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It is so far from the traditions of my family that none of us could have have imagined it. My father was an engineer, my mother an administrator. I played with toy soldiers and models cars as a child, studied languages and literature in college, trained as attorney and even served as a judge.
Yet today, I create and perform in feminist porn.
I grew up in very comfortable circumstances in Mystic, Connecticut, with two loving parents of Northern European Protestant ancestry who graced me with a doting childhood. They taught me I could do anything I wanted as long as I was a good student, so I made academic excellence the focus of my early life. They also taught me to be true to myself, and never to bear ill-will or malice. For them, and ultimately for me, life was about having just intentions above all else
Straight porn is my current frontier. Unfortunately, most of what Ive viewed of commercial porn promotes a male-centered vision of desire in which men are always erect and women are ever-ready to serve the needs of men. It is vision that has led to cartoonish portrayals of beauty, misogyny, and, in many cases, female exploitation.
Porn can accomplish greater psychological and social good if it becomes more feminist. Rather than focusing on men getting off, it can include the complete human sexual experience: intimacy, respect for difference and varying desire, respectful and loving interchange between the genders, and the mutual pursuit of pleasure; and especially, an account of female desires.
To this end I am now creating and performing in videos that I hope will revolutionize pornography.
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http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/from-ivy-league-lawyer-to-porn-star/
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)I wish him only the best.
MineralMan
(146,284 posts)It will be interesting to see the reactions of people to a man becoming a porn star, versus a woman doing the same thing. Personally, I can't imagine making a choice to do porn. But, I suppose some people make that choice willingly. Others, I assume, make it out of a lack of options or due to coercion. In most cases, we don't know.
But, it's wasted on me. I'm not a viewer of porn.
MineralMan
(146,284 posts)replies. That's interesting, I think.
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)I'm not a fan either, for some of the reasons this man states. I find it interesting a thread on a collage age female porn actor would receive the usual attention and divisiveness, and a story about a male porn actor with a little more nuance doesn't seem to inspire discussion.
Ah well
MineralMan
(146,284 posts)It sort of delineates the double standard, doesn't it.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Men in the adult entertainment industries aren't generally considered to be victims of misandry for their choice, or shamed because they choose that career path, or accused of being mentally Ill for making that choice. But, because these accusations crop up whenever women in the sex/porn industry are discussed, and there hapoens to be people who strongly sausage with those assumptions, naturally a more um... "spirited" discussion is going to ensue.
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)Men and women aren't seen the same in the industry as a glance at internet porn will show you.
I posted this to see what kind of responses it would get, and to see, if by using a feminist friendly male who sees some of the problems with the porn industry, if a reasonable discussion could evolve, instead of polarized sides. Like I said a social experiment
opiate69
(10,129 posts)To be surprised. Hence my comment..
BainsBane
(53,026 posts)bullwinkle428
(20,629 posts)I was very quick to assume the subject of the piece was a woman, scanning quickly across the words and seeing the idea of an alternative to "tradtional porn".
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)porn. guys in porn are a huge part of the market.
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)And appear to want to change the culture of porn a bit.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)the whole free porn thing is changing the face of porn with more and more amateur stuff being out there. Will be interesting to see how it all morphs with new technologies.
quinnox
(20,600 posts)I would never consider something like this, just as I would not consider getting a tattoo. But that is me. Others can do whatever.
closeupready
(29,503 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Not sure if that plays into this, but, I support anyone who tries to pursue a life they find personally fulfilling. Life is too short to do otherwise. He's an adult, he can make his own decisions about his body.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)cali
(114,904 posts)self absorbed twit. I could fucking give a flying fuck.
Don't hold back!
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)I forgot.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)is a first-order narcissist.
Unless he's in the legal department of Harvard, Brown, etc.
I bet he also learned to play guitar because of his love of music.
We'll see how the commitment to feminist principles lasts once bills become due.
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)It's inimical.
This post was a social experiment. I've been doing that here and there it's interesting.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)And BTW, i could use a job. Just behind the scenes.
But you seem to be a follower of this, so maybe you can tell us the what and how of feminist porn?
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)I believe the idea is a story line around activity that doesn't objectify the female body. It's evolved out of 3rd wave feminists and the 'sex positive" feminists.
Here's an interesting little article on it
http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2008/07/23/feminist-porn-sex-consent-and-getting-off/
I don't like porn, I think it's broken and boring. But sexual images have been around a long time, there are certainly not going away. There are a number of problem with "feminist porn" the main one being nobody will buy it, because there is an inherent problem with porn; one of which that has to do with sexual repression and shame-- and looking for release of these things. Another is the filters in which we view the erotic.
Go ahead and look around. Even Ron Jeremy works on and off.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)socially acceptable and respectful of everyone involved?"
Most of the appeal is that you're not supposed to enjoy it.
Skittles
(153,138 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)I hope a little actual erotic activity as well. You'll see that occasionally in soft core, but the story lines are abysmal
Skittles
(153,138 posts)actual erotic activity that women might enjoy
bluestate10
(10,942 posts)I am no fan of porn, but I have watched it and felt that all that I saw was purely male focused. There is Lesbian porn, but that is a category in itself.
one_voice
(20,043 posts)he owes no one an explanation. His body, his choice.
Same for a woman if she so chooses.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)No, seriously, I dont know what that means.
ismnotwasm
(41,974 posts)You can do better
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)the defense rests.
Orrex
(63,191 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)rrneck
(17,671 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)I wish him well
reformist2
(9,841 posts)bluestate10
(10,942 posts)in prostitution will end up in that activity, that includes men and women that are highly educated and come from privilege. The super rich don't have to worry about their children becoming prostitutes unless their children want to work out some kinks on their wild side. Middleclass parents certainly must worry about their sons and daughters entering prostitution as a way to pay bills, that is the sad result of our nation's industrial and business policy of the last 33+ years.