I remember a debate between Andrea Dworkin, and a porn actress.
It was on one of those "one-on-one" interview shows, back in the 1980's.
I can't remember the host, or who the porn actress was.
But I did notice, the porn actress was in a good mood, laughing, joking around, someone I wouldn't mind talking to.
Dworkin on the other hand, was judgmental, condescending, and simply nasty.
In fact one thing Dworkin said, she said that she admired Iran and Saudi Arabia for what they do to makers of porn.
While it looks like the "All sex is rape" meme from Dworkin was exaggerated, at best, most of what else Dworkin said and advocated showed just how nasty she was.
Remember Ed Meese and his "Anti-porn crusade?"
Dworkin supported it.
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"I don't remember anything about the debate, when it was shown, what show it was on, who the host was, who the porn star was, but I remember every single thing about Dworkin."
Ah, the infallibility of memories 
NO ONE cares what he thinks! 
And seriously, you really think progressives are trying to excuse rape? Come on, just admit you are trying to twist words around to have a different meaning so you can pull a gotcha.
It's all been posted before, so if you really wanted to understand this issue you could easily find all the info you need, so I will just cut and paste from some other posts I've made before.
but when you say "racist culture" it means it's systemic, which it is. It's not just simply that there are some racists. Minorities are profiled, suspected more often, arrested more often, convicted more often even for crimes that more whites commit. And in many more areas than just crime. Affluent minorities are accosted for shoplifting even when they've paid for the item simply because it is ingrained subconsciously that they can't afford the item. I'm sure though that if you asked the store personnel who stopped them they do not consider themselves a racist.
Same idea with rape culture. Like I said, it's a subtext that permeates the subconscious.
I think an analogy would be that bacteria causes the infection, but the surroundings that allowed that bacteria to thrive is the "culture". So yeah, the individuals are the ones who actually rape, but the rape culture is what allows it to happen and be gotten away with and have far to lenient sentences way more than should happen.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1114&pid=13579
It also doesn't mean that pornography is simply sex. Nor that magazine covers showing girls in bikinis are not a problem.
You seem to be conflating a lot of things. You're throwing a lot of things into the mix that all contribute to a sexist society and various women's issues but are not necessarily a direct reason for rape existing.
Do you really think pornography is simply sex? Come on, it's generally pretty violent for sex, gang banging, facials, choking, porn is not just "sex". At it's best it isn't regular sex, there's no affection, etc... Even if there weren't violent porn out there, which there is, there's a lot more to pornography than what shows up on the screen. Do you think all women get into porn willingly or because it's what they dreamed of doing when they grew up? Do you think that women who get into porn have high self esteem and many good alternatives in their lives? What do you think it's like on the set of a porn? There was a post recently by a DUer whose friend was in the business and she described what it was like to have to go through being in a porn movie and it was horrific.
When I was in college I was at a friend's dorm apt., it was a male apt. so 5 guys lived there. One of them came home and was really angry, he said he was angry about something then said "I just need to fuck something/someone ( don't remember which)". Where does he get the idea that that's a way to get his anger out? Very likely comes from porn. Where else do you see anger expressed with a sexual act?
Have you seen this talk? It's fantastic. If you haven't watched it it may shed some light on porn for you. It's a man talking about why he doesn't watch porn any more. Please do watch it. If you've already seen it please watch it again.
But anyway, back to rape culture... American absolutely does have a culture of rape. How many murder cases do you suppose have evidence just rotting away untouched on the shelves? How many armed robbery cases do you think the victim is too afraid to report because they will get blamed? What other crime blames the victim like rape or shames them like rape? Why is it so common for perps to get such lenient sentences in rape cases, even when it's pedophilia?
Why do so many young men think it's okay to violate a woman sexually when she is passed out? Why is there a drug called the "date rape" drug? The sexism that permeates society adds to men thinking they have a right to sex with women. They think of it as a conquest. All the slut shaming, the victim blaming, the objectification... it all adds up.
It's the objectification of women, the lack of respect for women that allows men to treat them as an object to be violated, that allows rape to be blamed on the victim and rape kits to be systematically ignored, that all adds up to a rape culture. Yes, it does exist. Just as white privilege exists. Just as so many things exist that are perhaps easier to grasp, understand and see if you are part of the group that is affected by it. Denying it is like denying that racism exists.
I just read this post that says a better term would be "rape enabling culture". Perhaps that makes more sense to you? I like it better myself.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4705334
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4707877
Well rape culture as a whole doesn't mean every single person
or even every single social network. Just as racist culture doesn't mean every single person/social network.
But it does mean that it is systemic. There is a general attitude about rape that is different than all other crimes. So yes, let's focus on where the problems reside. Like the judicial system, the blaming of the victims, the attitude of young men who think raping a passed out female is not rape. Also teaching boys from when they are in high school and just beginning to date what it means to respect a woman and not think of her as an object to be conquered.
Look at the Republican Party. As a whole they think women are property to be told what they can and can not do with their bodies. How many men are influenced by that, and women too. That's horrible. So there you have half the country with that sort of mentality. That's a lot. So all their kids are being taught that mentality. (And all kinds of other weird attitudes towards sexuality but not any real sex education.) So it's an uphill battle, especially with the backlash against women's rights lately, to even just have women regarded as people, let alone with a voice of their own to say what can and can't be done to them and their bodies.
So when women are being treated as less than men, are having (mostly) men legislate what they can and can not do with their bodies, are actually legislating that a woman who has been raped has to be vaginally probed by a doctor, and forcing women to have ultrasounds and being forced to look at them even if they're pregnant because of rape, well that all adds up to women being looked at as less than a man and as an object that men are allowed to control and do with what they please.
Of course I'm not saying it is a spoken idea, but it is a subtext that exists in our society that permeates the consciousness so that then you get people questioning the victim of rape to the point where they don't even want to report it lest they be dragged over the coals about it again, after they already feel completely violated and humiliated.
What I don't understand is why men feel such a strong need to invalidate the idea of rape culture. What difference does it make to you? Why not believe women when they say this is how they feel? We are the ones who live with it every day of our lives. Would you argue with a minority and tell them racism just doesn't exist?
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1114&pid=13577
Hope that helps!
I'd feel like I'd be walking on eggshells, being with a radical. Any radical.
I wouldn't have sex with the porn actress, I'd be too concerned about catching an STD.
But I've been friends with a guy who used to be a cameraman for a porn studio, and he told me some hilarious stories, and some of his observations about porn stars like John Holmes.
He told me Holmes had his brain in that big dick of his.
Ever try being at a family gathering, where one of the family there was a radical Christian?
Fun, right? 
We all are young and stupid at least once in our lives. 
Both are giant FAILS for him anyway.
Gotta love the 'nasty grouchy feminist' crap in the OP too. Like that was never a stereotype.
