey on children.
CTyankee
(63,893 posts)OK, that got me. C'mon Hollywood, get up on this. Just do it.
Nick Kristof doesn't shovel shit. He just doesn't. This is serious and we need to look at it seriously.
I boycotted Allen's movies after the first scandal. I relented in 2011 to see "Midnight in Paris" which I admit is a brilliant movie. And I recently saw "Blue Jasmine."
Now I'm so shocked I cannot speak. This is horrible.
there are no words, really...
RainDog
(28,784 posts)yet still recognize that he is a pedophile.
The two have nothing to do with one another. How someone is treated, based upon their celebrity and talent, of course, is something else entirely.
Someone should come to a work of art looking at the work itself. There are numerous monsters that have existed who made great art. Picasso is one of them. A pig. Yet a great artist. The two exist separately.
CTyankee
(63,893 posts)I don't think it is right to reward him with my movie ticket. Why?
As for Picasso, I never read that he was a child molester. Do you have information that he was one?
I draw the line when it comes to hurting children. I understand that people hurt each other in a personal relationship. Kids are different. This child was defenseless. This was just beyond the pale, IMO.
"The two exist separately" can never be an excuse for abuse. Sorry.
JustAnotherGen
(31,783 posts)I'm sick that I own Midnight in Paris.
Chathamization
(1,638 posts)Nicholas Kristof, who seems to do that a lot.
Wolf Frankula
(3,598 posts)He was still Woody Allen then, and didn't try to be de Sica, or Bergman, or Truffaut or somebody else.
Wolf.
reddread
(6,896 posts)Looks like the Farrow family has a skeleton or two as well. I certainly wonder about Mia's culpability.
There are a lot of possibilities here. undisclosed settlement? There is no shortage of disgusting activities in show business.
Iggo
(47,537 posts)ForgoTheConsequence
(4,868 posts)RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)even before all the scandals. Just not my style. And if what she's saying is true - and I have no reason to doubt - Mr. Allen should have done some prison time.
rdharma
(6,057 posts)Inspired
(3,957 posts)X_Digger
(18,585 posts)I got talked into seeing one back in the 90's- I got up and walked out of the theater within 30 minutes. Taking a nap in the car was preferable.
joshcryer
(62,269 posts)I don't even find them funny.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)Psephos
(8,032 posts)Whisp
(24,096 posts)that elevated Allen at the Awards have some time to take their happy happy back and go on public record to denounce the fucking filthy creep,
If none of them have the courage to do that, to step forward and correct themselves, I will spit every time I see their faces or hear their names.
...and say fuck you - this is why kids are raped and molested - it's because people don't stand up for them and the pedophiles Know this and take protection from you.
DISGUSTED with HUMANITY!
DURHAM D
(32,607 posts)Here is a link to a portion of it - http://www.vanityfair.com/online/daily/2013/10/mia-farrow-children-family-scandal
Usually Vanity Fair has the whole article up soon after publication but it looks like they have changed policy and are posting much later.
After reading the VF article I was completely disgusted to watch Diane Keaton accept the Golden Globe for Woody. I will never think about her in the same way as it was beyond disappointing.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)to watch a Woody Allen movie again. It was incredibly disturbing.
TheMathieu
(456 posts)America is tops at doing that to victims.
DURHAM D
(32,607 posts)and on DU it will be the same posters who hate Amanda Knox.
niyad
(113,089 posts)cinnabonbon
(860 posts)Poor girl. Poor woman.
And people wonder why sexual abuse victims have a hard time reporting it.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)don't believe such a thing exists.
I am heartsick.
and hearing some posts here casually talking about his movies and totally missing the point of the title. I want to cry.
cinnabonbon
(860 posts)get the third degree from others because they didn't want to go through the system.
Me too.
This is not the time or place to talk about his movies. If anyone is doing that and completely ignoring what happened to her, that is callous behaviour.
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dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts)Ichingcarpenter
(36,988 posts)I think he got 'too big for his britches'' after that ,, if you know what I mean wink wink.
dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts)because the gun made of soap has always stuck in my mind. Sleeper would've been second choice.
