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WED SEP 23, 2015 AT 04:01 PM PDT
Teachable moment gone viral
by rserven
Liv Hnilicka is a Minneapolis waitress. She shared a story on Facebook on Sunday that has gone viral.
I walked away from the table feeling really good about parents intentionally engaging their children about possibly difficult topics. And showing that giving people the power to voice their truths in this complicated world is beautiful and healing.
Way to go, mom and dads out there making space for transfolks/gnc people like me. ❤
(Also I made this post public in case you want to share it with parents you may know.)
--Liv Hnilicka
https://www.facebook.com/stevehnilicka?fref=nf
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2015/09/23/1424048/-Teachable-moment-gone-viral
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/trans-waitress-child_560180d6e4b08820d91a3ecf?utm_hp_ref=transgender
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)A better answer might have been, "Does it matter?"
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)Way to give tall women another fucking complex.
Do they also ask obese women if they're pregnant? You know, "... because my entitled toddler was wondering? "
What the ever loving fuck? No!
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)Some people are willing to talk about it. Some aren't. It's the same with people with obvious physical handicaps. They have no obligation to be a "teaching moment." As I say, a better response to the toddler would be, "Does it matter?" or "Why does it matter?" or "Is that our business?"
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)Brickbat
(19,339 posts)Thank YOU.
csziggy
(34,136 posts)And children get to live under different rules since they are learning about the world.
Frankly I think the father handled it correctly. He did not ask, he did not make assumptions. He simply asked the waitress if she were willing to answer his child's question. If she had not been willing, all she had to do was to say no.
Instead she contributed a little more understanding to the world. I can't see that as a bad thing.
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)What if she was a bio woman? Wth? Teach your own kid, dad. Liv was gracious but if liv wasn't trans this could have gone sideways really fast.
My kid wants to know if you're pregnant or just fat. My kid wants to know what's up with your missing leg, melted face, your confusing skin color
I need to get off du now for awhile. Geez.
csziggy
(34,136 posts)All the father asked was if she would talk to the child. He did not ask anything else. The writer of the story could have said no.
The way the story is written the child never asked the writer either. The father had set it up, but the only question ever asked was if she would talk to the child, according to what is told in the story.
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)Missed that part, huh?
Totally out of line.
Totally.
csziggy
(34,136 posts)But how would you prefer that a parent deal with this? Should he have told his daughter whatever he thought about the waitress's physical and sexual orientation? Maybe he has a bias but doesn't want to inflict it on his child.
I have no investment in this other than appreciating the level of openess of the writer of the piece in the Op. I'm glad she was willing to educate the child. It seems you think she should have told the father, "Fuck you." and let him tell the child whatever he felt like after that rebuff. I'm sure he would have been very informative on the subject.
I'm done with this.
Omaha Steve
(99,582 posts)Then I sure as hell don't.
K&R!
OS
lobodons
(1,290 posts)Dad should not have approached the server that way. Should have just told his kid looks like we should have gone to hooters. My bad.