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AtomicKitten

(46,585 posts)
Wed May 14, 2014, 04:24 PM May 2014

Dear DU

Dear DU: After six months, I have been released to the next level of care. Denial has been my go-to emotion for too long and it's been tough for me to see and acknowledge what would be glaringly apparent to a blind person. I watched my descent into depression over a period of about two years, cognizant of the warning signs but reduced to a spectator, culminating in my complete withdrawal. I stopped returning phone calls and answering emails. Ultimately I stopped eating. I took in all the pain and cruelty and ugliness of this world, and I just wanted it to stop. I don't think I thought it out any further than that.

Truthfully, this is a bit humiliating for me and I had my son delete his OP to that end. I just want you to know how grateful I am for the generosity and goodwill of this community. In a weird twist, out of the blue I was contacted and offered a good job by the partner of someone I met almost two years ago at a social event. Just know you saved my bacon, DU. No doubt about it, and I am grateful.

I am learning to compartmentalize heart-wrenching triggers for me --- war, bigotry, factory farming, and the rampant gun culture in the US. When I start feeling the pain pitch a tent in my head again, I have learned to move to something else like walking Seven (now huge lipomatous mass-free thanks to DU), recreational reading, etc., and I can feel the release physically and emotionally. I feel I'm getting a better handle on my life.

The generosity of this community, the kindness and concern for others, was like a light that shone all the way to the depths of my deep funk and lit the path to my recovery. I'm still a bit fragile (so I'm told) and have to take care in what I take in (also what I'm told), but I am on the mend and look forward to participating again at some point when I'm given the green light.

So, for now, #BringBackOurGirls 4real and hooray for Idaho and all the other red states that are paving the way to marriage equality. Clearly I can't live with the ugliness of this world so I've committed to changing it in whatever way I can through truth and love and all that good stuff.

Cheers, DU. See you soon.

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Dear DU (Original Post) AtomicKitten May 2014 OP
glad to hear you are doing better Liberal_in_LA May 2014 #1
Take good care. yewberry May 2014 #2
peace, love and comfort to you. PeaceNikki May 2014 #3
Atomic Kitten MoonRiver May 2014 #4
Please take care and let us know Le Taz Hot May 2014 #5
Lovely to hear from you AK PumpkinAle May 2014 #6
Glad you are feeling better! Kath1 May 2014 #7
Thanks for the update, AK BeyondGeography May 2014 #8
It's so wonderful to hear from you. You are very important to us here and know that myrna minx May 2014 #9
... Mnemosyne May 2014 #10
Thank you for this wonderful update. Sissyk May 2014 #11
Good to hear from you. ProSense May 2014 #12
AK: Whisp May 2014 #13
When I'm sliding into the black hole... hunter May 2014 #14
Glad you're doing better. Take care of yourself. LoisB May 2014 #15
We need you to help fix this world, but most importantly we need you healthy. rhett o rick May 2014 #16
Take good care of yourself, AK Hekate May 2014 #17
Peace be with you. blackspade May 2014 #18
Best wishes on your journey through life. TexasTowelie May 2014 #19
Good to hear from you. Skidmore May 2014 #20
k&r... spanone May 2014 #21
take care - these are fragile times for all of us villager May 2014 #22
Glad to hear that you are on the mend, AtomicKitten. brer cat May 2014 #23
Health first! KT2000 May 2014 #24
Wishing you the best. badtoworse May 2014 #25
Glad to hear you're improving struggle4progress May 2014 #26
Good luck to you, AK, from another depression sufferer Jack Rabbit May 2014 #27
CHEERS, AtomicKitten! elleng May 2014 #28
Dear AtomicKitten Algernon Moncrieff May 2014 #29
I admire your strength, AK Metatron May 2014 #30
I'm glad you're feeling more like yourself again. herding cats May 2014 #31
good to see you JI7 May 2014 #32
I know its cliche but.. iamthebandfanman May 2014 #33
glad to know you are doing better nadinbrzezinski May 2014 #34
From one who struggles... I feel your pain and wish you the very best. mountain grammy May 2014 #35
AtomicKitten, we need you and more like you! calimary May 2014 #36
Wishing you continuing healing. Liberalynn May 2014 #37
healing and hugs to you RainDog May 2014 #38
We love you, AK! MrScorpio May 2014 #39
Dear AtomicKitten, Cha May 2014 #40
God bless you and the best of wishes to you and your family. n/t totodeinhere May 2014 #41
Dear Kitten, take John Lennon's message to heart: "don't carry japple May 2014 #42
Strength and healing to you, Uncle Joe May 2014 #43
Sending you good wishes and hugs. 840high May 2014 #44
Thank You... WillyT May 2014 #45
Glad you're feeling better AtomicKitten! pnwmom May 2014 #46
glad to hear you're doing better AK. Maven May 2014 #47
Glad you are doing better! nt Demo_Chris May 2014 #48
(((((((((((atomic kitten))))))))) thank you for this update. so very glad to know you are doing niyad May 2014 #49
I hadn't known you were struggling! BlancheSplanchnik May 2014 #50
All the Best to You Leith May 2014 #51
Thank you. Your post has helped more than you know. Raine1967 May 2014 #52
Atomic Kitten Iwillnevergiveup May 2014 #53
I hope it boosts your self-esteem to know you are not alone Samantha May 2014 #54
My dear friend AtomicKitten! babylonsister May 2014 #55
Thank you for the update! emsimon33 May 2014 #56
Hang in there. riqster May 2014 #57
. ctsnowman May 2014 #58
Take care. gademocrat7 May 2014 #59
Wow Really impressive. Congratulations. merrily May 2014 #60
stop by my little farm. mopinko May 2014 #61
Take care. Eleanors38 May 2014 #62
Strength to you. CrispyQ May 2014 #63
yay, you're back!!! dionysus May 2014 #64
I saw this and I thought of you - might help to restore your faith in humanity. badtoworse May 2014 #65

