My dear Dad passed away at 11:35 last night. I was with him.

[mia]

I'm grateful to have been looking into his eyes as he took his last breaths. I appreciate how Hospice made this an easier experience

[Lars39]

1. Deepest condolances, Mia.

[mia]

24. Thank you.

[MineralMan]

2. I'm very sad to read that.

My thoughts are with you.

[mia]

25. Thank you.

I appreciate you for taking the time.

[Mika]

3. So sorry for your loss.

Deepest condolences.

[Iggo]

4. Aw.

[demmiblue]

5. .

[Gothmog]

6. I was with my mom when she passed

I am sorry for your loss.

[Hoyt]

7. Very sorry, but glad you could be there.

[Stardust]

8. Mia, I'm so sorry for your loss. Being with him in the end was the kindest act of all, for both of

you.

[trumad]

9. Sorry to hear that..

May he rest in Peace.

[Scarsdale]

52. + 1

Never easy. So sorry.

[SummerSnow]

10. Im so sorry Mia, you have my condolences .

[dorkzilla]

11. Im so sorry for your loss. It was a comfort to him as well I am sure.

While I still have my own parents, when my Gran passed 25 years ago, I was holding her in my arms and the entire room was full of people who loved her. Everyone had their hands touching her and as she quietly slipped away each one, some who had travelled thousands of miles to be by her side, gently kissed her and said “I love you”. It was at once the saddest and most precious moment of my life.

I am holding you in my thoughts Mia.

[tkmorris]

12. ...

[Little Star]

13. .

[marym625]

14. My deepest sympathies

My sincere sympathies. I'm glad you will always have the knowledge that you made his passing easier.

[shenmue]

15. ...

[Faux pas]

16. Condolences

to all who loved him.

[gademocrat7]

17. Condolences, mia on the loss of your father.

[Hortensis]

18. How wonderful that you and he had that comfort, and you that comforting memory.

[villager]

19. Condolences to you. Went through this two years ago...

Always regret I wasn't there for the last breaths: I'd taken each of his grandsons back to say goodbye, two summers ago, then had to return to L.A. to move as a result of a court case (which went mostly in my favor -- but there were deadlines involved...).

Was hoping to leave boxes unpacked in new place, then head back for a third time, to say goodbye. Fell a few days short.

Was able to tell him I loved him, during a last conversation by phone.

Anyway, it's time and healing now, and while the former always seems rushed, the latter finds its way toward knitting things back, even if put together differently than before...

[mia]

23. A lovely way of putting it.

All ends up to be well. <3

[hedgehog]

20. I'm sorry for your loss, and glad you were able to use Hospice.

[ohheckyeah]

21. I'm very sorry for your

loss. I'm glad you were there for him. Take care of yourself.

[Omaha Steve]

22. Dad was gone unexpectedly

Mom was in hospice. They called and told us to get there now. I know just what you mean.

K&R!



OS

[brer cat]

26. I am very sorry, mia.

It is very hard to lose a parent.

[City Lights]

27. My deepest sympathies to you, mia.

[daleanime]

28. ........

[Hawaii Hiker]

29. Condolances Mia

I know the awful feeling of losing parents....Dad died 35 yrs ago when i was 10...Moms 4 yr anniversary will be Mon, 9/21...

Take care Mia

[mak3cats]

30. My sincerest condolences, Mia...

...I had the exact same experience in 1997. Looking into his eyes at the time was profound - I felt that he wasn't looking AT me, but THROUGH me.

Be good to yourself; you deserve it.

[Xyzse]

31. Deepest condolences. It is never easy.

Glad you were able to share that time with him however.
It is amazing that mine passed away 8 years ago. Time goes by so fast...

[polly7]

32. I'm so sorry, mia.

Strength and peace to you and yours, I'm so glad you were together for comfort.

[lunamagica]

33. So sorry for your loss...

[sarge43]

34. Condolences, mia

Peaceful passage for your Dad.

Comfort and loving memories for you and his family.

[nadinbrzezinski]

35. My condolences

[joeybee12]

36. So sorry to hear this...how wonderful to be with him, though.

[renate]

37. I'm so sorry for your loss

It sounds like being there with him was the kind of experience that changes you forever, in a good way of course despite its being so sad. You have this tender spot in your heart now, next to all the other sweet memories that he left there.