I've seen him play live with a jazz band here in the UK which was part of a European tour - he's very talented.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)Tierra_y_Libertad
(50,414 posts)TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)There. Fixed it for ya'.
TYY
TheMathieu
(456 posts)The very definition.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Nice try though.
Tierra_y_Libertad
(50,414 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)with a side of romance flicks pretty exclusively.
DamnYankeeInHouston
(1,365 posts)Tom Ripley
(4,945 posts)kwassa
(23,340 posts)Tom Ripley
(4,945 posts)marble falls
(57,014 posts)G_j
(40,366 posts)I just saw this float by on FB and read a few paragraphs. It seems the subject is a-buzz right now. Maybe it will add to the discussion, maybe not.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/27/the-woody-allen-allegations-not-so-fast.html
Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)Sad, there will be enough people who do not believe her.
Stay strong, sounds like she has a wonderful support system that has worked for her.
Evil acts by predators, ugh.
doc03
(35,300 posts)DeSwiss
(27,137 posts)Cooley Hurd
(26,877 posts)Bonobo
(29,257 posts)After all, to condemn Woody Allen for his alleged crimes is easier and a good way to show that you are on the correct side in supporting the victim and asserting your repugnance about pedophilia. Who would do anything different?
On the other hand, to suggest that perhaps it is not true is to risk oneself being smeared as a pedophilia-defender, a scumbag lower than the lowest worm. The fact that you would link to that without offering comment is most likely because you are afraid of making a comment in such an atmosphere of witch-burning.
However, the article you linked to is HIGHLY well-researched and informative to say the very least.
Anyone offering a knee-jerk opinion has the ethical responsibility to read it IMO.
defacto7
(13,485 posts)and very fair. It reinforces the fact that we do not nor will ever know the facts. It also is a great opportunity for people to realize that what we judge about anything we retrieve from the media is based solely on our own experiences, preconceptions, prejudices, desires and even neurosis. With that in mind, our judgments are purely our own possessions and have no basis in fact whatsoever. What we do with those judgments when we pass them on makes us the guilty party if we are wrong. How convenient it is to pass judgment on people we don't know and never be convicted of slander, or worse knowing we have added to another humans' misery without cause... That's entertainment? Calling media gathered family laundry either fact or fiction is disingenuous in the least, it's stupidity in the broadest sense.
G_j
(40,366 posts)link up thread without comment.
JVS
(61,935 posts)progressoid
(49,952 posts)defacto7
(13,485 posts)It is the most fair way to put it in perspective.
Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)Allen, 75, replied, "What was the scandal? I fell in love with this girl, married her. We have been married for almost 15 years now."
He added, "There was no scandal, but people refer to it all the time as a scandal and I kind of like that in way because when I go I would like to say I had one real juicy scandal in my life."
Allen and Previn wed in December 1997 in Venice, Italy and have two adopted daughters. Back in 1992, Soon-Yi Previn told Time magazine she never considered Allen a father figure in her life.
snip*"To think that Woody was in any way a father or stepfather to me is laughable. My parents are Andre Previn and Mia, but obviously they're not even my real parents," Previn said at the time. "I came to America when I was seven. I was never remotely close to Woody. He was someone who was devoted exclusively to his own children and to his work, and we never spent a moment together."
Previn also said the two began seeing each other around the time she was 20-years-old. She told Time magazine "By that time his relationship with Mia was long done, and they were going through the motions." She added, "They were friendly but rarely went out, and apart from when they worked together or played with their children, had little to do with one another."
Allen's biological son with Farrow, Ronan Farrow (birth name Satchel) -- who is now a 23-year-old journalist/government official --said of the relationship according to Life magazine, "He's my father married to my sister. That makes me his son and his brother-in-law. That is such a moral transgression."
"I cannot see him. I cannot have a relationship with my father and be morally consistent," he added, "I lived with all these adopted children, so they are my family. To say Soon-Yi was not my sister is an insult to all adopted children."