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
5. Please take care and let us know
Wed May 14, 2014, 04:28 PM
May 2014

if there's anything we can do.

ETA: Just to let you know, many of us, including myself, have been through that deep, dark tunnel known as Depression. Just know, you are not alone and many of us are able to empathize from personal experience.

myrna minx

(22,772 posts)
9. It's so wonderful to hear from you. You are very important to us here and know that
Wed May 14, 2014, 04:38 PM
May 2014

we are always here for you and yours.

hunter

(38,311 posts)
14. When I'm sliding into the black hole...
Wed May 14, 2014, 04:46 PM
May 2014

... the first thing I lose is my ability to judge my own mental state.

For that I must rely on family and friends.

I'm fortunate to have some good ones, even a few internet friends I've never met in person.

Take care of yourself.


 

rhett o rick

(55,981 posts)
16. We need you to help fix this world, but most importantly we need you healthy.
Wed May 14, 2014, 04:50 PM
May 2014

I think many struggle with dealing with the large numbers of problems we are facing as citizens, as a species, etc. I know that I do. We must realize that we have to do what we can and try to let the rest go. It's easier for me to say than do. DU is a great help as I can vent some of my frustrations with others in the same boat and work toward fixes.
I am glad you are doing better.

TexasTowelie

(112,129 posts)
19. Best wishes on your journey through life.
Wed May 14, 2014, 04:58 PM
May 2014

As someone who also suffers from depression you have my sincerest hopes that you continue on your recovery. However, please come in to check on us every once in awhile.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
20. Good to hear from you.
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:00 PM
May 2014

I was wondering about you recently. Take care of yourself and use all the time you need to heal. It sounds like you have a plan to follow. ((AK))

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
22. take care - these are fragile times for all of us
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:03 PM
May 2014

But, in such times, we also need "all hands on deck," so glad you're doing better, taking care, and checking in!

 

badtoworse

(5,957 posts)
25. Wishing you the best.
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:12 PM
May 2014

Think small for now. Focus on making your own world, that of your friends and family, and your community a better place. The world is a big assignment and you need to be stronger before you take that on.

I wish you peace and happiness.

Jack Rabbit

(45,984 posts)
27. Good luck to you, AK, from another depression sufferer
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:23 PM
May 2014

The think that I find most important is to take my meds as directed. Putting some omega 3 in your diet helps, too, so I hope you like fish.

herding cats

(19,564 posts)
31. I'm glad you're feeling more like yourself again.
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:31 PM
May 2014

Sometimes we all need to let go of the bad and focus on finding the good.

Keep up the good work.

JI7

(89,247 posts)
32. good to see you
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:40 PM
May 2014

i'm glad you are doing well and improving.

i find being able to get away and just do things like read a book helps also.

iamthebandfanman

(8,127 posts)
33. I know its cliche but..
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:41 PM
May 2014

youre not alone

so always remember that.

the worries, problems, and just plane ole ugliness of the world gets to a lot of us at some point in our lives..
its called having a grasp on reality, whether you like it or not
because guess what.. the world IS cruel and backwards a lot of the times...

but oh man o man.. those few sweet moments of happiness and eyes wide open to the beauty all around you... worth all the depression that usually dominates.


again, know you aren't alone and never will be in how you feel just remember to keep enjoying those rare beautiful and wonderful moments and cherish them when life is really giving you heavy doses of reality

glad to hear things are on the up for ya.. and hope they continue that way



calimary

(81,220 posts)
36. AtomicKitten, we need you and more like you!
Wed May 14, 2014, 05:57 PM
May 2014

So glad to hear you're getting better and feeling better! I always think of something Skittles once said - "someone's always here." DU will buoy you up!

