This is love

[malaise]

http://www.yourjewishnews.com/2014/02/w8847.html

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He wanted to marry his girlfriend, but her mother asked him to buy a house and a car before they get married.

Although Chen is not able to afford a house or a car, he did the best he could.

He withdrew all of his RMB 200,000 ($32,994) in savings, and shaped them into pretty roses. He then handed them to his girlfriend.

Chen withdrew 1,998 100 yuan notes from the bank and worked many hours with the help of his friends to shape the money into 999 roses.

On his girlfriend’s birthday, he got down on one knee, gave her a heart shaped box filled with money and told her: "This is all my savings. Now they are all yours. Will You Marry Me?” She said “Yes!”
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[a kennedy]

1. OMGosh, what a beautiful story.....

Now that's a love sign.

[spanone]

2. k&r....

[Shankapotomus]

3. Cold hard cash

is Love? Are you sure about that? Come on now.

[Iggo]

4. +1

Sounds kinda icky to me, all around.

[malaise]

5. Cold hard cash would just have handed over the bank book

not make flowers.

[Shankapotomus]

6. Oh, I see now

Disguising the bribe as flowers makes all the difference. malaise, stop this! Stop it now! You're killing me!

[malaise]

7. You're killing me

Walk a mile in his shoes and try and understand cultural differences.
her mother wanted a house and a car.

[Shankapotomus]

8. Wait...

You're serious???

[malaise]

9. Yes I'm serious

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The world does not revolve around our version of culture. Most established societies have their own culture no matter what we think.

You have no idea of the pressure faced by young men in China to find a wife as a result of the one child policy. At least this young man was original and it worked.
I wish them well.

[Shankapotomus]

10. I think sharing material wealth and resources is great

and can even be an expression of love but if you think she is expressing romantic love towards him who she would otherwise declined if not for a large sum of cash, in any culture, we'll have to agree to disagree.

[okaawhatever]

11. What I see is someone who was willing to give everything he had for her. For me, that's the message.

I find the idea of a dowry distasteful, but I can recognize that it is the norm in other cultures.

[Shankapotomus]

12. That's a very nice sentiment

but what ruins it for me is that she wouldn't have accepted unless some kind payment was forked over. This is wrong no matter what culture practices it and should be challenged in every culture. Moreover, it is a way patriarchy continues to control women and the young by telling them who, usually the father, sets the standards for them to accept a relationship under. It is both misogynist and ageist. This insistence that some kind of monetary reward accompany every relationship only perpetuates the worst obsession of humanity - materialism - and, in many cases, can do more harm to families than good by driving them apart. It's Capitalism hijacking Love. Nothing could be more detestable to me.

[malaise]

14. Aren't diamond rings dowries?

Don't many of us in the West get our goodies as well?

[siligut]

15. I just hope she is good with money management

He is romantic and I love that, but if he were a little more practical, he had enough to invest and make it grow. As it is now, I just hope she is good with money.

[Vashta Nerada]

13. $32,994 would make anyone say "yes".

Worst. Love story. Ever.