The 35-year age difference raised eyebrows back in the 1990s much like the recent wedding of 51-year-old "LOST" actor Doug Anthony Hutchinson to 16-year-old singer Courtney Alexis Stodden.
http://www.ontheredcarpet.com/Woody-Allen-on-marriage-to-Soon-Yi:--What-was-the-scandal-/8209443
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)And please don't attack me for pointing this out.
http://www.amazon.com/Remembering-Satan-Tragic-Recovered-Memory/dp/0679755829
In 1988 Ericka and Julie Ingram began making a series of accusations of sexual abuse against their father, Paul Ingram, who was a respected deputy sheriff in Olympia, Washington. At first the accusations were confined to molestations in their childhood, but they grew to include torture and rape as recently as the month before. At a time when reported incidents of "recovered memories" had become widespread, these accusations were not unusual. What captured national attention in this case is that, under questioning, Ingram appeared to remember participating in bizarre satanic rites involving his whole family and other members of the sheriff's department.
Remembering Satan is a lucid, measured, yet absolutely riveting inquest into a case that destroyed a family, engulfed a small town, and captivated an America obsessed by rumors of a satanic underground. As it follows the increasingly bizarre accusations and confessions, the claims and counterclaims of police, FBI investigators, and mental health professionals. Remembering Satan gives us what is at once a psychological detective story and a domestic tragedy about what happens when modern science is subsumed by our most archaic fears.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thurston_County_ritual_abuse_case
The Thurston County ritual abuse case was a case in which Paul Ingram, county Republican Party Chairman of Thurston County, Washington and the Chief Civil Deputy of the Sheriff's department, was accused by his daughters of sexual abuse, by at least one daughter of satanic ritual abuse[1] and later accused by his son in 1996 of abusing him from the ages of 4 to 12.[2] He originally pled guilty but has since maintained his innocence. After pleading guilty, he attempted to withdraw his plea and requested a trial or clemency but his requests were refused. Ingram was released in 2003 after serving his sentence.[3]
Ingram confessed to a variety of extremely improbable crimes and a sizable number of Ingram's fellow Sheriff's department employees were also accused by Ingram's young daughters and their friends.
The case is often cited by proponents of the idea that satanic ritual abuse actually exists as proof because Ingram was found guilty; in reality, Ingram was never charged with "satanic ritual abuse" but with six counts of rape in the third degree, and received an unusually long sentence rather than a maximum of three and a half years, he was sentenced to twenty years.[4] The "satanic" aspects of the case were dropped by the prosecution[5] although the appearance of Satan was integral to Ingram's confessions. The case has also been compared to the Salem witch trials.[6][7]
Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)I am glad nothing stopped her from going to print with her letter.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Unfortunately it doesn't negate the truth of its.
If you have the time and possibly the interest, I highly recommend you read this article.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/27/the-woody-allen-allegations-not-so-fast.html
The Woody Allen Allegations: Not So Fast
Twenty-one years after the first allegations that Woody Allen abused his adopted daughter, that incident is back in the news thanks to the directors ex-partner, Mia Farrow, and estranged son, Ronan Farrow. But what does a closer examination reveal?
Editor's Note, Feb. 1: Dylan Farrow wrote an open letter in the New York Times addressing her allegations against Woody Allen for the first time in public. Read it here.
As anyone with access to a computer knows, Woody Allen has been pilloried of late across the internet, over allegations that 21 years ago, he molested the daughter he and Mia Farrow adopted in 1985. Countless people have weighed in on this, many of them without the slightest idea of what the facts are in this matter. I consider myself allergic to gossip and tabloids, and go out of my way to avoid them. So when a celebrity is being devoured by the two-headed piranha of gossip and innuendo, I usually have minimal understanding of what they did, or were alleged to have done. Woody Allen is an exception.
I produced and directed the two-part PBS special, Woody Allen: A Documentary, that premiered in the U.S. on the American Masters series. I also supervised and consulted on the brief clip montage that aired as part of the recent Golden Globes telecast, when Allen received the Cecil B. DeMille Award for Lifetime Achievement.
Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)But she has it nonetheless.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)Upward
(115 posts)Pretty sure NY has a statute of limitations. By placing this column, she's basically daring Woody to sue her for defamation. And, of course, the burden of proof will be on him.
The Daily Beast article is well reasoned, but sexual abuse and emotional traumas are not rational issues with rational solutions.
Woody has been nominated a handful of times since the scandal and Mia's been relatively quiet about it. I wonder why they're all making such a big fuss now?
