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Someone forgot to call the Keys and let us know!
We've got your Key Lime Martinis, Guava Martinis, Coconut Martinis, Papaya Martinis... Banana Martinis, Sea Salt Martinis...
... and what you are suffering from, whether you know it or not, is PTSD. Father's Day... is it a hard day for you, what with all the advertisements on commercial TV and in the newspapers, etc? What I did when my own father was verbally cruel to me, was I moved as far away from him as I could. Like out of state. Don't let someone else define you, even if it is your father, or boyfriend, or family member, or friend. There is nothing wrong with you. Sounds like you don't have an ounce of fat on your body! Listen, you let that crap go in one ear and out the other from now on. Look him in the eye and say "Fuck you!" (even if you don't use such language.)
And if you can't do that, just say "Right back at you!" Be strong and defend numero uno. 
I needed to hear it. 
It is an ugly barb and insults are most often indicators of one's own lack of self esteem and feelings of inadequacy.
He sounds awful. And you don't sound fat at all. 
I don't know how many men out there are like me, but a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman, over or under 50. Don't know why 50 has to be the age of the cloak of invisibility. But a lot of the over-50 women I know are astoundingly sexy.
And if they have curves, and are confident in their skin, so much the better.
Not every man was educated about women along the "she's-only-beautiful-if..." convention.
This guy sounds sad. He only sees a limited number of 'beautiful' women.
I see them everywhere! 
Regrets 
I am 57 and can still get compliments from complete strangers
Just kidding. You're hot, and you know it...
no indeed
Don't take it to extremes, though.
My shoulders and hips were still comparatively wide (had a tiny waist though, this was college) because for pete's sake that happens to be my bone structure.
indeed.
On edit: This was your father?! I'm really sorry Aerows -- it was my mother who used to remind me that I had a "big" rear. 
Parents can be cruel sometimes. I hope he has other redeeming virtues.
I'm sure that part of my mother's problem (and it was her problem) was that I was so different from her in many things, though I tried like hell to be her when I was younger.
Our body structures were very different: she was 5'8" to my 5'4". She had a flat butt, and mine was curvy. She had enormous jugs and I (as she told me) was flat-chested. "Don't worry dear, they'll never sag." 
What teenage girl wants to hear that? Especially when all her bras are "AA" and "A"?
In truth she hated her own appearance. She matured early and grew very tall. At 10 she had her period, her height, and those boobs. She had to give up jump rope because of the bouncy-bouncy. People thought it looked weird when she played with her dolls. That's just sad.
I think she thought all of her children were beautiful, but that it was wrong to say so because it would encourage vanity. Nothing about encouraging a little self-confidence.
I don't know what your father's problem is -- but from another post upthread it sounds like his constant harping contributed mightily to a bout of anorexia. As I said before, I hope you don't have to live with him. Toxicity isn't good for you.
Someone has low self-esteem and needs to put you down, or they were envious of your fitness level. Or both.
Your willpower must be pretty strong to be 115 lbs. Nice work. 
Being there and staying there are two different things.
Your back, knees and heart will thank you.
I appreciate it, and I will look into it. I'm so sorry you had that experience, but you have 4 beautiful daughters that won't be subjected to it!
I say F em.
Men walk around pot bellied in t-shirts. Does one ever hear about them looking fat?
again I say FK em.
appearances are nothing anymore.
Be happy Aerows, it shows in what you contribute to the community, and I for one like what I see.
You are HOT!!!! 
Thanks
if I was your father, I would treat you far differently. He's wrong about his weight comment, but regardless of its accuracy, he needs to accept you and love you as you are. I do my best not to criticize my son, because, god knows, there are millions of people to criticize him. He doesn't need me to be one of them. Keep reminding yourself that his approach is all wrong, no matter what his intentions may be. 
You respect him, he respects you, simple enough. I know, a trillion times easier said than done. You deserve respect from him, keep reminding yourself of that fact. At any rate, best wishes.
Sometimes we can be cruelest to those closest to us. Know you didn't deserve to be treated that way.
earn the approval of men. And it starts with what they look like.
You're not fat. But it doesn't matter. All of the fat people out there, and all of us who are not physically perfect, deserve dignity, deserve respect, and deserve not to be judged by their body.
It IS an ugly barb. Unhook it, turn your back, and move on. Father or not.
Please just ignore them.
Some say your nose…
Some say your clothes,
But, I think it's your mind!
~ Frank Zappa
Sing this to dear ole dad the next time he screws with your mind. You sound healthy and lean to me. And, if you work out 3 times a week, I'll bet you're more than fit!