[navarth]

38. Oh, so sorry. I know the feeling.

Lost my Dad in '97...worst thing that ever happened to me.

This is a tough time. If it's any comfort at all, please know there are lots of people here sending you comfort and courage.

You never really get over it. You just sort of get used to not being over it, if that makes any sense. The sun will come out tomorrow and someday you'll be able to feel that your loving Dad wouldn't want you to be unhappy.

Peace.

[lpbk2713]

39. It was a comfort for him to have you there with him.

So sorry for your loss.

[SoapBox]

40. I am SO sorry, mia.

My best friend Mom passed in late January, a week shy of 94...I was holding her hand (it brings tears, even now.)

In Support Groups, there is a Bereavement section...they were very nice to hear from.

My very deepest sympathies.

[uppityperson]

41. Best wishes to you mia, rest in peace to your dad

He is no longer tied to his old body but we miss them forever.

I was there, 4 months ago, with mine.

[TheBlackAdder]

42. I am so sorry.

.


My father passed when I was 26, and I saw him take his last breath. Unfortunately, he was asleep at the time, in the hospital. That was the most traumatic death I had witnessed, as my first really close death, and one that causes tears during reflections after 30 years. My mother passed minutes before I arrived to join my sister in watching her. Since she had prior scares, I was adjusted to her failing state, though I don't know how I would have been if I were there when she passed. My mother had hospice care too. It is such a wonderful program, as she wanted to die in her own bedroom and not uncomfortably in a cold and noisy hospital room, being awoken every 30 minutes.


Take comfort in knowing that you and he were together, knowing your presence was there, giving him a peaceful passage.

This will be a difficult time for you, and one which will remain vivid in your memories. You are very brave and generous to have offered yourself in this manner. Stay strong, Mia.

My thoughts are with you.

.

[Mnemosyne]

43. ...

[bkkyosemite]

44. So sorry for your loss Mia

May he always be with you in spirit.

[draa]

45. Sorry for your loss Mia.

[LongTomH]

46. My deepest sympathies for the loss of your Dad.

In future years, it will be a comfort to know you were near him at the end. I was in the hospital, although not in the room when my own Dad passed, years ago.

[smirkymonkey]

47. I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad you could be there with him!

[Hoppy]

48. I wish you peace and comfort.

[Stellar]

49. (((mia)))

Peace to you and yours.

[riderinthestorm]

50. I'm so glad you were able to be there with your dad at the end

my deepest sympathy Mia...



For your dad

[FourScore]

51. I hope I am so lucky when my father passes away.

I am so sorry for your loss, Mia. May the memories you cherish of your father help to carry you through your moments of grief.

[JohnnyLib2]

53. I'm very sorry.

[femmocrat]

54. My sincere condolences on the loss of your father.

[DashOneBravo]

55. Sorry for your loss ma'am

[juajen]

56. I'm so sorry. Remember the good times with him.

[WillyT]

57. (((((((mia)))))))

Peace...

[Octafish]

58. Please accept my deepest sympathies and condolences, mia.

Peace and love to you and your family. Going from the kind of person your posts show you to be, he must have been an extraordinary human being.

[malaise]

59. Deepest sympathy to you and yours mia

[Lifelong Protester]

60. I am sorry for your loss

and glad you were there.

[barbtries]

61. so sorry for your loss mia

[tomm2thumbs]

62. Your presence no doubt comforted him beyond words

<<hugg>>

You done good by him I'm sure, and that is all we can ever hope to do.

[retrowire]

63. im so sorry for your loss.

take solace in the experiences you shared together and his love for you that will never fade.

[Egnever]

64. So great you were able to be there with him

I hope I am so lucky as to have my kids by my side when I go.

Sorry for your loss.

[niyad]

65. so very sorry for your loss. glad that you were able to help him pass. praying for comfort and

peace for all who love him.

[bullwinkle428]

66. Very sorry for the loss of your father. I'm heartened to hear that you

had the opportunity to spend those last moments together, and I've no doubt you will cherish those memories forever.

[d_legendary1]

67. ...

[MerryBlooms]

68. I'm so sorry... my condolences to you and your family.

[Denis 11]

69. My condolences

[kairos12]

70. My condolences to you and family.

[Snotcicles]

71. Beautiful words by Antonio Porchia:

My father, when he went, made my childhood a gift of half century.