Is Ronin trying to drive Woody out of the business so he can have the stage to himself?
It is entirely possible Woody Allen is a great director, and a child molester. Unfortunately, Mia has no credibility at all, and she has/had a known motive for wanting to see him disgraced.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)I think many people feel the story has credibility because of Soon-Yi (sic?) but from my way of thinking, there is no relationship between that and pedophilia.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Those stating otherwise are abusing psychiatric technical language. She was between 19 and 21 when they began their relationship. That is not even remotely close to being pedophilia.
The disgust surrounding their coupling is rooted mostly in moral outrage without an ounce of consideration that they just might be in a healthy, loving relationship.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)"It is entirely possible Woody Allen is a great director, and a child molester. Unfortunately, Mia has no credibility at all, and she has/had a known motive for wanting to see him disgraced."
It is unlikely, but possible, that he did molest Dylan. The problem is, if that really is the case, Dylan's mother screwed it up by coaching the victim, forcing testimony from a reluctant witness, and showing more interest in harming her ex-boyfriend then helping her own daughter.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Far and away. If I had a trophy around, I'd mail it you.
Congratulations on bringing this "debate" (really it's turned into a shit throwing contest) just a little further into the pile.
Upward
(115 posts)Or, are you saying that people who have been physically and/or emotionally abused suffered at the hands of reasonable, rational people?
Whisp
(24,096 posts)I'm not surprised you decided to visit.
And I am unsurprised that you would choose to imply that I am a pedophilia supporter.
That is the type of person you are apparently.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)and actual child molestation and sexual assault happens a lot more often.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4428531
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Whisp
(24,096 posts)I'm surprised at them actually, but in a good way - because things are so tindery here lately (ha, for a long time).
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randome
(34,845 posts)The rest of his stuff is boring.
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Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)kwassa
(23,340 posts)Huh.
randome
(34,845 posts)[hr][font color="blue"][center]Precision and concision. That's the game.[/center][/font][hr]
XRubicon
(2,212 posts)Yes I read the op. I answered the question.
Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)But absent a conviction he isnt guilty of anything
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Beside stating things that no one needed clarification on.
Quantess
(27,630 posts)just commenting on the title.
TDale313
(7,820 posts)Had read it, but that was their way of saying they didn't give a fuck about or believe her story. Love to be wrong.
She's a brave young woman.
Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)A panel of psychiatrists sided with Allen, a judge more with Dylan and her mother. A Connecticut prosecutor said that there was enough evidence for a criminal case against Allen but that he was dropping criminal proceedings to spare Dylan.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/02/opinion/sunday/kristof-dylan-farrows-story.html
June 8, 1993
Allen Loses to Farrow in Bitter Custody Battle
By PETER MARKS
Describing Woody Allen as a "self-absorbed, untrustworthy and insensitive" father, a judge in Manhattan yesterday rejected his attempt to win custody of his three children and awarded custody to their mother, Mia Farrow.
In a scathing 33-page decision, Acting Justice Elliott Wilk of State Supreme Court denounced Mr. Allen for carrying on an affair with one of Ms. Farrow's daughters, trying to pit family members against one another and lacking knowledge of the most basic aspects of his children's lives.
The judge also denied Mr. Allen immediate visiting rights with his 7-year-old daughter, Dylan Farrow. Last summer Ms. Farrow accused the 57-year-old film maker of molesting the child. Justice Wilk said it was unlikely that Mr. Allen could be prosecuted for sexual abuse based on the evidence. But while a team of experts concluded that Dylan was not abused, the judge said he found the evidence inconclusive.
http://www.nytimes.com/books/97/02/23/reviews/farrow-verdict.html
Panel Criticizes Prosecutor In Inquiry on Woody Allen
By RICHARD PEREZ-PENA
Published: February 24, 1994
A Connecticut prosecutor's handling of a child-molestation complaint against Woody Allen was cause for "grave concern" and may have prejudiced the legal battle between Mr. Allen and Mia Farrow, a disciplinary panel has found.
But while its decision, dated Feb. 3, amounted to a stern rebuke of the prosecutor, Frank S. Maco, the state Grievance Panel concluded that Mr. Maco, the State's Attorney for Litchfield County, had not violated any provision of the state's code of conduct for lawyers. The panel, a state agency, could have voted sanctions ranging from censure to disbarment.
