Men are just that way - cat calling OK

[packman]

and these women agree:


"It's good."

"Let men be men."

"Men are gonna be that way, what can you do? They mean it in a nice way."

"When I was younger I didn't like it, it used to bother me, I was like 'oh, this is so sexist..."

Wait. Wait. Maybe we spoke too soon. Maybe the discussion is turning a corner.

"...now I'm like, if it doesn't happen I'm like, 'EXCUSE ME!?' So now it's good."

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[JustAnotherGen]

1. Ahhh Fox

So a bunch of losers eh?

[seabeyond]

7. i actually heard a little of this argument in allowing the misogyny trolling on du.

since it is just being man, what would it do to revenue if not allowed.

[boston bean]

8. DU doesn't need misogyny and sexism to make a buck. PERIOD.

[XemaSab]

10. I haven't renewed my star in a while

Why should I support a site that gives so many egregious sexists a platform for their bullshit?

[Tuesday Afternoon]

18. Me too. No star for me until ToS is written to make misogyny a bannable offense.

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I refuse to support a site that allows me, as a woman, to be harassed by men and the women that support that behavior.

[JustAnotherGen]

17. I didn't read that thread

Until I was selected for your jury. That one in particular reeked of that mindset.

As long as it continues - I'm keeping my sig line as is and behaving that way when necessary.

After all - Queen Bees will be Queen bees.

Kind of o.t. - but Drunen Irishman posted about a woman being cruel to him when he's been working really hard on himself. Earlier this month I think. The same "group" we're pretty harsh on him - and to me - he's a sweetheart.

Some folks at DU have ZERO heart space. Hurt people enjoy inflicting "pain" on others. Angry people take an intense sadistic pleasure in that.

Just a train of thought about what I think we are dealing with here. It's my personal perception that we have some insidiously cruel people posting among us.


Start from there - proceed as necessary.

[seabeyond]

19. ya. odd that. i do not get it, BUT.... anytime i see, i am not gonna be quiet about it, either. nt

[mythology]

2. These people make my head hurt

But then again, they work for Fox News, so you probably can't expect much from them.

[LWolf]

3. Men are whatever way

culture teaches them to be.

[leftstreet]

4. Do these morons ever report any actual news? n/t

[treestar]

5. and we're supposed to feel bad when they stop!

[seabeyond]

6. fug how women and girls feel, what they say, it is ALL about da menz. nt

[PasadenaTrudy]

9. My therapist once told me

that when men stop noticing you, then it's time to worry. This is a female therapist too. Well, the men have stopped noticing, and I couldn't be happier! Somehow I just don't think I'm on the same wavelength as her.

[seabeyond]

12. men havent stopped noticing and it pisses me off all the more. it is a hoot when they realize i am

at least their moms age, probably closer to grandma. distance makes it so hard for our young man to decipher if the woman is fuckable or not.

[PasadenaTrudy]

15. Jeez...

what a drag. It stopped for me in my late 40s when I gained lots of perimenopausal weight and started wearing my boyfriend's cargo shorts and tshirts. My hair is greying and I don't wear makeup. I love it.

[Jackpine Radical]

11. Maybe it's some kinda subcultural thing, but

in my sheltered midwestern upbringing, nobody ever seemed to think it was OK to harass women like that. I certainly didn't do it, my friends didn't do it, and I'm pretty sure that most of us would have instinctively viewed it as ugly low-life behavior.

[PasadenaTrudy]

13. I've seen it more

in large urban areas - - L.A., NYC, San Francisco... I spent time in NC and people seemed more polite. This is just my experience though.

[seabeyond]

14. the last decade our men/boys have been fed a pornifide gaze of all women. the world is seen

differently.

[conservaphobe]

16. As an introvert with an anxiety disorder / social phobia...

I can't imagine doing something like that.



I can't even talk to them when they ARE interested.

[seabeyond]

20. well... i hope you condition yourself to step out of that. i had to, purposely, about 18.

took years and look at me now, lol.

or, i hope you find women that are patient and can go with it....

either will work.

edit... NOT catcalling, lol, talking.

[yewberry]

21. Fuck that.

You think catcalling is okay or even good?

No, it's not. It's not. I spend a lot of time in public. Every day I get this shit, from men telling me to smile, offering me food and attention, to calling me a bitch if I don't respond or the ever-flattering "suck my cock."

No, just fucking leave me alone. What is damned hard about that? I don't give a shit if some dopey Fox News contributor said it's okay. She doesn't speak for me any more than Phyllis Schlafly does. I don't need her shit and I don't need your shit.

[packman]

22. WOW -

How hurt were you? You might want to think about deleting your post. My "shit"? Obviously you do give a shit .

How did you decide that my post condoned catcalling? It's a comment on Fox.

[Glassunion]

23. I don't they they did say that your post condoned it.

I'm reading more as a message to men in general. I could be wrong.

[Erich Bloodaxe BSN]

24. You didn't make it very obvious that you didn't agree with the things posted.

I saw nothing in what you posted that suggested you were mocking the things you posted, so I can certainly see how someone could assume you were simply posting something with which you agree. I'd be more careful in making it plain you're posting something you do not agree with in future.

[yewberry]

26. Your OP is supportive of catcalling.

And you're <gasp> surprised that it gets a negative response?

No, I will not be deleting my post, but thanks so much for the suggestion. I'm not even going to touch your "How hurt were you" remark.

[Erich Bloodaxe BSN]

25. 0-7 to stay.

Maybe juries are a bit less willing to take the bait and hide female posters, although it still eaves you to wonder who did the alert.

[Glassunion]

27. The comments in the results seem to confirm that.

I've rarely been in a jury where everyone commented and basically said the same thing.