[onecaliberal]

72. Condolences to you and your family.

My thoughts are with you all.

[Angry Dragon]

73. I am sorry to read of your loss

[Tree-Hugger]

74. I am so sorry for your loss

May he rest in peace.

[yellerpup]

75. So sorry for the loss of your Dad.

I'm glad you were with him at the end. Peace.

[peacebird]

76. (hugs)

[applegrove]

77. So sorry for your loss. Vibes to your whole family.

[PatrickforO]

78. May he rest in peace.

I've been there with my mother, and my wife's mother.

It is good you were there. You'll be busy for awhile with making calls and setting up the service, but then that will end, and you might feel kind of empty.

Be patient with yourself, and take care of yourself. You've got some grieving that's needed in order to heal.

Best wishes to you!

[CentralMass]

79. My sincere condolences Mia

My dad passed 2 yrs ago in May. I lost an older sister in May and lost my mother 3weeks ago. I can't tell that the pain and sense of loss eases.

[Siwsan]

80. I share the same experience

I was with my father, and was the last touch he felt and the last voice he heard. A day doesn't end without me thinking about him.

My thoughts are with you, dear Mia.

[irisblue]

81. I am very sorry for your loss.

It hurts when your father dies, no matter how old you are.

[Sissyk]

82. I'm so sorry, mia!

For your dad!

[monmouth4]

83. Sincere condolences to you and yours Mia...

[840high]

84. ...

[imanamerican63]

85. Sorry for your loss.

I will say a prayer for your father, you and family in this difficult time. Remember the good times and it will help ease the pain. I lost my father in 2002 and I miss him everyday, but I have a lot of great memories with him. God bless.

[rbrnmw]

86. I'm sorry for your loss

[sheshe2]

87. .

[Liberal_in_LA]

88. ..

[steve2470]

89. .......

[etherealtruth]

90. My most heartfelt condolences

[Ilsa]

91. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[Waldorf]

92. Sorry for your loss.

May he rest in peace.

[neverforget]

93. Very sorry for your loss and my deepest condolences.

[MiniMe]

94. Sorry for you loss

[roguevalley]

95. I am so sorry, Mia. It is a privilege to do this. I did it for my mom and dad. Be comforted

that your sweet face was the last thing he saw in this world. Time is your friend. Rose Kennedy said, 'When the rain stops, the birds sing." She's right. Hugs to you and yours. Be comforted to know love doesn't end and he's around comforting you now.

[Dont call me Shirley]

96. Dear Dad...

A beautiful sorrowful moment, Mia. My deepest sympathies.

[spanone]

97. i've had five hospice experiences and i thank them all...

so sorry for your loss.

[Solly Mack]

98. My condolences.

I'm sorry to hear of his passing.

[AikenYankee]

99. Very sorry .....

[a la izquierda]

100. I'm sorry for you and hope you find comfort.

Hospice helped both my grandparents pass quickly and as pain free as possible. They were a great relief to my mom and her siblings.

[Demeter]

101. .

[Sienna86]

102. Very sorry to hear of your loss.

My prayers are with you.

[ybbor]

103. I lost my Dad less than a month ago, myself

I send you my deepest sympathies! I am still grieving over moments lost. I am glad you got to be with him at the end. I did have an opportunity to make peace with him before he passed.

[kelliekat44]

104. May he rest in peace. It means a lot when you can be with your loved on at such a time. nt

[greatlaurel]

105. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Please accept my deepest condolences. Please be very gentle with yourself. Take care.

[bluestateguy]

106. I'm sorry to hear that

I only wish I could have been there when my father died. It would have been hard to watch, but it would have been most appropriate.

[MrMickeysMom]

107. Mia… I'm so sorry. Being at his side was Important...

I think we all hope for that.

Great comfort to you at this time.

MMM

[rurallib]

108. My wish is that the wonderful memories of your dad

bring a smile to your face before the tear comes to your eye.
Thanks to Joe Biden for that - one of the best expressions of what a person goes through on the death of a loved one.

Our deepest condolences.

[2naSalit]

109. ...

[madamvlb]

110. Condolences to you and your family.

[fadedrose]

111. Mine died years ago

he was my favorite human being on the planet....my sympathies..