Last Sept. 24, Mr. Maco said at a news conference that there was "probable cause" to charge Mr. Allen with molesting Dylan O. Farrow, his and Ms. Farrow's daughter, in 1992, when she was 7. But he said he would not charge the film maker, in part because a prosecution could be traumatic for the child. Copy Sent to Judge
http://www.nytimes.com/1994/02/24/nyregion/panel-criticizes-prosecutor-in-inquiry-on-woody-allen.html
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)How damaging is it to be called a pedophilia-defender for daring to suggest that a lot of the "facts", testimony and allegations are suspect.
WCLinolVir
(951 posts)adult. Soon-yi was a minor.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Potentially strange, exploitive even. But not criminal from what I've read.
WCLinolVir
(951 posts)were taken. She was, as I understand it, in her bedroom.
last1standing
(11,709 posts)And he's never even been charged. Yet these same people gloss over the fact that the woman who made these charges when the girl was young is a great supporter of real, convicted child molesters. The truth is they hate Allen for choosing Soon-Yi over Farrow and are happy to crucify him with these allegations to make up for not being able to burn him for that.
UTUSN
(70,652 posts)Squinch
(50,922 posts)A woman describes a sexual assault that happened to her when she was a child. This is the response she receives.
Who could withstand that in the aftermath of a trauma?
This woman is very brave.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Even in the cases of alleged rape, I would expect there to be slightly more evidence than an allegation. Even if such an allegation is terribly weighty.
The circumstances surrounding the allegations of molestation against Allen are surprisingly convoluted. Despite multiple independent criminal investigations, no one was able to substantiate the claims.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)case to shield the child from the trauma. The prosecutor went to some trouble and some personal difficulty to get that message out.
And what were the multiple criminal investigations?
And what is the good amount of evidence that suggests that these were implanted memories?
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Which is only sufficient justification for investigation, not prosecution. This was the same prosecutor who was reprimanded for sending his report unsolicited to the judge presiding over the custody battle between Farrow and Allen.
Sorry, the criminal investigations were actually singular (I was thinking of the custody case). In Connecticut, the team responsible for the investigation failed to find any evidence substantiating the claims.
http://www.nytimes.com/1993/05/04/nyregion/doctor-cites-inconsistencies-in-dylan-farrow-s-statements.html
Squinch
(50,922 posts)If you mean the psychological team, they never met the child.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Although she was examined by medical staff who found no evidence of physical trauma (not that that alone is definitive evidence against the allegations). Bottom line is there is no actual evidence of the abuse. There is the claim by a 7 year old who was in the middle of a vicious custody battle. The kind of battle where two parents are willing to do and say almost anything to humiliate and discredit one another.
That is the fundamental backdrop to the child's claims.
This doesn't help the allegations much either...http://articles.latimes.com/1993-02-02/news/mn-952_1_woody-allen
Nevernose
(13,081 posts)She told multiple different versions of the story which were not consistent. According to the independent, court appointed investigator, she sounded as if she'd been coached.
Children rarely spontaneously invent stories of molestation if they're not true. It happens all the time in divorces cases, with both parents making up stories of abuse and getting the children to go along with them. It's sick and sad, but it happens.
Based on the evidence (and lack thereof), I think it perfectly reasonable to assume that Mia Farrow is the one who damaged her young daughter).
Squinch
(50,922 posts)She says it happened. She is a grown woman, and she still says it happened.
You say you don't think it did, that she is wrong. Because you are in a position to refute her?
TDale313
(7,820 posts)Some of the responses are really depressing. Not surprised, but it really just makes me sad how quick some are to call her a liar or delusional/brainwashed.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)So, you know, characterize the arguments of those with which you disagree correctly or don't bother talking about them at all.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)you believe false memory to be more likely than what she is saying happened. Because, again, you are in a better position to know?
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)That doesn't mean I'm certain (it certainly doesn't mean I think there's a sizable body of children who make false claims of molestation). None of us on here are certain. We've all read our respective articles and considered the very distant evidence provided. And we come to our own conclusions.