HUGS!!!!!

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
37. Wishing you continuing healing.
Wed May 14, 2014, 06:09 PM
May 2014

As someone who has struggled with anxiety and depression for a long time, I understand.

Cha

(297,154 posts)
40. Dear AtomicKitten,
Wed May 14, 2014, 06:28 PM
May 2014

Love you! Your journey is written so eloquently.. I'm so glad you've come such a long way out of the depths of depression to getting ready to tackle whatever "through truth, love and all that good stuff".

You're an inspiration, sweetie~

Peace, Love, and Aloha, Cha

japple

(9,822 posts)
42. Dear Kitten, take John Lennon's message to heart: "don't carry
Wed May 14, 2014, 07:11 PM
May 2014

the world upon your shoulders..." So happy to read that you are on the mend. I don't get involved in the discussions around here very much--too much of the histrionics for me. Just know that we need you, not just here on DU, but in the world, in the community, in the party (at the party!!) in the neighborhood, in the group of folks who want the world to be a better place.

Take care.

Uncle Joe

(58,352 posts)
43. Strength and healing to you,
Wed May 14, 2014, 07:23 PM
May 2014

I'm happy that you're doing better.

Thanks for the thread, AtomicKitten...speaking of kittens here's a cat attacking a dog to protect the son of his/her master.





I believe this cat was definitely atomic.

Maven

(10,533 posts)
47. glad to hear you're doing better AK.
Wed May 14, 2014, 08:25 PM
May 2014

i have been to that dark place too and it takes so much strength to return. you have shown great dignity with this post. be well.

niyad

(113,274 posts)
49. (((((((((((atomic kitten))))))))) thank you for this update. so very glad to know you are doing
Wed May 14, 2014, 10:05 PM
May 2014

better. loving, healing, positive thoughts continuing your way as long as needed.

looking forward to seeing you back here as soon as you can.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
50. I hadn't known you were struggling!
Wed May 14, 2014, 10:20 PM
May 2014

I'm sorry I missed your threads; I would have liked to have given support too. I know about Depression. I know that feeling to, when the sufferings of the world (and the animals and environment; those are big for me too) are just too much to bear. Our emotional baseline is already set to *Pain*.

Glad you're working on recovery!

Leith

(7,809 posts)
51. All the Best to You
Wed May 14, 2014, 10:28 PM
May 2014

Although it may not seem like it, others have gone through similar experiences. I have.

The world is getting better. It only seems irredeemable because we hear about bad things happening everywhere. Yes, life has sadness, but there's great joy as well. Please take time to acknowledge the good.

Don't ever forget: no matter the time, day or night, somebody is here for you. Online friends helped me through bad times and we can do it for you.

Hugs!

Raine1967

(11,589 posts)
52. Thank you. Your post has helped more than you know.
Wed May 14, 2014, 11:01 PM
May 2014

I wish you all the very best.

My your recovery continue. Sending you love and light, and a sincere thank you for sharing.

Samantha

(9,314 posts)
54. I hope it boosts your self-esteem to know you are not alone
Thu May 15, 2014, 02:00 AM
May 2014

I realized recently I needed to do more filtering in my daily life and spend more time on things that I love. I too was feeling pangs of depression over so many things not within my control. So the more control I took over my time, introducing more joy into my days and blocking out some of the things that were causing me to experience sadness started little by little to heal me.

I think you are a wonderful DU'er and I am happy to see you are turning things around for yourself. Congratulations, and I hope you keep everyone posted.

Sam

babylonsister

(171,056 posts)
55. My dear friend AtomicKitten!
Thu May 15, 2014, 03:38 AM
May 2014

I can't tell you how nice it is to see you again! I'm sorry for all of your travails, but am so glad you're feeling and doing better, and look forward to your return! Hugh!1! for you!

merrily

(45,251 posts)
60. Wow Really impressive. Congratulations.
Thu May 15, 2014, 10:57 AM
May 2014

You got out of denial, got treated, identified your triggers and identified coping mechanisms. AND, you committed to making the world better.

Fantastic. I admire you so much for doing all of that. And you getting stronger and stronger.

Very best wishes. I look forward to learning more about your process and how you are doing.

Sometimes, people take a step or two back. Don't worry if that happens It will only be temporary. And, DU will be here.

mopinko

(70,086 posts)
61. stop by my little farm.
Thu May 15, 2014, 11:49 AM
May 2014

it is a peaceful and open little oasis in a busy urban hood.
it is already covered in green, tho i havent started to plant. raspberries and strawberries are running for more room, and the little bit fruit trees are blooming.
you can grab a warm handful of feathers, and sit with a chicken in your lap, in the shade of the house yard.

my life is pretty cracked open right now, and my little farm is my connection to the planet, and to my community.
you would be sooo welcome.
hit my sig link, and come visit.

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