Customer called 'fatty' on receipt

[Liberal_in_LA]

"I was signing my slip," Arnold told CNN affiliate WJAR. "I didn't really pay attention to it yet, and then I just happened to read it and I saw it in the corner and I was like, 'Wow,' and my heart just dropped."

The receipt from All Stars Bar & Grill read "fatty" in the place intended for the customer's name. Arnold shared a photo of the receipt on Facebook and outrage over this incident began to spread on social media.

"[The server] legit ID'ed me as 'fatty,' then he wouldn't admit it. They lost mine and my friends business," the 24-year-old stated in his post.

When Tony Ambrosio, the owner of the restaurant, found out about the incident he was was quick to apologize. And he fired the server in question.
"We sincerely apologize for your negative experience last night. It was very unprofessional to say the least. We take full accountability for what occurred and would like to make it up to you," Ambrosio posted in the comments of Arnold's Facebook photo.

The server turned out to be Ambrosio's son, not only is he out of a job, but he is also no longer allowed on the restaurant's property.

http://www.cnn.com/2016/06/23/us/fatty-on-receipt-restaurant-employee-fired-irpt/index.html

[MADem]

1. Maybe the stupid kid can get a job over in Quahog at the Drunken Clam....! nt

[Corporate666]

2. Maybe he's just fat?

When you are a waiter, you have to identify the tables. You don't go over and ask their names, and while it's stupid to enter a pejorative name on the receipt, wait staff do and say this stuff ALL the time. "Hey the fat woman in the back corner wants extra potatoes - can you double her order plz" and "Hey, busboy, take this plate of ribs to the bald woman near the door".

Sure, it's tactless but it happens. If the guy is that offended by it that he had to go to the news media, he should probably spend more time being offended at the quantity of food he's eating?

[flor-de-jasmim]

3. Says someone who perhaps has never been called Fatso?

REstaurants typically number tables. What is so difficult about that?

[Corporate666]

7. Table numbers don't tell you

who ordered what.

As I said, it is offensive when discovered, but obviously such descriptors are not meant to make it to the customers hands.

Who is going to write "the nice gentleman with the well trimmed beard wearing gray khakis and a slim-fit shirt" and "elderly woman with beautiful gray hair and an adorable accent" and "young twenty-something with touseled hair, a hearty laugh and stylish sneakers"? It will be "beard guy" "Old woman" and "fat guy".

It's just the first identifying feature you see upon looking at them that others would notice and be able to identify them with. It's not generally meant as a pejorative.




Oh, and you presume wrong. I struggled with my weight for years and years. I mountain bike and go to the gym regularly, and I am extremely careful about the food I buy and what I eat. I lost over 100lbs and kept it off for years. I sympathize with the guy for being fat, but not for running to the media because he's offended that someone noticed he's fat.

[AndreaCG]

11. All too often it's the person who has overcome some difficulty

Who has the least amount of sympathy for those people who have failed to be as righteous as s/he and still displays that wretched frailty for all the world to see.

And worse, demands to be treated as if that unworthy person was, you know, normal. Instead of being humble and accepting all the insults and scorn heaped on him or her because s/he just hasn't tried hard enough to conform.

[Corporate666]

12. All too often it's the person who hasn't even tried to overcome some difficulty

that demands the rest of the world accommodate them and insulate them from any notion that they have an issue they need to confront and deal with.

And worse, those that shout down anyone who doesn't offer anything but unconditional sympathy while completely ignoring the very real health and self-esteem issues the actual victim is dealing with.

[AndreaCG]

33. Oh?

So you know "fatty"personally then. And are his confidant. Because you seem to be privy to "the very real health and self esteem issues the actual victim is dealing with." Most of the rest of us on the thread don't know "fatty" at all, therefore can't say what his health and self esteem issues, if any, might be.

However, one might make a case that "fatty" actually does have some self esteem, or enough to object to being labeled simply by his girth. Just as a person in a wheelchair might object to a waiter who scribbled on his pad the identifying word "cripple", or better yet, "crip".

As for "fatty's" health, unless you are his doctor, nurse, receptionist, family member or friend, or maybe his trainer at the gym (cause you know, fatties aren't banned from most gyms. Maybe you even went to one before you lost all that nasty yellow flab), you really are only guessing about his health problems. Amiright?

Unless he talked about health problems in the CNN clip or elsewhere. Didn't notice. Didn't notice anyone else bring it up either.

[AndreaCG]

34. Or perhaps you think you know ME?

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

I'm pretty sure you don't have a clue as to who i am, and what my autobiography consists of, etc (Other than anything I've volunteered)

Care to guess and make everyone here LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL some more?

[Sunlei]

15. waited tables, most use table numbers & clock face or L1, R3 to ID orders. or just 15, 5 steak

or plain old table number and ask, who has the steak?