Based on what I've read, I see no evidence that a sexual assault took place. Which brings into very serious doubt the reliability of the claims made by the then 7 year old child.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)And that is why people have a hard time reporting sexual assaults: because everyone thinks they get to have an equal voice with the one who experienced it as to whether it happened. And they don't even see the craziness of that.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Not every doubt of veracity of allegations of abuse is sourced in the systemic shaming and dismissal of abuse victims.
I have come to my conclusion from as objective a position I can possibly occupy. I am very well aware of the victim shaming associated with sexual abuse allegations. That in no way makes my position any less valid than yours. We've both read news articles on the internet and come to our own conclusions based on the evidence provided to us.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)is not as valid as HERS.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)against very frequently. "I don't believe what you say about what happened to you, and I have the right to deny your experience, just because."
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)When she first made the statements of sexual abuse, not an adult at all.
That she is now a grown woman does nothing to validate the statements of a 7 year old.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)She is not a small child now.
Do you see why it would be impossible for many to report their assaults?
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)I will not put up with such garbage.
I said you're being deceptive by claiming these statements were originally made by an adult. They were made by a small child who repeated them into adulthood. Which is not the same as an adult making the original claims.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)Of course I did not say the statements were originally made by an adult. She is an adult now and she is still making the same statement.
And if you are shamed by this conversation, it is not on me.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Because I'm very, very fully aware of that issue. And it is to depart from the subject to try and make it seem as though such things are distant from my understanding.
That sexual assault is grossly underreported is a statistical claim, not an outright declaration for every case. In other words, because such a statistic exists does not give anyone the authority to immediately jump to the conclusion that we are attempting to silence real child molestation by not believing every allegation. Or do you not believe it's reasonable to believe that not every allegation of sexual abuse is true?
In this specific instance, with the very limited evidence I possess (this is a debate on an internet forum, after all), I believe it is more likely that the memory of abuse is false. That the allegations made against Allen are unsupported by investigation or evidence. And that there is more than a rousing suspicion that the viciousness of a custody battle carries high potential for parents to pit children against one another.
Squinch
(50,922 posts)control the behaviors of others here.
I am sure this woman will take all of your careful considerings into account as she thinks about those events that SHE experienced and you read about online...
...oh, wait, no. That would be ridiculous.
Bobbie Jo
(14,341 posts)That's exactly what I was thinking as I waded through this disturbing thread.
Seriously.
JHB
(37,157 posts)No, not the one you're thinking of, the other one.
tularetom
(23,664 posts)lostincalifornia
(3,639 posts)If Allen felt he was innocent he could sue for libel or slander, but I doubt that will happen because most likely hi is guilty of the charges
polichick
(37,152 posts)believe that Woody was his father if she thought the man was a child molester?
Kind of a cruel thing to do to a kid.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)"normal". But it seems as if Woody Allen is the pedophile attracted to a large family of children with an overly accepting guardian. Mia may have been guilty of creating an environment where these children were more vulnerable but Woody is a criminal who should be paying for his disgusting crimes.
polichick
(37,152 posts)Walk away
(9,494 posts)polichick
(37,152 posts)It has to be damaging for a boy to grow up thinking that he's the son of a pedophile.
Since Frank Sinatra's family has long embraced Ronan, it's possible Mia did tell him way back when - sure hope so.
onpatrol98
(1,989 posts)Even before I realized he was a perv, I didn't like his movies. No way I would want my children around him.
Even before I thought he was a perv, I thought he was creepy. As for his wives, I'm astonished ANYONE would want to be ... with him.
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)To me, he is singularly unattractive.
liberalmuse
(18,672 posts)I remember when the accusations first came out. Farrow was incredibly angry, understandibly so, and I just don't know what to think about all this. I'm not defending Allen, but I remember Farrow ranting a lot when the scandal broke about the affair with her adopted daughter Soon Yi and Woody Allen. This is such a sensitive thing because many children aren't believed when they speak up about sexual abuse, but on the other hand, some children have been coaxed to "believe" they were abused (ex: McMartin preschool case).:
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/27/the-woody-allen-allegations-not-so-fast.html
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Far safer to perform a ritualistic act of condemning an accused person so that one can confirm that yes, pedophilia is evil.