It was 1967 and his face and personality are still fresh in my mind. Your Dad didn't die, as long as you live he lives...

[cal04]

112. I'm so sorry for your loss mia

my thoughts are with you and your family

[cantbeserious]

113. Condolences

eom

[roguevalley]

114. How are you, Mia? I thought about you all day.

The first few are terrible. It is so hard knowing that the first man in your life isn't there. It will get better. Take care and know you are loved. -Cathy Aka Roguevalley

[glinda]

115. ....

[PufPuf23]

116. Best to you Mia.

My experience with my Dad is that hspice are wonderful folks.

[AnnieBW]

117. So sorry for your loss

It's a privilege to be there when a loved one dies. They often prefer to die alone, according to the ICU nurse that took care of my Mom.

[passiveporcupine]

118. I'm glad you were with him too

[slipslidingaway]

119. Very sorry and good you were there ...

it is tough and will be for many months./years. When you are sad try and remember a happy or funny time, or just draw strength from his best qualities.

[Samantha]

120. It is too soon to say this to you

but you might take a little comfort in knowing now. After you pass through all the stages of the grieving process, you will learn that you Dad will always be with you. So so sorry for your loss.

Sam

[AtomicKitten]

121. Condolences on your loss.

[Iwillnevergiveup]

122. Please accept

my deepest condolences, Mia, on the loss of your beloved father. It seems that many of us are of an age when we are saying good bye to our parents. Even though it is inevitable, it is still difficult when it gets this personal. I echo everyone here praising hospice arrangements. I was lucky enough to be with both my folks at the end in their home, and it was a very peaceful, poignant experience. The love you have for your father was reciprocated right up to the very end, and that gift is timeless.

[bvf]

123. Deepest condolences on your loss.

[LeftOfWest]

124. You are a really good kid mia.

so good for you to be there for your Dad.

Hugs.

[micraphone]

125. They say that hearing is the last to go

I went through this with my dad in 2000. I still think of him in the hospice, surrounded by his family.

Still tear up about it.

You have my huge sympathies as well.

[Enthusiast]

126. Sorry about the loss of your father.

[lovemydog]

127. I wish you all the comfort

possible, mia.

[Warren DeMontague]

128. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, mia.

Been there.

[raven mad]

129. Mia, best of good karma to you.

You know that he'll be missed, remembered and celebrated. My heart goes out to you.

[sellitman]

130. May your fondest memories shine bright

Forever.

My deepest condolences.

[DFW]

131. I could have posted exactly the same thing

It was November 27th, 2000, but that's the way it was with me and my dad as well.

Been there, know EXACTLY what you mean.

[vt_native]

132. Mia, sorry for your loss

I'm relieved for you that he went peacefully.

[anniebelle]

133. So sorry.

I was with my Mother and my Brother when they drew their last breath and so was hospice. I am so thankful for what they did for us in those weeks leading up to their passing. I couldn't have been brave enough to be the strong one had it not been for their presence.

[ileus]

134. Thoughts and Prayers...

My Father passed in May, it's a tough time for everyone. You'll always remember with fondness his everlasting memory...

[Person 2713]

135. Condolences

Yes my only hospice experience made appreciate what they do

[FailureToCommunicate]

136. So sorry Mia. It should comfort you in the future that your were there. Hospice care is indeed

a good decision. My brother had hospice care and passed peacfully at home surrounded by loved ones. My father was in the hospital at the end and it was not nearly the end he or we had hoped for.

[Bossy Monkey]

137. So very sorry, but glad you could be there and it was as easy as it could be n/t

[raouldukelives]

138. So sorry for your loss.

[Duval]

139. mia, I extend my heartfelt

condolences to you and your family. Hospice is a wonderful organization and has helped many. I'm glad they were there for your Dad and you.

[sinkingfeeling]

140. So sorry for your loss.

[restorefreedom]

141. deepest sympathies

[floriduck]

142. My condolences to you and yours.

[Fla Dem]

143. So sorry for you. He is at peace, he will be missed but you have a lifetime of memories. nt

[MatthewStLouis]

144. Sorry for your loss. It's good you were there with him.

I had the same experience. It really puts things in perspective.

[mmonk]

145. My condolences.

[mentalsolstice]

146. (((Hugs)))

take care of yourself.

[ProfessorGAC]

147. Condolences (nt)