If It’s OK For Women To Propose, Why Don’t They?
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Go to any wedding celebration this nuptial season, whether in a ballroom or backyard or church basement, and it’s a good bet you can trace the big day to a similar start, with different flourishes.
If a man is marrying a woman somewhere in America, odds are that he proposed to her.
That may seem obvious, but consider this: Three-fourths of Americans say it would be fine for the woman to do the proposing, in theory.
In practice, only about 5 percent of those currently married say the woman proposed, and the figure is no higher among couples wed within the past 10 years. Attitudes actually seem to be trending the other way, an Associated Press-WE tv poll shows.
Young adults are more likely than their elders to consider it “unacceptable” for a woman to do the asking. More than one-third of those under age 30 disapprove.
http://philadelphia.cbslocal.com/2014/05/03/if-its-ok-for-women-to-propose-why-dont-they/
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They just don't do it in a direct "Will you marry me?" way, they send subtle hints instead.
That did work on me. 
Not a good first marriage..
More than a few women give their partners hot sex and then stopped feigning guilt blah blah blah and say no more until we're married. Apparently that really works. 
What a completely asinine post ... intentionally impregnating women is the way men propose, too (if one wants to call it that)
Except it is not in either case ... manipulation (by either sex is not a proposal).
Its really heartening to see that the tone toward women has improved here 
and not what you seem to be ascribing to me.
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3. They do.
They just don't do it in a direct "Will you marry me?" way, they send subtle hints instead.
That was me. Saying that women are more likely to send subtle hints about marriage than to ask directly. Perhaps slightly stereotypical, but not IMO in a negative way - this is the post I'm talking about when I say "based on my experience."
4. Subtle Hints Like Becoming "Accidently" Pregnant
NOT my post, someone else's post, which I completely disagree with (enough so that I in fact alerted on it myself, and found that it had already been alerted on with a 3-4 result).
5. Well...
That did work on me. Not a good first marriage..
My post, simply stating my own personal experience but not stating or implying that this was a common thing - just that it did in fact happen to me, which means it's more common than winning the lottery 'cause god knows that's never gonna happen.
In other words, you're saying that I said women in general often trap men into marriage via pregnancy -- something I NEVER said or implied. In fact I think it's pretty rare because otherwise I would not have been so shocked when it happened to me.
I don't really want to argue with you but I don't like someone misconstruing my words outright, which is what is happening here.
I probably shouldn't have even responded to his post, but that just because I did respond to it and acknowledged that what he was saying actually did happen to me, does not mean I liked his post or agreed with it, or thought that my single experience was any kind of an indication that this was a common thing.
"...and in this case I thought I was just saying what usually does happen."
"...but not stating or implying that this was a common thing."
These two statements, both directly referring to the same thing, appear to be at odds with one another.
I'll be uncouth here. Many women like to have their cake and eat it too.
That's why he's my ex...
since woman had barely had the right to even vote before then. We had about two decades of mostly gender-free marketing for children, but it's gotten way bad again since the Reagan era. 
The rest of the time, the woman decides that the man should propose.
In either situation, in a typical American relationship, there is a great deal of talking about the possibility before any proposal occurs. The only real surprise with most couples is exactly how the proposal is carried out.