[Person 2713]

28. I have never been over weight but I fell sorry for your weight problems leaving you with issues

Is blackie , ugly or gimpy acceptable too? I did waiter large tables for years way back and never saw this type of behavior by any staff

[pkdu]

4. Wow - enjoy your stay...n

[Blue_Adept]

22. I really hope they don't

And I hope others tire of the stay very quickly as well.

[Behind the Aegis]

5. Table six.

How difficult is it to identify the table number? The actual identity of the customer isn't needed when relaying an order. This isn't tactless, it is disgusting, and in some cases, bigoted.

[Corporate666]

9. There's 5 people at the table

How do you identify them?

Or maybe the tables get moved and shuffled around depending on how busy it is.

How is identifying someone as fat being bigoted? Fat isn't an unpopular opinion. It's eating too many calories and not exercising sufficiently.

[Behind the Aegis]

10. Red shirt, glasses, near the window...

The bigger question is why the fuck anyone other than the server needs to identify them? If it is the busboy, then tell them location at the table.

"Fat" is a physical descriptor one needn't use. And you're "understanding" of what "fat" is, is sorely lacking.

ETA: "Fatty" is not a descriptor, it is a pejorative!

[Blue_Adept]

23. Go wait tables for a day

And actually see how the job is done before spouting such ignorant stuff?

There are actual methods and ways to do this that are very simple.

[LanternWaste]

25. 5a, 5b, 5c, etc.

I waited tables in college. It's not difficult. It's what we did. It worked well.

Bias often compels us to deny additional existing possibilities, as well as rationalize our ugliness.

[Iggo]

29. The real way: Table#/Position#.

[Aerows]

30. That sounds much easier to me.

Designate table and where diners are sitting.

[Iggo]

31. The logical pretzels people twist themselves into to defend assholishness is unsettling to me.

[Aerows]

32. Right there with you! n/t

[In_The_Wind]

13. That always worked in the past. What the heck is wrong with folks these days?

[AndreaCG]

6. Presumably the customer referred to as "fatty" was wearing clothes

And again presuming the entire party wasn't wearing identical shirts, he could have been called "orange t shirt". Or "blue eyes". Or "Cubs hat". Or WHATEVER distinguished him from the rest of his party besides his weight.

It's not hard at all if you just think a little, and maybe care a smidgeon for other people's feelings.

[AndreaCG]

8. Also maybe the story didn't make CNN because "fatty" complained

But because the RESTAURANT OWNER took the unusual srep of not only firing the offending waiter, who was his own son, but actually BANNED him from the premises. You don't see that happening every day.

As someone with a newspaper journalism degree, that stands out as the reason it would be worthy of a few minutes on a 24/7 cable channel. It comes under the category of a "feel good" story,

Well, all except for the kid whose dad humiliated him on national TV for a damn good reason and now the kid can't even hang out at his usual watering hole to whinge about it, maybe.

[meow2u3]

19. Papa Ambrosio might have raised his kids not to belittle others

But for his son, the lesson never seemed to have sunk in. Maybe now he just might learn the lesson to treat others as he would like to be treated, now that he was not only fired, but also banned from his dad's business.

[1939]

21. Sounds like momma insisted that hopeless "junior" be given a job at the bar

and daddy figured that this was the perfect opportunity to get rid of him.

[laundry_queen]

14. Wow. Just wow. smh

I've been a waitress and none of us did that. Tables have numbers. And most normal people have hearts and aren't mean. YMMV I guess. I've seen your other posts, so I guess it's not surprising. Wrong turn somewhere I assume.

[Catherine Vincent]

16. Yes, it may happen but you don't put it in print

That was rude. He could have used the color of his shirt or if he wore glasses etc. so I'm not buying your explanation. The dufus probably thought it was ok since his dad is the owner.

[1939]

24. Use "code"

For instance "46W" for a man or "18++" for a woman where size might be a descriptor.

"110=0" for a particularly ugly woman.

"40DD" for a well-endowed woman.

"0ha" for a bald man.

"OFt" for an old guy.

[Iggo]

18. Yep. Assholes write hateful shit. It happens.

[MoonRiver]

17. One of my jobs when getting my undergrad degree was waitress in a nice restaurant.

When serving a large table, we were taught to give the customers and their orders numbers starting from the same point at the table each time. Customers were automatically identified with their table positions. It was pretty fail proof and we had no need to insult anyone.

[Joe the Revelator]

20. People need to toughen up just a bit...

I'm a fat dude. If this happened to me, I'd probably make sure the server knew I noticed, and his/her tip would reflect the attitude, however I wouldn't try to get my story on CNN or refuse to talk to the owner if he tried to apologize to me.

We are all just a bunch of perpetually offended dopes.

[Blue_Adept]

26. The "fatty" in question did not go to CNN with it

People keep not reading the actual story. The reason the story went out is because the restaurant saw the image and it went big because of that.

[Joe the Revelator]

27. Yeah and the 'fatty' could have put it to bed, by being a human

and actually talking to the owner and accepting his apology. The waiter getting fired is more than enough.