Yes, a ritual act.
alittlelark
(18,890 posts)Annie Hall is the only one I have seen, I was in Jr High... I have seen it since - still good.
But I, at 49, have seen the dark side through news outlets on both sides of the continental US.
He is - to my mind - an UBER - CREEP.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)He's easy to avoid, and I don't support pedophiles. The Farrow family is brave to never let people forget, especially in the torrents of hate they face from Woody-defenders.
I have a grown step-son, but for many years I was not married to his dad, but I considered myself a trusted adult in the child's life. The thought that he would be "fair game" the minute he turned 18 would have never occurred to me, and I doubt it would occur to anyone else who takes their role as an adult, and defacto parent, seriously.
840high
(17,196 posts)elleng
(130,768 posts)Never cared for his movies, or him as a 'person;' and hate him now. I don't say that easily; I don't hate many.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)Upward
(115 posts)Or, for that matter, her brother who just got sentenced to long term sexual abuse of two minors.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)o yeh, right.
I know what.
reorg
(3,317 posts)One of best if not THE best and very timely movie of the early nineties.
I have watched every single Woody Allen movie, and most of them several times. There is not one which I don't like at all, if not all that great they are always at least funny, often interesting. Had discussions for hours on some of them even if I didn't particularly like them.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)I am, I really am.
polly7
(20,582 posts)I know I must have seen one or two but was obviously not impressed enough to remember which ones. I can't stand him d/t the things I've read about him.
Beringia
(4,316 posts)I think Mia is the crazy one.
ElizaT
(2 posts)Child molestation, from mere light touching to full blown rape, happens way more often than one would suspect and children are often not believed. Many defending Allen here simply like his movies. Period. I will stand by the now-woman who has vivid memories of what he did to her at age 7 and how it made her feel at the time and years thereafter. And read the Vanity Fair article. These molestation charges only became public after the Soon-Yi matter exploded in public. However, Woody was in counseling over his inappropriate behavior with Dylan (separate from the "attic incident" before the affair with Soon-Yi became known to Mia. Also from VF article:
According to Dylan, Theres a lot I dont remember, but what happened in the attic I remember. I remember what I was wearing and what I wasnt wearing. She tells Orth, The things making me uncomfortable were making me think I was a bad kid, because I didnt want to do what my elder told me to do. The attic, she says, pushed her over the edge. I was cracking. I had to say something. I was seven. I was doing it because I was scared. I wanted it to stop. For all she knew, she tells Orth, this was how fathers treated their daughters. This was normal interaction, and I was not normal for feeling uncomfortable about it.
What happened to her in the attic is what triggered the molestation charges brought by officials and only after Mia was told it was mandatory for her daughter's pediatrician to report it. However, the abuse did not begin there. Nor has it ended yet as she has to deal with those trying to deny what happened to her.
Adults defending Allen enable and embolden all child molesters.
Beringia
(4,316 posts)Link for this statement?
"However, Woody was in counseling over his inappropriate behavior with Dylan"
From Vanity Fair article
"The charges will never go forward. Woody will be cleared of all that, hell see his kids, theyll come to some settlement, says Letty Aronson, Woody Allens sister, who categorically denies that Woody was ever in therapy for inappropriate behavior toward Dylan, or that he ever favored Dylan over Satchel. "
ElizaT
(2 posts)"He was in therapy for inappropriate behavior with Dylan when he adopted her! Tell me that makes sense." Gilman explains, "Mia didn't want the media to know. She didn't want Woody's name tarnished."
nightbloomer
(23 posts)I do not believe a word Dylan says.
She was coached by Mia when she was a child. Mia and Woody never lived together much less got married. He often said at the time that being in her apartment made him crazy because of the chaos. The woman he married was not his daughter. She was adopted by Mia and Andre Previn. She was of age when they began their affair. These are all facts.
I find it very suspicious that all this is coming up now. Follow the money. There is something going on here.
And Mia is very unstable. She always has been. That book of hers make her look bonkers.
Just my opinion. And I love all his movies.
Loaded Liberal Dem
(230 posts)Sadly ironic, but true.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)I believe that she is telling the truth.